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"The One That Got Away" has suddenly returned to my life. We are trying to put our friendship back together but, within five minutes of seeing her for the first time in four years I have been reminded of how deeply I love this woman!
So here is my query...
Do I immediately attempt to try and rekindle the romance between the two of us, or do I just settle for being her friend?
The reason that I feel I have to do one or the other and not just wait and see what happens, is that there is a very real danger that she might move to London, or continue traveling around the world working on cruise ships.
Obviously I want her to do what she needs to do for her but, I do love her...
So do I leave it as just us being friends and let her go, or do I go for it so she and I may have the greatest love affair of all time?
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"How do you think she feels? "
How do I think she feels?
Well, I don't know but, the responses here have certainly encouraged me to find out.
We're spending Thursday together so, maybe I'll take my opportunity then.
Scary though! |
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"How do you think she feels?
How do I think she feels?
Well, I don't know but, the responses here have certainly encouraged me to find out.
We're spending Thursday together so, maybe I'll take my opportunity then.
Scary though! "
It is, because it's the unknown. Once you start talking, you'll know where you stand. Fingers crossed for you! |
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"How do you think she feels?
How do I think she feels?
Well, I don't know but, the responses here have certainly encouraged me to find out.
We're spending Thursday together so, maybe I'll take my opportunity then.
Scary though!
It is, because it's the unknown. Once you start talking, you'll know where you stand. Fingers crossed for you! "
Indeed!
We saw each other for the first time on Saturday and it was amazing! We spend the whole evening talking, exchanging cuddles and annoying everyone around us by acting like idiots!
We did kiss when I took her back to her place but, we were both quite d*unk so, I'm not sure what (if anything) that means.
I think I'm gonna do it. Faint heart never won fair maiden after all. |
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"Tell her you love her, but if she doesn't feel the same, you would be very happy if she remained your friend.......
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This"
Exactly. Better to say something now than spend a lifetime wondering what may have been  |
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Does she know how you really feel ? I would definitely make sure she knows or you might regret it.
Then if she goes it’s simply not meant to be at least you’ll know. You can be still be friends , most mine are in different countries. |
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""The One That Got Away" has suddenly returned to my life. We are trying to put our friendship back together but, within five minutes of seeing her for the first time in four years I have been reminded of how deeply I love this woman!
So here is my query...
Do I immediately attempt to try and rekindle the romance between the two of us, or do I just settle for being her friend?
The reason that I feel I have to do one or the other and not just wait and see what happens, is that there is a very real danger that she might move to London, or continue traveling around the world working on cruise ships.
Obviously I want her to do what she needs to do for her but, I do love her...
So do I leave it as just us being friends and let her go, or do I go for it so she and I may have the greatest love affair of all time?
Answers on a postcard..."
Fab is not an advice centre ask her best of luck |
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"Why didn't it happen the first time? "
Well, there's quite a large age gap and she went to university but also... we originally got together at the beginning of 2020 and obviously with her being at uni in Leeds, and covid and everything... I think it wasn't the right time for us but, now... look. I don't believe in fate but, the timing if her return to my life feels like more than a happy accident. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"How do you think she feels?
How do I think she feels?
Well, I don't know but, the responses here have certainly encouraged me to find out.
We're spending Thursday together so, maybe I'll take my opportunity then.
Scary though! "
You need to know either way.
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Don't tell her - nothing but anguish.
Tell her - it fucks up. It's shit. Aaaannddd...you now have a clearer road ahead.
Tell her - she doesn't give you a clear reply. Confusing, but you can move on.
Tell her - she wants you too. Happy days.
Don't tell her - maybe you enjoy the anguish. Or prefer its discomfort to the discomfort of decisiveness? |
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""The One That Got Away" has suddenly returned to my life. We are trying to put our friendship back together but, within five minutes of seeing her for the first time in four years I have been reminded of how deeply I love this woman!
So here is my query...
Do I immediately attempt to try and rekindle the romance between the two of us, or do I just settle for being her friend?
The reason that I feel I have to do one or the other and not just wait and see what happens, is that there is a very real danger that she might move to London, or continue traveling around the world working on cruise ships.
Obviously I want her to do what she needs to do for her but, I do love her...
So do I leave it as just us being friends and let her go, or do I go for it so she and I may have the greatest love affair of all time?
Answers on a postcard..."
I realise that you are torn, but frankly it's a foolish question, don't waste your life opining for someone, do everything in your power to get her.
Above all find a way to tell her that you have feelings for her, if she rejects you, so be it. But at least you will not spend your life wondering what if. |
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Do you know the reason why she suddenly appeared Sunday after what seems no contact? She's done her Uni, done cruising, so why now? It's not a rule but things usually turn out by the way of 'an ex is an ex for a reason'. She may have had goals ahead of settling down before but do you know her plans now? I'd find these out before sinking anything long term in |
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By *red333Man 30 weeks ago
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""The One That Got Away" has suddenly returned to my life. We are trying to put our friendship back together but, within five minutes of seeing her for the first time in four years I have been reminded of how deeply I love this woman!
So here is my query...
Do I immediately attempt to try and rekindle the romance between the two of us, or do I just settle for being her friend?
The reason that I feel I have to do one or the other and not just wait and see what happens, is that there is a very real danger that she might move to London, or continue traveling around the world working on cruise ships.
Obviously I want her to do what she needs to do for her but, I do love her...
So do I leave it as just us being friends and let her go, or do I go for it so she and I may have the greatest love affair of all time?
Answers on a postcard..."
talk to her its the only way  |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"Fab is not an advice centre ask her best of luck
And yet a great many people ask for advice on many different subjects in the forums. "
And if fab isn’t the advice centre, where is?
…*waits. |
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"Fab is not an advice centre ask her best of luck
And yet a great many people ask for advice on many different subjects in the forums.
And if fab isn’t the advice centre, where is?
…*waits. "
Well, when my knob fell off the local leprosy centre were amazing tbh Woody.
I still follow the advice they gave me, and now it only drops off when I'm inside a woman's magickal slurp curtains  . |
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