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Still looking for my first meet
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Expect 90% rejection and just shoot your shot bud. Read the persons profile and write a nice message addressing them and their wants/likes specifically and above all be respectful. Plenty of time for dirty talk further down the line. |
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By *orny-DJMan 25 weeks ago
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3 months is nothing. Most guys can wait up to a year to get their first meet. Some have been here even longer abd still waiting.
Given the ratio of men to women on fab, a lot of guys are going to be disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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I know it is said so many times but try to get to a social or swingers club, even if you have to travel. It will get you off to a good start than just firing messages out alone  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Some people will say improve your profile. It is rubbish tbf.
Some people will say go to clubs. No guarantee there either.
Some people will say make sure you read a person's profile before messaging and make it personal to them. Make it polite with face pics and not dick pics. However there's a good chance they don't even open your message in the first place.
I think the reality is, some people do okay on Fab and in clubs and some don't. Unfortunately maybe you're one of the ones that doesn't do well. And it's not all about status, good looks, a good body etc. I'm pretty average across most aspects and do okay and I couldn't really say why. Just one of those things really. |
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"Have you tried the ugly ones ?
They're just as hard to bag. The average ones are your best chance, often over looked, so are more grateful "
I'd throw away the shovel now before you start digging a big hole for yourself |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Some people will say improve your profile. It is rubbish tbf.
Some people will say go to clubs. No guarantee there either.
Some people will say make sure you read a person's profile before messaging and make it personal to them. Make it polite with face pics and not dick pics. However there's a good chance they don't even open your message in the first place.
I think the reality is, some people do okay on Fab and in clubs and some don't. Unfortunately maybe you're one of the ones that doesn't do well. And it's not all about status, good looks, a good body etc. I'm pretty average across most aspects and do okay and I couldn't really say why. Just one of those things really."
Yes but even if he had no sexual meet in a club at least social verifications can get him off to a start. I have noticed on profiles how the early veris are purely social but you start to see later the actual sexual meets. If I were a struggling straight male on here I would definitely be doing socials and clubs, aside from a good profile |
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Just gone on green arrow and found my advice to you on a previous post you done about getting nowhere…you seem to have not acted on it, so I’ve been good and posted it again…
You’re welcome!
Maybe spend time on your profile and trying to stand out from the thousands of other guys trying to get women’s attention.
You’ve wrote one sentence and pretty much have 2 types of pics - face pic, dick pic.
If you think that’s the best way to sell yourself then crack on and good luck
K |
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Alot of it comes down to what you want out of fab.
If you want some friendly online flanter. Then it's fairly easy to come by.
If however, you enter the "room" with your dick hanging out. Literally begging for attention. Most I assume turn their backs and leave you alone.
Expect nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Give it time OP, it'll happen soon enough. There's plenty of cock and pussy for all to enjoy...!
You can always fastrack progress by attending clubs and making friends, and with good communication you'll find anything is possible.
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The advice for all single men here is to use the site and its tools to maximise your chances. Afterall, if someone is going to use the site, it's almost pointless not to use the tools provided!
A profile is what sells you. So they should make sure their profile is better than adequate. It needs to show why someone should pick you, instead of the tens of thousands of other single men.
Have you considered what women need to be able to pick you? If you don't give them that - as a minimum - then how they will assess you? Thoughtless, lacking in empathy, not interested in what they need, etc?
Men must make effort and change their expectations so they are realistic. Only you know yourself. You must improve your expectations so that they are realistic for you, not for the general single man. You know what effort you are willing to make and what you actually will make.
None of us know you. You have the power to change this. The buck stops with you, single men! |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Some people will say improve your profile. It is rubbish tbf.
Some people will say go to clubs. No guarantee there either.
Some people will say make sure you read a person's profile before messaging and make it personal to them. Make it polite with face pics and not dick pics. However there's a good chance they don't even open your message in the first place.
I think the reality is, some people do okay on Fab and in clubs and some don't. Unfortunately maybe you're one of the ones that doesn't do well. And it's not all about status, good looks, a good body etc. I'm pretty average across most aspects and do okay and I couldn't really say why. Just one of those things really.
Yes but even if he had no sexual meet in a club at least social verifications can get him off to a start. I have noticed on profiles how the early veris are purely social but you start to see later the actual sexual meets. If I were a struggling straight male on here I would definitely be doing socials and clubs, aside from a good profile "
That doesn't make what I said any less true. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Unfortunately not being able to accomodate or travel will also reduce down the pool of people you could be considered by.
So if you want to attract ladies you will really have to have something great to offer and not just a picture of your man meat on display. |
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Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested but all the best to you anyways |
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"Just gone on green arrow and found my advice to you on a previous post you done about getting nowhere…you seem to have not acted on it, so I’ve been good and posted it again…
You’re welcome!
Maybe spend time on your profile and trying to stand out from the thousands of other guys trying to get women’s attention.
You’ve wrote one sentence and pretty much have 2 types of pics - face pic, dick pic.
If you think that’s the best way to sell yourself then crack on and good luck
K"
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink |
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men..."
The remaining 10% of the women are living in endless hope with the remaining 95% of the men.
"...usually 6ft and over"
Not in my experience.
"...muscular or fit"
Not in my experience with my moth-eaten average 'physique'.
"...handsome to their standards"
Not in my experience with my sub-standard looks.
"...Alpha type"
Not in my experience with my Beta and Gamma type offerings.
"...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate."
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats and Embroiderers. |
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...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats, Embroiderers, and TV/TS software engineers.
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Fify "
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Thank you. Yes, Television and Transistor software engineers. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 25 weeks ago
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...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats, Embroiderers, and TV/TS software engineers.
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Fify
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Thank you. Yes, Television and Transistor software engineers. "
If I speak to any, I'll definitely send them your way...  |
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men...
The remaining 10% of the women are living in endless hope with the remaining 95% of the men.
...usually 6ft and over
Not in my experience.
...muscular or fit
Not in my experience with my moth-eaten average 'physique'.
...handsome to their standards
Not in my experience with my sub-standard looks.
...Alpha type
Not in my experience with my Beta and Gamma type offerings.
...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats and Embroiderers."
Yeah maybe in your experience but the exceptions doesnt make the rule when I'm talking about the majority and thats facts |
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...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats, Embroiderers, and TV/TS software engineers.
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Fify
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Thank you. Yes, Television and Transistor software engineers.
If I speak to any, I'll definitely send them your way... "
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men...
The remaining 10% of the women are living in endless hope with the remaining 95% of the men.
...usually 6ft and over
Not in my experience.
...muscular or fit
Not in my experience with my moth-eaten average 'physique'.
...handsome to their standards
Not in my experience with my sub-standard looks.
...Alpha type
Not in my experience with my Beta and Gamma type offerings.
...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats and Embroiderers. Yeah maybe in your experience but the exceptions doesnt make the rule when I'm talking about the majority and thats facts"
Totally disagree, I see many men meeting slim, large, average - as one of the women put off slightly by overly defined muscles - it seems just to be an excuse men tell themselves when they can't get meets - it's only ever the men that say women want greek god types, I think you'll find many are happy with an average dad bod.
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men...
The remaining 10% of the women are living in endless hope with the remaining 95% of the men.
...usually 6ft and over
Not in my experience.
...muscular or fit
Not in my experience with my moth-eaten average 'physique'.
...handsome to their standards
Not in my experience with my sub-standard looks.
...Alpha type
Not in my experience with my Beta and Gamma type offerings.
...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats and Embroiderers."
This amused me very much. Especially the 'Gamma type offerings.' Keep up the good work  |
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men...
The remaining 10% of the women are living in endless hope with the remaining 95% of the men.
...usually 6ft and over
Not in my experience.
...muscular or fit
Not in my experience with my moth-eaten average 'physique'.
...handsome to their standards
Not in my experience with my sub-standard looks.
...Alpha type
Not in my experience with my Beta and Gamma type offerings.
...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats and Embroiderers. Yeah maybe in your experience but the exceptions doesnt make the rule when I'm talking about the majority and thats facts
Totally disagree, I see many men meeting slim, large, average - as one of the women put off slightly by overly defined muscles - it seems just to be an excuse men tell themselves when they can't get meets - it's only ever the men that say women want greek god types, I think you'll find many are happy with an average dad bod.
Mrs "
I think you're missing my point. Yes you will come across women who dont care what a guy looks like physyically but the marjority of times people sleep with who they're attracted too and you can't tell me women in general love to sleep with men with big bellies because that would be a lie and again there will be some women who do |
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By *ornycougaWoman 25 weeks ago
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested but all the best to you anyways"
I'd settle for a guy that doesn't add a status update seeking older women looking for hung cock |
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I’ve met a lot of women on my own, in and out of clubs. Married, single, MMF situations, not to mention the times I’ve also done it with my wife there too.
And I live in Telford, which is the number one stop for having zero the bare minimum happen.
My advice would be yes of course, visit a club. But also don’t expect things. I’ve also gone long periods without even a profile view never mind a wink, message or meet.
Take a look at your profile, get rid of the cock shots and put them in your friends pics as a trial. It’s 50/50 the people who want to see your Henry Winkler here. But most of all work on your profile text… it doesn’t have to be war and peace, but nothing there suggests you could even manage Mog.
Above all else always remember… you’re not owed anything just for being here. Your a single guy, one an a thousand+ in your immediate area. Stand out. |
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men...
The remaining 10% of the women are living in endless hope with the remaining 95% of the men.
...usually 6ft and over
Not in my experience.
...muscular or fit
Not in my experience with my moth-eaten average 'physique'.
...handsome to their standards
Not in my experience with my sub-standard looks.
...Alpha type
Not in my experience with my Beta and Gamma type offerings.
...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats and Embroiderers."
Zinger. Great answer.
I don’t think there’s a rhyme or reason to it, it’s age bands, your locality, what clubs are around and effort made on profile and messaging.
Sometimes people can be bothered and sometimes they can’t but it’s not gonna fall in your lap.
Travel with a bit of hope, don’t be negative and don’t a dick with anyone and it might happen
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men, usually 6ft and over, muscular or fit, handsome to their standards, Alpha type, competent, have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate. If no man on here meets these criteria then they won't be interested but all the best to you anyways
I'd settle for a guy that doesn't add a status update seeking older women looking for hung cock "
When I mean status im not talking about what they put on here, I'm talking about their professional position |
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"Unfortunately 90% of the women on here want only 5% of the men...
The remaining 10% of the women are living in endless hope with the remaining 95% of the men.
...usually 6ft and over
Not in my experience.
...muscular or fit
Not in my experience with my moth-eaten average 'physique'.
...handsome to their standards
Not in my experience with my sub-standard looks.
...Alpha type
Not in my experience with my Beta and Gamma type offerings.
...have some sort of status and earn a particular income and able to accommodate.
I only make love to Barristers, Diplomats and Embroiderers. Yeah maybe in your experience but the exceptions doesnt make the rule when I'm talking about the majority and thats facts
Totally disagree, I see many men meeting slim, large, average - as one of the women put off slightly by overly defined muscles - it seems just to be an excuse men tell themselves when they can't get meets - it's only ever the men that say women want greek god types, I think you'll find many are happy with an average dad bod.
Mrs I think you're missing my point. Yes you will come across women who dont care what a guy looks like physyically but the marjority of times people sleep with who they're attracted too and you can't tell me women in general love to sleep with men with big bellies because that would be a lie and again there will be some women who do"
I'd hazard a guess the majority of women are more interested in the bloke than the body, yes they're size queens and yes they're women who want toned but looking over every fad bod, body preference thread the women want a decent guy, a belly isn't offensive.
Again an excuse blokes use when they can't meet, especially when the women state this 1000's of times on these forums & it's easy to see guys with plenty of verifications aren't all greek gods.
Any excuse.
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