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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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Hey everyone. Hope you've all had a good weekend!  . Just wondered if i could get some constructive help on my profile... it feels like it's a bit of a challenge to say the least to talk to many folk on here. I know im not the most blessed in the looks department but hey.
TIA
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"Try going to a club mate and getting to know people there. It does help.
A bit of a daunting prospect on your own, ha!"
I prefer organised social events to clubs. Just a room full of people chatting and everyone has something in common.
Its a game changer.
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Your pic looks like a floating head 
Erm, constructive feedback - do you feel they are sexy pics?
And have you done enough on your profile to stand out from the crowd of single guys you are competing against?
If the answer is no to either or both…then keep going with your profile until they are both yes.
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Looks aren’t everything, your profile could do with a couple more pics, be a little creative, the text is pretty much the same as most on here, what can you offer? what are you looking for exactly, expand the text with more detail, remove the “professional” reference, no one cares about that.
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Honest opinion, your main picture looks filtered. Personally for me that is off putting (pls don’t take that too heart) for me as a woman here the initial message I receive will usually depend if I look at that profile. We get lots of messages so a cheesy one liner always gets me! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"Your pic looks like a floating head
Erm, constructive feedback - do you feel they are sexy pics?
And have you done enough on your profile to stand out from the crowd of single guys you are competing against?
If the answer is no to either or both…then keep going with your profile until they are both yes.
K"
Thanks - will try and find one with my head firmly on my shoudlers
Thanks for the advice, will try and alter the profile a tad : ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"Honest opinion, your main picture looks filtered. Personally for me that is off putting (pls don’t take that too heart) for me as a woman here the initial message I receive will usually depend if I look at that profile. We get lots of messages so a cheesy one liner always gets me! "
Thank you, noted : ). Will try and find a few decent pictures |
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Not having dick picks is a positive in our opinion. You could do with a variety of photos in a variety of clothes from casual to smart. I always advise getting somebody to take them for you because they look better than selfies, and take them outdoors in good sunlight in interesting locations. Your two photos look very functional.
I would also suggest more chatty text to give people an idea if what you'd talk about and how you'd come across if somebody had a conversation with you. It'svery common for women to look for a connection, not just sex. I think a bit of humour would do your profile a lot of good. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"Not having dick picks is a positive in our opinion. You could do with a variety of photos in a variety of clothes from casual to smart. I always advise getting somebody to take them for you because they look better than selfies, and take them outdoors in good sunlight in interesting locations. Your two photos look very functional.
I would also suggest more chatty text to give people an idea if what you'd talk about and how you'd come across if somebody had a conversation with you. It'svery common for women to look for a connection, not just sex. I think a bit of humour would do your profile a lot of good. "
Thank you. I try to keep them to a minimal, if at all.
I will. I'm one of the least photogenic which is so frustrating!! I love that you have a video of you playing piano. I play guitar and didnt think of putting a musical video on! Will do that now.
Massive thanks for your advice! |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Maybe change your terminology a little in your bio. Things like 'professional', although many do state it, if you read the forums enough, you'll see it's a bugbear for many more.
Also concentrate on what you want and not what you don't want. Instead of saying 'someone who isn't too skinny.' Say something like 'I prefer curvy girls with a nice smile and great personality.' It turns a negative statement into a positive one. |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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I'd suggest not listening to one person's advice and doing what you want.
While I get this might be some guys first time on a site such as this I'm guessing it's not your first time at life and talking to women.
Be you, if someone doesn't like it, so what. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"Maybe change your terminology a little in your bio. Things like 'professional', although many do state it, if you read the forums enough, you'll see it's a bugbear for many more.
Also concentrate on what you want and not what you don't want. Instead of saying 'someone who isn't too skinny.' Say something like 'I prefer curvy girls with a nice smile and great personality.' It turns a negative statement into a positive one."
Noted and changed! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"There are countless threads on profile construction, all contain generic advice
Only you can construct your profile, what suits one person won't suit another  "
Thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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You also say you prefer older women, but your age range is set at 18 to 55 which some people may see as you're not being entirely truthful. Maybe change your age range that represents what you say or take out the part where you say you prefer older women. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"You also say you prefer older women, but your age range is set at 18 to 55 which some people may see as you're not being entirely truthful. Maybe change your age range that represents what you say or take out the part where you say you prefer older women."
Of course! Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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I think it's already been said on here, but there's not a one size fits all type of profile on here. Your profile has to be right for you and only you'll know that really. The reality is, it's difficult for single guys on here and you could have the best possible profile but still struggle. Just be nice to people and I'm sure you are and who knows, you might just find someone who gets you and vice versa. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"I think it's already been said on here, but there's not a one size fits all type of profile on here. Your profile has to be right for you and only you'll know that really. The reality is, it's difficult for single guys on here and you could have the best possible profile but still struggle. Just be nice to people and I'm sure you are and who knows, you might just find someone who gets you and vice versa."
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By *ild_oatsMan 37 weeks ago
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It helps if you read the numerous threads on this subject in this forum that occur with depressing regularity or the FAQ’s first.
Or couldn’t you be bothered…
No magic bullet… It helps if you help yourself first….
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