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Do you prefer having a social before fun in the bedroom or just a straight get into it meet?
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Social.
For the obvious safety reasons. Then the do I actually fancy you bit.
But the build up. The flirting. Eye contact. Talking, laughing. The occasional touch - which becomes constant contact. A little kiss. A bigger kiss. Wanting to leave right there and then, but forcing yourselves not to. |
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"Social.
For the obvious safety reasons. Then the do I actually fancy you bit.
But the build up. The flirting. Eye contact. Talking, laughing. The occasional touch - which becomes constant contact. A little kiss. A bigger kiss. Wanting to leave right there and then, but forcing yourselves not to. "
That is exactly my reasons. You don't know a person really until you meet them. Messages are all fine, but face to face is much better |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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The best times I’ve had from Fab, I’ve started with a social. Something that almost feels like a date.
It’s easy to just jump into bed with somebody, but after the sex it’s gone it’s over.
Just imagine that a long time teasing each other with looks and flirts. Enjoy making each other laugh and relax. And the sexual tension start to build when one of you ask if you’d like to go somewhere private. …
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Social. Always.
To reinforce that connection, chemistry and frisson established early on from protracted messaging.
There have been rare exceptions when I've socialised and played on the same day, but that was on the back of phone calls, video calls and extensive messaging which went on for weeks, a month, several months... |
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"Social. It's very, very rare I have sex straight after one for a myriad of reasons.
Plus, much like Misty, I like the tension and anticipation that can come about."
The chase can be as much fun as the catch |
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Social 1st always, there's not that awkwardness if you don't click/find the other attractive in person or get catfished.
I need to know people on more than a photo of tits/arse/cock to know if I am attracted to them, I need a face, a voice and a personality without that - meh.
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I don't consent to fucking anyone until I know if the chemistry is there in person. So I will only ever arrange a first meet as a social.
Doesn't mean it can't become more. But I would never agree to meet someone new purely for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Every social I’ve had turned into some play. I just call it a social so there’s an off ramp if they smell or something but I’d be going in packing heat. I’d never meet any female empty handed, so to speak.
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To say I would prefer something might suggest that there are other options.
I don't prefer a social, I insist on one.
If you aren't prepared to meet me socially at least once there won't be an alternative. |
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"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.
I love a pub social with a pool table  "
I love a game of pool. Can't beat it |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I’m really not good at judging whether I like somebody online, so a social always 1st"
Me too. I was quite surprised by a couple of ladies I met. One lady messaged for days and I felt I’d know her all my life. When she turned up and opened her gob I was weirded out because I’d rendered her in my imagination, filling blanks with wishes and she was quite different.
Not bad different, just not what I was expecting. She squirted like fire hose too which neither of us expected lol. Had to walk back to the car soaked. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.
I love a pub social with a pool table "
Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke   |
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By *CLM87Woman 39 weeks ago
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"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.
I love a pub social with a pool table
I love a game of pool. Can't beat it "
Nope... Best way of touching and teasing without it being too obvious to every one else lol |
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By *CLM87Woman 39 weeks ago
Derbyshire |
"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.
I love a pub social with a pool table
Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke "
Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.
I love a pub social with a pool table
Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke
Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts "
Me neither but I’m shite at singing too but I’ll give it a go |
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By *CLM87Woman 39 weeks ago
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"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.
I love a pub social with a pool table
Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke
Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts
Me neither but I’m shite at singing too but I’ll give it a go "
I'll carry you... don't worry |
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"Social first.. as mentioned above mainly for safety, but also to see if you click and if they actually look anything like their pictures.
I love a pub social with a pool table
Pool table and dart board with a b&b or hotel close by to sink a few alcoholic beverages before the karaoke
Oh do love me some karaoke... although am not to be trusted with darts
Me neither but I’m shite at singing too but I’ll give it a go
I'll carry you... don't worry "
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By *oobaaMan 39 weeks ago
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Seriously, it depends on who its with.
With me, by the time a meet is agreed I know what the rules are and what is expected.
If someone wanted to meet socially 1st then it wouldnt be a problem, and Ive done it, but most times we know what we are wanting, so just meet and go for it.
Its worked that way for years with me |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I have done the club scene it's got boring and same thing just looking for one man man really with attraction on both sides I haven't met anyone in while done me good to have break tbh |
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"Personally I think I prefer a social first, like breaking the ice and having a laugh and getting to know each other before diving into it.
But that is just me.
What about everyone else?"
if we are meeting privately then I need a social first and it can't be guaranteed fun... or I panic and can't even go.
Clubs we sometimes chat first but more often than not it just happens xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Has to be a social first. That's when I know if there's a real connection or not then we'll discuss a further meeting.
I've only ever had 1 social which immediately led to adult fun.
Prior to that, I've mwt up twice with fellas and gine straight to sex and well, yeah, not great and not to be repeated a third time. |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep"
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha "
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there.  |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. "
people cannot show up at the clubs too |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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No strings attached
No drama
Hassle free
If you are not feeling it move on.
No need to waste time on a meet if you have zilch feelings. I am not a drinking partner for your lonliness |
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I love a social.
I met one couple in a pub. She threw back 5 gin and tonics and him a couple of pints of Stella, all bought by me.
After an hour they said, "Erm, no thanks", pulled a face, walked out, got in their Range Rover and drove away. People, ya gotta love em. |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too"
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"No strings attached
No drama
Hassle free
If you are not feeling it move on.
No need to waste time on a meet if you have zilch feelings. I am not a drinking partner for your lonliness"
Social. Coffee nsa |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I love a social.
I met one couple in a pub. She threw back 5 gin and tonics and him a couple of pints of Stella, all bought by me.
After an hour they said, "Erm, no thanks", pulled a face, walked out, got in their Range Rover and drove away. People, ya gotta love em. "
Ooh sorry to hear that |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. "
so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you"
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Talking here is a start. Yes it maybe messaging for weeks. There is no time limit plus we all have lives.
I rather get a good conversation rapport going a feel before anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. "
chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well |
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By *bi HaiveMan 39 weeks ago
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"I have enough friends, just give me the sex.
(Also smirking at all the guys saying social first, yeah right)
She’s right….. I can’t even get a social. "
Have you ever thought about organising one of your own Woody? |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well"
so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well"
I do that too with a couple of female friends of mine. Go for a drink now and again.
I don't have kids so when I'm not working, seeing friends and family I will go to a club. Sometimes on my own or with others.
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people"
you don't need a club to control you you can meet people without these clubs |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people"
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
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there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene"
the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs |
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The social side does make us a little uncomfortable but I think that's purely because we only ever want people to watch us we don't want to swap.
If swapping or anyone involved in anyway then yes think a social would be fun |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs"
I am glad that I know people that don't go clubs |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs I am glad that I know people that don't go clubs"
I hate the way men carry their selves in clubs the conversations it knocks me sick that's why I was stopped going |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs"
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
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that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future"
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. |
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"Social. Always.
To reinforce that connection, chemistry and frisson established early on from protracted messaging.
There have been rare exceptions when I've socialised and played on the same day, but that was on the back of phone calls, video calls and extensive messaging which went on for weeks, a month, several months..."
This is the same for me.
Sadly, not everyone acts the same in person as they do online, so socials give you the chance to determine whether reality meets expectation, and vice versa, in my humble opinion. |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it....
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. "
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations"
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations"
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations just to get a bit of sex"
O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie |
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Always social first, need to feel if there is chemistry.
We have also had meets where they turn up and are 10+ years older than they appear in their photos!
Flirting and seduction adds to the lead up to sex too. X |
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By *ewels74Woman 39 weeks ago
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Would seriously need to be a social, whether it be a coffee, or just meeting in a public area so where even chat even if gets naughty but flirty you can then get the lay of the land...so to speak.
Cause even if you had been speaking on here in messages you cannot always feel how someone is or that, and if there is a spark when you meet then in a way you know.
There is much more things like nerves and stuff. Plus im shy a lot of the time as well so until im super comfortable in someone's presence in a social its one way to break the ice. |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations just to get a bit of sex
O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie "
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations just to get a bit of sex
O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie
They are called the wanking dead. "
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations just to get a bit of sex
O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie
They are called the wanking dead. they are brothels clubs but only people get paid are bar staff and hosts "
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By *oxy jWoman 39 weeks ago
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i very rarely do socials anymore im not here to hear the other persons life story i find socials can be with guys very very boring for me i just want sexual attraction and to know we are going to have fun and be on the same page fun wise .... going back quite a few years i was with friends who never did socials and they never got let down so i/we tried that along with a tougher selection process and we hardly ever got let down again ..
dont get me wrong we enjoy clubs and will enjoy socials with couples and women but just not guys i found socials gave away too much info and they wanted too much info with some becoming too invested / clingy/ stalkerish it improved my meets with guys vastly and another thing i do with guys is if we are wanting to meet then its no further in advance planning than one week and it works ive not been let down for a very very long time cant remember the last meet that was crap neither ...
people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...
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"i very rarely do socials anymore im not here to hear the other persons life story i find socials can be with guys very very boring for me i just want sexual attraction and to know we are going to have fun and be on the same page fun wise .... going back quite a few years i was with friends who never did socials and they never got let down so i/we tried that along with a tougher selection process and we hardly ever got let down again ..
dont get me wrong we enjoy clubs and will enjoy socials with couples and women but just not guys i found socials gave away too much info and they wanted too much info with some becoming too invested / clingy/ stalkerish it improved my meets with guys vastly and another thing i do with guys is if we are wanting to meet then its no further in advance planning than one week and it works ive not been let down for a very very long time cant remember the last meet that was crap neither ...
people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...
of course its completely different for single women safe wise ..."
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By *oxy jWoman 39 weeks ago
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"i very rarely do socials anymore im not here to hear the other persons life story i find socials can be with guys very very boring for me i just want sexual attraction and to know we are going to have fun and be on the same page fun wise .... going back quite a few years i was with friends who never did socials and they never got let down so i/we tried that along with a tougher selection process and we hardly ever got let down again ..
dont get me wrong we enjoy clubs and will enjoy socials with couples and women but just not guys i found socials gave away too much info and they wanted too much info with some becoming too invested / clingy/ stalkerish it improved my meets with guys vastly and another thing i do with guys is if we are wanting to meet then its no further in advance planning than one week and it works ive not been let down for a very very long time cant remember the last meet that was crap neither ...
people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...
of course its completely different for single women safe wise ...
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A social is a must for us. Connection in person is better than connection via messaging. We’re absolutely not opposed to playing on the first meet but it does require a bit of a social aspect to it first. As others have said, break the ice, get some common ground, ensure there’s attractions and boundaries etc x |
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"As we only meet in clubs, we kinda get both in one go. We aim for socials and if the moment feels right, we will invite/accept play.
It's been far easier for us personally to combine the two. "
I’ve found this also. Just clubs for me too. |
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"Both last Tuesday and Wednesday was straight down to it.... Just to get a bit of sex
Chill on Sunday?
Haha, yep
I got let down other night too mate. Blocked me. Didn't have the bollocks to tell she wasn't interested. Ah well. Onwards and upwards I guess haha
That's why I stick to clubs. If they don't show up, or cancel. "Ohh well plenty more people there"
Ping pong messaging for weeks or months on end. No thanks.
Go to a club meet loads of people face to face, have a chat, laugh and go from there. people cannot show up at the clubs too
That's why I said ohh well plenty more people there. so what you are saying is your meat didn't turn up so you think everyone else in the club is going to sleep with you
I mainly just turn up to clubs don't plan. But if I do plan a meet at a club and they don't show up. (Which I very rarely do) I just chat and have a good time with others. chats and have a laugh and a good time with others when you're not in a club as well so basically you are letting these clubs control how you meet people
Not at all. Everyone has different ways they like to meet people. Loads of people stick to clubs. Some people don't like clubs, lots of people like socials first, some like to just to play meets etc.
I prefer clubs. Can relax in the bar area, chat to people, relax in the jacuzzi, sauna.
I don't have kids so just turn up to a club when I'm not working, seeing friends and family.
there is a lot of women that want to meet men that are not in the club scene the club scene started to make me hate men that's why I stopped going I used to like men before I started going to the clubs
Sorry you have had bad experiences at clubs.
that's why I have stopped going and I will never go to a club again it just makes me hate men and not all men are like that that just wants to sleep with anything some men are not like that and they're the kind of men that I want to meet in the future
It's horrible you have had bad experiences in clubs. Not all men in clubs sleep with anyone. Definitely not me. a lot of men in clubs sliver like snakes round couples and single females going around saying the same conversations just to get a bit of sex
O love a social. In a club I'll have conservations, even if it leads nowhere. Not one for following a woman around like a zombie
They are called the wanking dead. they are brothels clubs but only people get paid are bar staff and hosts "
Not sure what clubs or events you’ve been to think that. I’ve always felt safe and enjoyed the ones I’ve attended. And have plenty more planned! |
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"i very rarely do socials anymore im not here to hear the other persons life story i find socials can be with guys very very boring for me i just want sexual attraction and to know we are going to have fun and be on the same page fun wise .... going back quite a few years i was with friends who never did socials and they never got let down so i/we tried that along with a tougher selection process and we hardly ever got let down again ..
dont get me wrong we enjoy clubs and will enjoy socials with couples and women but just not guys i found socials gave away too much info and they wanted too much info with some becoming too invested / clingy/ stalkerish it improved my meets with guys vastly and another thing i do with guys is if we are wanting to meet then its no further in advance planning than one week and it works ive not been let down for a very very long time cant remember the last meet that was crap neither ...
people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...
of course its completely different for single women safe wise ... volunteering making them money charity worker "
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In an ideal world, it would be a social first always. But have met with women who are quite far away and have just been in the area, in which case it's been a drink and then down to it which I enjoyed as we would have already messaged a lot beforehand and the drink helps whet the appetite a bit before the main event |
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"i very rarely do socials anymore im not here to hear the other persons life story i find socials can be with guys very very boring for me i just want sexual attraction and to know we are going to have fun and be on the same page fun wise .... going back quite a few years i was with friends who never did socials and they never got let down so i/we tried that along with a tougher selection process and we hardly ever got let down again ..
dont get me wrong we enjoy clubs and will enjoy socials with couples and women but just not guys i found socials gave away too much info and they wanted too much info with some becoming too invested / clingy/ stalkerish it improved my meets with guys vastly and another thing i do with guys is if we are wanting to meet then its no further in advance planning than one week and it works ive not been let down for a very very long time cant remember the last meet that was crap neither ...
people harp on about socials as if its a golden rule with swinging but its really not i know way way more couples who dont do socials than those who do ...
of course its completely different for single women safe wise ... volunteering making them money charity worker
Cuckoo cuckoo
Mr "
women going with men they not attracted too in club for free be real |
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