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When do you know in life its time to move on ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In your life how did you know it was time ?
"Why don't you fuck off and live somewhere else you fat cunt!" kind of gave me the nudge I needed.  "
lol well that told you xx |
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"In your life how did you know it was time ?
"Why don't you fuck off and live somewhere else you fat cunt!" kind of gave me the nudge I needed.
kids can be cruel"
But you should be nice to your kids, they decide your care home  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"suppose finding out my husband of 20 years was having an affair kind of helped me move on! lol  "
I bet it did make you move on xxxxxxxxxxxxx to new better things x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just know when it feels right
I am far less calculating than I am emotional so the heart and mind usually beats the practicalities to making the bigger decisions.
Some people have the benefit of being emotional and having the ability to control that emotion so that the practicalities fall into place too before moving on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes it's forced on us by others. Sometimes it's kind of clear that it's not working.
Sometimes it's time to move on... but we're not ready and we can't... |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"All I am saying is what made you move on in life ????????/ jobs ,,family. friends , love of your life .? what made you move on ."
Really good thread I think!
I think when you visualise yourself being soemwhere different whether it is work, a partner, a house, a friendship and when that visualisation turns into a yearning rather than a passing thought. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"ink on the will is dry & leaving everything to me
very slow deep breathing and hardly any steam on the mirror under their nose......
it's a given
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god that's very deep .. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All I am saying is what made you move on in life ????????/ jobs ,,family. friends , love of your life .? what made you move on .Really good thread I think!
I think when you visualise yourself being soemwhere different whether it is work, a partner, a house, a friendship and when that visualisation turns into a yearning rather than a passing thought. "
My thoughts exactly.  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"ink on the will is dry & leaving everything to me
very slow deep breathing and hardly any steam on the mirror under their nose......
it's a given
god that's very deep .. xxx "
really |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
When I discovered that, as well as the £4k I'd lent my ex, he'd stolen the money I'd asked him to bank and the envelope I kept the money I was fundraising for RSPCA in - I moved on pretty sharpish then, locks changed within a week - I later (several months) broke open my unopenable savings pot to find there was several hundred pounds less than there should have been - the despicable cunt had only broke it open, stole the notes and replaced it with the same pot! WANKER!
And breathe...
It made my century a week later when his car was seized by the police as having been involved in a robbery just before he (I) bought it! Karma rocks!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you come home to find empty spaces all around the house where she took all her belongs and moved out without telling you - and her sat in the kitchen, just so she could say 'I didn't want you to come home to an empty house' and then walking out.
When the universe sticks it to you like that, you know its time to move on. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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When you step out of the situation and realise its not good. You then make the decision to leave. Things change so easily and decisiins get made. Its when people are getting hurt then its really not good. So head up shoulders back make that jump and hope you have made the right choice.
I have had a few occasions like that in the past 7 years for a variety of reasons. Luckily I have had help from family to get me and the kids back together. A chat with someone recently made me realise that he was asking something he had no right to ask, so soon put him in his place. Sometimes listening to your head is better than your heart. My heart repairs itself slowly but on those occasions I have a chat with myself and it helps.
Its just horrible when you know people you care about will be hurt but you can protect some but not others.
Fruit x |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"Caz and Professor - I am lost for words regarding both your individual experiences - that was awful! How can people be this .... inhumane...."
Some people are just horrible and can say the most hurtful things. I am reminded of it too often. Thank god for my family being supportive. Hope everyone else has had the support x |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Caz and Professor - I am lost for words regarding both your individual experiences - that was awful! How can people be this .... inhumane...."
That which doesn't kill you, makes you stronger - Nietzsche
Prof, so sorry, I only lost money |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Caz and Professor - I am lost for words regarding both your individual experiences - that was awful! How can people be this .... inhumane...."
Thanks, Aphrodite.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Caz and Professor - I am lost for words regarding both your individual experiences - that was awful! How can people be this .... inhumane....
That which doesn't kill you, makes you stronger - Nietzsche
Prof, so sorry, I only lost money"
Thanks Caz - I think everyone's own personal circumstances are all relative to them. Your situation sounds terrible too.
...and you know, Nietzsche was right - but what he didn't say was that whilst it doesn't kill us, it can hurt like a bastard! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its awful how hurt you can be isnt it. But good when you manage to get through the shit and someone compliments you. It just makes you proud you got through it x"
well I know you and your a really lovely lady xxx fab xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When the Children had all left home and you felt like you was staying just for the sake of it.
When your were lonlier being with someone than you are now as a singlton.
When I realised my Mum was so Ill and my Kids needed me back in Doncaster x x |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Caz and Professor - I am lost for words regarding both your individual experiences - that was awful! How can people be this .... inhumane....
That which doesn't kill you, makes you stronger - Nietzsche
Prof, so sorry, I only lost money
Thanks Caz - I think everyone's own personal circumstances are all relative to them. Your situation sounds terrible too.
...and you know, Nietzsche was right - but what he didn't say was that whilst it doesn't kill us, it can hurt like a bastard!"
Not just at the time but it can have such a devastating effect on your ability to trust other people again. Hope you both, Caz and you, will have regained that ability |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Caz and Professor - I am lost for words regarding both your individual experiences - that was awful! How can people be this .... inhumane....
That which doesn't kill you, makes you stronger - Nietzsche
Prof, so sorry, I only lost money
Thanks Caz - I think everyone's own personal circumstances are all relative to them. Your situation sounds terrible too.
...and you know, Nietzsche was right - but what he didn't say was that whilst it doesn't kill us, it can hurt like a bastard!"
You're not wrong there Prof! For me, it was the fact that he professed to love me but he robbed me blind to piss it up against a wall. With hindsight, I'm kinda glad it happened anyway cos it got me out of a destructive relationship that I hadn't managed to end due to feeling sorry for him (no love left) - so eventually a win/win situation for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In your life how did you know it was time ?
"Why don't you fuck off and live somewhere else you fat cunt!" kind of gave me the nudge I needed. "
see that went straight over your head, your still fucking here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lol count my blessings everyday just hope she's sorted herself out over the years "
I bet you do xxx if things was that bad .... its only up from now on for you xx
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Caz and Professor - I am lost for words regarding both your individual experiences - that was awful! How can people be this .... inhumane....
That which doesn't kill you, makes you stronger - Nietzsche
Prof, so sorry, I only lost money
Thanks Caz - I think everyone's own personal circumstances are all relative to them. Your situation sounds terrible too.
...and you know, Nietzsche was right - but what he didn't say was that whilst it doesn't kill us, it can hurt like a bastard!Not just at the time but it can have such a devastating effect on your ability to trust other people again. Hope you both, Caz and you, will have regained that ability "
I've always been a trusting soul, and refuse to let one arsewipe kill that part of me. If I'm let down again, then that's life; however - it did help me realise I don't care for romantic relationships (and I don't mean that in a "poor me" way) and I'm now probably the happiest I've ever been |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I discovered that, as well as the £4k I'd lent my ex, he'd stolen the money I'd asked him to bank and the envelope I kept the money I was fundraising for RSPCA in - I moved on pretty sharpish then, locks changed within a week - I later (several months) broke open my unopenable savings pot to find there was several hundred pounds less than there should have been - the despicable cunt had only broke it open, stole the notes and replaced it with the same pot! WANKER!
And breathe...
It made my century a week later when his car was seized by the police as having been involved in a robbery just before he (I) bought it! Karma rocks!!!"
Stealing from animals that's just awful 
So sorry you lost the money |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I decided to move on and start a fresh when my hubby died. It was either that or just get deeper and deeper into depression. It look a few years, but I'm single, I've my home and my dogs and I'm happy it was a good move away from the old me |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"When I discovered that, as well as the £4k I'd lent my ex, he'd stolen the money I'd asked him to bank and the envelope I kept the money I was fundraising for RSPCA in - I moved on pretty sharpish then, locks changed within a week - I later (several months) broke open my unopenable savings pot to find there was several hundred pounds less than there should have been - the despicable cunt had only broke it open, stole the notes and replaced it with the same pot! WANKER!
And breathe...
It made my century a week later when his car was seized by the police as having been involved in a robbery just before he (I) bought it! Karma rocks!!!
Stealing from animals that's just awful
So sorry you lost the money "
I replaced the money for the RSPCA - animals weren't going to suffer cos of that tosspot! |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"I decided to move on and start a fresh when my hubby died. It was either that or just get deeper and deeper into depression. It look a few years, but I'm single, I've my home and my dogs and I'm happy it was a good move away from the old me "
That knocks my story into a cocked hat! So sorry for your loss Zira, but glad to hear that you're happy now xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I decided to move on and start a fresh when my hubby died. It was either that or just get deeper and deeper into depression. It look a few years, but I'm single, I've my home and my dogs and I'm happy it was a good move away from the old me "
well we can live in the passed or move on ....... as lifes to short xxx and he would I am sure wish you to be a happy you x xx and live.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I discovered that, as well as the £4k I'd lent my ex, he'd stolen the money I'd asked him to bank and the envelope I kept the money I was fundraising for RSPCA in - I moved on pretty sharpish then, locks changed within a week - I later (several months) broke open my unopenable savings pot to find there was several hundred pounds less than there should have been - the despicable cunt had only broke it open, stole the notes and replaced it with the same pot! WANKER!
And breathe...
It made my century a week later when his car was seized by the police as having been involved in a robbery just before he (I) bought it! Karma rocks!!!
Stealing from animals that's just awful
So sorry you lost the money
I replaced the money for the RSPCA - animals weren't going to suffer cos of that tosspot! "
Bless you you sound lovely |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"When I discovered that, as well as the £4k I'd lent my ex, he'd stolen the money I'd asked him to bank and the envelope I kept the money I was fundraising for RSPCA in - I moved on pretty sharpish then, locks changed within a week - I later (several months) broke open my unopenable savings pot to find there was several hundred pounds less than there should have been - the despicable cunt had only broke it open, stole the notes and replaced it with the same pot! WANKER!
And breathe...
It made my century a week later when his car was seized by the police as having been involved in a robbery just before he (I) bought it! Karma rocks!!!
Stealing from animals that's just awful
So sorry you lost the money
I replaced the money for the RSPCA - animals weren't going to suffer cos of that tosspot!
Bless you you sound lovely "
I am, but Daz and Taz are a handful!!!  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Cumbria to Norfolk.....calculating halfway......hang on where the flip is Cumbria. Mind you your probably wobderingvwhere Norfolk is too lol xx"
Don't they write NFN (normal for Norfolk) on medical notes...Cumbria is about as far from Norfolk as you can get and still stay in the country |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Cumbria to Norfolk.....calculating halfway......hang on where the flip is Cumbria. Mind you your probably wobderingvwhere Norfolk is too lol xx"
when thay have been to Norfolk thay would never wish to go home , |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In your life how did you know it was time ?
"Why don't you fuck off and live somewhere else you fat cunt!" kind of gave me the nudge I needed. "
I always admire subtlety... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I am too stressed or unhappy, then it would be time to move on, whatever it may be.
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Don't think you can say fairer than that and I completely agree if you aren't happy move on and change it (and yes I'm aware in some circumstances that's easier said than done) |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"If I am too stressed or unhappy, then it would be time to move on, whatever it may be.
Don't think you can say fairer than that and I completely agree if you aren't happy move on and change it (and yes I'm aware in some circumstances that's easier said than done) "
Off thread, but how's the babies doing Saz??? xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When you are told, "you are not good enough and what difference would it make to you knowing the underlying reason for breaking the relationship..." I guess that gave a clear indication it's time to march on...  |
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