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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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Do you prefer to do last minute meets or get to know someone first then arranged something?
As I'm quite new to this and just trying stuff out. I like to get to know people and make sure I'm safe and meeting up with the right person.
I learned that the hard way with my first meet so I'm very cautious about who I talk to now. |
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"Do you prefer to do last minute meets or get to know someone first then arranged something?
As I'm quite new to this and just trying stuff out. I like to get to know people and make sure I'm safe and meeting up with the right person.
I learned that the hard way with my first meet so I'm very cautious about who I talk to now."
Get to know them, speak on the phone, plan a meet 
Lesson learned after one pretty last min meet where I just felt a bit awkward and a bit uncomfortable. The person was lovely to be fair, we just didn't click  |
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It's a personal thing for me: I've never understood the concept of last minute meets with a stranger.
My meets have been the outcome of protracted chatting/messaging over weeks/months (mostly) and, occasionally, a year (or two). |
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We do both because we look for different things. When it's hubby's turn to choose he puts up an ad and finds someone on the day. I'm more into BDSM and need to choose people I have similar kinks with. So it depends what you're looking for. |
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"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.
Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt"
Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform |
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"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.
Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt
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Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform "
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The same applies to naive women who think ruffling their plumage at men will have them running to them on a whim. I've had my fair share of "meet me now, I'm only down the road in Soho" type of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.
Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt
Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform "
That's a good point, never thought of that! |
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"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.
Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt
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Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform
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The same applies to naive women who think ruffling their plumage at men will have them running to them on a whim. I've had my fair share of "meet me now, I'm only down the road in Soho" type of messages."
*_adybugs ruffles her plumage at Nerolicious  * |
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ALWAYS prefer to get to know somebody first. Last minute usually means it’s a bit iffy. Not idea what they are like, no conceptions of personality… done it before and it very rarely goes well. I tend to just stick to socials now if it’s last minute. |
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"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.
Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt
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Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform
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The same applies to naive women who think ruffling their plumage at men will have them running to them on a whim. I've had my fair share of "meet me now, I'm only down the road in Soho" type of messages.
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*_adybugs ruffles her plumage at Nerolicious *"
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That's because I already know you and you're a stalwart of the Fab Forå.  |
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"Never the same day and never quick. Like to chat for a while first.
Only time I have rushed the meet was not great .... so lesson learnt
Yeap if a guy wants to meet you NOW he’s wanking and either won’t show or won’t be able to perform
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That's a good point, never thought of that!"
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"I have to exchange at least 300 messages and a 1 hour video call before I arrange a meet. "
Since you dropped the need for formal introductions through a mutual third party, you’ve made it too easy  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I have to exchange at least 300 messages and a 1 hour video call before I arrange a meet.
Since you dropped the need for formal introductions through a mutual third party, you’ve made it too easy "
I don't trust third parties.
Too easy? Message away..... |
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"Most definitely prefer to get to know someone a lot first, would never meet straight after 1 or 2 messages
You never know one of us could be a serial killer "
Don't worry. It's unlikely to be both of us. 
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There is, I believe, a fine balance between not knowing someone enough and knowing a little too much about them upfront.
It's finding someone who's scales tip at the same time as yours that makes all the difference. |
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"I have to exchange at least 300 messages and a 1 hour video call before I arrange a meet.
Since you dropped the need for formal introductions through a mutual third party, you’ve made it too easy
I don't trust third parties.
Too easy? Message away....."
Most men knock a few years off their age here, but with your restrictions I can be honest  |
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We’ve mainly got to know people beforehand.
However we did do a meet now ad whilst away one time and we got an Italian guy which was one of C’s fantasies, to have them both chatting in Italian - worked perfectly.
K |
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