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So tonight I dropped Mrs off for a night out.
I'd not long been home and suggested that she could get the ferry ( Gosport people will know) then get a taxi as I was knackered then I'd pick her up tonight.
This was only 5:30 not late, she was mortified at the suggestion that she gets a taxi, I wasn't expecting her to get it at night alone but early evening.
Are other ladies scared to get a taxi alone or is she overreacting?
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By *ewels74Woman 26 weeks ago
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Finds no issue of getting a taxi, tbh i feel safer and i tend to chat to the driver anyways
And yeah i was trying to figure out who was meant to be getting reported as i seen nothing bad being mentioned, unless she read what he was writing wrongly |
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I’ve had taxi drivers do scary things, park in random places and not let me out etc, but that happens far less then men be scary as I’m walking around alone.
Men are scary (not all men  ) but until they’re banned from leaving the house after dark we women have to keep making our lives smaller to be safer and absorbing the fear and violence |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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I don’t think it’s fair to say she’s overreacting if she’s genuinely uncomfortable with it.
I’d get a taxi alone. I’d feel more uncomfortable walking around by myself. I avoid going out late at night if I can help it, but I’m scared of my own shadow. |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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I'm a bit baffled by this OP. I always thought taxis were the safer option, unless something has happened in recent years to have changed that?  Obviously there's the odd horror stories, John Worboys comes mind, but generally speaking, statistically I'd say getting a taxi is safest way to get home from a night out, unless getting a lift from a family member etc. |
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By *essTTWoman 26 weeks ago
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"So tonight I dropped Mrs off for a night out.
I'd not long been home and suggested that she could get the ferry ( Gosport people will know) then get a taxi as I was knackered then I'd pick her up tonight.
This was only 5:30 not late, she was mortified at the suggestion that she gets a taxi, I wasn't expecting her to get it at night alone but early evening.
Are other ladies scared to get a taxi alone or is she overreacting?
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The response to this is subjective tbh
Some women have had bad experience and thus wouldn't get a taxi alone. Some women have no issue with it.
I rarely get taxis and when I do I use Uber and I always have my location settings on on my phone so it would really be an issue for me.
But I've never had a bad experience getting a taxi either by myself or with anyone else |
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"I don’t think it’s fair to say she’s overreacting if she’s genuinely uncomfortable with it.
I’d get a taxi alone. I’d feel more uncomfortable walking around by myself. I avoid going out late at night if I can help it, but I’m scared of my own shadow. "
Then she probably shouldn't be going out at night if it bothers her that much. Seriously. A taxi?? |
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Providing the taxi is pre-booked, from a reputable firm I have no issues with getting a taxi. The problems potentially come with hailing a taxi down.
That said, it's almost impossible to get a taxi to turn up here - the council won't licence enough drivers or businesses - so I'd far rather walk if I'm out locally, or drive myself there and back if it's a bit further afield. |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"I don’t think it’s fair to say she’s overreacting if she’s genuinely uncomfortable with it.
I’d get a taxi alone. I’d feel more uncomfortable walking around by myself. I avoid going out late at night if I can help it, but I’m scared of my own shadow.
Then she probably shouldn't be going out at night if it bothers her that much. Seriously. A taxi??"
The OP said it wasn’t late at night. I personally don’t have an issue with it, it just seems unfair to say she’s overreacting if it makes her uncomfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"I’ve had taxi drivers do scary things, park in random places and not let me out etc."
Yeh, I've heard the occasional story like this. It's understandable that people have experienced (or heard) this sort of thing and now won't get into a taxi alone, or at least are very wary of it.
Don't really think op was in the wrong but I do get it. |
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"I don’t think it’s fair to say she’s overreacting if she’s genuinely uncomfortable with it.
I’d get a taxi alone. I’d feel more uncomfortable walking around by myself. I avoid going out late at night if I can help it, but I’m scared of my own shadow.
Then she probably shouldn't be going out at night if it bothers her that much. Seriously. A taxi??
The OP said it wasn’t late at night. I personally don’t have an issue with it, it just seems unfair to say she’s overreacting if it makes her uncomfortable. "
I don't think it's unfair to say if she isn't comfortable with it then she shouldn't be doing it. But that might mean not going out. Not all of us have the luxury of a partner at our beck and call so I don't get what the problem is. She's covered and doesn't have to deal with it. Some have no choice so just get on with it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"I don’t think it’s fair to say she’s overreacting if she’s genuinely uncomfortable with it.
I’d get a taxi alone. I’d feel more uncomfortable walking around by myself. I avoid going out late at night if I can help it, but I’m scared of my own shadow.
Then she probably shouldn't be going out at night if it bothers her that much. Seriously. A taxi??
The OP said it wasn’t late at night. I personally don’t have an issue with it, it just seems unfair to say she’s overreacting if it makes her uncomfortable.
I don't think it's unfair to say if she isn't comfortable with it then she shouldn't be doing it. But that might mean not going out. Not all of us have the luxury of a partner at our beck and call so I don't get what the problem is. She's covered and doesn't have to deal with it. Some have no choice so just get on with it. "
I get that. But the OP was asking if his partner was overreacting. I don’t think she is. If something makes me feel uncomfortable or scared, I’m not going to do it just because other people think I’m being ridiculous. |
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"Also I'd think it a really crap night out that finished at 5.30. That's afternoon tea with the school mums. Not a night out  "
My understanding of the OP is that his partner was heading out for a night out at 5.30 and because he was tired, he suggested she take a taxi. Then he would collect her at the end of the night (his OP refers to collecting her tonight). Perhaps he'd just got in from work at 5.30 or something? Who knows.
To respond - I've never been keen on taking taxis on my own at night, but have done so. I generally prefer to drive myself in preference to taking taxis and because I'm not one for drinking, that's my usual approach. I generally only take taxis for work or if my car is being repaired and that's almost never at night. I've never hailed a taxi or waited at a taxi rank. I've always phoned for one from a reputable company; waited in a taxi office or used Uber or similar apps. However, I passed my test and started driving myself for nights out pretty quickly.
I feel more vulnerable in taxis nowadays because I either have to get out of my wheelchair and have it in pieces in the boot, or if a wheelchair accessible taxi, my chair is ratcheted down to the floor. Either way, I'm a sitting duck. I can't run away from a dangerous situation. I just drive myself as much as possible. |
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My late brother and friends were taxis drivers. Yes Op was saying daytime taxis. But if female not happy then why cause stress ? . I have yes younger female friend who I see at my house . I pay for taxis to and from my house. She always messages to say in taxis on way. I also say to her when she is in cab leaving . Message when home. She at first said why ( did ask at later date). Then one night driver made comments about her etc on way to her house. She yes got home safely and understood why I said to her in front of driver to message as soon as indoors. He was reported. Had apology from taxi company. They said driver was no longer working for them . I did wonder if driver was the licensed driver ? How many people check photo of driver against , driver of vehicle? |
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"So tonight I dropped Mrs off for a night out.
I'd not long been home and suggested that she could get the ferry ( Gosport people will know) then get a taxi as I was knackered then I'd pick her up tonight.
This was only 5:30 not late, she was mortified at the suggestion that she gets a taxi, I wasn't expecting her to get it at night alone but early evening.
Are other ladies scared to get a taxi alone or is she overreacting?
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No, I'm not scared and yes, she's overreacting! |
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Me and pinky wouldn't be here now if it wasn't for her getting in my taxi. Of course i was a gentleman and waited for her previous relationship to fizzle out first.
Then one day i picked her up and she was off to meet a guy on here. When she told me i couldn't help but mention my solo account.
Now over a year and plenty of great experiences under our belt we have just booked PDI for October. |
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Many years ago when I was 15 I used to take taxis late at night after babysitting and had a few very creepy and definitely inappropriate things happen and be said.
I know times were different then (definitely no excuse) but it always put me of catching taxis even to this day. I wouldn't let my daughter take one when she was younger either.
It's sad when for whatever reason some women don't feel comfortable doing what men wouldn't think twice about. |
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By *nnCeeWoman 26 weeks ago
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Are Aquacars still going?!
I'd be happy to get in one of them, but understand if your OH isn't keen, then it might not have been something she wanted to do. Or was it that she was more expecting you to drive round to Pompey and drop her off?
Have been on the Gosport ferry a couple of times, even the little put-put which runs after the ferry stops...
I'll get cabs alone, or walk. Perhaps I shouldn't, but thus far I've been alright...
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"So tonight I dropped Mrs off for a night out.
I'd not long been home and suggested that she could get the ferry ( Gosport people will know) then get a taxi as I was knackered then I'd pick her up tonight.
This was only 5:30 not late, she was mortified at the suggestion that she gets a taxi, I wasn't expecting her to get it at night alone but early evening.
Are other ladies scared to get a taxi alone or is she overreacting?
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Nah I don’t think she is to be fair mate. Not got it in me at this time of night to go through all the reason why I think that but would always prefer to be with my spouse or for them to be with a group of mates then on their own regardless of the time of night so they’re safe. That said though, that concern can be equally considered deeming and disrespectful of woman as they don’t want to be made to feel like they’re being minded or chaperoned. Be glad she takes safety serious and you support any precautions she wants to take. There certainly more than enough horror stories. I live in Worcester and one time after midnight me and my partner where driving back from Upton on this dark country road with no path, between Upton and Malvern that with malvern roughly 3-4 miles away. No road lighting, just road then ditch. We suddenly see this young girl trudging along the road. Any car coming the other way would have probably not had enough time to see her. Malvern about 3- 4 miles, Worcester eight miles. Both me and my partner think what the heck is this Emo kid doing walking along here at this time of night? D*unk farmer or something sure but this young girl. Though we driven past we both shared are concerns until my partner said should we turn around and see if they are ok. Now cos she was with me and it wasn’t just me, I said yeah, if that was our kid or nephew or niece etc. so we checked that she was ok and again I think they felt a little safer excepting a lift as it was my partner driving and another woman. Long story short, she was walking back to Worcester cos her and bf had gone to one of the Upton festivals, been arguing and ditch her in the middle of the night on the side of the road in what must have seemed the middle of know where to her. Now we had good intentions and saw her home to her nans in Worcester but it could have easily been a different story, different car, person etc. Still makes me shudder to this day and if I’d been her dad, that lad (you’ll have to foil in this part yourself lol)  |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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Don't see the issue, I've got hundreds of taxis alone. Especially Uber which is tracked the whole journey and you can alert someone if you're in danger.
You don't know the bus driver, but you get on the bus. You don't know the pilot but you get on the plane. Being in a crowd doesn't make you safer, if someone wants to hurt you they will do. |
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I catch probably at least a hundred taxis a year by myself. There's only one taxi driver that makes me feel very uncomfortable, and if I could avoid getting a lift with him I would, but sometimes I really can't.
Not around my way, but I know a lot of firms send you car descriptions and number plates when you book a taxi, I think that's a great idea. |
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My kids really don't like using taxis or Uber in the uk if alone, they don’t feel safe.they say they are often very inappropriate conversations especially Asian men at night.
We have pink taxi and pink Ubers driven by Arabic women here, some women choose to use those but it’s very safe here. |
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Happily get a taxi by myself, always booked over the phone or uber so can be tracked.
I get that it could make another woman uncomfortable though. If I'm out late at night, I prefer a taxi. If not, I'm happy to walk. |
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I always get a taxi alone when going back home from the train station late. My other option is walking through an empty town or right next to nature reserve, depends on what station I got off and both feel equally scary so I feel like taxi is the safest option.
Because I live in very rough area in the block of flats, I found also many taxi drivers letting me know they will stay a little longer to see if I get to the building safely. |
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I have no problem getting a taxi if I'm in the city. Uber if available are great. If not then pre book it is safer as you are less likely to get picked up by an unlicensed taxi driver
I refuse to be scared anywhere of anyone and certainly would not let fear hinder my life, that's no way to live. |
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"So tonight I dropped Mrs off for a night out.
I'd not long been home and suggested that she could get the ferry ( Gosport people will know) then get a taxi as I was knackered then I'd pick her up tonight.
This was only 5:30 not late, she was mortified at the suggestion that she gets a taxi, I wasn't expecting her to get it at night alone but early evening.
Are other ladies scared to get a taxi alone or is she overreacting?
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Was she scared of getting a taxi or just confused as to why you'd suggested it if you were home and able to drive her?
You said she was mortified. That's not a word I'd use to describe someone who was scared of something.
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"So tonight I dropped Mrs off for a night out.
I'd not long been home and suggested that she could get the ferry ( Gosport people will know) then get a taxi as I was knackered then I'd pick her up tonight.
This was only 5:30 not late, she was mortified at the suggestion that she gets a taxi, I wasn't expecting her to get it at night alone but early evening.
Are other ladies scared to get a taxi alone or is she overreacting?
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I’d dare say she was overreacting and guilt tripping you into giving her a lift. That’s what couples do sometimes. |
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I used to love dropping off and picking my ex up whenever she used to go out, even if the pick up had three others in there too and that was a long drive around to all their homes. Was a fun conversation and good times. |
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If I need a taxi, I'll get one.
I feel it's a lot safer these days - Uber for instance tracks the car and there's a button you can press on the app while in the car if you feel unsafe.
I had a few dodgy taxi drivers when I was younger and maybe she's had a bad experience in the past too.
If she's not comfortable, then it's not for anyone else to say otherwise.
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By *hoirCouple 26 weeks ago
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"So tonight I dropped Mrs off for a night out.
I'd not long been home and suggested that she could get the ferry ( Gosport people will know) then get a taxi as I was knackered then I'd pick her up tonight.
This was only 5:30 not late, she was mortified at the suggestion that she gets a taxi, I wasn't expecting her to get it at night alone but early evening.
Are other ladies scared to get a taxi alone or is she overreacting?
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Not remotely scared to get a taxi alone at any time of night.
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"It's all perception, if you think there is danger you behave as there is danger even when there is none and the other way around.
Sometimes behaving as there is danger creates it."
How on earth does behaving as though there's danger, create danger?
Everyone's perception and tolerance for risk is different. We each have differing vulnerabilities and each person acts, in general, to try and secure their own safety and that of their loved ones.
My appetite for risk changed substantially with the acquisition of disability and things I would have done as an able bodied person, I will no longer do or will do differently. |
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By *G LanaTV/TS 26 weeks ago
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"Its shorter by water" but I'm not sure what the taxi arrangements are these days with the bus station redevelopment work. It looks like it could cause months and months of chaos.
Sorry if you ended up getting dragged back out. |
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"I’m fine with it. It’s just the small talk that bothers me. I hate it. Just don’t talk to me  "
Tom always asks the Taxi drivers In Essex if they have anyone famous in their cabs.. lots in Essex such as Rod Stewart, Ronnie O'Sullivan, David Beckham etc..
Probably not worth asking if you live up North.. |
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By *oxy jWoman 25 weeks ago
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i always request a female driver i also have a couple of older gents who work for a local taxi firm who are excellent ... but 99% of the time i drive as i rarely drink ... i would not trust %90 of taxi drivers ....
during the day we use taxis alot for residents patients staff workers as we are 7 different locations around somerset/devon we use a private firm for all of this where we pay a block bill at the end of the month every driver is top notch they are very well selected and mainly do hospital / care runs and school runs so every driver is well checked .....
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I’m fine with it. It’s just the small talk that bothers me. I hate it. Just don’t talk to me
Tom always asks the Taxi drivers In Essex if they have anyone famous in their cabs.. lots in Essex such as Rod Stewart, Ronnie O'Sullivan, David Beckham etc..
Probably not worth asking if you live up North.. "
I once saw Fred Dibnah up here. Surely he's right up there with Rod Stewart? |
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"I’m fine with it. It’s just the small talk that bothers me. I hate it. Just don’t talk to me
Tom always asks the Taxi drivers In Essex if they have anyone famous in their cabs.. lots in Essex such as Rod Stewart, Ronnie O'Sullivan, David Beckham etc..
Probably not worth asking if you live up North..
I once saw Fred Dibnah up here. Surely he's right up there with Rod Stewart?"
I would have loved Fred Dibnah in his cab |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Ive never actually thought about being alone in a taxi, maybe im naive and assume that not every man is a predator, i only really use the 1 taxi firm and have the app so all info is stored if anything were to happen |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I’m fine with it. It’s just the small talk that bothers me. I hate it. Just don’t talk to me
Tom always asks the Taxi drivers In Essex if they have anyone famous in their cabs.. lots in Essex such as Rod Stewart, Ronnie O'Sullivan, David Beckham etc..
Probably not worth asking if you live up North..
I once saw Fred Dibnah up here. Surely he's right up there with Rod Stewart?
I would have loved Fred Dibnah in his cab "
I was pretty starstruck tbf. |
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"Get in a taxi,ask driver if you can take a picture of his tag and say your sending it to a friend for safety reasons..if a safe taxi driver he won't mind"
In my previous post. I asked how many people actually check the driver matches his ‘tag’ . Yes realise taxis are safe . Yet as some females have said they have had bad experiences . Are these not reported ? |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Zillions of moons ago I would be the one ordering the taxi for a ladies night out.
How I miss those days of social life was a bit crazy mind.
Only live once
Taxi company most of the time
Never thought about being alone. Never had much cash so it was bus and walk home oh the fun. |
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As someone who does taxis, I get girls in my car late night who are d*unk and want to mess about. But at the end of the day, I know that it isn’t worth it since I can lose my job. If she wants to chat and get my number that totally different but I’m not gonna force anything on anyone. But I can’t speak for everyone I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?
Whats what a woman is wearing got to do with getting a taxk late at night??"
I often think I need some PPE when using taxis tbf |
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By *aizyWoman 25 weeks ago
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?
Whats what a woman is wearing got to do with getting a taxk late at night??
I often think I need some PPE when using taxis tbf "
Not a bad idea. |
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I notice some have said on posts. Using UBER is safe as tracked ? In Reading UBER does not operate ? Could not get licence . ? Last time someone at my house tried to book and taxis did not turn up . They were from London. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?
Whats what a woman is wearing got to do with getting a taxk late at night??
I often think I need some PPE when using taxis tbf
Not a bad idea."
Stick some donuts on your nips!  |
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All women need to be careful about getting into a cab at night especially if there by them self after a night out. Iv read shit loads of taxi drivers and police officers taking advantage of d*unk women by offering them a ride home. The world's a horrid place right now and with all the people there letting in the country women are quite vulnerable. Some seriously sick men out there |
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By *aizyWoman 25 weeks ago
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?
Whats what a woman is wearing got to do with getting a taxk late at night??
I often think I need some PPE when using taxis tbf
Not a bad idea.
Stick some donuts on your nips! "
Come on, that wouldn't be very modest would it?! Anyway I'd just eat them  the doughnuts I mean!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?
Whats what a woman is wearing got to do with getting a taxk late at night??
I often think I need some PPE when using taxis tbf
Not a bad idea.
Stick some donuts on your nips!
Come on, that wouldn't be very modest would it?! Anyway I'd just eat them the doughnuts I mean!!"
Defo coming to the midlands with donuts now!  |
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By *aizyWoman 25 weeks ago
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?
Whats what a woman is wearing got to do with getting a taxk late at night??
I often think I need some PPE when using taxis tbf
Not a bad idea.
Stick some donuts on your nips!
Come on, that wouldn't be very modest would it?! Anyway I'd just eat them the doughnuts I mean!!
Defo coming to the midlands with donuts now! "
Make sure they are jam ones! |
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"All women need to be careful about getting into a cab at night especially if there by them self after a night out. Iv read shit loads of taxi drivers and police officers taking advantage of d*unk women by offering them a ride home. The world's a horrid place right now and with all the people there letting in the country women are quite vulnerable. Some seriously sick men out there "
This is just scare mongering. |
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"It's all perception, if you think there is danger you behave as there is danger even when there is none and the other way around.
Sometimes behaving as there is danger creates it.
Says a man "
Iol I completely agree. Never known caution and a person doing their best not to put themselves in dangerous situations being the cause of a dangerous situation. Certainly has helped me avoid being in dangerous situations when I’ve been by myself late at night and there a group of steaming d*unks looking to cause trouble or something similar x |
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"All women need to be careful about getting into a cab at night especially if there by them self after a night out. Iv read shit loads of taxi drivers and police officers taking advantage of d*unk women by offering them a ride home. The world's a horrid place right now and with all the people there letting in the country women are quite vulnerable. Some seriously sick men out there
This is just scare mongering."
True, there being cautious and looking out for yourself but no one should have to live in fear of the outside world, day or night x |
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?"
What exactly would constitute as modesty dressed and what foolish notion makes you think that plays any part in it? Skipping over the fact this is a swinger site that promotes acceptance and freedom of self expression as any user see’s fit as long as it’s not harming anyone else. Country’s like India that force woman to dress and wear what others consider “modestly” also have the highest number of deplorable violence towards woman, so it should be clear to anyone, even those that have it muddled in their head that it some how the ladies fault by the way they dress etc is complete hog wash. The issues and fault rest solely with the attacker and no amount of enforced behaviour modification on woman will change that or make them safer from the degenerates to do these horrid things. Surely it’s better to look into making the punishment for committing such atrocities so severe that the thought alone would terrify any would be attacker into getting help, rather then risk what will happen to them if they offend? |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Should the females dress more modestly if getting a cab alone late at night?
What exactly would constitute as modesty dressed and what foolish notion makes you think that plays any part in it? Skipping over the fact this is a swinger site that promotes acceptance and freedom of self expression as any user see’s fit as long as it’s not harming anyone else. Country’s like India that force woman to dress and wear what others consider “modestly” also have the highest number of deplorable violence towards woman, so it should be clear to anyone, even those that have it muddled in their head that it some how the ladies fault by the way they dress etc is complete hog wash. The issues and fault rest solely with the attacker and no amount of enforced behaviour modification on woman will change that or make them safer from the degenerates to do these horrid things. Surely it’s better to look into making the punishment for committing such atrocities so severe that the thought alone would terrify any would be attacker into getting help, rather then risk what will happen to them if they offend?"
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Dress plays an important part in the signals we send out. Business suits, shirt and tie being one. In the 70s if you wore oxblood doc martens and the bover boy Harrington jacket you would be seen as aggressive. No different on a night out. Blend in and don't stand out. Toms guidance to all sexes and genders is, dont bring attention to yourselves and don't stand out. It might not stop every attack but you won't know how many attacks that are prevented. |
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"Dress plays an important part in the signals we send out. Business suits, shirt and tie being one. In the 70s if you wore oxblood doc martens and the bover boy Harrington jacket you would be seen as aggressive. No different on a night out. Blend in and don't stand out. Toms guidance to all sexes and genders is, dont bring attention to yourselves and don't stand out. It might not stop every attack but you won't know how many attacks that are prevented. "
I think you should go see that exhibit that shows what people were wearing when they were attacked.
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"Dress plays an important part in the signals we send out. Business suits, shirt and tie being one. In the 70s if you wore oxblood doc martens and the bover boy Harrington jacket you would be seen as aggressive. No different on a night out. Blend in and don't stand out. Toms guidance to all sexes and genders is, dont bring attention to yourselves and don't stand out. It might not stop every attack but you won't know how many attacks that are prevented. "
What alot of shit |
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It's safer to get a taxi now than it ever was.
The company you call, tell you the colour , the make and the registration of the car coming to you.
Just never get in an unmarked car AND always leave your own phone on trackable.
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The ONS also outlined the groups most likely to be victims of violent crime. The TCSEW showed that in the year ending March 2022, men were more likely to be victims of violent crime than women ...
Make sure she picks you up in the dead of night when you are out |
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By *red333Man 25 weeks ago
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"It's safer to get a taxi now than it ever was.
The company you call, tell you the colour , the make and the registration of the car coming to you.
Just never get in an unmarked car AND always leave your own phone on trackable.
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Damn I'd never ever have a phone tracked its my pet hate so I'm a gonna, if i ever considered getting a taxi which of course i wouldn't |
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By *oxy jWoman 25 weeks ago
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"Dress plays an important part in the signals we send out. Business suits, shirt and tie being one. In the 70s if you wore oxblood doc martens and the bover boy Harrington jacket you would be seen as aggressive. No different on a night out. Blend in and don't stand out. Toms guidance to all sexes and genders is, dont bring attention to yourselves and don't stand out. It might not stop every attack but you won't know how many attacks that are prevented. "
wow what a bullshite statement ... blend in and you'll be ok ???? one thing ive never done is blend in and never will and your views on skinheads is totally flawed most skinheads 70s to now are what we like to call trojan skinheads theres not a racist bone in their body and they dont look for trouble neither ... you can not go around stereotyping people ... be normal blend in i bet you have the same view of those that say women who wear short skirts deserve what they get ...
thats whats wrong with today to many people are following the mass just what the powers above want stuff that ill stay me i aint no sheep |
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"Dress plays an important part in the signals we send out. Business suits, shirt and tie being one. In the 70s if you wore oxblood doc martens and the bover boy Harrington jacket you would be seen as aggressive. No different on a night out. Blend in and don't stand out. Toms guidance to all sexes and genders is, dont bring attention to yourselves and don't stand out. It might not stop every attack but you won't know how many attacks that are prevented.
wow what a bullshite statement ... blend in and you'll be ok ???? one thing ive never done is blend in and never will and your views on skinheads is totally flawed most skinheads 70s to now are what we like to call trojan skinheads theres not a racist bone in their body and they dont look for trouble neither ... you can not go around stereotyping people ... be normal blend in i bet you have the same view of those that say women who wear short skirts deserve what they get ...
thats whats wrong with today to many people are following the mass just what the powers above want stuff that ill stay me i aint no sheep "
Were you a skinhead pal |
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"Dress plays an important part in the signals we send out. Business suits, shirt and tie being one. In the 70s if you wore oxblood doc martens and the bover boy Harrington jacket you would be seen as aggressive. No different on a night out. Blend in and don't stand out. Toms guidance to all sexes and genders is, dont bring attention to yourselves and don't stand out. It might not stop every attack but you won't know how many attacks that are prevented.
wow what a bullshite statement ... blend in and you'll be ok ???? one thing ive never done is blend in and never will and your views on skinheads is totally flawed most skinheads 70s to now are what we like to call trojan skinheads theres not a racist bone in their body and they dont look for trouble neither ... you can not go around stereotyping people ... be normal blend in i bet you have the same view of those that say women who wear short skirts deserve what they get ...
thats whats wrong with today to many people are following the mass just what the powers above want stuff that ill stay me i aint no sheep
Were you a skinhead pal"
No but I dress modestly and rarely attract unwanted attention or aggression. Tom suggests the same.. |
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"Overreacting... its mind-boggling that women can run the household, childcare, work and everything in-between but can't get a taxi.
Mrs "
Not mind boggling at all. She didn't say can't get a taxi, chooses not too because she feels uncomfortable. It doesn't stop me getting a taxi, but i feel uncomfortable too due to bad experiences in the past. |
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"Overreacting... its mind-boggling that women can run the household, childcare, work and everything in-between but can't get a taxi.
Mrs
Not mind boggling at all. She didn't say can't get a taxi, chooses not too because she feels uncomfortable. It doesn't stop me getting a taxi, but i feel uncomfortable too due to bad experiences in the past."
Travel in pairs |
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"Overreacting... its mind-boggling that women can run the household, childcare, work and everything in-between but can't get a taxi.
Mrs
Not mind boggling at all. She didn't say can't get a taxi, chooses not too because she feels uncomfortable. It doesn't stop me getting a taxi, but i feel uncomfortable too due to bad experiences in the past.
Travel in pairs "
Not always possible |
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"Overreacting... its mind-boggling that women can run the household, childcare, work and everything in-between but can't get a taxi.
Mrs
Not mind boggling at all. She didn't say can't get a taxi, chooses not too because she feels uncomfortable. It doesn't stop me getting a taxi, but i feel uncomfortable too due to bad experiences in the past.
Travel in pairs
Not always possible"
Plan ahead |
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