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By (user no longer on site) OP 33 weeks ago
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Iv got a mate who’s not a close friend but we have been part of the same friends circle for 15 years, they have an older sister who keeps sticking it on me and I have a party with her on the weekend and I’m pretty sure she is going to try again. She’s just up for a bit of fun as am I but unsure whether to do it or not for obvious reasons…. What are your thoughts? |
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"Iv got a mate who’s not a close friend but we have been part of the same friends circle for 15 years, they have an older sister who keeps sticking it on me and I have a party with her on the weekend and I’m pretty sure she is going to try again. She’s just up for a bit of fun as am I but unsure whether to do it or not for obvious reasons…. What are your thoughts? "
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Are you both grown ups able to make your own decisions?
If both parties are willing then why not personally I'd try to do it differently as in not d*unk at a party.
And maybe not use the term sticking it to her. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 33 weeks ago
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"If the friendship with your mate is important to you then speak to him before you steam in on his sister
S xx"
How would you even approach that haha “by the way mate, your sister keeps trying it, do I have your permission to smash”
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"Iv got a mate who’s not a close friend but we have been part of the same friends circle for 15 years, they have an older sister who keeps sticking it on me and I have a party with her on the weekend and I’m pretty sure she is going to try again. She’s just up for a bit of fun as am I but unsure whether to do it or not for obvious reasons…. What are your thoughts? smash"
How romantic what woman could resist |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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It wouldn't be reasonable for him to object, all things equal. But that doesn't mean him and/or his/your mates think that.
Ultimately only you and your mates know the answer. Maybe ask someone you're close with in the group. |
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By *unchalMan 33 weeks ago
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"Iv got a mate who’s not a close friend but we have been part of the same friends circle for 15 years, they have an older sister who keeps sticking it on me and I have a party with her on the weekend and I’m pretty sure she is going to try again. She’s just up for a bit of fun as am I but unsure whether to do it or not for obvious reasons…. What are your thoughts? "
Don’t do it unless it’s love. He will struggle and you will lose whatever relationship you have. It’s all weird man stuff. It’s none of his business, but you could tell him that you fancy his sister and want to make a try! It’s all bro stuff but is not to be ignored. Good luck because I imagine you have already decided what you are going to do. Have fun.  |
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I guess OP is concerned about the effects on his friendships.
I can't talk for you but personally I regret not getting intimate with a lot of ladies who came on to me earlier in life. I was struggling with being fed religious crap and staying away from women who wanted me. I now tend to get intimate with the ones I am interested in.
So if you like her, even if it's just for some fun. I'd say go for it. If they are friends they'll understand. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Are you both grown ups able to make your own decisions?
If both parties are willing then why not personally I'd try to do it differently as in not d*unk at a party.
And maybe not use the term sticking it to her."
Or man fat up her fart pipe.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 33 weeks ago
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"I guess OP is concerned about the effects on his friendships.
I can't talk for you but personally I regret not getting intimate with a lot of ladies who came on to me earlier in life. I was struggling with being fed religious crap and staying away from women who wanted me. I now tend to get intimate with the ones I am interested in.
So if you like her, even if it's just for some fun. I'd say go for it. If they are friends they'll understand."
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"Iv got a mate who’s not a close friend but we have been part of the same friends circle for 15 years, they have an older sister who keeps sticking it on me and I have a party with her on the weekend and I’m pretty sure she is going to try again. She’s just up for a bit of fun as am I but unsure whether to do it or not for obvious reasons…. What are your thoughts? "
My thoughts are you're a grown arsed man make your own mind up, only you know if its the right thing to be doing or not......
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By *929Man 33 weeks ago
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Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner. |
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"Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner. "
Why wouldn't he want you for Christmas dinner? |
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"Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner.
Why wouldn't he want you for Christmas dinner?"
Maybe he's veggie and wouldn't want all the meat  |
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By *929Man 33 weeks ago
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"Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner.
Why wouldn't he want you for Christmas dinner?"
Haha I don’t know to be honest probably because I have the knack of winding him up in less than a minute to the point he throws things at me in a violent rage |
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"Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner.
Why wouldn't he want you for Christmas dinner?
Haha I don’t know to be honest probably because I have the knack of winding him up in less than a minute to the point he throws things at me in a violent rage"
I see. If you're his best mate I'd hate to be his enemy  |
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"Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner.
Why wouldn't he want you for Christmas dinner?"
There's a "stuffing the Turkey" joke in there somewhere....... |
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By *929Man 33 weeks ago
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"Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner.
Why wouldn't he want you for Christmas dinner?
Haha I don’t know to be honest probably because I have the knack of winding him up in less than a minute to the point he throws things at me in a violent rage
I see. If you're his best mate I'd hate to be his enemy "
Haha probably also explains why he has about 3 friends (3 if he’s lucky) |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour |
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"Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour "
And that would be HIS problem, it’s none of his business. |
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"Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour "
Would it be advised for a woman to speak with the sister of a man she was intending to sleep with or date?
Siblings cannot control and dictate the lives of their peers. |
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"Similar situation a bout 6 weeks ago my best mates younger si stet messaged asking if we can go out some time she just got separated after 15 years married I told her ask her brother how he feels about it as I’d never do anything that could harm our lifelong friendship in the slightest he just said he didn’t give a fuck as long as I didn’t turn up T his for Christmas dinner. "
Fucking hell some mate that is. Telling you not to bother with Christmas Dinner. Jeeeez. |
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By *aizyWoman 33 weeks ago
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"Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour "
Other side of the coin tho, if I found out a man I was interested in was asking my brother if it was ok to see me I would lose interest in that man quickly, and definitely turn sour on him! |
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"Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour
Other side of the coin tho, if I found out a man I was interested in was asking my brother if it was ok to see me I would lose interest in that man quickly, and definitely turn sour on him!"
It does all seem a bit 1824 doesn't it. Referring to a woman in terms of her male relative, then worrying what said male relative will think. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour
Other side of the coin tho, if I found out a man I was interested in was asking my brother if it was ok to see me I would lose interest in that man quickly, and definitely turn sour on him!
It does all seem a bit 1824 doesn't it. Referring to a woman in terms of her male relative, then worrying what said male relative will think. "
No just some brothers are naturally protective of their sisters, might be bit uncomfortable knowing a friend is shagging their sister. But the OP knows his friend better than we do so he can weigh it up ?? |
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"Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour
Other side of the coin tho, if I found out a man I was interested in was asking my brother if it was ok to see me I would lose interest in that man quickly, and definitely turn sour on him!
It does all seem a bit 1824 doesn't it. Referring to a woman in terms of her male relative, then worrying what said male relative will think.
No just some brothers are naturally protective of their sisters, might be bit uncomfortable knowing a friend is shagging their sister. But the OP knows his friend better than we do so he can weigh it up ??"
I'd say that's a 'him ' problem. |
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"Some people do not like friends, close or not, having sex with their siblings. If I was in your position, I would just chat to the friend first. I mean of course you and his sister are adults and can do your own thing but if she got d*unk one day and let it slip to her brother it might make him sour
Would it be advised for a woman to speak with the sister of a man she was intending to sleep with or date?
Siblings cannot control and dictate the lives of their peers. "
Why generalise the question by removing important known facts...
You ask your question as if she is only known to you as this guys sister, when that is totally not how the question was originally put to us, in fact, you would only know the guy, because of the sister.
It's not about talking to siblings before fooling about, it's about friendship, if the sister was a long-term friend of yours, and you think that fooling around with their sibling might have an impact on your friendship?
Then yes, I 100% think it's advisable...
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Depends how hot she is
This is the answer
We know Phil, we know. 
Well I know YOU know 
I know YOU know I know, you know?
I'm not sure anymore to be honest  "
FFS Phil |
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"My brother married his best friend's sister."
My sister married my best mate... Then divorced him 2 years later, who would have thought the wing man I used to go of the pull with would cheat on her.... OH YEAH ME, TOLD YA SIS BUT YOU DIDNT LISTEN |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"My brother married his best friend's sister.
My sister married my best mate... Then divorced him 2 years later, who would have thought the wing man I used to go of the pull with would cheat on her.... OH YEAH ME, TOLD YA SIS BUT YOU DIDNT LISTEN"
See that is the risk in my eyes, if it goes wrong you then may be awkwardly stuck inbetween a sibling and a good friend |
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Had the same a few years back, my mate's sister made it blatantly obvious she was keen. I didn't question it one bit. We got together several times for about 12months.. it was nothing serious we both just wanted a shag now and then. His younger, married sister also made it clear SHE was interested too, even offered me a key to her house so I could let myself in whenever I wanted... but I did say no to that one.. honest. But, as i say, he was only a 'mate' & not a Friend.. I would say something to a good friend if the same situation came along. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Had the same a few years back, my mate's sister made it blatantly obvious she was keen. I didn't question it one bit. We got together several times for about 12months.. it was nothing serious we both just wanted a shag now and then. His younger, married sister also made it clear SHE was interested too, even offered me a key to her house so I could let myself in whenever I wanted... but I did say no to that one.. honest. But, as i say, he was only a 'mate' & not a Friend.. I would say something to a good friend if the same situation came along."
Just need the mum or an aunt to come on to you next |
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If he’s not thst close I’d still be careful about it .
Things like this have a way of creepibg out . When that happens there’s a chance really close friends would view you differently.
Somehow I’d try and make a sort of light hearted conversation with him .. and see what he tbinks |
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"Had the same a few years back, my mate's sister made it blatantly obvious she was keen. I didn't question it one bit. We got together several times for about 12months.. it was nothing serious we both just wanted a shag now and then. His younger, married sister also made it clear SHE was interested too, even offered me a key to her house so I could let myself in whenever I wanted... but I did say no to that one.. honest. But, as i say, he was only a 'mate' & not a Friend.. I would say something to a good friend if the same situation came along.
Just need the mum or an aunt to come on to you next "
The mother! Christ almighty if only you'd seen her! Had more hair on her chin than Gandalf! Never saw an aunt, but I did marry his ex 15 year later.. think he got me back there, the b@stard. |
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I already know the answer to this because it's obvious from the responses here.
But... I'm still a bit  that *some* men still, even in 2024 refer to women not as individuals in their own right but in terms of their relationship to another man. Even going so far as considering this man's feelings about a possible relationship with her before hers.
I know a lot of the answers here are tongue in cheek but I really thought the days when I was referred to a Mrs Husbands initial, Husband's surname were over.
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"I already know the answer to this because it's obvious from the responses here.
But... I'm still a bit that *some* men still, even in 2024 refer to women not as individuals in their own right but in terms of their relationship to another man. Even going so far as considering this man's feelings about a possible relationship with her before hers.
I know a lot of the answers here are tongue in cheek but I really thought the days when I was referred to a Mrs Husbands initial, Husband's surname were over.
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Fab forums, set your watch back 70 years......
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"I already know the answer to this because it's obvious from the responses here.
But... I'm still a bit that *some* men still, even in 2024 refer to women not as individuals in their own right but in terms of their relationship to another man. Even going so far as considering this man's feelings about a possible relationship with her before hers.
I know a lot of the answers here are tongue in cheek but I really thought the days when I was referred to a Mrs Husbands initial, Husband's surname were over.
Fab forums, set your watch back 70 years......
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"Had the same a few years back, my mate's sister made it blatantly obvious she was keen. I didn't question it one bit. We got together several times for about 12months.. it was nothing serious we both just wanted a shag now and then. His younger, married sister also made it clear SHE was interested too, even offered me a key to her house so I could let myself in whenever I wanted... but I did say no to that one.. honest. But, as i say, he was only a 'mate' & not a Friend.. I would say something to a good friend if the same situation came along.
Just need the mum or an aunt to come on to you next
The mother! Christ almighty if only you'd seen her! Had more hair on her chin than Gandalf! Never saw an aunt, but I did marry his ex 15 year later.. think he got me back there, the b@stard. "
Yes, women get hair on their chins too. Presumably you were the catch of the century at that time? |
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"Iv got a mate who’s not a close friend but we have been part of the same friends circle for 15 years, they have an older sister who keeps sticking it on me and I have a party with her on the weekend and I’m pretty sure she is going to try again. She’s just up for a bit of fun as am I but unsure whether to do it or not for obvious reasons…. What are your thoughts? "
Fuck her and her brother! |
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"Had the same a few years back, my mate's sister made it blatantly obvious she was keen. I didn't question it one bit. We got together several times for about 12months.. it was nothing serious we both just wanted a shag now and then. His younger, married sister also made it clear SHE was interested too, even offered me a key to her house so I could let myself in whenever I wanted... but I did say no to that one.. honest. But, as i say, he was only a 'mate' & not a Friend.. I would say something to a good friend if the same situation came along.
Just need the mum or an aunt to come on to you next
The mother! Christ almighty if only you'd seen her! Had more hair on her chin than Gandalf! Never saw an aunt, but I did marry his ex 15 year later.. think he got me back there, the b@stard.
Yes, women get hair on their chins too. Presumably you were the catch of the century at that time? "
Thanks, I didn't do too bad back then to be honest. |
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"My brother married his best friend's sister.
My sister married my best mate... Then divorced him 2 years later, who would have thought the wing man I used to go of the pull with would cheat on her.... OH YEAH ME, TOLD YA SIS BUT YOU DIDNT LISTEN"
My brother and his wife are happily married, living in a beautiful home with a lovely family.
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"I already know the answer to this because it's obvious from the responses here.
But... I'm still a bit that *some* men still, even in 2024 refer to women not as individuals in their own right but in terms of their relationship to another man. Even going so far as considering this man's feelings about a possible relationship with her before hers.
I know a lot of the answers here are tongue in cheek but I really thought the days when I was referred to a Mrs Husbands initial, Husband's surname were over.
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Or maybe you are just looking for issues that aren't there, if the mate is a female mate and she has a sister then it's still a mates sister.... The fact that the preexisting relation is the friendship then that is why it's being referred to as a mates sister.
...you know positive discrimination is as bad as discrimination.
Stop looking for a reason to dress someone down in the name of feminism karen |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Iv got a mate who’s not a close friend but we have been part of the same friends circle for 15 years, they have an older sister who keeps sticking it on me and I have a party with her on the weekend and I’m pretty sure she is going to try again. She’s just up for a bit of fun as am I but unsure whether to do it or not for obvious reasons…. What are your thoughts?
Fuck her and her brother!"
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"Bring me along and I could road test her for you ,
Kind of me is it not
The woman in question is a person. Not a car. What's with all the horrible language and phraseology on this thread?? "
At a guess sarcasm. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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Can you see it going further? If so mention it to your pal if not then she needa the hard word
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"this happens once and once only and nobody hears a thing about it" |
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