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By *eliWoman 33 weeks ago
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It depends on how much talking, if I wasn't feeling it because of something bad or just... no longer enjoying it.
If the latter I'd try and gently handle it and explain why in a succinct fashion. |
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Generally a polite thabks but no thanks.
The exeptions have been when we've exchanged a few mesages and the conversation has veered off course
(Yeah it's a sex site but we don't need a list of the male halfs graphic fantasies  out of the blue) |
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By *oxy jWoman 33 weeks ago
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losing interest is not ghosting 
ghosting is when 2 people who know each other very well like relationship long term friendships go quite thats ghosting has nothing to do with people who dont know each other ...
me it depends why ive gone off whom om chatting to if its rude abusive or red flags ill just instantly block if its because they have bored the hell out of me ill tell them and im honest and blunt as to why so to save any further confusion they are then added to the block list .... im not here to social media im here to seek swinging meets real meet none of the online friendship rubbish so that leaves me to block as many as i wish to make thing easier ...  |
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If anything awful or upseting is said and a red flag os raised, is understandable to block. Otherwise just say, sorry not for me but people are entitled to handle there inbox the way they like. Personally don't understand why someone does not or even pretend not to read a message after a nice conversation but as I said, each to their own. |
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"If anything awful or upseting is said and a red flag os raised, is understandable to block. Otherwise just say, sorry not for me but people are entitled to handle there inbox the way they like. Personally don't understand why someone does not or even pretend not to read a message after a nice conversation but as I said, each to their own. "
Another reaso for me is if the conversation os really hard word, monosyllabic answers and avoiding perfectly normal questions or making ambiguous replies. Who has time for that sort of games. It's rude and unecessary so straight in the bin.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"As the title suggests. If you'd been chatting/ exchanging for a while and you were no longer feeling it, would you be polite and give reason or would you just ghost (delete, block) "
Most ghost delete block. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"If anything awful or upseting is said and a red flag os raised, is understandable to block. Otherwise just say, sorry not for me but people are entitled to handle there inbox the way they like. Personally don't understand why someone does not or even pretend not to read a message after a nice conversation but as I said, each to their own.
Another reaso for me is if the conversation os really hard word, monosyllabic answers and avoiding perfectly normal questions or making ambiguous replies. Who has time for that sort of games. It's rude and unecessary so straight in the bin. "
Am with this op. |
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I think a lot of the problem is people get way too excited to quickly and then reality sets in and it’s like oh no , he’s just a regular guy/girl, there loads more than a few clicks away, just as good…..
Just calm the fuck down and go slowly |
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"I think a lot of the problem is people get way too excited to quickly and then reality sets in and it’s like oh no , he’s just a regular guy/girl, there loads more than a few clicks away, just as good…..
Just calm the fuck down and go slowly "
Absolutely right, like a new toy you soon get bored of |
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"As the title suggests. If you'd been chatting/ exchanging for a while and you were no longer feeling it, would you be polite and give reason or would you just ghost (delete, block) "
Reason always as I’d always hope they would do the same if reversed x |
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We were chatting to a couple when we first started on fab, seemed really nice, started a group chat on a different platform.
Then the guy started sending videos of himself wanking in various places in our home town (they weren’t from here) then asking her to guess where he was or what pub he was in.
Needless to say we ignored then blocked when we realised we could do that |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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I usually like to let people know where they stand and appreciate the same in return. That being said if someone ghosts mid conversation or is a repeat offender of leaving you on read, I can switch my mindset pretty fast. |
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By *irthandgirthMan 33 weeks ago
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I like to give back the same energy I get from conversations. If I feel I am always initiating, or getting monosyllabic replies, I stop messaging to see if they decide to start a conversation. If after a few days they don't, I just delete it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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I don’t really ghost. (Ghostion I assume to be where someone block/ignores trxtscetc) I just find done texts drift off.
But, my texts are always open to people I’ve got along with or think of as friends. It’s just that conversation right then and there came to an end. Hopefully a new one will begin.
I’m an adult, ghosting feels crap when it happens to you, I’ve had it done often now. |
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Depends what their "energy" is like, had a guy message me from the forum with the opening line of "my first one was 9in". It made my dick shrivel I'm not gonna lie so I gave one word answers then ghosted them |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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I try to reply to every message even with a polite decline. If they keep messaging after that I block.
If we've had a really good chat and I think not for me I try to politely decline.
Sometimes it just fizzles out. The energy is not keeping the conversation going. I don't block I just stop messaging and aftet a while the chat ... I don't block |
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