I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! "
It used to shock me too, but that is how things used to be. Good on you for enjoying time with your daughter I know I do too |
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over a year ago
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Why should folk be shocked about dads doing stuff with their kids its natural and i am not one whi believes mums are only ones that do good job with their children. |
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"him" I did lots with my two kids but lost them when I walked out on a mother who while I worked to provide she played and lied. After 20 years still no contact but who knows what's around the corner do what you can and enjoy your kids while they are young |
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I had a childhood where there was hardly any contact with my parents - long story.
I made the very conscious decision when my kids were young and right through to late teens, that I would spend time with then. It was brilliant.
I genuinely believe that we are got loads from it. We did everything from football matches, banger racing, going to gigs, swimming, cooking to me being pretty damn good on the Xbox.
Was I perfect Dad? No. But I know all those years have given them and me wonderful memories.
I really feel sad for people - whatever the reason - who miss out on time with their children. I know how it felt as a kid and I still miss what others had now. |
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My daughter is the most important thing in my life has allways been and will allways be cant wait to drive to plymouth to pick her up every friday evening worst part of my life is the drive back sunday evening to take her back to her mother |
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"My daughter is the most important thing in my life has allways been and will allways be cant wait to drive to plymouth to pick her up every friday evening worst part of my life is the drive back sunday evening to take her back to her mother"
can only imagine that Sunday feeling.. i am going through a divorce and my wife has agreed to 50 50 child care! Even that is not good enough for me!! |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! "
Good for you!! Too many men do nothing with their kids. |
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I've written many times about my ex-husband.
From the moment the children could sit up on their own he would put them in the car seat, pack a bag with nappies, bottles etc and be off with them. He would take them to the park, cook for them and bathe them. One of his saddest days when they didn't want him to bathe them any more.
He takes them shopping still, pays their bills, there are two brand new cars outside my house, courtesy of dad.
He can ask the girls for anything and they're there in a heartbeat. Bank holidays he likes to go to the coast, sit on the beach, go to the funfair and eat fish and chips. Last year our eldest got married so we didn't go.
This year we've agreed to our bank holiday trips as a family...oh, we've been apart 10 years and our girls are 21, 25 and 30 with partners but we still do things as a family.
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altho its good to do the extra stuff with your kids.. their everyday routine is equally important. feeding them, bathing, putting them to bed, taking them to activities, sorting out problems and upsets etc.. |
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"I've written many times about my ex-husband.
From the moment the children could sit up on their own he would put them in the car seat, pack a bag with nappies, bottles etc and be off with them. He would take them to the park, cook for them and bathe them. One of his saddest days when they didn't want him to bathe them any more.
He takes them shopping still, pays their bills, there are two brand new cars outside my house, courtesy of dad.
He can ask the girls for anything and they're there in a heartbeat. Bank holidays he likes to go to the coast, sit on the beach, go to the funfair and eat fish and chips. Last year our eldest got married so we didn't go.
This year we've agreed to our bank holiday trips as a family...oh, we've been apart 10 years and our girls are 21, 25 and 30 with partners but we still do things as a family.
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Its nice to read this. Sadly my ex just wanted to bad mouth me to my daughter and tried to put a wedge between us. It didn't work she is 28 now has her own family who I'm very close to. I think my ex spoiled it for himself as my daughter doesn't have as much time for him, but is all his own doing. |
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Im shocked, that they are shocked all the dads i know are hands on dadss, whether they have split up or not.
My ex husband used to do more or less the same things as i did with our son. Except it was aways me that took him swimming as he was scared of water |
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maybe they make up for it in other ways though. my hubby was at work most of the time when our boy was growing up.
he worked hard so he could look after us, and when he was at home he liked to have a rest. |
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"I've written many times about my ex-husband.
From the moment the children could sit up on their own he would put them in the car seat, pack a bag with nappies, bottles etc and be off with them. He would take them to the park, cook for them and bathe them. One of his saddest days when they didn't want him to bathe them any more.
He takes them shopping still, pays their bills, there are two brand new cars outside my house, courtesy of dad.
He can ask the girls for anything and they're there in a heartbeat. Bank holidays he likes to go to the coast, sit on the beach, go to the funfair and eat fish and chips. Last year our eldest got married so we didn't go.
This year we've agreed to our bank holiday trips as a family...oh, we've been apart 10 years and our girls are 21, 25 and 30 with partners but we still do things as a family.
Its nice to read this. Sadly my ex just wanted to bad mouth me to my daughter and tried to put a wedge between us. It didn't work she is 28 now has her own family who I'm very close to. I think my ex spoiled it for himself as my daughter doesn't have as much time for him, but is all his own doing. "
The first year I left he didn't cope well and did bad mouth me, but not even his family paid any notice as they knew the score.
His son from a previous relationship came for dinner a few weeks back. His mum died in January. My girls all visited her in the hospice with their partners and went to the funeral.
Testament to my ex that he was also there for his sons and managed to combine two families and his sons still visit and call me: they're 36 and 37. |
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Are we talking separated here?
I could go on, and on...
I love my two children more than words could ever say.
Going into real time:
They're here with me now and I've just finished a 10 hour night. Going to do their breakfast as soon as I sign off this. We wanna go sledging but don't think it's fit. Tried yesterday - wrong kinda snow and it's blowing a blizzard atm.
Games time I thinks, stir fry for dinner, them back to their 'home' (ha, ha) coz I need some sleep before tonight. Blar, blar, blar
Alton Towers swimming over Easter for the first with both of them. I can't wait! |
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"I've written many times about my ex-husband.
From the moment the children could sit up on their own he would put them in the car seat, pack a bag with nappies, bottles etc and be off with them. He would take them to the park, cook for them and bathe them. One of his saddest days when they didn't want him to bathe them any more.
He takes them shopping still, pays their bills, there are two brand new cars outside my house, courtesy of dad.
He can ask the girls for anything and they're there in a heartbeat. Bank holidays he likes to go to the coast, sit on the beach, go to the funfair and eat fish and chips. Last year our eldest got married so we didn't go.
This year we've agreed to our bank holiday trips as a family...oh, we've been apart 10 years and our girls are 21, 25 and 30 with partners but we still do things as a family.
Its nice to read this. Sadly my ex just wanted to bad mouth me to my daughter and tried to put a wedge between us. It didn't work she is 28 now has her own family who I'm very close to. I think my ex spoiled it for himself as my daughter doesn't have as much time for him, but is all his own doing. "
Sadly my ex bad mouthed me to my kids so much since we split 6 years ago and bribed them with money and gifts that they are now not talking to me as they are too scared to cross him and miss out on the cash. My daughter is 21 next week and i havent spoken to her for a year. He even told them that if they came to our wedding he would throw them out of the flat he was renting for them!! They went to live with him for a while but it didnt work and they were too proud to come back here, hence the flat.
People tell me they will come round in time, i do hope so |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! "
The question is what if when shes 18 and joins a site like this, how would you react?? |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! "
You must widen your circle of women to ones with decent fathers of their children.
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The question is what if when shes 18 and joins a site like this, how would you react??
What has that got to do with the time he spends with his 7yr old daughter???  "
its called freedom of speech. Just curious |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! "
I wouldn't say i ever get 'shocked' at hands on dads - if anything i'm jealous!
My son's not long turned 3 and he hasn't ever had a male figure in his life let alone an actual dad!
I'm not saying i want a guy to take the role of dad - he's never wanted to be a part of his life and good riddance i say! - but sometimes i do wish that he had someone else to do all those kinds of things with and even just someone to be able to turn to besides me when he needs it!
I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!!  |
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All credit to hands on Dads and those women who will give their ex partners credit for being good fathers.
Mr Looking has a son from a previous relationship and despite having him when he was 16 he has (we now have) him every weekend and he does all sorts with him and is a wonderful dad.
He is also very hands on with our 18 month old and does everything with them both at a weekend.
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids!
The question is what if when shes 18 and joins a site like this, how would you react??"
the truth, part of me hopes that she will never do half the things that i have, but if she does i know that she has has fun! |
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"altho its good to do the extra stuff with your kids.. their everyday routine is equally important. feeding them, bathing, putting them to bed, taking them to activities, sorting out problems and upsets etc.. "
i do all of this, always have done and always will! And as for the upsets, i pick her up, hold her close and tight and dance! She knows xx |
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"maybe they make up for it in other ways though. my hubby was at work most of the time when our boy was growing up.
he worked hard so he could look after us, and when he was at home he liked to have a rest. "
i dont understnad this mentality..
why can you not relax with your kids?
also kids arent 9-5, when does mum get time to rest? when dads at work mum does all the kid work.. when both are home they share the house and kids.. thats how i see it.
also as a single mother, and many more out there, i work full time, but i still have to come home and do housework, school work, dinner, sorting the pets, laundry etc..
and then find time for the park, swimming, cinema etc..
its not exactly differcult and its what having kids is about, them not you. one day my son will be a grown up and im not missing out on these precious years no matter how hard i work :/ |
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I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!! "
what a sad thing to say - you makes it sound like all the love, affection, companionship will eventually disappear and his daughter will turn into a greedy selfish woman.
To the o/p - cherish every moment...the bond you are developing with your daughter and the memories you are making will stay with you both forever. Yes she will probably tap you for cash many many times and will consider you to be her personal taxi service but that's not all you will mean to her, that's just a tiny part of being a teenager, love does not vanish. I have loved my dad every day of my life and will do so until the end of mine, sadly he passed away 18 years ago, but there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about him and I doubt there ever will be. |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! "
You sound lovely and a great dad  |
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I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!!
what a sad thing to say - you makes it sound like all the love, affection, companionship will eventually disappear and his daughter will turn into a greedy selfish woman.
To the o/p - cherish every moment...the bond you are developing with your daughter and the memories you are making will stay with you both forever. Yes she will probably tap you for cash many many times and will consider you to be her personal taxi service but that's not all you will mean to her, that's just a tiny part of being a teenager, love does not vanish. I have loved my dad every day of my life and will do so until the end of mine, sadly he passed away 18 years ago, but there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about him and I doubt there ever will be."
What?? - its called humor!! |
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I was an army dad. Away long periods on duties around the world. So when I was home I spent as much time with the kids as I possibly could. I am divorced now but they come to see me more than they see their mum so I must have done something right.
Bythe way my grandson has packed his bags a few times and announced he was leaving home to live with grand dad heheheheheheheheh He's only 7 love him
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids!
I wouldn't say i ever get 'shocked' at hands on dads - if anything i'm jealous!
My son's not long turned 3 and he hasn't ever had a male figure in his life let alone an actual dad!
I'm not saying i want a guy to take the role of dad - he's never wanted to be a part of his life and good riddance i say! - but sometimes i do wish that he had someone else to do all those kinds of things with and even just someone to be able to turn to besides me when he needs it!
I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!! "
You sound bitter and you last sentence confirms it. |
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I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!!
what a sad thing to say - you makes it sound like all the love, affection, companionship will eventually disappear and his daughter will turn into a greedy selfish woman.
To the o/p - cherish every moment...the bond you are developing with your daughter and the memories you are making will stay with you both forever. Yes she will probably tap you for cash many many times and will consider you to be her personal taxi service but that's not all you will mean to her, that's just a tiny part of being a teenager, love does not vanish. I have loved my dad every day of my life and will do so until the end of mine, sadly he passed away 18 years ago, but there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about him and I doubt there ever will be."
Agree with you. 
Touching, the comments about your dad. |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids!
I wouldn't say i ever get 'shocked' at hands on dads - if anything i'm jealous!
My son's not long turned 3 and he hasn't ever had a male figure in his life let alone an actual dad!
I'm not saying i want a guy to take the role of dad - he's never wanted to be a part of his life and good riddance i say! - but sometimes i do wish that he had someone else to do all those kinds of things with and even just someone to be able to turn to besides me when he needs it!
I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!!
You sound bitter and you last sentence confirms it. "
Really?? It wasn't mean to!
I was merely trying to say i sometimes wish my son had someone else (a male figure) he could look up to and have fun with who wasn't his mother - i'm jealous in a good way in the sense that there are good guys out there!
And i did mean the last bit sincerely - except the humor part! |
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I dont mean this in a bad way, but noone thinks twice about a single mother doing all this stuff with their kids, the op is to be commended but it is no different from a mother doing it.
Two people make a child.
There are excellent fathers and mothers and there are shit mothers and fathers as well, either together or seperated |
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"I dont mean this in a bad way, but noone thinks twice about a single mother doing all this stuff with their kids, the op is to be commended but it is no different from a mother doing it.
Two people make a child.
There are excellent fathers and mothers and there are shit mothers and fathers as well, either together or seperated"
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I haven't spoken to my parents in years, can only assume that they are still alive and have taken huge steps to make sure they can't easily track me down.
I'm sure that at times I must have had fun but I don't remember as the negative side is all I recall. This is not meant to be a woe is me post, if anything totally the opposite. But I felt the need to share that before saying what a lovely and moving thread this is and it has been a delight to read many of these posts. |
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My dad was brilliant. Such an amazing man who was supportive. When he was dying I remember saying to the Macmillan nurse that I'd rather have had 25 years with the most amazing dad in the world than a lifetime with one that didn't care about me.
Mum's new partner is becoming like a father figure to me, he rang me this morning knowing I'd had a horrendous day at work yesterday to see how I'd slept and to see if I wanted him and Mum to take Blake out.
I do wonder if my high standards of what I want in a partner are down to the fact that my dad was incredible?
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When my son split with his last girlfriend he was a bit down and then he said to me. Anyway why do i need a woman i will always have you.
I was planning on palming him off on some poor unsuspecting girl  |
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"When my son split with his last girlfriend he was a bit down and then he said to me. Anyway why do i need a woman i will always have you.
I was planning on palming him off on some poor unsuspecting girl "
its nice to feel wanted though. |
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I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!!
what a sad thing to say - you makes it sound like all the love, affection, companionship will eventually disappear and his daughter will turn into a greedy selfish woman.
To the o/p - cherish every moment...the bond you are developing with your daughter and the memories you are making will stay with you both forever. Yes she will probably tap you for cash many many times and will consider you to be her personal taxi service but that's not all you will mean to her, that's just a tiny part of being a teenager, love does not vanish. I have loved my dad every day of my life and will do so until the end of mine, sadly he passed away 18 years ago, but there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about him and I doubt there ever will be.
What?? - its called humor!! "
It didn't come across as humourous, like I said I thought it quite sad  |
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I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!!
what a sad thing to say - you makes it sound like all the love, affection, companionship will eventually disappear and his daughter will turn into a greedy selfish woman.
To the o/p - cherish every moment...the bond you are developing with your daughter and the memories you are making will stay with you both forever. Yes she will probably tap you for cash many many times and will consider you to be her personal taxi service but that's not all you will mean to her, that's just a tiny part of being a teenager, love does not vanish. I have loved my dad every day of my life and will do so until the end of mine, sadly he passed away 18 years ago, but there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about him and I doubt there ever will be.
What?? - its called humor!!
It didn't come across as humourous, like I said I thought it quite sad "
And like i put in the other post - it wasn't meant to!
I've said a few times now i didn't mean it like that
Apologies if anyone was offended etc! I was simply stating my situation and trying to say he's doing a good thing having that relationship with her!
I'll keep my mouth shut from now on! |
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"I dont mean this in a bad way, but noone thinks twice about a single mother doing all this stuff with their kids, the op is to be commended but it is no different from a mother doing it.
Two people make a child.
There are excellent fathers and mothers and there are shit mothers and fathers as well, either together or seperated"
How right you are diamond. I'm not a parent myself but I believe being a parent is one of the most demanding things there is in life....all anyone can do is the best they can and then hopefully it will be one of the most rewarding too. |
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I think it's great you have that kind of relationship with your little girl - Enjoy and make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service!!
what a sad thing to say - you makes it sound like all the love, affection, companionship will eventually disappear and his daughter will turn into a greedy selfish woman.
To the o/p - cherish every moment...the bond you are developing with your daughter and the memories you are making will stay with you both forever. Yes she will probably tap you for cash many many times and will consider you to be her personal taxi service but that's not all you will mean to her, that's just a tiny part of being a teenager, love does not vanish. I have loved my dad every day of my life and will do so until the end of mine, sadly he passed away 18 years ago, but there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about him and I doubt there ever will be.
What?? - its called humor!!
It didn't come across as humourous, like I said I thought it quite sad
And like i put in the other post - it wasn't meant to!
I've said a few times now i didn't mean it like that
Apologies if anyone was offended etc! I was simply stating my situation and trying to say he's doing a good thing having that relationship with her!
I'll keep my mouth shut from now on!"
Make the most of it before she only wants you for your wallet and as her personal taxi service.
i think you touched a nerve there.  |
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Sadly I think sometimes, mums make it difficult for the dad to have a relationship with their children. I've been split from my daughters dad for 10 years and never once have I stopped them having contact, he's not the most practical parent (in fact he's flippin rubbish at the practical stuff) but she always has fun when she's there.
Op I think it's great that you spend time with your daughter, enjoy it, they grow up very quickly. |
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids!
The question is what if when shes 18 and joins a site like this, how would you react??"
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"I have a 7 year old daughter who is the beat in my heart. i don't claim for one minute to be some sort of superdad. i have spoke with many people recently, mainly ladies!, who are shocked when i tell them that i do loads with her. such as swimming, baking cakes, parks, crafts, bike rides and loads more!! As a matter of fact we are always up to something!
I am shocked by the amount of people who tell me that their other halves do nothing with the kids! "
Dad of 2 here (6 and 1). Friday was cinema, yesterday was soft play and making banoffee pie, today a birthday party. Last time I had them it was a weeks holiday in a cottage, before that a weekend at Santa Pod drag racing. Right now its kids movies while I make soup out of the leftover roast. Why WOULDNT you want to do anything with your kids?? |
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"Sadly I think sometimes, mums make it difficult for the dad to have a relationship with their children. I've been split from my daughters dad for 10 years and never once have I stopped them having contact, he's not the most practical parent (in fact he's flippin rubbish at the practical stuff) but she always has fun when she's there.
Op I think it's great that you spend time with your daughter, enjoy it, they grow up very quickly."
My ex would say the same. Except she is very passive aggressive with it and makes life difficult sometimes (will not talk to me in any other format than email and limits me to two "contacts" wiyh her per week, not allowed the youngest for more than 3 nights until he is "older" (currently the age that is lifted is 18 months but it was 12 months and I expect it to go up again), making life as awkward as she can). But lets not let this turn into a debate, I treasure the time I DO get with them. |
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over a year ago
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I only have my 9yo daughter every other monday evening and every other weekend, my ex's doing not mine, id have her a lot more if i had my way and ive had to fight to get the the i do have.
In the time we are together i try to cram as much as we can do in that time. such as going places were she wants to go, we do things like baking and such, at the moment my daughters taken an interest in airfix models so ive bought a few of them and we're doing them together. she not the most girly of girls which makes it easy for me as a man.
Like i said i would have her a lot more, but my ex is extremely passive agressive and the more i ask the more she makes life awkward, but i will say she is a lot more lenient than she used to be |
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I've got a 7 year old daughter, I loved spending time with her, we baked we played games together, bike rides everything, but unfortunately her mum hated how much fun we had together, so so much she made daughter feel bad about it, as a result I've not seen my princess since November, hopefully one day this will change |
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I've got 5 kids aged between 21 & 11 who are my world being apart form them all is hard work but I chose to leave and it's the hardest thing when you part company with a partner and I can't understand why some dads don't want anything to do with there kids I do as much as I can with my youngest two but the other 3 say its uncool to hang out with dad but its ok to hang out of his wallet  |
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Got to add, my Dad is amazing..... he and Mum haven't gotten on for a loooong time, but never has it stopped him being our Dad. This year alone..... bearing in mind I'm 36! He paid for my flight to new Zealand to visit my sister and is letting me pay him back as and when I can.......on my crappy salary.... its been a gift I can't repay.... he just wanted his girls to have some time together after only 2 years apart. ( I didn't really miss her that much! ) |
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It's lovely to hear of so many dads that are damn good dads and want to do things with their children.
My ex walked 5 years ago and has become the most selfish man I've known towards my beautiful daughter who is now 12. He put his new woman over and above my daughter every time. He see's her one night a fortnight if he doesn't cancel and even when she does stay he makes her sleep on the sofa as she doesn't have a room and he can't be bothered to pull out the sofa bed in the guest room. He refuses to help out with any child care despite living at the top of my street with his new wife who works at home whereas I work a full time stressful job with some late nights. Friday night last week he knew I had no childcare and was running late home and he simply waved at his daughter as she passed his house not knowing if I would be home on time or not!!! Then to top it all my daughter was in a dance show on Saturday. It's a big yearly event that the dance studio she goes to puts on its professionally done at the City Hall and is brilliant. She spent all her time in the matinee performance looking for her dad who had bought tickets!! Was he there proudly watching. NO he claims he turned up but could only stay 20 mins and had to leave so didn't see her dance. She was devastated!!
His loss though I saw my amazing daughter dance her heart out through the evening performance and I was so unbelievably proud
What saddens me the most is although I'm 41 I still need my dad who I adore who will drop anything to come and help me if i need him but my daughter will never have that  |
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"It's lovely to hear of so many dads that are damn good dads and want to do things with their children.
My ex walked 5 years ago and has become the most selfish man I've known towards my beautiful daughter who is now 12. He put his new woman over and above my daughter every time. He see's her one night a fortnight if he doesn't cancel and even when she does stay he makes her sleep on the sofa as she doesn't have a room and he can't be bothered to pull out the sofa bed in the guest room. He refuses to help out with any child care despite living at the top of my street with his new wife who works at home whereas I work a full time stressful job with some late nights. Friday night last week he knew I had no childcare and was running late home and he simply waved at his daughter as she passed his house not knowing if I would be home on time or not!!! Then to top it all my daughter was in a dance show on Saturday. It's a big yearly event that the dance studio she goes to puts on its professionally done at the City Hall and is brilliant. She spent all her time in the matinee performance looking for her dad who had bought tickets!! Was he there proudly watching. NO he claims he turned up but could only stay 20 mins and had to leave so didn't see her dance. She was devastated!!
His loss though I saw my amazing daughter dance her heart out through the evening performance and I was so unbelievably proud
What saddens me the most is although I'm 41 I still need my dad who I adore who will drop anything to come and help me if i need him but my daughter will never have that "
that is so sad! I think that some people think this life is a dress rehearsal and that they will get another crack at it! But they won't and hopefully he will spend many years regretting is actions |
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"It's lovely to hear of so many dads that are damn good dads and want to do things with their children.
My ex walked 5 years ago and has become the most selfish man I've known towards my beautiful daughter who is now 12. He put his new woman over and above my daughter every time. He see's her one night a fortnight if he doesn't cancel and even when she does stay he makes her sleep on the sofa as she doesn't have a room and he can't be bothered to pull out the sofa bed in the guest room. He refuses to help out with any child care despite living at the top of my street with his new wife who works at home whereas I work a full time stressful job with some late nights. Friday night last week he knew I had no childcare and was running late home and he simply waved at his daughter as she passed his house not knowing if I would be home on time or not!!! Then to top it all my daughter was in a dance show on Saturday. It's a big yearly event that the dance studio she goes to puts on its professionally done at the City Hall and is brilliant. She spent all her time in the matinee performance looking for her dad who had bought tickets!! Was he there proudly watching. NO he claims he turned up but could only stay 20 mins and had to leave so didn't see her dance. She was devastated!!
His loss though I saw my amazing daughter dance her heart out through the evening performance and I was so unbelievably proud
What saddens me the most is although I'm 41 I still need my dad who I adore who will drop anything to come and help me if i need him but my daughter will never have that
that is so sad! I think that some people think this life is a dress rehearsal and that they will get another crack at it! But they won't and hopefully he will spend many years regretting is actions "
I'd never put anything before my kids work gets in the way at times but life's short and they soon grow up and flee the nest and while there young it's the best times you'll ever have with them |
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"It's lovely to hear of so many dads that are damn good dads and want to do things with their children.
My ex walked 5 years ago and has become the most selfish man I've known towards my beautiful daughter who is now 12. He put his new woman over and above my daughter every time. He see's her one night a fortnight if he doesn't cancel and even when she does stay he makes her sleep on the sofa as she doesn't have a room and he can't be bothered to pull out the sofa bed in the guest room. He refuses to help out with any child care despite living at the top of my street with his new wife who works at home whereas I work a full time stressful job with some late nights. Friday night last week he knew I had no childcare and was running late home and he simply waved at his daughter as she passed his house not knowing if I would be home on time or not!!! Then to top it all my daughter was in a dance show on Saturday. It's a big yearly event that the dance studio she goes to puts on its professionally done at the City Hall and is brilliant. She spent all her time in the matinee performance looking for her dad who had bought tickets!! Was he there proudly watching. NO he claims he turned up but could only stay 20 mins and had to leave so didn't see her dance. She was devastated!!
His loss though I saw my amazing daughter dance her heart out through the evening performance and I was so unbelievably proud
What saddens me the most is although I'm 41 I still need my dad who I adore who will drop anything to come and help me if i need him but my daughter will never have that "
Your daughter will have her Grandad. She will hopefully learn the difference between her Dad and her Grandad- that one is a total loser and the other is a deccent person. |
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Your daughter will have her Grandad. She will hopefully learn the difference between her Dad and her Grandad- that one is a total loser and the other is a deccent person. "
Luckily she does and she totally adores her grandad who adores her back. He sits through every dance show, school play and gymnastics show despite it not being his thing but with a big smile and a heart full of pride. I'm so lucky to have him as a dad |
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Your daughter will have her Grandad. She will hopefully learn the difference between her Dad and her Grandad- that one is a total loser and the other is a deccent person.
Luckily she does and she totally adores her grandad who adores her back. He sits through every dance show, school play and gymnastics show despite it not being his thing but with a big smile and a heart full of pride. I'm so lucky to have him as a dad "
He sounds amazing. You're both very lucky to have him. |
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