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Would you start a family with an ex pornstar?
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If I wanted to start a family* I'd start one with a current pornstar,** or an ex pornstar. Their job doesn't matter for me.
* I don't want to start a family.
** I dated a porn star last year. It didn't make any difference to our relationship. |
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By *rispyDuckMan 38 weeks ago
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Simple answer: No
Some might say “that’s being judgemental how different is it from meeting people on here?”
Swingers we are more discreet the whole world doesn’t know our intimate business, any Ex pornstar worse if their famous, everyone knows their business lol  the constant looks, side comments & judgements would get to me eventually. So will pass  |
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An ex pornstar... why is their past 'profession' of importance? Surely a relationship is based on trust, mutual respect, support and love. So it's all about what they 'offer' now and going forward. |
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By *r_reus OP Man 38 weeks ago
Coventry |
"Would you buy a rental car?"
If it was still reliable and the price was right I probably would.
I'm not emotionally attached to cars though, so for the sake of this analogy it's not a good fit. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"An ex pornstar... why is their past 'profession' of importance? Surely a relationship is based on trust, mutual respect, support and love. So it's all about what they 'offer' now and going forward."
Absolutely this and as one young man in the world of tv has not one but TWO 'ex pornstars' as his parents, it makes not a jot of difference who your parents are as long as you are loved and know it.
He doesn't appear to be tainted by having them as his parents.
What an odd and judgemental question. |
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I don't think there is anything judgemental about the question at all. It's just a question that will divide opinion.
I've dated a former esc0rt before. It went to the back of my mind. For some people it would have been a deal breaker: I know this because she told me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Exactly what it says on the tin  "
Just finished reading :
Isaac Fitzgerald's “Dirtbag, Massachusetts”
It's a memoir, but by chance, there was a very interesting chapter (particularly the chapter close) there on Isaac working in the Porn Industry in SF. May I suggest having a read, it may change some perceptions and prejudices for the better. |
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"Would you buy a rental car?
If it was still reliable and the price was right I probably would.
I'm not emotionally attached to cars though, so for the sake of this analogy it's not a good fit."
Ex rental and fleet vehicles can often be a good buy.
They have high mileage but are often very well maintained with plenty of service records. |
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"Would you buy a rental car?
What do you mean by this? Please explain further.
J
The rental car in question has had plenty of riders, I assume "
I wouldn't want to assume meaning and get it wrong. I'd much rather he was explicit about his analogy.
J |
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"Would you buy a rental car?
What do you mean by this? Please explain further.
J
The rental car in question has had plenty of riders, I assume
I wouldn't want to assume meaning and get it wrong. I'd much rather he was explicit about his analogy.
J"
No analogy. It was a mere jibe at the pointlessness of fictional questions being asked.
Upon reflection I see how it could be misinterpreted.
Each to their own. Personally I'm far too insecure to date an ex pornstar  |
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"Would you buy a rental car?
What do you mean by this? Please explain further.
J
The rental car in question has had plenty of riders, I assume
I wouldn't want to assume meaning and get it wrong. I'd much rather he was explicit about his analogy.
J"
I think it's that thing where women have to be pure as the driven snow to be "marriage material", whereas men can be players of the n'th degree and it matters not. But it's okay to boink the women here for fun, cos it's just a bit of fun, right? But that's just what I think. |
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By *m3232Man 38 weeks ago
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Why would it make any difference with there history as it’s history.
It wouldn’t make any difference to me what there pre work was.
Obviously you wouldn’t start one if currently actively working in that industry due to the risk with non protection and trying but no one would do that anyway.
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If I loved the person yes, they are just normal humans who chose a career that's not really mainstream.
Let's be honest in these current days of only flans and similar so many people are involved in the sex industry falling in love with someone who's worked in this career isn't a deal breaker.
Besides from a sexual health point of view most porn actors take it very seriously and test regularly.
interesting filling out a mortgage application when it comes to job. |
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interesting filling out a mortgage application when it comes to job."
"Film actor"
It's fairly straightforward. I don't imagine Jean Claude van Daam puts "action film actor" nor Jim Carey put "comedy actor". I reckon they just put "actor". |
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interesting filling out a mortgage application when it comes to job.
"Film actor"
It's fairly straightforward. I don't imagine Jean Claude van Daam puts "action film actor" nor Jim Carey put "comedy actor". I reckon they just put "actor". "
Until they say
"Oh really wow, have I seen any of your films?"
" ermmmmmmm maybe" |
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interesting filling out a mortgage application when it comes to job.
"Film actor"
It's fairly straightforward. I don't imagine Jean Claude van Daam puts "action film actor" nor Jim Carey put "comedy actor". I reckon they just put "actor".
Until they say
"Oh really wow, have I seen any of your films?"
" ermmmmmmm maybe" "
You could say it's niche arty stuff you might find online and leave it at that! |
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interesting filling out a mortgage application when it comes to job.
"Film actor"
It's fairly straightforward. I don't imagine Jean Claude van Daam puts "action film actor" nor Jim Carey put "comedy actor". I reckon they just put "actor".
Until they say
"Oh really wow, have I seen any of your films?"
" ermmmmmmm maybe"
You could say it's niche arty stuff you might find online and leave it at that!"
But then they say
" you do look familiar I'm sure I've.....   " |
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interesting filling out a mortgage application when it comes to job.
"Film actor"
It's fairly straightforward. I don't imagine Jean Claude van Daam puts "action film actor" nor Jim Carey put "comedy actor". I reckon they just put "actor".
Until they say
"Oh really wow, have I seen any of your films?"
" ermmmmmmm maybe"
You could say it's niche arty stuff you might find online and leave it at that!
But then they say
" you do look familiar I'm sure I've..... ""
Response: "I'd like a fixed rate and I've got a 10% deposit. Let's keep on task and you get some commission." |
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"Would you buy a rental car?"
I have done previously, it was really cheap for it's age and serviced every three months. It doesn't really matter how many my people have previously had a go in it.
Cal |
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By *rispyDuckMan 38 weeks ago
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Just asked my work mates 6 blokes, 3 girls!
Some said would hook up and shag an ex pornstar, but all said couldn’t marry and start a family with one
I think maybe as swingers: someone’s sexual past might not bother us as much. But in vanilla world it’s totally different |
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I wouldn't be in a relationship with an ex porn star to begin with (although the term for a start is very loose so much would depend on that). If I was because my circumstances allowed then sure, why wouldn't I if the relationship was there already? |
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By *oxesMan 38 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"Exactly what it says on the tin "
Im pretty sure this is a Tyger Drew Hunny (Jake Brockman from outnumbered) documentary. In a number of his documentaries he interveiws his parents Champagne and Ben Dover (Their porn names). |
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By *r X46Man 38 weeks ago
Liverpool |
Imaging going to parents evening and introducing your wife as Dolly Buster to little Johnny's maths teacher.
I'm sure Dolly has a different name but little Johnny will definitely know what her professional name is when the other kids find out. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Exactly what it says on the tin
Im pretty sure this is a Tyger Drew Hunny (Jake Brockman from outnumbered) documentary. In a number of his documentaries he interveiws his parents Champagne and Ben Dover (Their porn names). "
His mum is Lyndsey Drew, one of the top British porn stars in her day and Ben Dover (obviously not his real name) is his dad! |
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"Just asked my work mates 6 blokes, 3 girls!
Some said would hook up and shag an ex pornstar, but all said couldn’t marry and start a family with one
I think maybe as swingers: someone’s sexual past might not bother us as much. But in vanilla world it’s totally different "
Did they say why? |
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"Just asked my work mates 6 blokes, 3 girls!
Some said would hook up and shag an ex pornstar, but all said couldn’t marry and start a family with one
I think maybe as swingers: someone’s sexual past might not bother us as much. But in vanilla world it’s totally different
Did they say why?"
Could be job related. I work in education. If pupils present or even past recognised my pornstar partner (and you do bump into them out and about) then that'd open a whole can of worms and make my position untenable  |
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"If I loved the person yes, they are just normal humans who chose a career that's not really mainstream.
Let's be honest in these current days of only flans and similar so many people are involved in the sex industry falling in love with someone who's worked in this career isn't a deal breaker.
Besides from a sexual health point of view most porn actors take it very seriously and test regularly.
interesting filling out a mortgage application when it comes to job."
Most of just use social media influencer / videographer or have a vanilla faux business that is used for banks that is removed few steps away |
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I think so as at the end of the day they are people too and aren't we all flawed and cracked somehow.
I was a huge fan of Bree Olson back in the day and heard an interview with her about her time after leaving Charlie Sheen and how she just wanted a normal life. And after making several big mistakes myself I believe I(and therefore everyone else, ) deserve(s) to find happiness some time somewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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I once chatted to a guy on here who was a pornstar, I did check out his videos obviously.
But, of all the guys on here I've talked to he was actually one of the nicest. He didn't do the sex chat before meets and was just really funny . Oh and hot as fuck.
But my vagina is battered enough so no babies with anyone thanks.
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By *DW1983Man 38 weeks ago
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I wouldn't see it as a problem, whether she was an ex or current one. But I don't want kids, so that probably gets rid of one of the big worry factors that most people might have. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"An ex pornstar... why is their past 'profession' of importance? Surely a relationship is based on trust, mutual respect, support and love. So it's all about what they 'offer' now and going forward."
Well said |
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Having populated the world with three offspring, I think I'm done. If I was so inclined, why wouldn't you start a family with a porn star? Everyone is human and you've got to get through life some way or another |
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"Nope, can lead to hasle later on....."
This.
I'd be worried about how the kids could be impacted. It's all very well having a live and let live attitude as an adult. Try putting that into practice when you're a 14yr old boy being teased cause your mates have seen your Mum in a gang bang online. |
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"Nope, can lead to hasle later on.....
This.
I'd be worried about how the kids could be impacted. It's all very well having a live and let live attitude as an adult. Try putting that into practice when you're a 14yr old boy being teased cause your mates have seen your Mum in a gang bang online."
Hasn't stopped Ben Dovers son having a highly successful acting career, and his mum is Linzie Drew |
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Feels like so many people here missing the point with starting a family with and not just dating an ex porn star.
Kids today are ruthless and able to access anything on the Internet at a much younger age and anywhere at all. I'd thought about doing paid work before and the fact I'm a mum made me say no. The bullying your could be all the way through from year 6 onwards. With kids easily able to share content on their phones on the playground.
If its on the Internet it's there forever |
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"Nope, can lead to hasle later on.....
This.
I'd be worried about how the kids could be impacted. It's all very well having a live and let live attitude as an adult. Try putting that into practice when you're a 14yr old boy being teased cause your mates have seen your Mum in a gang bang online.
Hasn't stopped Ben Dovers son having a highly successful acting career, and his mum is Linzie Drew "
I think he's in the minority though, no? |
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"Feels like so many people here missing the point with starting a family with and not just dating an ex porn star.
Kids today are ruthless and able to access anything on the Internet at a much younger age and anywhere at all. I'd thought about doing paid work before and the fact I'm a mum made me say no. The bullying your could be all the way through from year 6 onwards. With kids easily able to share content on their phones on the playground.
If its on the Internet it's there forever "
There's so much out there, unless you were mega famous, it's highly doubtful you're local kids knocking out a wank, are going find Mrs Smith in a porno from 1992 |
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"Feels like so many people here missing the point with starting a family with and not just dating an ex porn star.
Kids today are ruthless and able to access anything on the Internet at a much younger age and anywhere at all. I'd thought about doing paid work before and the fact I'm a mum made me say no. The bullying your could be all the way through from year 6 onwards. With kids easily able to share content on their phones on the playground.
If its on the Internet it's there forever "
Fab is the internet... |
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"Feels like so many people here missing the point with starting a family with and not just dating an ex porn star.
Kids today are ruthless and able to access anything on the Internet at a much younger age and anywhere at all. I'd thought about doing paid work before and the fact I'm a mum made me say no. The bullying your could be all the way through from year 6 onwards. With kids easily able to share content on their phones on the playground.
If its on the Internet it's there forever
There's so much out there, unless you were mega famous, it's highly doubtful you're local kids knocking out a wank, are going find Mrs Smith in a porno from 1992 "
Possibly.
But I think it would be too much of a risk to chance fucking my kid up long term. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Would you recognise me if I was stood next to you in a asda?"
I think people show more than they think. Would I recognise you, no. I don't know you.
If you were someone I knew, probably.
Also depends which Asda. |
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"Would you recognise me if I was stood next to you in a asda?
I think people show more than they think. Would I recognise you, no. I don't know you.
If you were someone I knew, probably.
Also depends which Asda."
Your point was fab is the Internet.. exactly why I cover my face in my pics, and when people do receive the unfiltered pics they wouldn't put me as the person behind the sticker.
So yes fab is the Internet but someone who has done porn being your mother is totally different |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Would you recognise me if I was stood next to you in a asda?
I think people show more than they think. Would I recognise you, no. I don't know you.
If you were someone I knew, probably.
Also depends which Asda.
Your point was fab is the Internet.. exactly why I cover my face in my pics, and when people do receive the unfiltered pics they wouldn't put me as the person behind the sticker.
So yes fab is the Internet but someone who has done porn being your mother is totally different "
My point is people think what they post on fab is anonymous because they cover half their face. If someone that knows you sees it, chances are they will recognise you. I never show my whole face but I've had people that know me recognise me.
And yes fab is the internet, whatever you post is online forever. Somewhere. Like porn. And not as anonymous as you might think. |
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15 year old Billy will not be bullying my kid because he's seen what could be me on a website that requires alot more loops to get through to gain access to than porn.
15 year old Billy would be showing his entire class my kids mum getting nailed on pornhub without much hassle at all.
There's a massive difference |
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"Would I not end up repairing the washing machine all the time? Nah she'll call someone round for that. "
Fair point.
Same as if a man married his mistress he creates a vacancy.
In that case, fair enough, I don’t enjoy repairing washing machines |
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Id start a family with anyone I was in a loving committed relationship with if it was something we both wanted. If you’re in a relationship with that person im guessing you already know that they were involved in the adult film industry. Someones job or past job is immaterial to me. |
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