Question guys, girls, they, them etc I've always been there to listen to family and friend problems, I don't judge or comment just listen, if it seems they want or are seeking advice I will give it but always say it's only my opinion and not the answer. The only person with the answer is yourself. What I'm told, what is discussed is 100% between us. My question is why can I not find someone willing to give me the same safety and security when being open, I can tell a family member my inner most thoughts, open up and within hours it's openly discussed. I guess I'm asking for someone I can vent to, someone I can say how I'm feeling knowing that once I've said it it's not going to become common knowledge. Where/how do you find that trust guys? Sorry it's not a sexual question, I'd would really appreciate your open comments |
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I honestly don't know.
I'm lucky I have a partner who I know won't tell anybody else anything I tell him and vice versa.
Maybe try and identify one friend or family member who'll keep your confidence.
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By *lynJMan 26 weeks ago
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"Question guys, girls, they, them etc I've always been there to listen to family and friend problems, I don't judge or comment just listen, if it seems they want or are seeking advice I will give it but always say it's only my opinion and not the answer. The only person with the answer is yourself. What I'm told, what is discussed is 100% between us. My question is why can I not find someone willing to give me the same safety and security when being open, I can tell a family member my inner most thoughts, open up and within hours it's openly discussed. I guess I'm asking for someone I can vent to, someone I can say how I'm feeling knowing that once I've said it it's not going to become common knowledge. Where/how do you find that trust guys? Sorry it's not a sexual question, I'd would really appreciate your open comments "
You could try someone who isn't allowed to talk about what you have told them such as a therapist or - depending on your views - a priest of some type. |
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"Get yourself a dog. They listen intently, don’t talk behind your back and usually help you find the right answer eventually."
Can you imagine the looks a dog would give back 
But seriously it sounds like you're there for you family but they are not so much there for you ?
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"Get yourself a dog. They listen intently, don’t talk behind your back and usually help you find the right answer eventually."
No. But also yes. 
Op. I tell a very close mate some things. And I e no problems trusting him. (I assume he may have filtered and shared minor details with his wife)
Would I tell my family? Hell no. I tell mine to not tell ne stuff when they start ‘I shouldn’t tell you this, but!” .. a good friend is hard to find. |
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By *red333Man 26 weeks ago
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"Question guys, girls, they, them etc I've always been there to listen to family and friend problems, I don't judge or comment just listen, if it seems they want or are seeking advice I will give it but always say it's only my opinion and not the answer. The only person with the answer is yourself. What I'm told, what is discussed is 100% between us. My question is why can I not find someone willing to give me the same safety and security when being open, I can tell a family member my inner most thoughts, open up and within hours it's openly discussed. I guess I'm asking for someone I can vent to, someone I can say how I'm feeling knowing that once I've said it it's not going to become common knowledge. Where/how do you find that trust guys? Sorry it's not a sexual question, I'd would really appreciate your open comments "
Its a relief its not a sexual question so don't apologise and trust between two people has to be earnt obviously you can tell a stranger and not care about it, so you could tell us |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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I dont share much not the deeper stuff because people don't really give a shit.
I find them ultimately unreliable and only interested in what I can do for them. People rarely listen anyway only looking to respond. Active listening skills are a rare thing indeed. |
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