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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I used to be stubborn and resentful but now I've learnt to let things go, especially the little things. I pick my battles these days, it makes for a peaceful life. |
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When it comes to paying taxes - NO. It’s mine and I’m not letting go.
Anything else doesn’t bother me, as I’m too focused on planning my life around illicit and offshore investments.
Even the hard to stomach hate comments on this forum I receive daily, slide off my shit proof suit and vanish into the swamp instantly. |
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Too much so that I get frustrated with myself. I had a car accident last weekend. The chap admitted liability and offered to pay for the damage. I said not to worry bc my car is old anyway.
Now I'm kicking myself a bit bc I looked, and actually with the price of second hand cars atm it is worth something - maybe not now with huge dents down one side  Oh well, c'est la vie and all that.
So yes, I am very quick to when often it's not in my best interests to! |
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Yeah, else I start spiralling about something I thought was important at the time, but turned out to be stoopid. This doesn't work out so good for people though, as I can be extremely flighty and will cut and run, once their intentions are detrimental to myself, there's only a few I'd actually try to work things out with, hence lots of acquaintances  |
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"Depends on how important they are.
I'm very water under the bridge for the small things."
I am of the opinion its happened and move on
I wasn't like that when younger
Maybe i used up all that rage |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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Had a supervisor undeservedly constantly wind me up and give me crap, mortgage was 16.5% so no jobs , managed to cost him a months wages but didn't tell him til 20 year later. He wanted to punch me but thought better of it.All the years l knew him l never told him until he bragged about how he thought he was a fair boss . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I say what I need to and move on. Life is far too short for grudges and bad feeling. I like my inner peace"
Fr.
I’d feel awful if I was taking up space in someone’s head |
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Very much situational.
For the most part whatever happens happens and it can't be helped so move on.
However doesn't always work that way and I will rarely buy it does happen get inside my own head and just emotionally torment myself over the smallest thing |
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If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..
You have found yourself a narcissist.
No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.
Good to see you are all fully developed people
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I don't carry stuff around with me but I do hold a fucking grudge and I'm a massive believer in what goes around comes around. So I don't overthink stuff, I believe in karma and every dog has it's day ! Way to happy to let stuff ruin my good mojo ! |
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"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..
You have found yourself a narcissist.
No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.
Good to see you are all fully developed people
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Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one  |
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"I don't carry stuff around with me but I do hold a fucking grudge and I'm a massive believer in what goes around comes around. So I don't overthink stuff, I believe in karma and every dog has it's day ! Way to happy to let stuff ruin my good mojo ! "
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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It really depends on who and what it is
I can let go but the things they have said or done will always be at the back of my mind, which can be a problem, so…maybe not.
I love that I’ve just talked myself out of my original answer  |
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"I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….
What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity  I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully
Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise  
Are you a Scorpio lol ! "
No worse Taurus |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….
What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully
Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise
Are you a Scorpio lol !
No worse Taurus "
lol ok. |
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"I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….
What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully
Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise
Are you a Scorpio lol !
No worse Taurus lol ok. "
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"Yeah, else I start spiralling about something I thought was important at the time, but turned out to be stoopid. This doesn't work out so good for people though, as I can be extremely flighty and will cut and run, once their intentions are detrimental to myself, there's only a few I'd actually try to work things out with, hence lots of acquaintances "
Ah yes the spiral of doom. I have been there so many times to.
What you need is an anchor friend - one who loves you no matter how spirally you get and can keep hold of your hand and help control the spin.
The catch is... they have to be so amazing they don't ever cause a spiral to you.
Those people are worth their weight in gold. Or platinum. Or whatever is expensive, maybe bread?
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"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..
You have found yourself a narcissist.
No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.
Good to see you are all fully developed people
Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one "
You are mistaken.
Maybe Google a bit harder? |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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Karma has a way of biting you on the arse what you do to me will definitely be done to you.
So I let it go, I meditate and bring myself back to being positive person.
So I hold my hand up and wave you goodbye and I’m done lol |
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As I’ve got older I’ve realised a lot that I got worked up over doesn’t matter one bit. It’ll still happen regardless so what’s the point.
I definitely have a better way of life not getting would up.
K |
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"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..
You have found yourself a narcissist.
No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.
Good to see you are all fully developed people
Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one
You are mistaken.
Maybe Google a bit harder?"
Better still google this:
Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive
and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo. "
Not really, in my case the majority of problems stem from people so letting go of the person lets go of the thing aka person |
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.
Not really, in my case the majority of problems stem from people so letting go of the person lets go of the thing aka person "
I didn't really read the question wrong? |
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"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..
You have found yourself a narcissist.
No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.
Good to see you are all fully developed people
Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one
You are mistaken.
Maybe Google a bit harder?
Better still google this:
Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive
and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.
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Nah, if my ways make me a narcissist I’ll deal with that it’s only one trait in your opinion |
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.
Not really, in my case the majority of problems stem from people so letting go of the person lets go of the thing aka person
I didn't really read the question wrong?"
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By *os19Man 34 weeks ago
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I may forgive but I don’t forget.I can be stubborn maybe that is a Capricorn thing.Yes I can hold a grudge but I wouldn’t want to person that I hold a grudge against to come to any harm.I just find it easier not to talk to the person in question unless I have to.It use to be awkward in the work of place with my former manager who I only communicated with via a middle manager , email or teams the last 3 years.Now she has been moved to another office so that makes my life easier as I don’t have anything to do with her. |
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo. "
Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.
Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.
Both are empowering.
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.
Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.
Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.
Both are empowering.
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Does this not quantify as narcissist traits
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.
Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.
Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.
Both are empowering.
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I didn't really read the question wrong?
The OP question was quite simple in the way I read it. I agree that removing toxicity from your life could be empowering, I just didn't read it that way, hence my question. |
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"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..
You have found yourself a narcissist.
No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.
Good to see you are all fully developed people
Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one
You are mistaken.
Maybe Google a bit harder?
Better still google this:
Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive
and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.
Nah, if my ways make me a narcissist I’ll deal with that it’s only one trait in your opinion "
Did you Google what I suggested?
This is the wider opinion of psychologists, not my own. |
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"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..
You have found yourself a narcissist.
No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.
Good to see you are all fully developed people
Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one
You are mistaken.
Maybe Google a bit harder?
Better still google this:
Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive
and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.
Nah, if my ways make me a narcissist I’ll deal with that it’s only one trait in your opinion
Did you Google what I suggested?
This is the wider opinion of psychologists, not my own."
Nope CBA |
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.
Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.
Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.
Both are empowering.
Does this not quantify as narcissist traits
Hyp___ite "
How could removing a toxic person from your life be maladaptive?
You would have argue that abused people should put up.
That could be gaslighting. |
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"Have I read the question wrong?
So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.
Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.
Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.
Both are empowering.
Does this not quantify as narcissist traits
Hyp___ite
How could removing a toxic person from your life be maladaptive?
You would have argue that abused people should put up.
That could be gaslighting."
Poppy cock, if someone is treating me like shit or disrespective towards me and or my loved ones they’re dead to me.
This is how I deal with shit in my life and I don’t think everyone or actually anyone has to think or react as I do because each and every individual in this world have their struggles and they have to deal with them how they see fit to cross the bridge.
I don’t really know or understand gaslighting and I’m unwilling to research it or doesn’t sound good either way so meh
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Generally its forgive and forget. Life too short, move on and forward to better things.
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How could removing a toxic person from your life be maladaptive?
You would have argue that abused people should put up.
That could be gaslighting."
That^ weve both moved on but never forgine one or two people. No grudegs or lying awake at night grinding our teeth and formulating elaborate plans.
Just a sorry your out, don't come back into our life/lives please. And its usually been toxic people. |
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