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Someone I know and work with a bit!
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Hi all, just after people’s thoughts on this one!
So a lady I know that lives a couple of miles away and do work with occasionally, yes, she has had an account on here too! (doesn’t anymore tho.) I recognised her instantly although she never showed her face.
Ive since then noticed that she was on some other similar apps that I am on, she also has an only fans account. So I created a account and paid to see under a different name, curiosity got the better of me…
So it turns out she’s a bit of a domme and posts lots of interesting pictures etc, as I’m sure you can imagine. I’ve talked to her on the app, but haven’t told the truth.
So my question is do you think I should come clean to her? What would you do?
Or should I just keep quiet and keep enjoying, as we do work together a couple times a month and I don’t want her to stop as she’s good at what she does and is nice to work with….?? |
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"How can you recognise someone instantly without seeing their face...  "
There's plenty of times I've recognised someone from something other than their face.
OP. What do you hope to gain from telling this woman? |
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"She may think her content is more anonymous than it is. If it was me I think I'd like to know so I can do something about people recognising me. Although If you're on there maybe that's not a concern. I do think you're best being honest though."
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I guess it just depends on what you want.
I've seen people I know on dating apps and if I fancied them I swiped right. No harm in that. If they fancy me back they'll do the same and that's actually worked out a couple of times.
I feel like if I saw someone on only fans and then made that known it would probably make them very uncomfortable. |
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"Feels a bit stalky if you come clean. Don't think there's any way to progress this without creeping her out, tbh."
It’s definitely more stalky not coming clean and still watching 
What would you like to happen OP, as unless you think she’s going to jump on you for admitting you know it’s her, then it’s now creepy!
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"How can you recognise someone instantly without seeing their face...
There's plenty of times I've recognised someone from something other than their face.
OP. What do you hope to gain from telling this woman?"
From tatoos? Or body parts? Or if they have a distinct hairstyle or something I suppose |
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I doubt she'd stop doing what she does Henry Jackmen, more likely block you. It sounds as though you're a bit fascinated with her, there'd be no other reason to find her other sites and pay to view her otherwise.
What you expect to come of it I don't know. A shag in the toilets, a fb, a gf, a great chat over a lunchtime sandwich.. she's living her life and it's is far and away from the couple of times you've seen her at work.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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What you’ve done is creepy I’m not going to lie.
Creating a fake profile to get close and talking to her while she thinks you’re someone else. Coming clean and letting her know it’s been you all along would make me feel really uncomfortable. Continuing to watch while she doesn’t know is also really weird.
My suggestion would be to leave her alone  |
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"If someone I knew set up a fake account to gain access to me I would be raging. It's disingenuous "
There’s curiousity and then stalking.
I might suppose on knowing who someone is, but I guess you chat with them to find out, not do that in my view.
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"...Delete the fake profile and stop stalking her."
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It's not a fake profile. People can have more than one authentic 'fully paid up' profile.
It's when you start using it for nefarious purposes it becomes a concern and something all together unsavoury. |
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OP I actually missed the bit where you wrote that you've been talking to her and she doesn't know it's you.
I honestly feel like that's crossing a line both professionally and personally.
I can't see any scenario where her finding out about that is going to go well for you.
Best just leave it. |
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If you're interested in her sexually you can only float that boat via work. I doubt she'd take kindly to a 'surprise! It's really me on the chat'. If she's not interested in going for a drink or whatever. Then fair enough, bit awkward no harm done. If you approach it from the other angle she could well feel you're trying to railroad her into a sexual encounter from a knowing her in a work setting (worst case scenario). |
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She’s offering a paid service, feel free to use it. I would not mention it at work unless she was open about her OF work first.
Having an anonymous account is fine. Just remember that you’re just another paying punter, so what she tells you is probably just what she thinks you want to hear so you keep subscribing.
Surely people who do OF fans know that there’ll be people who know them see their work? |
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"She’s offering a paid service, feel free to use it. I would not mention it at work unless she was open about her OF work first.
Having an anonymous account is fine. Just remember that you’re just another paying punter, so what she tells you is probably just what she thinks you want to hear so you keep subscribing.
Surely people who do OF fans know that there’ll be people who know them see their work?"
I agree with this to an extent but telling someone you've been looking at their content under an alias isn't a great idea in my opinion. |
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"What you’ve done is creepy I’m not going to lie.
Creating a fake profile to get close and talking to her while she thinks you’re someone else. Coming clean and letting her know it’s been you all along would make me feel really uncomfortable. Continuing to watch while she doesn’t know is also really weird.
My suggestion would be to leave her alone "
Exactly this, all this.
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"What you’ve done is creepy I’m not going to lie.
Creating a fake profile to get close and talking to her while she thinks you’re someone else. Coming clean and letting her know it’s been you all along would make me feel really uncomfortable. Continuing to watch while she doesn’t know is also really weird.
My suggestion would be to leave her alone "
So, so much this. Leave the poor woman alone |
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By *alcon77Man 34 weeks ago
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Get rid of your current only fans 'customer' page.
Create a new only fans 'creator' page.
Put your stuff on there.
See if she approaches you about it.
That would be a lot more interesting and less stalker-ish.  |
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why did you not mention it to her when you 1st realised she had a FAB profile. Having had people keep changing profiles to be able to 'watch' what you are doing its more than annoying.
Either forget it and dont mention it again or if you feel that you need to put it right i would suggest that you have possibly seen her on the OF as its a 'paid' to view so she is after followers.
it is kind of stalking to keep following and watching without her knowledge. I think the paid to view subscription changes the dynamics slightly because she is looking for people to view and that also gives you and angle to come clean about having 'seen' perhaps just that bit |
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"She’s offering a paid service, feel free to use it. I would not mention it at work unless she was open about her OF work first.
Having an anonymous account is fine. Just remember that you’re just another paying punter, so what she tells you is probably just what she thinks you want to hear so you keep subscribing.
Surely people who do OF fans know that there’ll be people who know them see their work?"
To be honest I think this is spot on. I don’t get why everyone is getting so indignant over someone who is _actively_ promoting _paid_ OF work. I certainly wouldn’t mention it at work - just like I couldn’t mention Fabs etc but I think the idea that she would be shocked that someone she knew was looking at her content is naive. She knows it is a possibility and is clearly happy with that. Good for her is what I say. |
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