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By *hrimper36Couple 35 weeks ago
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Not really because a lot of woman go on eyes and faces before they reply or hook up so asking for a face pic is acceptable in our book but I understand your point if they have no pics on public show.
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I think it's a bit odd personally. Why should one person risk sending a picture to someone?
I don't feel obliged to return a picture if someone sends one off their own bat but I would never make it a condition of a response.
That said if anyone asks for something you don't want to supply it's easy to just avoid messaging...I mean why would you want to contact someone with no pictures?
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I happily message with people without pictures. But what i will not do now is meet anyone without a phone number or a face picture. I unfortunately have a stalker who has tried to find out where i live, and its a bit trick reporting to the police with just a fab name and no detail - now i need at minimum their number and face pic.
mind you that was a very interesting conversation  and of course the persons profile name at that particular time was something like pussylicker - how many times that officer got me to say that !!!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Do people think this is seriously hypocritical when a profile says this even though they have zero pics or public pics up themselves "
A tad yes,op.
They may respond ..cannot in case wife sees me or it is my job |
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"Do people think this is seriously hypocritical when a profile says this even though they have zero pics or public pics up themselves "
IMO it's difficult. I totally understand why ppl wouldn't have a pic. But if they messaged and didn't include a face pic I'd probably ignore.
I know there are scenarios but I think most women appreciate a man who they are facially attracted to. The eyes tell us a lot. I always feel so bad when someone sends a face pic and we'd been talking.
There are also lots of reasons why a woman will end contact once seeing your face. |
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"I think it's a bit odd personally. Why should one person risk sending a picture to someone?
I don't feel obliged to return a picture if someone sends one off their own bat but I would never make it a condition of a response.
That said if anyone asks for something you don't want to supply it's easy to just avoid messaging...I mean why would you want to contact someone with no pictures?
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Hey, when you’ve got a few mins spare, I’d love some tips and advice for someone to try to get established on fab and trying to get into the lifestyle. I feel I’ve improved my profile. I do slightly better now, but still struggle a lot. I’m very determined about anything I enjoy, so I’m not giving up, since you’re a forum mod. You must have both been so fab for a while, so I thought it would be worth asking you.
wishing both a great long weekend thanks. |
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"This isn't about private PM's this is about asking for one in your profile even though they have none in their profile."
Oh.
Then you have pretty opposing viewpoints. So you just don't message them  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"This isn't about private PM's this is about asking for one in your profile even though they have none in their profile.
Oh.
Then you have pretty opposing viewpoints. So you just don't message them "
This.
It’s like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole type thing.
I can make someone’s profile look good to me if it doesn’t. I just move on with my life.
Being attracted to someone should just be easy.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 35 weeks ago
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I'm not fussed if I see that on a profile.
Because a.) There's plenty of profiles to engage with that do have visuals and b.) I have filters in place to stop anyone without visible pics from contacting me.
When browsing you can choose to omit them from search results too. It's always amused me that people on a site that revolves around trying to attract interest don't see the importance of showing people even the vaguest idea of what they look like. As is often said, it's not blind date.
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"I think it's a bit odd personally. Why should one person risk sending a picture to someone?
I don't feel obliged to return a picture if someone sends one off their own bat but I would never make it a condition of a response.
That said if anyone asks for something you don't want to supply it's easy to just avoid messaging...I mean why would you want to contact someone with no pictures?
Hey, when you’ve got a few mins spare, I’d love some tips and advice for someone to try to get established on fab and trying to get into the lifestyle. I feel I’ve improved my profile. I do slightly better now, but still struggle a lot. I’m very determined about anything I enjoy, so I’m not giving up, since you’re a forum mod. You must have both been so fab for a while, so I thought it would be worth asking you.
wishing both a great long weekend thanks."
We have been around the block it's true but some people would say we're not even proper swingers.
We genuinely don't take any notice of what other people think or do when it comes to swinging and try to be ourselves at all times, this and our age means we don't get a lot of meets. We're fine with that. So apart from be yourself, be respectful, relax and have realistic expectations we have no tips. Often the harder you try the more difficult it is to achieve.
You're already established as a contributor to the forum.
I'm sorry if you thought we'd have some foolproof advice for success but there's no such thing.
Have a great Easter weekend yourself and a happy experience on fab. |
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"I think it's a bit odd personally. Why should one person risk sending a picture to someone?
I don't feel obliged to return a picture if someone sends one off their own bat but I would never make it a condition of a response.
That said if anyone asks for something you don't want to supply it's easy to just avoid messaging...I mean why would you want to contact someone with no pictures?
Hey, when you’ve got a few mins spare, I’d love some tips and advice for someone to try to get established on fab and trying to get into the lifestyle. I feel I’ve improved my profile. I do slightly better now, but still struggle a lot. I’m very determined about anything I enjoy, so I’m not giving up, since you’re a forum mod. You must have both been so fab for a while, so I thought it would be worth asking you.
wishing both a great long weekend thanks.
We have been around the block it's true but some people would say we're not even proper swingers.
We genuinely don't take any notice of what other people think or do when it comes to swinging and try to be ourselves at all times, this and our age means we don't get a lot of meets. We're fine with that. So apart from be yourself, be respectful, relax and have realistic expectations we have no tips. Often the harder you try the more difficult it is to achieve.
You're already established as a contributor to the forum.
I'm sorry if you thought we'd have some foolproof advice for success but there's no such thing.
Have a great Easter weekend yourself and a happy experience on fab."
that’s the best advice anyway to be yourself. That’s what I do in the forum and on my profile |
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"This isn't about private PM's this is about asking for one in your profile even though they have none in their profile.
Oh.
Then you have pretty opposing viewpoints. So you just don't message them "
Agree. Don’t message with |
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Those who start the conversation surely should be the ones willing to share their pics first. You can't have your cake and eat it though plenty think that way. As others said, if it sounds odd, it probably is. |
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Say I have no pic's on my profile but demand you have pics on your profile before you can message me.
Well you don't think that is hypothetical there's something wrong with you. It is the definition of hypocrisy. |
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"Say I have no pic's on my profile but demand you have pics on your profile before you can message me.
Well you don't think that is hypothetical there's something wrong with you. It is the definition of hypocrisy."
Is it? Is it really? 
The vast majority of the time, "no pics no reply" means "if you do not send me pictures with your message, I will not reply".
They are asking for PRIVATE messages. And complaints like these are always about PUBLIC pictures.
So what you're saying is that "if this lady doesn't have public pictures on her profile, then she cannot ask me to share something with her in private".
What language do you speak, exactly? Because that's not hypocrisy. Or has someone sold you a defective dictionary?
Hypocrisy would look more like "I am so special and important that I cannot share my face pictures with anyone. You cannot know what I look like. But I will complain all day long that a woman doesn't have identifying photos on her profile, so her family, her hairdresser, her dog walker, her children's teachers, can all know what she gets up to in her spare time. How dare SHE not make herself known to everyone on this website and ask that I reveal my identity to only her. I am so put upon" |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Nope.
Asking for a picture in private is different to demanding a picture in public.
Though I'd tell them to get stuffed if their first message didn't include a picture."
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Say I have no pic's on my profile but demand you have pics on your profile before you can message me.
Well you don't think that is hypothetical there's something wrong with you. It is the definition of hypocrisy.
Is it? Is it really?
The vast majority of the time, "no pics no reply" means "if you do not send me pictures with your message, I will not reply".
They are asking for PRIVATE messages. And complaints like these are always about PUBLIC pictures.
So what you're saying is that "if this lady doesn't have public pictures on her profile, then she cannot ask me to share something with her in private".
What language do you speak, exactly? Because that's not hypocrisy. Or has someone sold you a defective dictionary?
Hypocrisy would look more like "I am so special and important that I cannot share my face pictures with anyone. You cannot know what I look like. But I will complain all day long that a woman doesn't have identifying photos on her profile, so her family, her hairdresser, her dog walker, her children's teachers, can all know what she gets up to in her spare time. How dare SHE not make herself known to everyone on this website and ask that I reveal my identity to only her. I am so put upon""
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By *orny-DJMan 35 weeks ago
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Personally, I don't get asked for pictures, because I have plenty on my profile, but if someone did ask and had none on theirs, I'd ecpect them to at least include one or two with their message in tge same way that I always do if I'm asking to see a picture |
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They may have private pics that they'll share with the right people, it's up to them what they ask for & people don't have to agree to it.Just avoid those profiles.
They wouldn't be for me and I delete messages from shadows, I wouldn't ever send a blank profile any message,but women with no pics still get lots of messages I'm guessing. |
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"They may have private pics that they'll share with the right people, it's up to them what they ask for & people don't have to agree to it.Just avoid those profiles.
They wouldn't be for me and I delete messages from shadows, I wouldn't ever send a blank profile any message,but women with no pics still get lots of messages I'm guessing. "
I didn't upload my first picture for ages and I was absolutely swamped. |
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"They may have private pics that they'll share with the right people, it's up to them what they ask for & people don't have to agree to it.Just avoid those profiles.
They wouldn't be for me and I delete messages from shadows, I wouldn't ever send a blank profile any message,but women with no pics still get lots of messages I'm guessing.
I didn't upload my first picture for ages and I was absolutely swamped."
I think I was the same.
I had about 50 messages saying how great my profile was, when I hadn't filled one in. |
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"Say I have no pic's on my profile but demand you have pics on your profile before you can message me.
Well you don't think that is hypothetical there's something wrong with you. It is the definition of hypocrisy.
Is it? Is it really?
The vast majority of the time, "no pics no reply" means "if you do not send me pictures with your message, I will not reply".
They are asking for PRIVATE messages. And complaints like these are always about PUBLIC pictures.
So what you're saying is that "if this lady doesn't have public pictures on her profile, then she cannot ask me to share something with her in private".
What language do you speak, exactly? Because that's not hypocrisy. Or has someone sold you a defective dictionary?
Hypocrisy would look more like "I am so special and important that I cannot share my face pictures with anyone. You cannot know what I look like. But I will complain all day long that a woman doesn't have identifying photos on her profile, so her family, her hairdresser, her dog walker, her children's teachers, can all know what she gets up to in her spare time. How dare SHE not make herself known to everyone on this website and ask that I reveal my identity to only her. I am so put upon""
look I'm wasting my time arguing with you because if I said the sky was blue you would argue with me that it isn't.every time I have an opinion on a thread you will argue that I'm wrong so we'll leave it there now. it's clear you don't like anything I say so that's fine. |
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