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Sooooo…. Does this mean the person is only wanting to chat, or hang out on the site, or cam or something…
Or is it like a very particular niche, like geo-localised dogging, outdoors, but really really close to home?
Just don’t want to be missing out on a new trend I could get in early on. |
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Could indicate they are happy to share a hotel, meet outside etc.
May be unable to travel longer distances, so could be looking for local meets, or within reasonable distances etc.
It can sometimes seem off-putting, but unless you actually speak to the individual, you won't know. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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The reason we set it like that is because we only meet at clubs and we have limited travel options due to having relatives we care for.
It is easier to put cant travel and cant accom instead of have having to explain it to everyone who messages. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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Not at all
Could mean hotel meets only
Could mean club and social events only
Can’t accommodate and can’t travel dosent mean what you think
Well can’t accommodate dose it is exactly what it says
But can’t travel isn’t
They maybe able to travel but not willing to travel to others homes so just set it to can’t travel
That’s not to say they can’t travel to a hotel or social event or club
Just another filter that has to be put in place to stop the constant messages off
Want to travel to mine for a meet type thing |
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"Can't speak for everyone but for me it means lying on the front garden all seductive like seeing if anyone wants a piece."
Exactly as I thought it meant!!!
For a minute I thought I was being stupid about this!
Ok, back in the game phew! |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"It acts as a filter in itself! "
This!
Means some of the many people far away who message, hoping to travel to you & meet at yours, think twice before contacting you.
Also to others it means they seek local people who can accommodate.
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By *rpeggioCouple 34 weeks ago
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You forget that many people can accommodate. Those who can't and don't travel might be happy to go to someone's place.
We understand travel as farther than 45-60 mins by car. Below that, it's just meeting someone local at a commonly convenient place. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 34 weeks ago
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"It acts as a filter in itself!
This!
Means some of the many people far away who message, hoping to travel to you & meet at yours, think twice before contacting you.
Also to others it means they seek local people who can accommodate.
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 You beat me to it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.
I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.
I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.
So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx |
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I can accom and can travel and yes neither are gonna happen in an instance however if a person selects that they CANT TRAVEL, even if this selection is optional to will or won’t, I take it as read and move on  simples  |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"The reason we set it like that is because we only meet at clubs and we have limited travel options due to having relatives we care for.
It is easier to put cant travel and cant accom instead of have having to explain it to everyone who messages."
Similar to my reasons, family care commitments. I can't be many miles and hours away from home. I don't live alone so I have to consider my daughter's welfare and wishes in bringing someone new back xx |
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"I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.
I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.
I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.
So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx"
Now this makes sense and made me realise that “some” folk have genuine reasons x hope you’re well  |
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"Sooooo…. Does this mean the person is only wanting to chat, or hang out on the site, or cam or something…
Or is it like a very particular niche, like geo-localised dogging, outdoors, but really really close to home?
Just don’t want to be missing out on a new trend I could get in early on."
They like local or maybe hotel and once they've met you a few times they may accomodate  |
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Cannot accommodate is self explanatory. Cannot travel means that they do have the ability to leave their home and socialise/meet within their locale. However they are not willing or able to travel further afield or miles and miles away. Makes sense really. |
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"Cannot accommodate is self explanatory. Cannot travel means that they do have the ability to leave their home and socialise/meet within their locale. However they are not willing or able to travel further afield or miles and miles away. Makes sense really."
^ What Nero said.
I have this very thing on my profile and it means exactly that.
Not a rocket science really. |
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By *ltrMan 34 weeks ago
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"I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.
I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.
I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.
So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx"
In my case I care for my quadriplegic son so can not accommodate but do travel and have done but the cost of carers after hour is so expensive that limits to how far and how many times I can achieve this |
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"I can only speak for my own reasons here for my bio saying that.
I am full time Carer for my daughter. I also care for another family member in a separate household. I don't have a car. Money is limited. Free time is limited. My adult daughter lives with me (who I'm Carer for). We have both had bad experiences from online dating where we got involved too quickly. We made an agreement that neither of us would bring someone new back to the house for a length of time, we'd meet and get to know them away from the house before any invites back.
I can't travel long distances as I need to get back home quickly especially if there was a family emergency. It's easier to just put it in bio as 'cannot' instead of explaining to everyone.
So 'cannot accommodate' doesn't always mean it's for dodgy reasons like they can't accomm because they're married and cheating. That's the usual assumption xx"
Ahh gotcha. Thanks for explaining |
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By *rpeggioCouple 34 weeks ago
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"Cannot accommodate is self explanatory. Cannot travel means that they do have the ability to leave their home and socialise/meet within their locale. However they are not willing or able to travel further afield or miles and miles away. Makes sense really."
Well, apparently to many hear it doesn't make sense. They seem to think that walking to the local pub is traveling to the pub, our they travel to knock on the door of their next door neighbour. I would have assumed most people can figure out the difference between traveling and getting out of home locally. |
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I don't/won't accomodate in my home. I clearly state happy to split a hotel cost if it comes to it though. I can travel, but don't drive. Obviously I'm capable of using public transport/ubers whatnot. |
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When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.
For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions" |
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"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.
For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions""
I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam' |
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"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.
For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions"
I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam'"
I'm working with the tools I've got. If I say I can, people assume I will. I won't in the vast majority of cases, so I say I can't.
It's a bit like the way you tell a small child that 2+2=4. Yes, in the universe of complex mathematics blah blah sometimes that isn't true, but it's true enough for the vast majority of cases. In the vast majority of cases, the answer is "can't", even though occasionally I can and will.
And it's not a double negative. A double negative is "I am not not a woman" - they cancel each other out. This is more like "I am not a hamster and I do not smell like elderberries" - the fact that I am not a hamster has no bearing on the fact that I do not smell like elderberries. |
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I'm also not prepared to have sex in someone's car, a field, any other random outdoors location. I'm not really a fan of going to a strangers home either. Options are limited I guess - but then again I'm seeking decent connections, not prepared to shag someone in the back of their work van  |
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"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.
For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions"
I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam'
I'm working with the tools I've got. If I say I can, people assume I will. I won't in the vast majority of cases, so I say I can't.
It's a bit like the way you tell a small child that 2+2=4. Yes, in the universe of complex mathematics blah blah sometimes that isn't true, but it's true enough for the vast majority of cases. In the vast majority of cases, the answer is "can't", even though occasionally I can and will.
And it's not a double negative. A double negative is "I am not not a woman" - they cancel each other out. This is more like "I am not a hamster and I do not smell like elderberries" - the fact that I am not a hamster has no bearing on the fact that I do not smell like elderberries."
Fair points... not critising just think another option or 2 might be usefull for some   |
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"When I've had my filters open and settings set to Can Accommodate Can Travel, people assume that I'm an open house and/ or will travel to Plymouth or Lerwick immediately.
For me, can't and can't probably means "won't accommodate for any Tom Dick or Harriette" and "won't travel outside my local area except for the rarest of exceptions"
I think there needs to another option? Its a double negative...so unless explains it in your profile... it kinda looks odd or maybe with that option the person o ly does 'by cam'
I'm working with the tools I've got. If I say I can, people assume I will. I won't in the vast majority of cases, so I say I can't.
It's a bit like the way you tell a small child that 2+2=4. Yes, in the universe of complex mathematics blah blah sometimes that isn't true, but it's true enough for the vast majority of cases. In the vast majority of cases, the answer is "can't", even though occasionally I can and will.
And it's not a double negative. A double negative is "I am not not a woman" - they cancel each other out. This is more like "I am not a hamster and I do not smell like elderberries" - the fact that I am not a hamster has no bearing on the fact that I do not smell like elderberries.
Fair points... not critising just think another option or 2 might be usefull for some "
Entirely agree. If I had other options I'd use them! |
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and I say this in the context that if I’m getting to know someone I’d at least expect that someone to “travel” to a mutually agreed location 
there is public transport if someone can’t drive 
