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This 1 thing is hated more than winking… and what to do about it

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham

Here is the number one thing that almost unanimously drives most of the users on Fab crazy…

It isn’t winking (see the recent thread)…

It isn’t unsolicited friends requests (this does rank highly)…

It isn’t the receipt of daily male genitalia photos who have no personality and all have been seen before apparently (once you’ve seen one you’ve seen them all)…

It’s not even the lack of reading a persons profile (although given the grammar and lack of content spelling, punctuation, formatting and coherency some ARE hard to persevere persisting through to the inevitable end)… where the number one often lurks…

The most hated thing on Fab after winking…

It actually is…

NO FACE PIC

No face pic is almost always an instant disregard, block, delete, burn, scald, talk only to the ether, discontent and disappointment - and that’s only the beginning.

So, would the solution to all problems be to add a full on, passport style, well lit, genuine, accredited, verified, non photo shopped, no filter selfie to both your profile pic AND automatically sent in all outgoing messages (especially those pesky copy paste repeat en mass thoughtless volume player messages)…

But WAIT, here is the conundrum…

Many people HATE the unsolicited, unwanted, unwarranted and untrusted wink, or worse, friend request from the profile of a dick (quite literally - and they apparently all look the same, right?), and you want to know WHO you’re talking to, and if there’s an attraction - fair game, fair game.

But conversely, many, many people have personal, private and professional lives, where sometimes they need utmost discretion (let’s leave motives for another post), or simply they just don’t want to plaster their identifiable face all over the internet to advertise their sexual fetishes in the public domain. A quick Google reverse image search can land many people in hot water or be compromised in some fashion.

So there’s this dilemma - you want/need/require/demand an upto date, verified, legitimate attractive face pic (fair game), however, elusively this is the one thing that a large majority of people won’t dish out to random strangers on a sex site up front without first knowing they are in safe hands.

If I ran Fab (and I have a hundred development ideas), I would introduce a soft to hard warm up ladder with contacting people to progressively move forward towards a satisfactory mutually beneficial outcome for both parties in the conversation, based on compounding trust scores like stepping stones, with the ability to skip and jump that if both parties wanted to.

Without this, I imagine 90-95% of potentially legitimate and high quality friendships, engagements, meets and relationships are terminated entirely too early without trying or getting off the ground with mutual give and take based on the simple, yet paradoxical nature of - NO FACE PIC, no bueno…

What’s your honest thoughts

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By *ohn n jodieCouple (MM) 34 weeks ago

warrington

Slightly ironic that your not showing a face pic don’t you think ?

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By *arla SwingerWoman 34 weeks ago

Somewhere

Jesus.. My mugshot is horrific ??

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"Slightly ironic that your not showing a face pic don’t you think ?"

Did you read the post lol

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham

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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago

No filters? That's crazy talk.

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By *ellhungvweMan 34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don’t understand why guys (and it is always men) keep coming up with these convoluted ideas on how to “improve” fabs. The site works. It does what it is supposed to do if you use it properly.

If you feel people want a face pic then send your face pic when you message. The site allows you to do that already.

I would stop thinking of ways of trying to “improve” the site and just start using it as you think it should be used.

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"Jesus.. My mugshot is horrific ??"

But you’ve improvised perfectly by using a highly sought after and very much enjoyable beverage that most will find irresistible - cunningly clever, and a great tactic.

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By *arla SwingerWoman 34 weeks ago

Somewhere


"Jesus.. My mugshot is horrific ??

But you’ve improvised perfectly by using a highly sought after and very much enjoyable beverage that most will find irresistible - cunningly clever, and a great tactic.

"

Aye, but my face would sink a thousand ships...soo..

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"I don’t understand why guys (and it is always men) keep coming up with these convoluted ideas on how to “improve” fabs. The site works. It does what it is supposed to do if you use it properly.

If you feel people want a face pic then send your face pic when you message. The site allows you to do that already.

I would stop thinking of ways of trying to “improve” the site and just start using it as you think it should be used. "

I can’t help it, I work in the industry - so UX is uncontrollably engrained in me.

But heh, it’s clearly a clickbait title and posted to rally up controversial debate and fire up the forum a bit mid week - I am myself a paid site supporter.

The post gives both sides of the argument and a potential solution to encourage debate.

It might even be a fiery one…

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By *ornucopiaMan 34 weeks ago

Bexley


"Slightly ironic that your not showing a face pic don’t you think ?

Did you read the post lol"

Is the phrase not 'TLDR'?

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By *unchalMan 34 weeks ago

Dartford

Wow! It’s just a website to help people have sex with strangers. You might be overthinking it.

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"No filters? That's crazy talk."

Total insanity!

I’d use AI myself. In fact, I might just test it..

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By *eliWoman 34 weeks ago

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So why not set up your own site OP?

I think trust scores sounds like a novel idea.

Go for it.

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"Slightly ironic that your not showing a face pic don’t you think ?

Did you read the post lol

Is the phrase not 'TLDR'?"

The 42 page thesis is elsewhere with the data and the graphs. This is the TL:DR lol

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"Wow! It’s just a website to help people have sex with strangers. You might be overthinking it. "

I’m in neither camp myself - it didn’t take much thought to see the repetitive profile text on 99% of all profiles tbh lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman 34 weeks ago

Leeds

"A soft to hard warm up ladder" might be a bit tricky for a woman of my age to navigate wearing high heeled thigh boots.

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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago

You seem like the person who demands to see the manager if the restaurant forgets your peas

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"So why not set up your own site OP?

I think trust scores sounds like a novel idea.

Go for it."

I used to have a big one, but there were legal and compliance issues at the time. I’m still in the online sector, but no longer in the adult sector. Laddered trust scoring would be mutually beneficial to the two parties, while also building global community trust and authenticity.

But it also works to just block everyone who doesn’t send a face pic

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"You seem like the person who demands to see the manager if the restaurant forgets your peas "

OR, is this a shit post at 5AM to pass the time while my coffee cools down?

My next suggestion will be a thumbs up and thumbs down voting on all posts so this one can be voted into oblivion

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By *allySlinkyWoman 34 weeks ago

Leeds


"

I used to have a big one"

Sorry to hear it's shrunk

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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago


"……

If I ran Fab (and I have a hundred development ideas), I ….,

…..

What’s your honest thoughts "

Please don’t run fab.

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"

I used to have a big one

Sorry to hear it's shrunk "

Too much winking apparently!!

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By *ot to giggleWoman 34 weeks ago

Coventry

That took some reading!

And for health and safety purposes who is footing this ladder? I get a bit wobbly two steps off the ground!

you only have at ask!!

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"……

If I ran Fab (and I have a hundred development ideas), I ….,

…..

What’s your honest thoughts

Please don’t run fab. "

I know it’d be full of shit posters and walls of text and auto-winking enabled by default wouldn’t it.

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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago


"……

If I ran Fab (and I have a hundred development ideas), I ….,

…..

What’s your honest thoughts

Please don’t run fab.

I know it’d be full of shit posters and walls of text and auto-winking enabled by default wouldn’t it.

"

I want an auto-flirt button. It just sends one emoji in a message -

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By *ot to giggleWoman 34 weeks ago

Coventry

I want more winks!!

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham

So listen, if WE ran FAB - there would be auto-flirting and auto-winking enabled, AI drafted messages with auto appended face pics, wobbly ladders, and funny shit posts daily.

Anything else? I’ll go write to the mods and get an in with the owners.

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By *ealitybitesMan 34 weeks ago

Belfast

No facepic has never been an issue for me or anyone else I know so it's not something that requires getting your boxers in a twist.

It might well be a clickbait thread but I'm not part of the clique so I'm not baited.

I don't have the time to be dealing with my inbox if I was to post my clitbait face.

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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago


"I don’t understand why guys (and it is always men) keep coming up with these convoluted ideas on how to “improve” fabs. The site works. It does what it is supposed to do if you use it properly.

If you feel people want a face pic then send your face pic when you message. The site allows you to do that already.

I would stop thinking of ways of trying to “improve” the site and just start using it as you think it should be used. "

This 100%

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"No facepic has never been an issue for me or anyone else I know so it's not something that requires getting your boxers in a twist.

It might well be a clickbait thread but I'm not part of the clique so I'm not baited.

I don't have the time to be dealing with my inbox if I was to post my clitbait face. "

You read and replied to the post though…

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"I don’t understand why guys (and it is always men) keep coming up with these convoluted ideas on how to “improve” fabs. The site works. It does what it is supposed to do if you use it properly.

If you feel people want a face pic then send your face pic when you message. The site allows you to do that already.

I would stop thinking of ways of trying to “improve” the site and just start using it as you think it should be used.

This 100%"

I have a hundred ideas, and we added auto-flirt already just this morning lol

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By *eacupsbearCouple 34 weeks ago

York

You can't please everyone I guess.

We particularly dislike unsolicited dick pics, but our filters stop that for the most part.

We don't mind a wink, and are happy to respond should we want to, and we do like to send a wink or two. Yes there's those that dislike them, and won't respond.. Fair enough. But we don't wink people who state they don't like them.

The face pic thing is annoying sometimes, but if we engage in conversation with someone we hope they will be happy to send us one sooner rather than later. Its always nice to put a face to a conversation.

I think what peeves us more is those that insist on a face pic from others, yet don't have one themselves. For us that's a double standard and a red flag.

So we're unlikely to start to engage or wink at a faceless profile. However. If one engages or winks at us. We may ask for a picture. And go from there.

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By *m-Batman OP   Man 34 weeks ago

Gotham


"You can't please everyone I guess.

We particularly dislike unsolicited dick pics, but our filters stop that for the most part.

We don't mind a wink, and are happy to respond should we want to, and we do like to send a wink or two. Yes there's those that dislike them, and won't respond.. Fair enough. But we don't wink people who state they don't like them.

The face pic thing is annoying sometimes, but if we engage in conversation with someone we hope they will be happy to send us one sooner rather than later. Its always nice to put a face to a conversation.

I think what peeves us more is those that insist on a face pic from others, yet don't have one themselves. For us that's a double standard and a red flag.

So we're unlikely to start to engage or wink at a faceless profile. However. If one engages or winks at us. We may ask for a picture. And go from there."

Love this because there is logical thought behind it.

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By *eacupsbearCouple 34 weeks ago

York


"You can't please everyone I guess.

We particularly dislike unsolicited dick pics, but our filters stop that for the most part.

We don't mind a wink, and are happy to respond should we want to, and we do like to send a wink or two. Yes there's those that dislike them, and won't respond.. Fair enough. But we don't wink people who state they don't like them.

The face pic thing is annoying sometimes, but if we engage in conversation with someone we hope they will be happy to send us one sooner rather than later. Its always nice to put a face to a conversation.

I think what peeves us more is those that insist on a face pic from others, yet don't have one themselves. For us that's a double standard and a red flag.

So we're unlikely to start to engage or wink at a faceless profile. However. If one engages or winks at us. We may ask for a picture. And go from there.

Love this because there is logical thought behind it.

"

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