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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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For those that are unbothered by them, why are you unbothered?
I ask as someone that is not bothered by my partners being significantly older than me and is curious about other people 
I’ve thought a lot about my own reasoning for not minding, have you? This is aimed at people that like older people and younger people. Speak your truth. |
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I'm unbothered socially but you don't mean that.
I'm still going to tell you why though because...
I think sticking with your own age group leads to a narrow view of the world and lack of understanding between the generations.
In the workplace you need the freshness of youth tempered by the caution of old.
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By *io--Man 34 weeks ago
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"For those that are unbothered by them, why are you unbothered?
I ask as someone that is not bothered by my partners being significantly older than me and is curious about other people
I’ve thought a lot about my own reasoning for not minding, have you? This is aimed at people that like older people and younger people. Speak your truth. "
What is there to be bothered about? All thats needed is attraction and communication and I dont think age is a barrier for either. I wouldnt sleep with anyone my parents age (50+) simply because thats what I associate that with, but have been with someone more than double mine |
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By *irthandgirthMan 34 weeks ago
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My age preferences relate to my (perceived) affinity and making social connections through shared experiences. If the age gap was 20 years younger, the only thing in common we would have is they would likely have watched the same cartoons I sat and watched with my daughter.
I know many on here only have a simplistic visual/sexual link with sexual partners, but I like to connect with someone before I put my penis in them. And I find it tricky if I have to break out YouTube clips to explain every pop-culture social reference I might make. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 34 weeks ago
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I don't care what society deems to be a socially acceptable age gap. If someone is attractive to me, is fun, emotionally intelligent and mature, and we have a connection then that is all the matters to me |
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Yeah I'll admit it does bother me if it's a long term relationship.
Seeing my own mother with a significantly older person was all fine when they were both working. But once one retired and other still had 15-20 years to go it made things awkward. They then wanted significantly different things in daily life, which made each of them resent the other. It really wasn't pleasant for either of them. And it's not something I would want for myself. |
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I can say age doesn't bother me on here, yet I have age limits set. I think that's because that's the age group I'm more likely to meet and you have to filter people somehow on here. Partner wise I'm more likely to think harder about it. Too much either way could be an issue long term. When the age difference becomes really apparent. |
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I'm definitely more into the person. I do date younger than I am but I do find it awkward to form sexual relationships with people as old as my kids.
But I will say I think lots of men love the idea of an older woman but actually don't bring much to the table. They seem to get very upset and frustrated that I don't want to hook up, hang out or WhatsApp at 1am. I do not have time for that kind of imbalance.
I will date older. Preferably women. Because I love the energy and sense of self they have. It's very desirable sexually to me. |
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"If I'm out having dinner or a cuppa in Costa with a much younger man I tell them to say they're my carer. "
 about 40 years ago a colleague of mine was 48 and a man around my age pursued her for some time. She was quite keen until he offered to take her away for the weekend on condition they told the hotel receptionist she was his mum |
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"If I'm out having dinner or a cuppa in Costa with a much younger man I tell them to say they're my carer.
about 40 years ago a colleague of mine was 48 and a man around my age pursued her for some time. She was quite keen until he offered to take her away for the weekend on condition they told the hotel receptionist she was his mum "
 And sharing a bed?? 
Awkward. |
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"If I'm out having dinner or a cuppa in Costa with a much younger man I tell them to say they're my carer.
about 40 years ago a colleague of mine was 48 and a man around my age pursued her for some time. She was quite keen until he offered to take her away for the weekend on condition they told the hotel receptionist she was his mum
And sharing a bed??
Awkward."
He wasn't one to think things through |
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"I'm unbothered socially but you don't mean that.
I'm still going to tell you why though because...
I think sticking with your own age group leads to a narrow view of the world and lack of understanding between the generations.
In the workplace you need the freshness of youth tempered by the caution of old.
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Age should not be an issue, I have met a lovely women on here who is almost 20 years younger than me and we have become close friends.
I recently contacted a woman on a dating site who was slightly younger than me only to get a message which just said" not interested you look older than me" I felt like replying that I wasn't interested now because I am looking for someone who is kind and you are obviously not, but I am too much of a gentleman to do that!!! |
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"why is it acceptable for a male to have a younger partner and raised eyebrows if a female has a younger partner - i like who i like, maturity is not about age its about attitude - "
Not sure who's raising their eyebrows or why it matters if they are? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"why is it acceptable for a male to have a younger partner and raised eyebrows if a female has a younger partner - i like who i like, maturity is not about age its about attitude - "
It’s acceptable both ways but this thread is about people who are ok with age gaps anyway so there’s no need to worry about those that aren’t on this particular thread. |
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"why is it acceptable for a male to have a younger partner and raised eyebrows if a female has a younger partner - i like who i like, maturity is not about age its about attitude -
It’s acceptable both ways but this thread is about people who are ok with age gaps anyway so there’s no need to worry about those that aren’t on this particular thread. "
oh im not worried |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"why is it acceptable for a male to have a younger partner and raised eyebrows if a female has a younger partner - i like who i like, maturity is not about age its about attitude -
It’s acceptable both ways but this thread is about people who are ok with age gaps anyway so there’s no need to worry about those that aren’t on this particular thread.
oh im not worried "
Sorry I’m confused by your original comment then  |
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"For those that are unbothered by them, why are you unbothered?
I ask as someone that is not bothered by my partners being significantly older than me and is curious about other people
I’ve thought a lot about my own reasoning for not minding, have you? This is aimed at people that like older people and younger people. Speak your truth. "
Like Aayliah said
"Age ain't nothing but a number"
It's all about the state of mind |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"For those that are unbothered by them, why are you unbothered?
I ask as someone that is not bothered by my partners being significantly older than me and is curious about other people
I’ve thought a lot about my own reasoning for not minding, have you? This is aimed at people that like older people and younger people. Speak your truth.
Like Aayliah said
"Age ain't nothing but a number"
It's all about the state of mind"
Yeah but she was married to …. [redacted] |
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"For those that are unbothered by them, why are you unbothered?
I ask as someone that is not bothered by my partners being significantly older than me and is curious about other people
I’ve thought a lot about my own reasoning for not minding, have you? This is aimed at people that like older people and younger people. Speak your truth.
Like Aayliah said
"Age ain't nothing but a number"
It's all about the state of mind
Yeah but she was married to …. [redacted]"
You know good and well what man meant |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"For those that are unbothered by them, why are you unbothered?
I ask as someone that is not bothered by my partners being significantly older than me and is curious about other people
I’ve thought a lot about my own reasoning for not minding, have you? This is aimed at people that like older people and younger people. Speak your truth.
Like Aayliah said
"Age ain't nothing but a number"
It's all about the state of mind
Yeah but she was married to …. [redacted]
You know good and well what man meant "
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I'm not bothered because you can meet someone who's 30 and they act or look like their 40.
Or you can meet someone who's 40 and they act or look like their 30.
So to prejudge on age doesn't make sense to me. I either fancy them or not and either get on with them or not. Whether someone was one year over an arbitrary number wouldn't make a difference to that. |
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I didn’t start expanding my age preference till I was 21-22 as in had started to understand maturity and age are MAJORLY different to what I thought back then
Had only a handful of experiences with older inderviduals but honestly it’s opened my eyes to so much good and bad. Don’t regret it and still look |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"I'm unbothered socially but you don't mean that.
I'm still going to tell you why though because...
I think sticking with your own age group leads to a narrow view of the world and lack of understanding between the generations.
In the workplace you need the freshness of youth tempered by the caution of old.
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This is a very well measured and very well put answer
Can someone give me directions back to fabs website please |
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By *a LunaWoman 33 weeks ago
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I have a thing for older men. Always have. The older the better so long as they can get an erection and orgasm.
I have my filters lowered as I’m not looking to meet so my profile doesn’t accurately reflect my appreciation.
Younger men make me nervous. Partly because of a bad experience in a nightclub years ago and partly because I think younger women these days are so bloody attractive what can an ageing gal like me have that they’d want.
I have also had some pretty unpleasant messages from younger guys regarding my body hair. Older men seem less bothered.
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I just like sex with people and if they are 18 or 60 it’s irrelevant they are adult and if happy to engage / explore their own sexual freedoms with others than that’s good with me.
Bodies are fun , bodies are diverse , age is diverse in experience  |
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"I'm unbothered socially but you don't mean that.
I'm still going to tell you why though because...
I think sticking with your own age group leads to a narrow view of the world and lack of understanding between the generations.
In the workplace you need the freshness of youth tempered by the caution of old.
"
Hey I’m not going say anything on here for obvious reasons but a certain thread I put up and that has since been removed. I feel terrible over it I just put it up without thinking. |
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I have always loved older men and women. Partly from a more shallow visual/contrast standpoint that stimulated me sexually but also because I enjoyed connecting with someone who had a wealth of experiences to share with me. I feel like it served me well in terms of expanding my mind and opening me up to experiences I might not have found with someone my own age.
I know a lot of Gen Z kids find age gaps “problematic” and talk about imbalance of power and exploitation and while I’m sure that can be an issue in some situations, it certainly hasn’t been my experience.
Bring on the age gap fun! |
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