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I think its very 'trendy' in the younger group... Will be interesting to see as they age whether they will migrate to a more traditional arrangement ? Could be an interesting social thesis |
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I think poly people are wired that way, and that they've always been there just not so open about it. Much like anything that isn't deamed the norm.
So with that in mind I think the younger generation are more open regarding their sex lives, so it appears that there are more now. |
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"I think so, yes. But I think it's a long way from being accepted in the mainstream.
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For sure. I don’t think so. I mean I think there’s too much judgement |
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"I think its very 'trendy' in the younger group... Will be interesting to see as they age whether they will migrate to a more traditional arrangement ? Could be an interesting social thesis "
I don’t think people that engage in poly will no longer be poly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"What evidence is there that these are enduring complex relationships and not just hook ups
How do you manahe quality poly relationships with children and busy lives in the mix"
Communicate. Know your limits and capacity. And be open to relationships evolving in a variety of ways. |
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"I think so, yes. But I think it's a long way from being accepted in the mainstream.
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For sure. I don’t think so. I mean I think there’s too much judgement"
Its creeping into my vanilla life though, there are now a few people in my friends circle declaring they are poly to the family +social groups |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I think ENM is taking over poly imo"
I think ENM has always been more popular than poly. It’s a broad term and can encompass things like swinging, poly and just open relationships? |
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"I think so, yes. But I think it's a long way from being accepted in the mainstream.
Mrs TMN x
For sure. I don’t think so. I mean I think there’s too much judgement
Its creeping into my vanilla life though, there are now a few people in my friends circle declaring they are poly to the family +social groups "
The thought of telling my small c conservative Jamaican family that I’m poly terrifies me. But my friends I told from the start |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I think poly people are wired that way, and that they've always been there just not so open about it. Much like anything that isn't deamed the norm.
So with that in mind I think the younger generation are more open regarding their sex lives, so it appears that there are more now. "
Agree with all of this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"To expand - I think people are feeling more able to explore different types of non-traditional relationships. Not that they didn't always feel that way.
Mrs TMN x"
yep. Because we’re woke |
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"I think its very 'trendy' in the younger group... Will be interesting to see as they age whether they will migrate to a more traditional arrangement ? Could be an interesting social thesis
I don’t think people that engage in poly will no longer be poly"
No that's isn't what i meant, it was more will they migrate to a traditional family nucleus - but yeah they'll always be poly even with a family.. Hmmm it's interesting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I think its very 'trendy' in the younger group... Will be interesting to see as they age whether they will migrate to a more traditional arrangement ? Could be an interesting social thesis
I don’t think people that engage in poly will no longer be poly
No that's isn't what i meant, it was more will they migrate to a traditional family nucleus - but yeah they'll always be poly even with a family.. Hmmm it's interesting "
Ah I see. I think family structures are forever changing. So I think settling down or having kids will be interesting. Especially to those that reject hierarchy |
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"I think so, yes. But I think it's a long way from being accepted in the mainstream.
Mrs TMN x
For sure. I don’t think so. I mean I think there’s too much judgement
Its creeping into my vanilla life though, there are now a few people in my friends circle declaring they are poly to the family +social groups
The thought of telling my small c conservative Jamaican family that I’m poly terrifies me. But my friends I told from the start"
I can see its very difficult for the family members who discussed it with me (daughters) to wrap their heads around what does it mean |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"To expand - I think people are feeling more able to explore different types of non-traditional relationships. Not that they didn't always feel that way.
Mrs TMN x yep. Because we’re woke
Get out"
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"I think so, yes. But I think it's a long way from being accepted in the mainstream.
Mrs TMN x
For sure. I don’t think so. I mean I think there’s too much judgement
Its creeping into my vanilla life though, there are now a few people in my friends circle declaring they are poly to the family +social groups
The thought of telling my small c conservative Jamaican family that I’m poly terrifies me. But my friends I told from the start
I can see its very difficult for the family members who discussed it with me (daughters) to wrap their heads around what does it mean "
Yeah. But that’s anything not deemed a norm I guess. Sad though |
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Two huge questions there. Both of them can generate enormous and complex responses.
The conclusion I'd draw (without boring you or me with getting it all written down here) is yes and yes.
And I think that opens up a lot of good stuff, and a lot of stuff we can barely even imagine, which could and should be equally good.
20,000 word thesis available to anyone paying £20,000 up front, with a two year deadline because coffee and tennis take priority. |
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By *eliWoman 42 weeks ago
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"To expand - I think people are feeling more able to explore different types of non-traditional relationships. Not that they didn't always feel that way.
Mrs TMN x yep. Because we’re woke
Get out
One of my favourite films"
Woke, poly and Get Out in one thread? Bravo.
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type"
I think so yes but like others I think it's a few decades away from being normalised.
I also think ENM is a more popular description now already. |
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"Would it get awkward when starting a family or wanting to start a family and inheritance issues down the line ?
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Nothing a good solicitor can't sort. There are complexities with many blended families with inheritance etc. Which are common as. |
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
I think so yes but like others I think it's a few decades away from being normalised.
I also think ENM is a more popular description now already."
Is ENM a more contemporary way of describing casual sex? |
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
I think so yes but like others I think it's a few decades away from being normalised.
I also think ENM is a more popular description now already.
Is ENM a more contemporary way of describing casual sex?"
I think some people use it that way. Personally I see it as a more contemporary way of describing swinging. |
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I don't think it's becoming more acceptable. More people know about it thanks to www but people have had 'lodgers', long term 'friends' they socialise, holiday with and spend weekends with since time immemorial. Ethical non monogamy is really just a shorthand way of saying we have agreed to have an open relationship. The vast majority of people still think both are wrong |
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"Two huge questions there. Both of them can generate enormous and complex responses.
The conclusion I'd draw (without boring you or me with getting it all written down here) is yes and yes.
And I think that opens up a lot of good stuff, and a lot of stuff we can barely even imagine, which could and should be equally good.
20,000 word thesis available to anyone paying £20,000 up front, with a two year deadline because coffee and tennis take priority."
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Yeah it’s definitely the latest trend / label for young people.
And nothing wrong with that , kids have always needed labels and subculture to find identity and meaning
So it’s normal and natural for it to expand from
music , art, culture into to sexual identify. |
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"To expand - I think people are feeling more able to explore different types of non-traditional relationships. Not that they didn't always feel that way.
Mrs TMN x yep. Because we’re woke
Get out
One of my favourite films
Woke, poly and Get Out in one thread? Bravo.
x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Would it get awkward when starting a family or wanting to start a family and inheritance issues down the line ?
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Why?
I’m really confused by this?
I think maybe if you’re non hierarchical it might pose a problem because having kids with someone might naturally create hierarchy but there’s plenty of ways to move beyond that.
In terms of inheritance I don’t get it? |
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
I think so yes but like others I think it's a few decades away from being normalised.
I also think ENM is a more popular description now already.
Is ENM a more contemporary way of describing casual sex?"
My understanding is that ENM is an umbrella term that covers polyamory, swinging, open relationships and relationship anarchy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
I think so yes but like others I think it's a few decades away from being normalised.
I also think ENM is a more popular description now already.
Is ENM a more contemporary way of describing casual sex?"
No and above you posting this I even posted with a little definition…
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
I think so yes but like others I think it's a few decades away from being normalised.
I also think ENM is a more popular description now already."
Way more ENM people out there. And it is hopefully really good for normalising different relationship types. But you’re right. We’re probably a few decades away |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I don't think it's becoming more acceptable. More people know about it thanks to www but people have had 'lodgers', long term 'friends' they socialise, holiday with and spend weekends with since time immemorial. Ethical non monogamy is really just a shorthand way of saying we have agreed to have an open relationship. The vast majority of people still think both are wrong "
Yeah I think you’re right. I think even when I’ve told people like colleagues before it is often met with lots of judgement |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Yeah it’s definitely the latest trend / label for young people.
And nothing wrong with that , kids have always needed labels and subculture to find identity and meaning
So it’s normal and natural for it to expand from
music , art, culture into to sexual identify. "
I don’t think it is about needing a label but I think in this case having a label to describe your relationship type is pretty important. So you can express to your romantic connections that you maybe aren’t expecting monogamy.
Besides labels like monogamy and polyamory aren’t new terms? |
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
I think so yes but like others I think it's a few decades away from being normalised.
I also think ENM is a more popular description now already.
Is ENM a more contemporary way of describing casual sex?
My understanding is that ENM is an umbrella term that covers polyamory, swinging, open relationships and relationship anarchy."
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I see quite a few poly people around, the communities are small but growing. People seem to be recognising that it’s an acceptable and valid relationship mode.
Of course there’s push back from traditional entrenched viewpoints but that’s always the case. |
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"Two huge questions there. Both of them can generate enormous and complex responses.
The conclusion I'd draw (without boring you or me with getting it all written down here) is yes and yes.
And I think that opens up a lot of good stuff, and a lot of stuff we can barely even imagine, which could and should be equally good.
20,000 word thesis available to anyone paying £20,000 up front, with a two year deadline because coffee and tennis take priority.
Love this post "
And love you Pickle.
You're one of the ones that make Fab MORE.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Two huge questions there. Both of them can generate enormous and complex responses.
The conclusion I'd draw (without boring you or me with getting it all written down here) is yes and yes.
And I think that opens up a lot of good stuff, and a lot of stuff we can barely even imagine, which could and should be equally good.
20,000 word thesis available to anyone paying £20,000 up front, with a two year deadline because coffee and tennis take priority.
Love this post
And love you Pickle.
You're one of the ones that make Fab MORE.
And MORE is good "
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Dating apps and dating sites have made it easier than ever to connect with people who feel the same way that you do and who are looking for the same things.
Whereas before, it would be a difficult conversation that would have to be broached very carefully.
Now you can simply log on to your app or platform of choice and connect with potential partners who are seeking exactly the same type of relationship as you – no judgement and no fear of being misunderstood.
It has made it so much simpler for like-minded people to meet and explore polyamory in a safe, secure and responsible way, and that’s something that should be celebrated.
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"Yeah it’s definitely the latest trend / label for young people.
And nothing wrong with that , kids have always needed labels and subculture to find identity and meaning
So it’s normal and natural for it to expand from
music , art, culture into to sexual identify.
I don’t think it is about needing a label but I think in this case having a label to describe your relationship type is pretty important. So you can express to your romantic connections that you maybe aren’t expecting monogamy.
Besides labels like monogamy and polyamory aren’t new terms?"
I think we kind of saying the same things in a different way. Labels give identity and security.
Whether you need them, want them, like them or don’t need them, Is a reflection on your need for stability, identity etc |
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"To expand - I think people are feeling more able to explore different types of non-traditional relationships. Not that they didn't always feel that way.
Mrs TMN x yep. Because we’re woke
Get out
One of my favourite films
Woke, poly and Get Out in one thread? Bravo.
x"
Nah, not really 
All of the above? Hugely overrated |
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"Dating apps and dating sites have made it easier than ever to connect with people who feel the same way that you do and who are looking for the same things.
Whereas before, it would be a difficult conversation that would have to be broached very carefully.
Now you can simply log on to your app or platform of choice and connect with potential partners who are seeking exactly the same type of relationship as you – no judgement and no fear of being misunderstood.
It has made it so much simpler for like-minded people to meet and explore polyamory in a safe, secure and responsible way, and that’s something that should be celebrated.
Mr "
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By *odevilWoman 42 weeks ago
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"Would it get awkward when starting a family or wanting to start a family and inheritance issues down the line ?
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Oddly enough, this is actually how it's thought monogamy became the default relationship model.
When humans were nomadic, it was widely accepted that people would have more than one relationship at a time. Only when property ownership became a thing and there was a question mark over children/inheritance did it become expected that women had to stick to one partner so to ensure the integrity of any "heir".
Add to that the integration of religion and the state and that's where we are now.
Personally monogamy doesn't make any sense to me but I find conversations about poly/ENM with mono people a bit frustrating.
I think it's becoming a more talked about thing but in my experience people still tend to see poly/ENM relationships as not "proper" relationships and it gets on my nerves.
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"Would it get awkward when starting a family or wanting to start a family and inheritance issues down the line ?
Oddly enough, this is actually how it's thought monogamy became the default relationship model.
When humans were nomadic, it was widely accepted that people would have more than one relationship at a time. Only when property ownership became a thing and there was a question mark over children/inheritance did it become expected that women had to stick to one partner so to ensure the integrity of any "heir".
Add to that the integration of religion and the state and that's where we are now.
Personally monogamy doesn't make any sense to me but I find conversations about poly/ENM with mono people a bit frustrating.
I think it's becoming a more talked about thing but in my experience people still tend to see poly/ENM relationships as not "proper" relationships and it gets on my nerves.
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I did not know I was ENM. Did not know that. Always thought of myself as simply a sexually greedy basterdo.
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"I think it's become the "in" thing amongst some. The latest trend. Let's see how they all feel as they get older.
Also poly people seem to feel the need to tell you they are poly."
Aye x
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I think it's become the "in" thing amongst some. The latest trend. Let's see how they all feel as they get older.
Also poly people seem to feel the need to tell you they are poly."
We’re not as bad as the atheists. 
But also, have you considered that people are exploring poly and they’re also already older? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I don't know if I'd describe us as poly, because Mr KC doesn't want to meet others on his own. I think ENM decsribes our relationship more accurately, if we have to label it. "
It’s a great term |
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No i don't. I think some people want to be poly, but just don't have the full emotional capability to share a partner with another person emotionally. Having open relationships, with relationship anarcy for sure. But being happy to know that their loved one, loves someone else, just as much as them, with no jealousy/possessiveness involved is a difficult mindset to achieve indeed |
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"Okay I’ll bite what on gods green earth is a poly person
Ooh. Mate.
You'll wish you hadn't  "
I’m hoping that I don’t, and just to make myself clear I’m not trying to be offensive in any way as I have a funny feeling it’s something along the LBGQT lines |
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"Okay I’ll bite what on gods green earth is a poly person
Ooh. Mate.
You'll wish you hadn't
I’m hoping that I don’t, and just to make myself clear I’m not trying to be offensive in any way as I have a funny feeling it’s something along the LBGQT lines "
It's nothing to do with LGBTQ+.
Just a recently re-appropriated term for an old, old sexual kink: you maybe in a relationship, but it's 'open' to one or both of you, with full consent; get it?
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"No i don't. I think some people want to be poly, but just don't have the full emotional capability to share a partner with another person emotionally. Having open relationships, with relationship anarcy for sure. But being happy to know that their loved one, loves someone else, just as much as them, with no jealousy/possessiveness involved is a difficult mindset to achieve indeed"
This is so real! Funny, it was you that taught me the term compersion. And I get it. Like I feel so happy to see my partners happy. And I love that they can love and be loved and find fulfilment in more than just one person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I would love to explore a polly relationship just doesn't seem to be many around x"
I think feels and OkC are where I’ve found a load. I’m also going to a poly event for PoC in London next month. Trying to surround myself with others that get it |
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"No i don't. I think some people want to be poly, but just don't have the full emotional capability to share a partner with another person emotionally. Having open relationships, with relationship anarcy for sure. But being happy to know that their loved one, loves someone else, just as much as them, with no jealousy/possessiveness involved is a difficult mindset to achieve indeed"
Interesting - I've been actively consciously deliberately poly for over 5 years...and I don't personally experience jealousy nor possessiveness. Sure I've had times of feeling insecure, but I've talked those through with the relevant person/people and moved on from it. Wasn't hard, or "difficult to achieve". It's all felt pretty easy and natural to me. Perhaps the people that say "ooh poly is too hard" really mean "it's not for me" - but we're all individuals and ymmv, not everyone experiences the negatives you've described, nor the other clichés that inevitably come up when this topic comes up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Okay I’ll bite what on gods green earth is a poly person "
Well everyone does polyamory different but I’d say that it’s essentially a person with capabilities of having more than one romantic partner or someone in a relationship with more than one romantic partner. |
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"No i don't. I think some people want to be poly, but just don't have the full emotional capability to share a partner with another person emotionally. Having open relationships, with relationship anarcy for sure. But being happy to know that their loved one, loves someone else, just as much as them, with no jealousy/possessiveness involved is a difficult mindset to achieve indeed
Interesting - I've been actively consciously deliberately poly for over 5 years...and I don't personally experience jealousy nor possessiveness. Sure I've had times of feeling insecure, but I've talked those through with the relevant person/people and moved on from it. Wasn't hard, or "difficult to achieve". It's all felt pretty easy and natural to me. Perhaps the people that say "ooh poly is too hard" really mean "it's not for me" - but we're all individuals and ymmv, not everyone experiences the negatives you've described, nor the other clichés that inevitably come up when this topic comes up. "
This is true.
I think essentially I believe that you either are poly or you aren’t. And I think that people try it and it’s not for them. Or they aren’t able to do it. There’s also the factor of societal influences and our learned ideas of romantic relationships. But I do think it’s not for everyone. Not everyone can do it. |
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"Okay I’ll bite what on gods green earth is a poly person
Ooh. Mate.
You'll wish you hadn't
I’m hoping that I don’t, and just to make myself clear I’m not trying to be offensive in any way as I have a funny feeling it’s something along the LBGQT lines
It's nothing to do with LGBTQ+.
Just a recently re-appropriated term for an old, old sexual kink: you maybe in a relationship, but it's 'open' to one or both of you, with full consent; get it?
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More than what? More than when? More than where?
I do feel as tho more people are open to discussing it and trying to understand it rather than just dismissing it as “open” or having an affair but the other half knows about it. Altho, it’s different for everyone so communication is essential. |
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By *unchalMan 42 weeks ago
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type"
‘Poly’? Don’t we already have words for that? You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual? Is this another attempt to manage an intrinsic homophobia in the ‘swinging’ world? It reminds of all those straight men out there who love nothing than a bit of hard cock. |
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So let me ask y'all...
Where does ethics come into getting yer rocks off?
When all you want is to get... satisfied? 
I don’t get it. "
Whaddya not get Pickles?
Yer Rocks off?
Because you have 'values?'
Might wanna reevaluate |
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"No i don't. I think some people want to be poly, but just don't have the full emotional capability to share a partner with another person emotionally. Having open relationships, with relationship anarcy for sure. But being happy to know that their loved one, loves someone else, just as much as them, with no jealousy/possessiveness involved is a difficult mindset to achieve indeed
Interesting - I've been actively consciously deliberately poly for over 5 years...and I don't personally experience jealousy nor possessiveness. Sure I've had times of feeling insecure, but I've talked those through with the relevant person/people and moved on from it. Wasn't hard, or "difficult to achieve". It's all felt pretty easy and natural to me. Perhaps the people that say "ooh poly is too hard" really mean "it's not for me" - but we're all individuals and ymmv, not everyone experiences the negatives you've described, nor the other clichés that inevitably come up when this topic comes up. "
Did ye, aye?
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
‘Poly’? Don’t we already have words for that? You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual? Is this another attempt to manage an intrinsic homophobia in the ‘swinging’ world? It reminds of all those straight men out there who love nothing than a bit of hard cock. "
Poly doesn't mean homosexual, no. Heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual people could be polyamorous. It means having more than one romantic partner at once, but with the full consent and knowledge of all parties. |
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So let me ask y'all...
Where does ethics come into getting yer rocks off?
When all you want is to get... satisfied?
I don’t get it.
Whaddya not get Pickles?
Yer Rocks off?
Because you have 'values?'
Might wanna reevaluate "
I dunno what getting my rocks off means that’s all |
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So let me ask y'all...
Where does ethics come into getting yer rocks off?
When all you want is to get... satisfied?
I don’t get it.
Whaddya not get Pickles?
Yer Rocks off?
Because you have 'values?'
Might wanna reevaluate
I dunno what getting my rocks off means that’s all "
Meaning of get your rocks off in English:
"get your rocks off"
idiom UK slang
to have an orgasm |
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By *unchalMan 42 weeks ago
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
‘Poly’? Don’t we already have words for that? You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual? Is this another attempt to manage an intrinsic homophobia in the ‘swinging’ world? It reminds of all those straight men out there who love nothing than a bit of hard cock.
Poly doesn't mean homosexual, no. Heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual people could be polyamorous. It means having more than one romantic partner at once, but with the full consent and knowledge of all parties. "
I see. Poly amorous and not poly sexual. So that would be ménage à trois then? We already have words. Why are we trying to confuse everyone by creating new words?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"More than what? More than when? More than where?
I do feel as tho more people are open to discussing it and trying to understand it rather than just dismissing it as “open” or having an affair but the other half knows about it. Altho, it’s different for everyone so communication is essential. "
I think people are curious. But still judgemental |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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So let me ask y'all...
Where does ethics come into getting yer rocks off?
When all you want is to get... satisfied?
I don’t get it.
Whaddya not get Pickles?
Yer Rocks off?
Because you have 'values?'
Might wanna reevaluate
I dunno what getting my rocks off means that’s all
Meaning of get your rocks off in English:
"get your rocks off"
idiom UK slang
to have an orgasm"
Ooooooooohhhhh |
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I think it's being talked about more which is great, especially if people are willing to listen and try to understand or at least not judge. Like a lot of things, we still have a long way to go but looking at the younger generation, views are definitely changing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"As figures show that there are less people in any relationship. I would guess the answer is no. "
Yeah I think relationships aren’t priority for a lot of people anymore |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
‘Poly’? Don’t we already have words for that? You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual? Is this another attempt to manage an intrinsic homophobia in the ‘swinging’ world? It reminds of all those straight men out there who love nothing than a bit of hard cock.
Poly doesn't mean homosexual, no. Heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual people could be polyamorous. It means having more than one romantic partner at once, but with the full consent and knowledge of all parties. "
Yeah this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
‘Poly’? Don’t we already have words for that? You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual? Is this another attempt to manage an intrinsic homophobia in the ‘swinging’ world? It reminds of all those straight men out there who love nothing than a bit of hard cock.
Poly doesn't mean homosexual, no. Heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual people could be polyamorous. It means having more than one romantic partner at once, but with the full consent and knowledge of all parties.
I see. Poly amorous and not poly sexual. So that would be ménage à trois then? We already have words. Why are we trying to confuse everyone by creating new words?
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Isn’t this just three? And also with poly, I think people aren’t always in relationships with each other. Thruples are a form of poly I think. But they’re not the only |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"No! We're the only ones left, so you know what that means right?? Is there going to be an orgy
I can dream  "
Ooh I dunno if I can do that. 
But I’ll watch and take notes |
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
‘Poly’? Don’t we already have words for that? You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual? Is this another attempt to manage an intrinsic homophobia in the ‘swinging’ world? It reminds of all those straight men out there who love nothing than a bit of hard cock.
Poly doesn't mean homosexual, no. Heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual people could be polyamorous. It means having more than one romantic partner at once, but with the full consent and knowledge of all parties.
I see. Poly amorous and not poly sexual. So that would be ménage à trois then? We already have words. Why are we trying to confuse everyone by creating new words?
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Polyamorous has nothing to do with having a three some. It's about having more than one romantic relationship, or wanting to and being open to the idea. Having the ability to romantically love more than one person at a time. There's different types of Poly, of course but it's more to do with love than sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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"I think it's being talked about more which is great, especially if people are willing to listen and try to understand or at least not judge. Like a lot of things, we still have a long way to go but looking at the younger generation, views are definitely changing. "
The kids are going to be alright.
I’m gen Z.
I’m the kids. |
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"I think it's being talked about more which is great, especially if people are willing to listen and try to understand or at least not judge. Like a lot of things, we still have a long way to go but looking at the younger generation, views are definitely changing.
The kids are going to be alright.
I’m gen Z.
I’m the kids. "
Haha! I was more referring to the teenagers at present Listening to conversations with my teenager and her friends, they are a lot more open and non judgmental than a lot of people in my generation. |
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Depends on your definition of polyamory I guess. The ones I have read state “being in romantic or sexual relationships with more than one person”
As such, swinging, by and large, is having sexual relations with more than one person, ergo all swingers are polyamorous, under that definition.
There was no mention of “love” or emotions in any of the first 5 hits of a Google search.
Of course OP you may have a more refined, or nuanced definition. But as a person, labels limit us, is my take. To each their own, but I would rather wake each day, not being defined by such arbitrary descriptors and “choose my own adventure” so to speak. |
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"Depends on your definition of polyamory I guess. The ones I have read state “being in romantic or sexual relationships with more than one person”
As such, swinging, by and large, is having sexual relations with more than one person, ergo all swingers are polyamorous, under that definition.
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That's not what Pickle means. Polyam folks have, or rather are capable of having, multiple simultaneously relationships. Just fucking around is...well... it's fucking around. It ain't polyamory. But of course some poly folks love to fuck around. They're just not the same thing though |
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"Depends on your definition of polyamory I guess. The ones I have read state “being in romantic or sexual relationships with more than one person”
As such, swinging, by and large, is having sexual relations with more than one person, ergo all swingers are polyamorous, under that definition.
That's not what Pickle means. Polyam folks have, or rather are capable of having, multiple simultaneously relationships. Just fucking around is...well... it's fucking around. It ain't polyamory. But of course some poly folks love to fuck around. They're just not the same thing though "
As I said, I only googled a definition. To each their own, I am not here to judge how people live, far from, what makes the world wonderful is that we can all be who we want to be. |
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type
‘Poly’? Don’t we already have words for that? You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual? Is this another attempt to manage an intrinsic homophobia in the ‘swinging’ world? It reminds of all those straight men out there who love nothing than a bit of hard cock.
Poly doesn't mean homosexual, no. Heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual people could be polyamorous. It means having more than one romantic partner at once, but with the full consent and knowledge of all parties.
I see. Poly amorous and not poly sexual. So that would be ménage à trois then? We already have words. Why are we trying to confuse everyone by creating new words?
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Again, no. Poly people might have more than one lover in their bed simultaneously, but the "having a romantic relationship with more than one person" mainly relates to a parallel-type arrangement. Ethically and consensually "dating" more than one person in the same period of time. E.g. me being married to Mr KC but also having a romantic relationship with another person or people. I might only ever do the Sex with one of those people at once, though. All people would be aware of the situation and be happy with it. |
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"Do you think there’s more poly people out there? Is it becoming a more socially accepted relationship type"
Amongst my younger friends, it seems to be more common than I realised until recently, and it is certainly more acceptable amongst that group, although at the same time I think the term 'poly' is used very loosely. |
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"I think ENM is taking over poly imo"
I'd agree with that statement, and also add CNM to it as well, although the two are essentially the same. Most would consider they are anyway, though there can be some differences.
Perhaps we need a ECNM |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Haven’t stepped into poly territory at all ourselves yet but it’s a serious consideration we have and have talked about for a while now
No idea where to start though and of course not any old Tom, dick, harry if we made the leap. Only with the right people and at a good slow pace |
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