I was brought up to say please and thank you, yet it appears that more and more people forget their manners these days
You open a door for someone else to walk through, you give way to oncoming traffic and you get treated like you're invisible!
And if you dare say 'Good morning' to people in the street, they look at you like you've just dropped your trousers and had a crap on the floor! 
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And if you dare say 'Good morning' to people in the street, they look at you like you've just dropped your trousers and had a crap on the floor!"
They probably assume you're about to ask how much they currently pay for their gas and electricity. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Was visiting London vist sister. I always say to bus driver thank you which they really appreciate
Stand up to gave a seat to a pregnant woman .what is with society kind words good
Kind deeds better |
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By *CLM87Woman 35 weeks ago
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I'm originally from Herts... been up here 5 years now (still clinging onto my accent for dear life)
But I was brought up to say please and thank you.
Always to say good morning or smile.
I do sometimes like to shout thank you when someone hasn't.. 
Also when I'm shopping and have loads of things, letting someone go infront who only has a couple of items. |
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I’m always well mannered always open a door for a lady. Always say thank you or no thank you.
Even if I go on a date I like to bring flowers or chocolates for a lady. But sadly that hasn’t happened for a long time |
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By *ACOLCouple 35 weeks ago
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I guess it depends on where you live, we live in what is consider a small town, so people are prone to be more polite. But the moment we go to bigger cities boom, everyone acts like if they were born on a barn.
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Can't say I've noticed much difference in recent years and it's certainly not location linked.
My experience just through work has been that there can be many different factors.
Having supplied the licensed trade for more than 2 decades I can say that pub landlords are by far the rudest and most ignorant group of people I have ever met.
Those I have dealt with in retail have been a mixed bunch at both ends of the rudeness spectrum while most of those I know in non licensed hospitality are very approachable and welcoming.
I have opened doors for many people and most have thanked me but I have also received verbal abuse from a number of women for doing so.
I've been called a pig and an idiot and told they didn't need a man to open a door for them and one asked if my parents were proud of the fact they had raised a prick?
I used to drive 1200 miles every week and have seen every variation on road rage so nothing surprises me these days but in general most drivers are ok in regard to letting people out of junctions etc with the odd exception.
I said above that it's not location linked but I do know quite a few people visiting from England who really struggle with how many people they pass on the streets here say hello or acknowledge them. They say that's all alien to them.
Again not everyone here does that and many just carry on about their own business with no engagement with those around them so it's not true to say that every Irish person is welcoming.
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"I was brought up to say please and thank you, yet it appears that more and more people forget their manners these days
You open a door for someone else to walk through, you give way to oncoming traffic and you get treated like you're invisible!
And if you dare say 'Good morning' to people in the street, they look at you like you've just dropped your trousers and had a crap on the floor!
What's going on with the world today? "
I'm not sure i ever get that its all about looking welcoming, i guess i walk round with a smile on my face so people smile back and say hello and when driving i occasionally let people out or go first on narrow roads and thank those that do, i guess you must live in a miserable area lol  |
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"I carry in regardless. I’m not going to stop being polite because people are not used to it.
Kill em with kindness - my new motto. "
I am pretty much the same tbh. In many cases you can break the glass with your own good manners and kindness. What I find is that so many people walk around as they are about to hit you. Perhaps the kind of fast paced life we all live, personal problems or even fear, who knows, but is not nice to see and personally believe it got worse after covid. Oh well, onwards and upwards with manners and kindness. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"The manners thing is a given, we all should say please and thank you. But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness "
I kinda disagree, it may be a little weird these days but saying hello to someone you meet in the street is a simple act of kindness that could mean so much. In the chaos of modern life it’s easy to forget/become more socially acceptable to just walk past someone you meet on the street and not make eye contact or say hello. For some people that little hello/good morning could be their only social interaction for the day, it could be the the little reminder that they are seen. It’s takes very little but means quite a lot.
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I do sometimes like to shout thank you when someone hasn't..
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If "manners maketh man" as someone said,
He's the hero of the day.
It takes a man to suffer ignorance and smile,
Be yourself, no matter what they say.
OK, you're not a man. Nor an alien (as far as I can tell). I prefer to quietly mutter the "thank you" to myself when someone has forgotten to to do so themself. I just don't want to risk the other party thinking they're being thanked for being a twat... |
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"But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness
Totally agree. Smartphones mean you don't even need to ask a stranger for directions any more  "
I often say Hi to strangers and start conversations. I tip low paid staff as long as they do their job OK. I don’t really notice if people use please & thank you, it’s quite an English thing and most people I interact don’t have English as first language and prefer more direct communication. |
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Is it really that bad? There has always been rude people and people have always tended to ignore you more in big cities than in smaller towns and villages. I don’t think it is getting worse.
Try to be as polite as you can to people and it tends to come back to you is the way I see things. |
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"The manners thing is a given, we all should say please and thank you. But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness "
Well you live in a city and in fact a very multi cultural city but weirdly enough devon and cornwall full of brummies, i was talking to one the other day lived in Dorset for 30 years and still had a brummie accent whats that all about |
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