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Struggling to get first meet
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Hey OP, welcome to fab and the forums. You are not the first to ask this question and certainly won’t be the last.
People here are helpful and you will get some feedback, but the best thing you can do is a forum search on the subject. It’s been covered hundreds of times so you’ll soon see the common themes and work stuff out from there.
In a nutshell:- relax, don’t push or rush it, have some interesting pictures and words on your bio; be yourself and never, ever send unsolicited dick pics.
Remember also that you are among a sea of men trying to attract 3.5 women. It takes time, good luck and the best opening message ever sent to any person ever. In the history of the internet.
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By *orny-DJMan 35 weeks ago
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I'd suggest you ask yourself what your expectations were when joining the site, and then radically realign them.
Most single guys on here wait anything from 6 months to a year to get their first meet. Some fair better and others less so.
Moaning about not getting anywhere after just over a month screams of a sense of entitlement. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Honestly
Your age range will limit your chances.
You don't need to repeat in the bio what's stated in the description
You have no profile pic which limits your views as there's a percentage here that block silhouettes
You've only been here 4 weeks, that's like 4 seconds in the scope of time here
Being picky....some women don't mind being called girls, others will vomit at it
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. As said above there's plenty of threads with advice if you use the search
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
Get some ass mouth or cock instead much easier.. don’t worry we won’t tell ya mates  |
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Have a scan around and get a feel for profiles that work. Nick shit and make it your own. Not the photos though.
You will get advice, left, right and Chelsea and that might actually make things harder for you. Although harder than zero meets is very hard.
Stick with it, there's some good advice above. Failing that, masturbate. It's great. You can think of different women every time. |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
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My mum still remembers you. Paintballing was a mistake but she liked that you took a thermos of tea. |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
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Ahh but the effort out in js might and day.
The OP vs you...
Will it be it contestant A : Cock meets world
Or contestant B: the Mmilk Tray man and Peak Nigel Havers Havers rolled into one.
Tough call. |
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It's right to be ignored, if you're not matched. Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.
It usually takes many months for single men to get established and to find their feet. It's easy to learn that no answer means no thanks. Most people haven't the time to reply to most unsolicited interest.
If your profile sells you well, so we'd know what you are going to add to our sex and the pics reveal who we would consider engaging our body with, then it's up to us and our imagination, to see how much we'd like this or not.
Socials and clubs let you meet us in person. |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
My mum still remembers you. Paintballing was a mistake but she liked that you took a thermos of tea."
 I think I  you! |
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I would reconsider the profile. Pick a profile picture. Have a variety of body shots, not just your penis. (Face not necessary)
Consider if your profile text portrays you in the best light to people who might be interested in you.
Consider clubs or socials to get the ball rolling |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
My mum still remembers you. Paintballing was a mistake but she liked that you took a thermos of tea.
I think I you! "
That's because he's lovely.
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
My mum still remembers you. Paintballing was a mistake but she liked that you took a thermos of tea.
I think I you!
That's because he's lovely.
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Ah you’re lovely too, hope you’re keeping well |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
My mum still remembers you. Paintballing was a mistake but she liked that you took a thermos of tea.
I think I you!
That's because he's lovely.
Ah you’re lovely too, hope you’re keeping well "
Thanks, very kind of you to say.
Honestly, not been great lately.
Sorry to be a downer.
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
Don’t set up a thread asking for help then DM the women who reply. It feels creepy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
This question comes up often.
But in your case, you deserve it.
Seriously.
No face pic.
Then you have a grubby looking dik taken in he dark. Sorry, probably that maybe a good thing.
I never check any woman’s profile if it’s a black silhouette.
I don’t have dik pics. And I send a face pic. Most reply. Need not be a yes, but they took the effort to reply.
Within a few days you will get replies. |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Don’t set up a thread asking for help then DM the women who reply. It feels creepy. "
That's because it is creepy |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I would reconsider the profile. Pick a profile picture. Have a variety of body shots, not just your penis. (Face not necessary)
Consider if your profile text portrays you in the best light to people who might be interested in you.
Consider clubs or socials to get the ball rolling "
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You've been on here for 4 months - dig in for the long haul brother!
PS: Your profile is uninformative and doesn't inspire, so needs a revamp. As a single male you're in the majority looking for the minority. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
Your write up is good.
So you just need to sort out the pics.
Face pics can be private and sent in messages.
See the lady’s tips to pics.
Good luck buddy. |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
Your profile screams married and dodgy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Your profile screams married and dodgy. "
One lady’s opinion is worth a hundred men’s opinion. Unless of course you are seeking men  |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
I feel ya pal then soon as I seem to get somewhere through messages, if it’s a new day the interest usually wanes.
The worst part for me is when I’ve read the profile thoroughly, sent a face pic as requested (even worse when their profile is bare) and constructed a well thought out message.
I understand the whole single male, unverified and time wasted arguments but some form of feedback as to their reasoning would go a long way, for me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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From the day I was born I had to wait about 18 years before it got sexy. … patience.
A month isn’t a long time on here, and if I wanted to look for a profile I liked, I’d think what I want to find… try thinking that way op.
Do they have some clear photos showing who I’d expect to meet? Is their text showing some personality who I would interact with? Do they display some idea of what type of sexual adventure we might go on? ..
and then I’d do my own profile that way, just a thought.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
Matey put up pics
Chat on the forum. Then they check your profile up
Ps 1 tip no Richard pics
the number good Christians women on here do not want to see him .
It will work belive me
Am in Belfast LOL
Chat on here |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Hi there and welcome to Fab and the forums.
If you are genuinely looking for feedback and guidance/suggestions here goes.
As nearly everyone has said; four weeks is barely a blink, so if you joined expecting a deluge of eager wenches within days you might need a rethink.
I see that previous posters have made suggestions regarding your photo library which is now empty, so I am hopeful that you are working on the suggestions given. Just for confirmation, hardly any woman will be enticed in by just a penis (fyi you’ve all got them).
You can’t do a thing about being young, but accept that it will rule out a reasonable number of potential connections. So focus on those who are seeking a connection in your age group and just waft the rest of us aside.
I hope you read the suggestions people have shared and make an informed decision as to whether this is the place for you right now. |
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused
Over a month eh?
How strange, I managed to get a social meet with a lovely lady on my second day here.
My mum still remembers you. Paintballing was a mistake but she liked that you took a thermos of tea."
Tea? That was my very best homemade watercress soup.......
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"I’ve been on fab over a month now and still struggling to get my first meet
Getting ignored
Am I doing something wrong, does my profile need sorted
Very confused "
You have no pics lots will discount you just because of that and your write up asks them to come to you, youve got to be more out there show a bit of personality  |
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"You have to ask yourself OP what makes your profile and first messages stand out from the 1000’s of other men here? "
Being a pussy lover? Surely there is a shortage of them in a predominantly dog loving arena? |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Yet another ‘please help me’ thread where the OP gets loads of constructive help, does nothing about it and then drops off the radar.
Why do we bother?!  "
As long as they keep being themselves, we can only be the same. |
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Hello OP.
First and foremost, people are not interested in meeting with silhouettes. So you might want to consider putting on some form of profile pic.
On the subject of which, try uploading some public pics. Next time its a nice day get out and take some nice selfies. You can always blur or pixelate your face to preserve privacy if that's your concern. It will brighten up your profile and maybe make you more memorable to those who view it.
On the subject of your profile, you appear to have no consideration for others and just simply want to get your end away and you don't seem to care who with, is that the impression you want to make?
You might want to consider how you are coming across to others. Both your current advertised meets come across that you only want to meet to get verified; ask yourself how many people will be turned on by being used that way? How many people do you think will want to meet with you just to make it easier for you to meet others?
You could also rewrite your profile to say less about what you want and more about what you offer to others.
Ultmimately what you do is up to you, but we offer our advice as a couple that do meet guys like you, but would forget your profile in an instant in its present form.
Good luck
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"It's the 5'11 bit, women lose their minds if you ain't 6 foot."
Phfttt.
Speaking as a "high five" bloke I lose all interest if her cup size would be a GCSE pass score.
(I'm talking complete bollocks, obviously). |
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