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Do you live one day at a time?
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A close friend has cancer, she’s fought the beast and is now under a ninety day test regime; she’s basically living her life in 90 day segments and spending time with her is empowering!
All of the day to crap that seems important is totally irrelevant to her, she’s all about quality times and making memories   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Sorry what was the question  "
Haha.
The question is because of a certain thread that’s posted weekly. What are you doing tonight? Etc.
And it does make you think, I know what I’d like to do. I know what I think I’m probably going to be doing, but if something came along that sounded cool. I’ll probably go for it. I really do try to live life like that now, otherwise, I think I will miss out on things that might not be presented to me in the future. |
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I would say generally not. I like to be organised and know what’s going on. Although I often have moments, a friend died last year and it changed my perspective quite a bit and I adopted the fuck it, life’s too short attitude. I’d say I’m a bit of both depending on my mood! |
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I think it also depends on how your actual life goes too (sorry I’ve got my serious head on for a change!). When I found out my child had issues I pretty much fell apart with what if this what if that, she’ll never have a normal life etc. the only way I could deal with it all is take it not more than a week at a time as nobody knows what will happen. Same with my mum recently with her dementia. I was so upset and worried about what will happen eventually that it was affecting the time we do have where she still knows what’s going on. Sometimes you really do need to take it one day at a time, as hard as it can be  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Yes I rarely look ahead into the future. Life has taught me that shit will and can change in a blink of an eye so I tend to take each day as it comes. "
I can relate. I had my whole future in front of me., and it’s gone. So I have a choice, I plan for it all again for something to happen, like you said and it can be taken away easily.
I’m not saying having something to look forward to is not nice, it’s just plans can change.
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I do plan ahead for specific events but in general I just take it day by day.
One of the side effects of anhedonia is an inability to get excited about future events and it's all about living in the moment so that's my only excuse. |
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"I think it also depends on how your actual life goes too (sorry I’ve got my serious head on for a change!). When I found out my child had issues I pretty much fell apart with what if this what if that, she’ll never have a normal life etc. the only way I could deal with it all is take it not more than a week at a time as nobody knows what will happen. Same with my mum recently with her dementia. I was so upset and worried about what will happen eventually that it was affecting the time we do have where she still knows what’s going on. Sometimes you really do need to take it one day at a time, as hard as it can be "
You are absolutely right and hope that it works for you to deal with all that. |
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By *929Man 36 weeks ago
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"No I like routine and planning/working towards future goals
You should be a life coach. "
Haha thanks mate the problem with my approach though is if you die early it’s all for nothing haha all my friends are same age and while they were having holidays every year driving nice cars living it up ect I was staying in and just working to make my life easier rationalising I can do all that when I’m older but a mate suddenly dying in 2022 made me question is this the right approach? |
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"No I like routine and planning/working towards future goals
You should be a life coach.
Haha thanks mate the problem with my approach though is if you die early it’s all for nothing haha all my friends are same age and while they were having holidays every year driving nice cars living it up ect I was staying in and just working to make my life easier rationalising I can do all that when I’m older but a mate suddenly dying in 2022 made me question is this the right approach? "
Very sorry to hear that. Possibly, like many things, the answer lies somewhere in the middle |
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I like to have things in my diary to look forward to, so I have plenty of planning going on most of the time. But equally, I'm pretty spontaneous and will grab an opportunity if it presents, and it works for my circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"I like to have things in my diary to look forward to, so I have plenty of planning going on most of the time. But equally, I'm pretty spontaneous and will grab an opportunity if it presents, and it works for my circumstances. "
You have to plan stuff sometimes when people are so damn far away  |
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