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Is fitness and body shape a issue when choosing someone on fab ?
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Fitness, no.
Body shape... certainly! Let be honest here, we all want to have sex with people we find attractive right?
Is the only, or even the most important factor? Of course not but, obviously it matters, and anyone who says it 100% doesn't matter to them... I think you're probably lying to yourself. |
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"Yes, which is hypocritical of me, but I prefer average/gymfit, dad-bod men.
Yet I expect them to want me!  "
Of course you're a hypocrite. You're a human! Find me a person who isn't a hypocrite and I'll show you someone who is extremely good at manipulation and being deceptive but, is still a hypocrite!
Nothing wrong with hypocrisy, so long as you're aware and own it. X |
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"Yes, which is hypocritical of me, but I prefer average/gymfit, dad-bod men.
Yet I expect them to want me! "
From your comments on the forums you seem like a fun individual and your pictures are very nice.
What fool wouldn't want you?
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"What's your say on this subject ? "
Neither of us are a attracted to extremes whether it's VERY muscular, VERY thin, VERY fat, etc... but every thing else is fine for us.
Personality is a thousand times more important.
Cal |
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By *ewcatWoman 44 weeks ago
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Absolutely. There are many physical attributes that I find attractive, physical fitness being one of them. But it has to be combined with a personality I find attractive too. I can’t do either/or it has to be both. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"What's your say on this subject ?
Yes it is, the last time I back shotted a big bird I had a trip around the living room with my feet off the floor dug into the leg fat."
I wish I understood what this means? |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"What's your say on this subject ?
Yes it is, the last time I back shotted a big bird I had a trip around the living room with my feet off the floor dug into the leg fat.
I wish I understood what this means?"
. Roughly equates to I don’t know how to handle a voluptuous women  |
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By *andT2023Couple 44 weeks ago
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Through being on this site i have discovered i absolutely do have a type .. didnt realise prior. But that has to be backed up by personality.
But fitness is another beast altogether ..i dont expect someone to drop and do 100 pressups to prove stamina ...i have better tests lol.
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In the past I was definitely more attracted to slim small men as that's my husband's body type.
It's not as important to me anymore tho theirs alot more things other than body type that catch my attention. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Fitness, no. I’d be a real hypocrite considering I’ve seen the inside of a gym twice my whole life
Body shape is a big factor as well as other things when it comes to finding someone attractive. |
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"What's your say on this subject ?
Yes it is, the last time I back shotted a big bird I had a trip around the living room with my feet off the floor dug into the leg fat.
I wish I understood what this means?"
I really don't think you do lol
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I don't go for a particular level of fitness or a particular body type myself.
I'm a big lady so I understand not everyone will want to fuck me and that's fine.
Preferences are good things to have. The issue often lies in the fact that some aren't able to express their preferences without intending to cause offence.
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Level of fitness doesn't come into it. My ideal body is the opposite of mine - gym fit, ripped & tall.
However, in practice, I've had lots of fun this & many other body types as if I like the person, then their body is automatically attractive to me.
I only draw the line at exceptionally slim or obese. |
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I have never been attracted to conventionally beautiful people. Attraction is so subjective from the way they carry their personality or attitude, their kindness, wisdom or intellect to something even more obscure like the freckles on their skin. Just saying  |
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By *ornycougaWoman 44 weeks ago
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I can't lie, yes. Superficially I'm attracted to a slimmer body shape.
I need stamina so fitness in that respect is important, but a ripped physique is nice to look at, but otherwise not essential at all. |
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By *rispyDuckMan 44 weeks ago
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Won’t lie it does play a role 
I have to be attracted to the person so gotta be in decent shape. Not looking for an Elite athlete body shape but can’t be too big or too petite that I can break your pelvis with 1 thrust lol  it’s a preference |
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"I have never been attracted to conventionally beautiful people. Attraction is so subjective from the way they carry their personality or attitude, their kindness, wisdom or intellect to something even more obscure like the freckles on their skin. Just saying "
Oh and this! This sums up attraction for me perfectly |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Not really, it's always tended to be more about personality and facial attraction than body type for me. I know how hard it is to maintain a good gym body too so think it would be harsh of me to expect that from others. |
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By *avexxMan 44 weeks ago
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"Not really, it's always tended to be more about personality and facial attraction than body type for me. I know how hard it is to maintain a good gym body too so think it would be harsh of me to expect that from others."
,, this
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"Through being on this site i have discovered i absolutely do have a type .. didnt realise prior. But that has to be backed up by personality.
But fitness is another beast altogether ..i dont expect someone to drop and do 100 pressups to prove stamina ...i have better tests lol.
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We have a winner ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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i feel sometimes people judge the person on how they look when going to meet, like ive been in convos with people who said they wouldnt have messaged as their bodies not like mine, if you like someone no matter how you look go for it. |
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"i feel sometimes people judge the person on how they look when going to meet, like ive been in convos with people who said they wouldnt have messaged as their bodies not like mine, if you like someone no matter how you look go for it."
I'll be honest and have wondered why an athletic or slim guy would be interested in a chubster like me, but then I remember that my (very slim) husband probably wouldn't have stuck around for 20yrs, through thick, thin and disability, if he didn't REALLY love me. So nowadays, I try not to think like that.
I think growing up in the 80s and 90s, you were made to feel like being a fat woman was immediately unattractive and against societal norms of beauty. Just looking at the magazines that sat in waiting rooms told us that - any female celebrity who had apparently gained a pound was scrutinised and criticised at all angles. It's hard not to internalise that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"i feel sometimes people judge the person on how they look when going to meet, like ive been in convos with people who said they wouldnt have messaged as their bodies not like mine, if you like someone no matter how you look go for it.
I'll be honest and have wondered why an athletic or slim guy would be interested in a chubster like me, but then I remember that my (very slim) husband probably wouldn't have stuck around for 20yrs, through thick, thin and disability, if he didn't REALLY love me. So nowadays, I try not to think like that.
I think growing up in the 80s and 90s, you were made to feel like being a fat woman was immediately unattractive and against societal norms of beauty. Just looking at the magazines that sat in waiting rooms told us that - any female celebrity who had apparently gained a pound was scrutinised and criticised at all angles. It's hard not to internalise that. "
i agree with that its a stigma that a lot of people hold and we do it to ourselves also by thinking we need to all look one way x |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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But the fact remains that it’s different strokes for different folks! A lot of ripped guys are attracted to curvier/bigger women (I love this for me!) and still it baffles me!! And vice versa! We like what we like…sad that there is so much stigma around it!
My partner is in the forces, he is in excellent shape and when we train together (daily!) the assumption from most is that he must be my pt!  |
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By *host63Man 44 weeks ago
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"It does whether people admit it or not. Some body shapes people just aren't attracted too, even if their personality is amazing and everything else fits."
Because its not PC? Women are fussed about things more than men |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"It does whether people admit it or not. Some body shapes people just aren't attracted too, even if their personality is amazing and everything else fits.
Because its not PC? Women are fussed about things more than men"
Why is it not PC to not be attracted to someone? There is nothing at all wrong with politely declining someone’s interest if they aren’t for you! Psychologically women see sex differently to men. We need more animal attraction to be able to sleep with someone, whereas men can detach a lot more simply |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"What's your say on this subject ? "
I have a 'type' yet every time someone makes the final cut, they tend to not be my type afterall hah.
So, yes it matters as first impressions. But there's room for convincing also.
Personality is hugely attractive but there has to be an element of physical attraction too even if it's lower down the priorities |
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"What's your say on this subject ? "
It isn’t for me but naturally, just as it is in the real world it does play a big factor for some. Plus people join to explore their fantasy, with a fantasy guy and that tends to be guys with certain body types and shapes, which is natural tbf  |
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By *m3232Man 44 weeks ago
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Yes my main attraction is the slim bodybuilder type lady but these are almost impossible to find. I also love slim to medium type body’s as lots of ladies rock that look.
Bbw or sbbw isn’t for me as I don’t find that look attractive. |
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"Not particularly, but it would be a bonus. What I am more interested in is someone that has a good personality and has the ability to laugh."
^^^^^^^ this for me - someone who can make me laugh and who's personality shines through - body shape is there, but it doesnt have to be a gym fit hunk, its great to look at but i want to laugh to.
Besides Im more than just a body, my brain needs to be engaged too. |
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Been a BHM myself, I know I'm not everyone cup of tea.
I don't mind physical body type or fitness type. For me as long as I'm attracted to you and there's a fantastic mental connection, that's more of my thing.
Seduction starts in the mind for me. |
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Who doesn't love a slim hot body? But honestly, personality and a pretty face is WAY more important.
Also I've had some of the vest sex of my life with fat girls. No issues here.
The worst is body fat/looks snobs. Get over yourself! |
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Tbf though it’s a hard thing for people to answer honestly without painting themselves in a bad way even though it’s a perfectly normal. Everyone will say it personality and character over looks but I can tell you hands down and cards on the table, the numerous number of people that rejected me didn’t try or invest any time or give one bit of interest in investing in getting to know me as a person or if we vibed and that Kwl. I get that, there wasn’t a physical attraction, so let’s be honest about it. I know a guy like me isn’t going to be on most sexist men alive, woman you must get the same so let’s be honest about it?! I know the rare few that did invest a bit of time getting to know me came away with a positive experience but that’s rare. It more swipe left or right, hot,
Not hot etc. So let’s all be honest instead of saying it personality and vibing alone lol x |
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Physical attributes guy wise they have to be attractive facially to me and tall. My preference is 6'3 and above. I will settle for 6ft if I like someone and they aren't really 5'9.
So body shape and/or fitness don't come into it for me.
But everyone has their own preferences, turn ons and icks.we aren't suitable for everyone. |
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By *host63Man 43 weeks ago
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"It does whether people admit it or not. Some body shapes people just aren't attracted too, even if their personality is amazing and everything else fits.
Because its not PC? Women are fussed about things more than men
Why is it not PC to not be attracted to someone? There is nothing at all wrong with politely declining someone’s interest if they aren’t for you! Psychologically women see sex differently to men. We need more animal attraction to be able to sleep with someone, whereas men can detach a lot more simply "
If you are a woman it's perfectly fine to have a shopping list a mile long.
If you are a nan it's misogynistic.
Double standard. |
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Not an issue, but certainly don't interact with some profiles if I feel I'd be punching. Just wouldn't feel comfortable enough to enjoy the sex if self conscious.
I generally connect if they can hold a decent conversation, intrigue me or make me laugh. physical characteristics don't come into it apart from hygiene. |
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By *ythenMan 43 weeks ago
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It’s funny being on and meeting new ppl through fab has helped me change my perspective on what “I thought “ was my type … there’s a lot of elements that have combine to help you find your exact type , and I’m sure we all agree that no of us are perfect…. i |
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