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Do you look in the mirror and think you’re attractive?
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Sadly ! Alot of attractive females tend to have very low self esteem due to social media and current pressures to be stick thin and always made up with make-up etc but then if they're stick thin they're told they're too skinny need to be more curvy they can't win so sadly I think from my experience majority of people and sadly usually the nice looking ones tend to not like what they see in the mirror sadly its becoming more common for men too with pressures to be ripped and shredded and loads of other things |
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"No, it's a bit to much like being vain or as others have said a bit up ones own arse neither of which are attractive..
No one has said it’s vain or up their own arse. "
I didn't say anyone else had said it's like being vain..
Personally I equate arrogance with someone being up their own arse..  |
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Nah, I’ve never thought I was good looking at all.
But I've always prided myself on being very “well put together”
*I workout like a sonovabitch
*Always make sure I smell good
*And I personally think I have a great sense of style |
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Absolutely not! I hate everything about my face and body. However, I’m perfectly secure with being me and it doesn’t get me down. I am who I am and I work with what I’ve got. Things could be worse.
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Sometimes I look and think I am ok. Lumps, bumps, imperfections and inadequacies are there but overall I think I look alright. On the odd occasion I even look pretty (to me).
Most of the time those thoughts are wiped out by numerous negative words and memories of being told I am not enough/attractive etc.
So I try and focus on the things my body can do instead. It helps to be positive in that way and stops me losing too much confidence again.
Positive affirmations is the way forwards.
MrsAbz
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"I don't always, no. But sometimes yeah, I think "yes, you are fuckable"."
I'd like to add that being on here can be a big boost to my self esteem, when people compliment my pics, ask me to send them my vids etc. To feel desired is to feel sexy. |
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By *archelCouple 44 weeks ago
A field somewhere |
No, I was always the ugly best friend growing up. I'm still very insecure about my looks and body, despite me knowing how much male attention I now get. That shit from young adulthood never leaves you.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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In the mirror? Yes, definitely, every time 
Sometimes I see myself in pictures or videos and don't think so, but internally I see it as a misrepresentation of myself rather than a challenge to how I think about myself.
Does this make me arrogant? Well I'm not arrogant, by my own judgement (which is the best of all judgements around), ergo, no  |
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By *hilloutMan 44 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Sometimes, yes. It doesn’t make me arrogant.
Most of the time I’m neutral.
Sometimes I’ll think what the hell are you wearing why do you look like that but everyone has bad days. "
Pretty much the same for me with the exception of the "what the hell are you wearing why do you look like that" bit |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"Ooooh let's not open that can of worms...  
Talk to me  "
Ok, I've had a love/hate relationship with my face. There are times I think I look attractive, but then there are things I've always been self-conscious of that I don't find attractive that will always be at the back of my mind and wish I could change. I won't highlight them because no-one needs to hear that level of self-loathing right now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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"Ooooh let's not open that can of worms...
Talk to me
Ok, I've had a love/hate relationship with my face. There are times I think I look attractive, but then there are things I've always been self-conscious of that I don't find attractive that will always be at the back of my mind and wish I could change. I won't highlight them because no-one needs to hear that level of self-loathing right now "
But it’s a good point right. It’s like sometimes we look at ourselves and we find things we want to change. And I think sometimes because of that it undermines our feelings about the rest of us. I hate my eyes. And sometimes it makes me hate my face. That one thing.
As a side note, Joe. You’re a peng ting. The people know it. I hope you can see it too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"Ooooh let's not open that can of worms...
Talk to me
Ok, I've had a love/hate relationship with my face. There are times I think I look attractive, but then there are things I've always been self-conscious of that I don't find attractive that will always be at the back of my mind and wish I could change. I won't highlight them because no-one needs to hear that level of self-loathing right now
But it’s a good point right. It’s like sometimes we look at ourselves and we find things we want to change. And I think sometimes because of that it undermines our feelings about the rest of us. I hate my eyes. And sometimes it makes me hate my face. That one thing.
As a side note, Joe. You’re a peng ting. The people know it. I hope you can see it too. "
Thanks Pickle! You make a good point about one aspect giving you an overall negative perception of yourself which is something I'd like to work on being better at ignoring. |
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"Ooooh let's not open that can of worms...
Talk to me
Ok, I've had a love/hate relationship with my face. There are times I think I look attractive, but then there are things I've always been self-conscious of that I don't find attractive that will always be at the back of my mind and wish I could change. I won't highlight them because no-one needs to hear that level of self-loathing right now
But it’s a good point right. It’s like sometimes we look at ourselves and we find things we want to change. And I think sometimes because of that it undermines our feelings about the rest of us. I hate my eyes. And sometimes it makes me hate my face. That one thing.
As a side note, Joe. You’re a peng ting. The people know it. I hope you can see it too. "
What he said Joe |
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Maybe it's an age thing. You look in the mirror and just appreciate that you're still in one piece.
Anyway it doesn't matter what you look like because according to forum lore personality is the most important thing.  |
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By *eliWoman 44 weeks ago
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"Maybe it's an age thing. You look in the mirror and just appreciate that you're still in one piece.
Anyway it doesn't matter what you look like because according to forum lore personality is the most important thing. "
Love it when you bring the sassiness, Nice. |
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"Maybe it's an age thing. You look in the mirror and just appreciate that you're still in one piece.
Anyway it doesn't matter what you look like because according to forum lore personality is the most important thing.
Love it when you bring the sassiness, Nice. "
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Sometimes I feel really good and other times you think ‘that angle isn’t nice’.
I’m more accepting of my lines, receding hairline and salt and pepper stubble now and use my eyes much more, instead of looking away quickly.
So yeah, I feel attractive at times.
K
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I look in the mirror and think ‘how are you still alive you sexy fkn rock star?’ Then get dressed and go out smelling gorgeous and pull a supermodel… sorry autocorrect - ‘supermarket’ - trolley round Waitrose… for the adrenaline rush!! |
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By *ewcatWoman 44 weeks ago
Berkshire |
"Does it make you arrogant if you do?
(Inspired by another thread that wasn’t about what I thought )"
No to both.
Arrogance and self confidence are very different.
I see my grey, my wrinkles, my scars, the cellulite that I swear appeared out of nowhere. I think being single long term takes a toll on a persons self confidence. |
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By *929Man 44 weeks ago
bedlington |
No I look and think my hair and face look like absolute shit, the odd time I look and I’m happy from the neck down but also have the never look “big” enough mentality most gym goers get |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I do know I'm attractive yes & the mirror tells me so also. "
That doesn't mean I'm big headed or vain. I'm no beauty....pretty yes & attractive but that's about it. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I have mirrors all over the flat.
Not because I'm in any way vain, but because they make it look bigger!
What do I see when I look at them? Me. Older than I was but younger than I'll be next week.
Do I think I'm attractive? I've seen worse. I probably looked better twenty years ago but part of life is getting older and adjusting to change. And whilst I see wrinkles, grey stubble and scars it's still me. The outside has weathered a lot more than the inside over the years.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I stopped looking in the mirror, when I take a pic for here I think is that what I look like now  . I don't think I'm attractive but also don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I'm alright, that's as far as I go. Having confidence in your appearance doesn't make you arrogant but if you act/treat people at certain way because of it, it does. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Sometimes when I put make up on and do my hair I'll have a look and think "hmmm, maybe I've still got it"
Other times no
I don't think I'm arrogant. I don't think liking how you look is arrogant |
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