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Rude...... it's a word that always makes me smile. Sounds so nursery school but it's used a lot on here.
What is RUDE to you ? No dictionaries thank you. What does it mean to you - On here , in wider society , at work, at home.......
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x"
^yep.
Or, in a fab environment way? A flash of your bits to someone when you’re getting frisky.., whispering some filth into their ear.., ‘that’s rude’ Type of thing  |
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"Rude...... it's a word that always makes me smile. Sounds so nursery school but it's used a lot on here.
What is RUDE to you ? No dictionaries thank you. What does it mean to you - On here , in wider society , at work, at home.......
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Sending dick pics to every woman and faf
Telling granny she’s from Liverpool  |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?"
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone. |
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"Rude...... it's a word that always makes me smile. Sounds so nursery school but it's used a lot on here.
What is RUDE to you ? No dictionaries thank you. What does it mean to you - On here , in wider society , at work, at home.......
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Sending dick pics to every woman and faf
Telling granny she’s from Liverpool "
Now that second bit is just plain RUDE tsk ...... bloody rude! |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone."
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ? |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?"
Most basic....saying please and thank you.
Next level....being respectful x |
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"Disrespectful in action or word.
One woman's disrespectful is another woman's friendly forward.....
What is disrespectful to you ?"
Ok, intentionally disrespectful, what they say has the intent to be hurtful/offensive. |
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"Disrespectful in action or word.
One woman's disrespectful is another woman's friendly forward.....
What is disrespectful to you ?
Ok, intentionally disrespectful, what they say has the intent to be hurtful/offensive."
Still difficult for me to understand Sof..... cos people keep giving me words but not examples.....
I do agree with intent though. When something is deliberate - it's that we find difficult. |
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"Rude...... it's a word that always makes me smile. Sounds so nursery school but it's used a lot on here.
What is RUDE to you ? No dictionaries thank you. What does it mean to you - On here , in wider society , at work, at home.......
??"
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"Rude...... it's a word that always makes me smile. Sounds so nursery school but it's used a lot on here.
What is RUDE to you ? No dictionaries thank you. What does it mean to you - On here , in wider society , at work, at home.......
??
On here sending non consented wank videos "
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?"
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
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Don't get me started on "offers to assist". If a wheelchair user says they don't need help, then they don't need help. Being a wheelchair user doesn't immediately mean a person requires help at the first bit of undulating terrain. If help is required, it will be solicited.
Someone asked if I needed help earlier today. I said no thank you. They asked again and made moves towards me and my chair. I repeated that I was fine and did not need help, but more firmly the second time.
Bear in mind this can happen multiple times every day and honestly, it gets tedious having these conversations when you're trying to move quickly between places. I was trying to get to a medical appointment this morning and didn't have time to faff about justifying my existence. |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
Don't get me started on "offers to assist". If a wheelchair user says they don't need help, then they don't need help. Being a wheelchair user doesn't immediately mean a person requires help at the first bit of undulating terrain. If help is required, it will be solicited.
Someone asked if I needed help earlier today. I said no thank you. They asked again and made moves towards me and my chair. I repeated that I was fine and did not need help, but more firmly the second time.
Bear in mind this can happen multiple times every day and honestly, it gets tedious having these conversations when you're trying to move quickly between places. I was trying to get to a medical appointment this morning and didn't have time to faff about justifying my existence. "
I was quite impressed at your upper body strength.
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
Don't get me started on "offers to assist". If a wheelchair user says they don't need help, then they don't need help. Being a wheelchair user doesn't immediately mean a person requires help at the first bit of undulating terrain. If help is required, it will be solicited.
Someone asked if I needed help earlier today. I said no thank you. They asked again and made moves towards me and my chair. I repeated that I was fine and did not need help, but more firmly the second time.
Bear in mind this can happen multiple times every day and honestly, it gets tedious having these conversations when you're trying to move quickly between places. I was trying to get to a medical appointment this morning and didn't have time to faff about justifying my existence. "
Hence being a minefield. People wish to naturally help others in the main. |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
Don't get me started on "offers to assist". If a wheelchair user says they don't need help, then they don't need help. Being a wheelchair user doesn't immediately mean a person requires help at the first bit of undulating terrain. If help is required, it will be solicited.
Someone asked if I needed help earlier today. I said no thank you. They asked again and made moves towards me and my chair. I repeated that I was fine and did not need help, but more firmly the second time.
Bear in mind this can happen multiple times every day and honestly, it gets tedious having these conversations when you're trying to move quickly between places. I was trying to get to a medical appointment this morning and didn't have time to faff about justifying my existence.
Hence being a minefield. People wish to naturally help others in the main."
No-one asked me lots of questions before I acquired disability. What it feels like (rightly or wrongly) is that people assume I'm weak and feeble. I've had people (including health professionals) tell me I should have a "carer" with me. It's less the initial offers of help, more than the ongoing insistence or those who just jump in without any warning to "help".
I had someone come up behind me on a really cold, wet day in December, when I was fully garbed out in waterproofs, including a hood. They just shoved my chair very hard and almost tipped me out. I had no idea they were there until they shoved me. I screamed and yelled "fuck off" very loudly. I make no apologies for that.
"Help" can be dangerous, as well as irritating.
I'm honestly not a disagreeable person but I'm perfectly capable of getting myself around. I ascended to the dentist's chair yesterday by shuffling up the stairs on my arse, for example. There's no lift. I accepted the help of someone bumping my chair up the stairs. |
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I think it's prudent to ask if the disabled (or able bodied) person requires assistance before giving it.
Again, some people think they're being helpful but I guess it depends on the person in the chair and the situation. |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
Don't get me started on "offers to assist". If a wheelchair user says they don't need help, then they don't need help. Being a wheelchair user doesn't immediately mean a person requires help at the first bit of undulating terrain. If help is required, it will be solicited.
Someone asked if I needed help earlier today. I said no thank you. They asked again and made moves towards me and my chair. I repeated that I was fine and did not need help, but more firmly the second time.
Bear in mind this can happen multiple times every day and honestly, it gets tedious having these conversations when you're trying to move quickly between places. I was trying to get to a medical appointment this morning and didn't have time to faff about justifying my existence.
Hence being a minefield. People wish to naturally help others in the main.
No-one asked me lots of questions before I acquired disability. What it feels like (rightly or wrongly) is that people assume I'm weak and feeble. I've had people (including health professionals) tell me I should have a "carer" with me. It's less the initial offers of help, more than the ongoing insistence or those who just jump in without any warning to "help".
I had someone come up behind me on a really cold, wet day in December, when I was fully garbed out in waterproofs, including a hood. They just shoved my chair very hard and almost tipped me out. I had no idea they were there until they shoved me. I screamed and yelled "fuck off" very loudly. I make no apologies for that.
"Help" can be dangerous, as well as irritating.
I'm honestly not a disagreeable person but I'm perfectly capable of getting myself around. I ascended to the dentist's chair yesterday by shuffling up the stairs on my arse, for example. There's no lift. I accepted the help of someone bumping my chair up the stairs. "
I would only help if you asked for help. Unless you're slowing everyone else down, then I'll give you a little nudge   |
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For me it's when people refuse to acknowledge and react appropriately to a misstep.
Everyone makes mistakes. But when they double down on it. Or it's 'just' this and 'only' that. And "I'm sorry if..."
That's when I think people are just being fucking rude  |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
Don't get me started on "offers to assist". If a wheelchair user says they don't need help, then they don't need help. Being a wheelchair user doesn't immediately mean a person requires help at the first bit of undulating terrain. If help is required, it will be solicited.
Someone asked if I needed help earlier today. I said no thank you. They asked again and made moves towards me and my chair. I repeated that I was fine and did not need help, but more firmly the second time.
Bear in mind this can happen multiple times every day and honestly, it gets tedious having these conversations when you're trying to move quickly between places. I was trying to get to a medical appointment this morning and didn't have time to faff about justifying my existence.
Hence being a minefield. People wish to naturally help others in the main.
No-one asked me lots of questions before I acquired disability. What it feels like (rightly or wrongly) is that people assume I'm weak and feeble. I've had people (including health professionals) tell me I should have a "carer" with me. It's less the initial offers of help, more than the ongoing insistence or those who just jump in without any warning to "help".
I had someone come up behind me on a really cold, wet day in December, when I was fully garbed out in waterproofs, including a hood. They just shoved my chair very hard and almost tipped me out. I had no idea they were there until they shoved me. I screamed and yelled "fuck off" very loudly. I make no apologies for that.
"Help" can be dangerous, as well as irritating.
I'm honestly not a disagreeable person but I'm perfectly capable of getting myself around. I ascended to the dentist's chair yesterday by shuffling up the stairs on my arse, for example. There's no lift. I accepted the help of someone bumping my chair up the stairs.
I would only help if you asked for help. Unless you're slowing everyone else down, then I'll give you a little nudge "
Nudge me at your peril  |
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"To me it means lack of basic manners x
This is where it gets difficult for me .... What are manners ? ( serious Q ) and what are the most basic ?
Minimal, please, thank you and hold a door open for anyone.
Thank you please , now we are getting some where.
What's the next level up from basic ?
Level 2, salutations, helping someone randomly..they could look lost, an old lady across the road, carrying a bag up an escalator, an apology. Do all of these and consider it normal manners/etiquette.
Have assisted disabled people but it can be a minefield if you offer to assist in pushing a wheelchair across a difficult bit of urban obstacles or terrain as I have had friendly acceptances and a snap back about being perfectly able.
Don't get me started on "offers to assist". If a wheelchair user says they don't need help, then they don't need help. Being a wheelchair user doesn't immediately mean a person requires help at the first bit of undulating terrain. If help is required, it will be solicited.
Someone asked if I needed help earlier today. I said no thank you. They asked again and made moves towards me and my chair. I repeated that I was fine and did not need help, but more firmly the second time.
Bear in mind this can happen multiple times every day and honestly, it gets tedious having these conversations when you're trying to move quickly between places. I was trying to get to a medical appointment this morning and didn't have time to faff about justifying my existence.
Hence being a minefield. People wish to naturally help others in the main.
No-one asked me lots of questions before I acquired disability. What it feels like (rightly or wrongly) is that people assume I'm weak and feeble. I've had people (including health professionals) tell me I should have a "carer" with me. It's less the initial offers of help, more than the ongoing insistence or those who just jump in without any warning to "help".
I had someone come up behind me on a really cold, wet day in December, when I was fully garbed out in waterproofs, including a hood. They just shoved my chair very hard and almost tipped me out. I had no idea they were there until they shoved me. I screamed and yelled "fuck off" very loudly. I make no apologies for that.
"Help" can be dangerous, as well as irritating.
I'm honestly not a disagreeable person but I'm perfectly capable of getting myself around. I ascended to the dentist's chair yesterday by shuffling up the stairs on my arse, for example. There's no lift. I accepted the help of someone bumping my chair up the stairs.
I would only help if you asked for help. Unless you're slowing everyone else down, then I'll give you a little nudge
Nudge me at your peril "
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Impolite or disrespectful.
I think the meaning on Fab is something more like obscene. I suppose you can get to it if you follow a particular path.
You tell your (hypothetical) small child to keep their pants on at the table, it's rude to show those parts outside certain contexts. Rude meaning disrespectful/ inappropriate. The small child learns - like I think we all do at one point - that certain body parts are "rude". There's considerable overlap between "rude" and "sexual" - thus it's a very small mental jump to "obscene". |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Ignoring my existence. Especially when I waited for you to pass by like a fucking zombie in the supermarket.
Not waving thanks when I let you out at a junction.
Speaking to your colleagues or pissing about on your phone while a customer's waiting.
Not giving pedestrians/cyclists/horses space when you pass them on the road because you're a self important cock.
Tailgating (as above).
There's so many rude bastards these days and I find older people are often the rudest of them. |
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"Ignoring my existence. Especially when I waited for you to pass by like a fucking zombie in the supermarket.
Not waving thanks when I let you out at a junction.
Speaking to your colleagues or pissing about on your phone while a customer's waiting.
Not giving pedestrians/cyclists/horses space when you pass them on the road because you're a self important cock.
Tailgating (as above).
There's so many rude bastards these days and I find older people are often the rudest of them."
Gosh that is my list too.
Add no indication at any point of route on road.
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