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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
I think they do because they can. The swinging market is much more demanding for single guys than ladies or couples. Simply because there huge supply of single guys on this market it needs filtering. Supply-Demand economics |
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By *ornycougaWoman 36 weeks ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
I'm assuming you are talking about some sort of cougar and cub event. What are hotwife couples supposed to do if they play together but she is partial to a younger guy?
There are events that I would love to attend but can't as I'm too old. That's life I'm afraid (shrug emoji) |
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By *ornycougaWoman 36 weeks ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
"Because there is no website that couples can check and see if "couples who fucked this guy also enjoyed those guys" like you get on e-commerce websites."
Oooh as a business venture I love this idea |
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I would imagine that it’s to do with age dynamics specific to the event evening. It’s not discrimination if that’s what the specific event requires.
I do often find that people have a tendency to cry discrimination only if it doesn’t include them |
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"Because there is no website that couples can check and see if "couples who fucked this guy also enjoyed those guys" like you get on e-commerce websites.
Oooh as a business venture I love this idea "
Looking forward to your Dragons' Den pitch... |
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It would help to have context. For example, some clubs have nights specifically for people under 40. There are cougar and cub nights. I'm not aware of clubs generally saying "no men over X age, couples and women can do whatever". |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
I think that event organisers can do whatever they want - it's their event and they're taking the risks involved with the patrons they invite/admit to the event.
If you want to go to an event without any age/gender restrictions, why don't you organise one? Or fund another one that meets your requirements.
(And there are plenty of events where women over a certain age are not welcome. I just wish them well, recognise I'm not their target market, and find somewhere else to go!) |
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It is discrimination and illegal under the relevant acts, as is the practice of charging different amounts for clubs based on sex or 'couple' status.
IF anyone were to take action they would win a claim. IF being the operative word there as it would put their lifestyle under very close scrutiny. |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
If its a cougars and cubs night, it kinda makes sense.....plus bcuz they can
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"It is discrimination and illegal under the relevant acts, as is the practice of charging different amounts for clubs based on sex or 'couple' status.
IF anyone were to take action they would win a claim. IF being the operative word there as it would put their lifestyle under very close scrutiny. "
It really isn’t. If it were a permanent thing then maybe but for specific events it would fit under a special event.
It’s a private event, they can do whatever and invite whoever they want.
Just find events and clubs where you are welcome |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
They do because they can, and their popularity proves they are successful. Same question could be asked about bi nights, why single men need to be verified bisexual or at least bi-curious whereas men in couples don't as long as they are bi-friendly. Again, it's because of the nature of the event.
The events with any limits on age or sexuality of the attendees are probably not even 1% of overall events. You still have 99% of events you are more than welcome to attend, so why throw your toys out of the pram over that 1%?  |
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"I cant say where and what event but it is not a cougar and cubs events hence my question "
I'm guessing you're getting your knickers in the twist over WhatWomenWant event? Find a lady to go with and then it wouldn't matter that you are over 45. |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory
They do because they can, and their popularity proves they are successful. Same question could be asked about bi nights, why single men need to be verified bisexual or at least bi-curious whereas men in couples don't as long as they are bi-friendly. Again, it's because of the nature of the event.
The events with any limits on age or sexuality of the attendees are probably not even 1% of overall events. You still have 99% of events you are more than welcome to attend, so why throw your toys out of the pram over that 1%? "
Sorry but i totally disagree with you. |
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"I cant say where and what event but it is not a cougar and cubs events hence my question "
Like it's been said, there is plenty of events that have no age limit to them.
And your asking a question that only event organisers can answer for you.
Maybe it comes down to a simple answer of, what people are attracted to, so event organisers cater to that demand. It's kind of like a business model, you target your preferred clientele....
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"I cant say where and what event but it is not a cougar and cubs events hence my question
I'm guessing you're getting your knickers in the twist over WhatWomenWant event? Find a lady to go with and then it wouldn't matter that you are over 45. "
What's the difference would be if i attend with a lady or on my own if i am older than the age limit? Can someone explain that? |
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"I cant say where and what event but it is not a cougar and cubs events hence my question
I'm guessing you're getting your knickers in the twist over WhatWomenWant event? Find a lady to go with and then it wouldn't matter that you are over 45. "
If it is then the clue is in the title.
There’s enough events on to find one you meet the requirements for without getting upset by the ones you don’t.
The hosts set the rules which is how it should be |
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Because as a younger (when I was) woman going to a kink or sex event. I would be out off by the old leering men. So it makes sense.
Women won't go if they feel uncomfortable. More men will go to less females, and men will become annoyed there is no women.
Makes sense from a business perspective |
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"I would imagine that it’s to do with age dynamics specific to the event evening. It’s not discrimination if that’s what the specific event requires.
I do often find that people have a tendency to cry discrimination only if it doesn’t include them"
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I've seen events aimed at under 40's and events aimed at over 50's.
I don't think it's a bad thing to have different kind of events for different kinds of people.
We would probably attend a event like this as even tho we are both over the age of 45 we are both more attracted to younger looking men.
It's nothing personal it's just people's preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"I've seen events aimed at under 40's and events aimed at over 50's.
I don't think it's a bad thing to have different kind of events for different kinds of people.
We would probably attend a event like this as even tho we are both over the age of 45 we are both more attracted to younger looking men.
It's nothing personal it's just people's preferences. "
more like 30 and under I would like to see more events for more mature people |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory
They do because they can, and their popularity proves they are successful. Same question could be asked about bi nights, why single men need to be verified bisexual or at least bi-curious whereas men in couples don't as long as they are bi-friendly. Again, it's because of the nature of the event.
The events with any limits on age or sexuality of the attendees are probably not even 1% of overall events. You still have 99% of events you are more than welcome to attend, so why throw your toys out of the pram over that 1%?
Sorry but i totally disagree with you."
As is your right. |
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By *host63Man 36 weeks ago
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
Because you don't have the right body parts |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory
Because you don't have the right body parts "
What's body parts got to do with age? Or do people sprout new bits at a certain age? |
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By *archelCouple 36 weeks ago
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Why shouldn't they...we go regularly to 45 and under events even though Mr is 51, he does look much younger so it's never an issue for us, so they do give a bit of leeway.
These are always very well attended, more so than most others we go to...and always more saucy fun going on. I've no interest in playing with anyone over 40, so for us these events are our crowd...much prefer it to going on a night where there is nobody who appeals to us.
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You know, I recently realised that I was now too old to attend the under 35 kink events that I used to enjoy so much.
At first I was a bit sad about it, because they really were fun.
But now I'm like... yeah... legit. I don't want to fuck people so much younger than me anyway, and I'm pretty sure they don't really want to fuck me either. |
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If you set up an event you would also be able to set your terms of what type of people come.
We went to a Fiesty Female event as a couple and all the guys had to be under a certain age and also fit looking.
Then the next day they had a different event catering for other people’s wants/desires.
There’s some events I can’t get into now but I don’t worry about them - I just look for the events that I can get into - simple.
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On a positive at least you’re not paying out money to attend an event that you don’t fit the criteria for and so would stand little chance in getting lucky. Plenty of other clubs with other events. |
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By *apybarasCouple 36 weeks ago
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I believe according to the equality act, direct discrimination based on age could be illegal in this case.
Unless the operator of the event can show it to be "objectively justified", which would be interesting to see argued in court. |
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"I believe according to the equality act, direct discrimination based on age could be illegal in this case.
Unless the operator of the event can show it to be "objectively justified", which would be interesting to see argued in court."
Private events/members clubs seem to be absolved from equality rules. See: the Garrick Club and other men-only clubs. |
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Still my doubt has not been answered....why can couples and single women, in this case, be as old as they want while single men can't? Do really people think that men cannot get hard enough after they are 45? Oh God...i really hope that's not the reason |
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"Still my doubt has not been answered....why can couples and single women, in this case, be as old as they want while single men can't? Do really people think that men cannot get hard enough after they are 45? Oh God...i really hope that's not the reason"
Because people organising private events can set whatever parameters they please. |
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"Still my doubt has not been answered....why can couples and single women, in this case, be as old as they want while single men can't? Do really people think that men cannot get hard enough after they are 45? Oh God...i really hope that's not the reason
Because people organising private events can set whatever parameters they please."
this right here |
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"Still my doubt has not been answered....why can couples and single women, in this case, be as old as they want while single men can't? Do really people think that men cannot get hard enough after they are 45? Oh God...i really hope that's not the reason"
The specific reason isn’t ever going to be answered but you have been given pointers that the organiser can choose and then it’s up to eligible people if they want to attend.
The event we went to where gents had to be under 40 and fit - there were plenty there so they are popular.
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By *UFSWoman 36 weeks ago
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
Probably for the same reason you have age preferences on your profile,because they can |
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By *bi HaiveMan 36 weeks ago
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I've seen events targeted at specific age groups at clubs, but it's usually just been a guideline to attract a certain demographic, rather than excluding anyone else.
A club I'm a member at has one aimed at the under 40's but all club members are still able to attend.
Whether they'd have a good night or not is debatable, if those attending are doing so in the hope of meeting specific age groups though. So it can actually be beneficial to be aware of a themed or age related event, as it may save wasted time and effort if you're unlikely to be who others are looking to meet. |
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If an event was aimed at petite women, I'd give it a miss. Even though I'm quite fond of petite women myself. Because my amazonian arse would be much less appreciated there than at the events that are centred more on my physical attributes and personal preferences.
Same as I wouldn't try to attend a Domme centred event with a male top partner.
It's not my event.
There's plenty of others I can go to instead.
No point getting knickers in a twist because one potential option isn't actually right for me on further examination.
If an event says I'm not their people, then they're not my event  |
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"If an event was aimed at petite women, I'd give it a miss. Even though I'm quite fond of petite women myself. Because my amazonian arse would be much less appreciated there than at the events that are centred more on my physical attributes and personal preferences.
Same as I wouldn't try to attend a Domme centred event with a male top partner.
It's not my event.
There's plenty of others I can go to instead.
No point getting knickers in a twist because one potential option isn't actually right for me on further examination.
If an event says I'm not their people, then they're not my event "
Exactly this.
I’m not going to roll up to a BMFC event as I’m not the demographic that’s wanted. It’s not discrimination |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"Because sometimes in life you get discriminated against, I wouldn't worry too much about it tbh and go look somewhere else.
What kind of answer is this? "
An honest one. They're not going to change their rules for you therefore you have 2 choices. 1. Get upset about it. 2. Don't get upset about it.
What other answer were you hoping for? Sympathy and a petition to allow you in? |
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"Still my doubt has not been answered....why can couples and single women, in this case, be as old as they want while single men can't? Do really people think that men cannot get hard enough after they are 45? Oh God...i really hope that's not the reason"
You are very much missing the point here. It has nothing to do with whether a man after 45 can or cannot get hard. There are some younger men who struggle and older men who get hard almost in an instant and can keep it. Unless it's a sore spot for you personally?
And seriously, have you nothing better to worry about, OP, then being the wrong side of the age range for an event? I am the wrong side of wealth and size for some clubs and/or events, sometimes I am even the wrong sex. But there are tons of other events and/or clubs that I can attend to. Simples! |
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"Still my doubt has not been answered....why can couples and single women, in this case, be as old as they want while single men can't? Do really people think that men cannot get hard enough after they are 45? Oh God...i really hope that's not the reason"
What is it your looking for Op, you've had a plethora of valid answers to your question..
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"Still my doubt has not been answered....why can couples and single women, in this case, be as old as they want while single men can't? Do really people think that men cannot get hard enough after they are 45? Oh God...i really hope that's not the reason"
if you dont how an event has been organised and you dont think there is something that you would like to go to - why dont you organise something yourself.
Organisers of these events work long and hard to ensure that they are a success - and put a lot of time into them. Make a suggest to them for a future event.
Or throw your own - its pretty straightforward ....  |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory
Lie about your age then……….."
good grief ! lie! on fab! |
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
Same reason you’ve set your age limits on your profile, personal preferences |
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"Because sometimes in life you get discriminated against, I wouldn't worry too much about it tbh and go look somewhere else.
What kind of answer is this? 
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A good one, as someone said, hey ho move on life’s too short to jump on the discrimination bandwagon |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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I guess if there is enough demand for something, someone is going to supply it. There are nights for every sort of demographic, I've seen clubs nights for over 40s only. It also goes the opposite way, a large chunk of clubs won't let single men in under the age of 25, but will let couples and single women under 25 in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"Why do you think some event organizers feel the need to put an age limit for men only while couples and women don't? I think it is totally unfair and discriminatory "
Because its their event and they can do as they like |
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