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By *ruceyy OP Man 36 weeks ago

London

Yeah this one is a serious one. Seriously!

Does anyone here have ADHD? The more I speak to people who have it and research it the more I reckon I probably do. That includes a doctor in a non professional setting who said, yep, sounds like you!

I used to shrug these things off because I thought historically everyone's always been different right, so is it just a new label for something. Do people want to have the diagnosis just to be 'different'. But now I'm thinking differently.

What's your experiences with it?

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple 36 weeks ago

Bristol

"Yeah this one is a serious one. Seriously!

What's your experiences with it?"

I don't have it but similar to you the more I find out about it the more I think I might. Including a friend who worked with people on the spectrum asking me if I thought I was. I doubt I'll go and try to get diagnosed though. It won't really change anything for me.

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By *agnar73Man 36 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

More knowledge and more diagnosis I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

Currently waiting for an assessment after my doctor referred me

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman 36 weeks ago

Worcester

"Yeah this one is a serious one. Seriously!

What's your experiences with it?"

Yes. I do. It's life-ruining. There are no positives to it. Everything I do it's like starting half a mile behind everyone else.

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By *hrimper36Couple 36 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Yes Bruce the diagnosis is just a label and you will always be you so imho the label helps you but other people can view you differently because of the label that fits you.

I’ve always known I’m different and wondered why I wasn’t the same as other people and being diagnosed as Autistic made no difference because I will always be Autistic but it personally gave me more control over myself and how I approach life.

Personally I was embarrassed by my label and hide my Autism as best I could and I was so good at this that my wife of 25 doesn’t know I’m Autistic and she never will.

In December 2022 I started to open up about my condition and since then I’ve helped over 30 people come to terms with their Autism and in turn come to terms with mine.

Two of these people are 67 years old and I’ve helped Eve at 66 (my error)come to terms with hers but like diabetes many people don’t know they have the condition.

It’s your label so own it op and god luck.

But honestly like with many on here it showed with you imho.

Well done from me on a honest post.

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple 36 weeks ago

east coast

Our son has ADHD sometime just starting the day can be hrad work for him it makes H upset knowing she can't do anything for him or take it away from him X

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 36 weeks ago

Essex

I do.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

"Yeah this one is a serious one. Seriously!

What's your experiences with it?"

I think it's a new label for things we don't much understand.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I have pretty intense squirrel brain. I need to be doing at least 8 things at once to be able to focus on any of them.

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By *lym4realCouple 36 weeks ago

plymouth

There was a truly fascinating documentary about Autism and various other stufF and we are all on the spectrum but to varying degrees and anything can give us a nudge and then we can develop whatever we have into a full blown affair ?? and so as they say get tested and then take from there as we all have certain behaviour patterns that mimic/mirror various different things like ADHD but we might not have it ?

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

There was a good program last year with Sam Thompson from made in Chelsea - something like "is this adhd"..

It's an interesting watch and plenty of insights for those who have it, and also those who don't, for how to be more supportive

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By *ee04Man 36 weeks ago

Essex

My son was diagnosed when he was 6, he is now 27.

My ex father in law always accused me of being hard on him, this is the guy who wouldn’t have him stay over as he couldn’t control him. I wasn’t hard I just wanted my boy to grow up knowing his responsibilities to society. I knew he had the condition, I knew he would never not have it, I knew he would have prejudice, I used to be one who said it’s just a label for a naughty child.

He was never allowed to used ADHD as an excuse for his behaviour, he always knew there would be consequences to his behaviour.

As he got older I explained to him that he would have to live on the world and that he had to adapt to the world as the world would not adapt to him.

There was a lot of stress at times for all the family, there were times I wanted to throttle him is this any different than any child?

Never once was I violent to him, I never laid a hand on him, he always knew I loved him.

At 27 he has his own place he bought himself. He was a special someone, has travelled the world including a year I Oz. He has an amazing career.

Yes he still has ADHD, he still wants to do crazy things at times. But as he will tell you he know how to cope. He doesn’t use medication, he has in the passed but struggles to sleep properly when taking it.

As he says it part of him and it ain’t going away so you have to learn to live with it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds

I've been referred twice now, I declined the 1st because I get sick of labels being thrown at me however after having some time to look into it a little more I've accepted the 2nd referral in the hopes that my extremely over active mind may find an off button.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds

"I've been referred twice now, I declined the 1st because I get sick of labels being thrown at me however after having some time to look into it a little more I've accepted the 2nd referral in the hopes that my extremely over active mind may find an off button.

Mrs "

On the same note I refused the autism referral because there's zero treatment I can accept my brain is different without the label.

Mrs

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 36 weeks ago

Essex

Mrs "

I have found it isn’t so much finding an off button, as adjusting the balance buttons xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds

Mrs

I have found it isn’t so much finding an off button, as adjusting the balance buttons xx"

Maybe, I've zero idea I'd just like a moments peace & I've no idea how.

Mrs

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 36 weeks ago

Essex

Mrs

I have found it isn’t so much finding an off button, as adjusting the balance buttons xx

Maybe, I've zero idea I'd just like a moments peace & I've no idea how.

Mrs "

I’m always happy to talk if you need xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds

Mrs

I have found it isn’t so much finding an off button, as adjusting the balance buttons xx

Maybe, I've zero idea I'd just like a moments peace & I've no idea how.

Mrs

I’m always happy to talk if you need xx"

Thank you, that's really kind & I may take you up on that.

Mrs

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman 36 weeks ago

Next Door

Mrs "

Like you, I've a very over active mind and it doesn't switch off.

The GP/ counseller diagnosed me having anxiety. I have pills help me sleep and it does switch the brain off to be able to sleep.

As time has gone on I think I may have ADHD.

It would be nice to be able to switch my mind/thoughts/ brain off fully without meds. Mediation helps, but my mind syarts racing again within a short period of time.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

I've had it my entire life, yet only learned about it in the last couple of years. Awaiting assessment, but I know what I have, my GP also agrees, as do most people who know me (some also have it too and we've discussed things in great detail).

A good friend sent me a list of behaviours for various spectrum conditions and I could match roughly 75% of them, mostly ADHD.

I broke down and cried, because it was the only time I've ever seen myself in writing. I've always struggled to talk about how I felt, before all of this.

My entire childhood, my mother was adamant there was something wrong with me. I got labelled a problem child, sent to see behavioural therapists, child psychologists, counsellors. You name it, I've done it. And none of them said anything about any mental health issues.

Now I know that I was masking at the time, having learned all of the terminology. I was hiding my true self because I didn't want to be judged or seen as different.

I've had a shit life for many reasons, some of which might not be appropriate to talk about here with strangers. Lets just say it's been a relentless onslaught for most of it. But I can honestly say that since I found out about ADHD, things have improved by a huge amount.

In some cases labels aren't needed and in others, they can really help an individual. I have ADHD, depression, anxiety and RSD (rejection sensitivity disorder), but that is who I am.

For the first time in 41 years, I know who I am. It's a wonderful feeling and I have completely embraced that, using my newfound knowledge to make improvements to my life, mental health and relationships with others.

I've become more open, with a better understanding of not only my own mental health, but others too.

I now have reasons why this and that happens. I can often preempt when I'm going to have a shit time, due to learning about behaviours and noticing signs.

I'm no longer sat wondering why I'm like this, why I feel this way, why I hate myself so much. I still dislike a lot of it, that can't be helped. But overall, I don't hate who I am anymore.

I have ADHD and I'm proud of that.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

Dysphoria, sorry. Not disorder.

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