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Do you have people who you have encountered through Fab who you would consider friends and what does that mean to you? Friends with or without benefits? Do you have to have met the person or can you have established a rapport with people on the forums and in DMs? |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Yes. I’ve got one or two i consider a fab friend.
Whether I’ve met them or not, doesn’t really mean much to me. It’s pretty much do I have a good conversation with them and good connection with them.  |
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When I first joined Fab, lockdown happened & I've been chatting to what I'd now consider a good friend since then. We don't live near eachother and only met last year for a drink
We share our fab stories and offer advice .
Just to add we're just friends, no benefits |
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I’ve got some really good fab friends.
One couple I could happily meet without the great sex we have and chat for hours instead.
There are loads of people (of all genders and persuasions) in the lounge who I call good online friends. In fact I have met lots of them and cemented that friendship at socials.
I have one or two FWBs.
And there are several people whose acquaintance I have yet to make that could fall into either category. |
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There are some that I would call friends at a fairly shallow level. I enjoy chatting to them but they don't really know much about me or me about them.
There are some that I would call good friends. They know my real name, some of them even know where I live. They have been there for me in real life and vice versa. 
Some of these are just friends, some I've done the sex with, and some I'm not sure - sometimes it's hard to tell friendliness from flirting.
J |
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By *eliWoman 36 weeks ago
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Like Julie said above there are differing levels of friendship depending on closeness. Intimacy I guess?
Yes, I have a small group of friends whose friendship transcend Fab. The ones I can trust with my full name, my address, my life. That's when I know I really trust someone and their friendship means the world to me. I love them. Even if we bicker or have days/weeks without talking. Even when they show me their warts and I mine.
Whether or not there's sex (I'm not saying benefits because sex isn't a benefit of a friendship, it's more an additional thing for me), they're there for me. And I'd like to think I'm there for them.
I'm not sure you have to have met them. I was good friends with a few of them long before we met. Nothing has changed bar our shared experiences.
The friendships you can find on here can truly be wonderful.
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I have around 5 I would consider friends.
What it means is they can speak into my life situations and vice Versa, we can be totally transparent about stuff going on & support each other. There’s no agenda or confusing motives around sex. Of course you need to have met and spent time with them in real life! You can’t build real relationships hiding behind text. |
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I think Julie and Meli both raise excellent points. There are levels of intimacy that are valuable, even precious, but would not perhaps constitute traditonal friendship, especially on a web site where you can exchange very intimate details of yourself to others without them knowing your name or what you look like. That doesn't make them any less enjoyable and worth having. |
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"Do you have people who you have encountered through Fab who you would consider friends and what does that mean to you? Friends with or without benefits? Do you have to have met the person or can you have established a rapport with people on the forums and in DMs? "
To me, "friends" are people I have met, not people I have interacted online only.
And yes, I do have friends who I met via here, or in the clubs, and even though they are mostly "friends with benefits", the benefits are less important than friendship. |
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A friend to me is a friend… regardless of where they come from. This is what I can’t understand when people say “fab friends”.
If I am going to let someone in my life as a friend, then it doesn’t matter where I met them.
I have one very special friend who I met on here, I love him  but it’s a celebratory love, as in I cherish him and our friendship. He knows me inside out and has been with me through really bad times in my life.
I’ve also made other friends on here and they’re da bomb.  |
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By *sWyldWoman 36 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"I have definitely got close friends who I met on here. The relationships change over time, people move on or out of the lifestyle but the deep connection is still there.  "
This sums it up for me.
Some have even become real world friends |
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By *ORBCouple 36 weeks ago
Dundalk |
This profile is the result of doing exactly that.
We are friends first and foremost and enjoy the benefits as well.
Some of my best friends are people I have met through fab, both male and female and even though they aren't on the site any more we are still in regular contact and meet socially.
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By *a LunaWoman 36 weeks ago
South Wales |
I think they are fine weather friends. Ok to pass the time with, have a general chit chat. But at the end of the day, it’s the fanny they’re really interested in.
So no, no close friends on here.
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By *edeWoman 36 weeks ago
the abyss |
"There are some that I would call friends at a fairly shallow level. I enjoy chatting to them but they don't really know much about me or me about them.
There are some that I would call good friends. They know my real name, some of them even know where I live. They have been there for me in real life and vice versa.
Some of these are just friends, some I've done the sex with, and some I'm not sure - sometimes it's hard to tell friendliness from flirting.
J"
**Spoiler**
Her name is actually Julie!! And I won't hear anything else  |
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I am wary of fab 'friends' as they seem to find it easy to block you. Whether it's been a naughty or non-naughty relationship.
Of all my vanilla friends, not one has ever blocked me. We don't chat as much, as life goes on and gets in the way sometimes but I wouldn't ever consider blocking them or them me.... Here, there's a whole new set of fickle rules.  |
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Other than us two meeting each other and becoming best friends, being part of this lifestyles has meant we have made quite a few friends - ones that we’ll still be friends with once this is all over.
We have different level of friends - some we’ve only spoken to online, some we’ve met at socials and some who moved away from the lifestyle or got partners.
This is the beauty of this lifestyle - people can and will change.
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I’ve met very few people just the once. Most of the ladies have been repeat meets over a period of time and inevitably you get chatting(who doesn’t like a bit of pillow talk) and get to know things about each other. The key part is establishing whether people want fab life and real life to ever cross over, particularly if you live in a relatively small town. I’ve had people look the other way when they’ve seen me in my job(I have a public facing work life) but equally I’ve had people happy to stand and have conversations both naughty(discreetly) and normal. Each to their own and I would never judge anybody if they wished to keep the two separate.
My longest fab friend has been a 5 year ongoing thing(a handful of times a year) where we regularly talk about family life(she’s married) and work life. I don’t judge her choices and I’m careful to make sure there’s never a crossover as we encounter each other socially occasionally. She has recently taken a five week leave of absence from Fab, then logged in and hidden her profile. I would suspect she has an issue of some description at home but even though I have her number and we’ve regularly swapped messages I respect her privacy and won’t contact her till(if) she returns to Fab.
They’re a lot of good guys on here who respect women and their choices the proper way. Unfortunately the morons let our gender down….. |
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By *ddie1966Man 36 weeks ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
I can't really say as there's 2 sides to any friendship.
Eg, I may consider someone as friend but they may look upon me as "that knob who sends me messages all the time"
This thread could easily be linked to the one about how long before someone contacts you if they haven't heard from you. |
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"Yes. I’ve got one or two i consider a fab friend.
Whether I’ve met them or not, doesn’t really mean much to me. It’s pretty much do I have a good conversation with them and good connection with them. "
Exactly this.
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