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By *sWyld OP Woman 48 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Does anyone else seem to have one of those faces, (or in my case some sort of invisible to me flashing sign) that encourages people to tell you their life story or problems?
I get this a lot. It's not necessarily a bad thing but it can be hard work.
On the train, at work, on dog walks. It happens everywhere!
Yet, when it comes to attracting men, I seem to have resting b*tch face or only get walking red flags!
So do you look approachable? Who /what do you attract? |
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By *r TriomanMan 48 weeks ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
Mainly women, in shops, at work, out walking, they just say hello and then bam, we've been chatting for an hour; I love it although, it can be a bit a bit difficult when I'm in a rush.
Anyway OP, it all started when I was born.... |
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By *host63Man 48 weeks ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"Does anyone else seem to have one of those faces, (or in my case some sort of invisible to me flashing sign) that encourages people to tell you their life story or problems?
I get this a lot. It's not necessarily a bad thing but it can be hard work.
On the train, at work, on dog walks. It happens everywhere!
Yet, when it comes to attracting men, I seem to have resting b*tch face or only get walking red flags!
So do you look approachable? Who /what do you attract? "
Well with my outstanding lack of success on here reckon i must be one of those people.
I have long learnt never to trust a book by its cover though. |
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Nope! I’ve always had a very serious look on my face and I think I give off a ‘fuck off and leave me alone’ vibe. The shaved head probably doesn’t help. Or the chainsaw.
It does mean I don’t have to put up with boring nonsense. Which is nice. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 48 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Yep. Probably because in most jobs I've ever had there's been an element, whether small or in great detail, of needing to talk to complete strangers about their personal lives.
Guess it puts my brain into 'I can sit and listen to inane chat for eternity' mode even when I'm not working.
That said its sometimes really interesting to listen to other people and probably therapeutic for them to have an outlet too.
I'm very good at escaping though if necessary. |
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I don't very often get a life story nowadays although I used to. It's more frequently men in their late 70s/80s telling me what time the bus will be and other useful information at the bus stop or women shouting complaints about the state of the nation through the lavatory door in public conveniences, because the hand dryer won't work.
My days of being approached by gentlemen asking if my dance card has spaces are long since gone  |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 48 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Yes. All my friends call me a weirdo magnet .
I think it’s coz I’ll speak to anyone! "
Yup I get this too. My sons have asked when I'll be running support groups in our living room for all the broken souls I seem to attract |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I always look like I’m in a bad mood so it doesn’t happen very often
Mr though, he gets them all! A five minute trip to the shop turns into half an hour. I always find it funny because he’s to nice to say if he is in a rush, so he will stand there and until they stop talking |
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I used to feel this way , I do it less now I realise I have finite capacity.
I’m still the person that brings the group together in a foreign country , getting to know everyone best , they confide in me etc and I then bond them to each other but with strangers on a train etc I’m selective how close I get. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I have a mixture of both. No I don't look approachable, headphones in and shut out the world kinda vibe. But once that conversation has been established people do tend to feel comfortable enough to spill their guts to me. |
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People talk to me on public transport (including in The London ) and I don't mind talking to random people. The problem comes when people come to talk to me to be annoying about disability shizz. No, I do NOT want you to pray for me (more minus points for touching me whilst you try to pray). No, I do not need your advice about the wisdom of being out "on my own". No, I do not need to tell you "what happened". Yes, I'm young. No, there's no such thing as too young to use a wheelchair and yes, this is my own natural-born child (it's a long story and none of anyone's business).
So, approach for random weather chat - fine
Nosy disabled stuff - nah.
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By *aseylee324Couple 48 weeks ago
Valley of Squinting Windows |
No, my carefully cultivated resting bitch face keeps strangers at a desirable arm's length.
I do seem to inspire sharing in closer acquaintances, I suspect that's because I speak less than the average person. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I think i look fairly unapproachable - I'm in my own world usually listening to music or a book, but if someone strikes up a conversation I'm very friendly...
Equally its usually me initiating the chat on a train if I'm sat next to them and they are female... I find it weird not acknowledging someone next to me?? Although I probably wouldn't put much energy into chatting with a man unless he looked 'friendly/open' |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Not my face, but when I smile and chat people seem to be comfortable sharing their stories with me. I am told I'm a great person to converse with yet I mainly listen... When I don't smile I am as approachable as an East London debt collector with a grudge. |
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Yes it’s quite strange! But in my job someone else will say to someone ‘hey how are you?’ And they’ll answer fine/good. But I ask the same thing and all of a sudden they’re telling me about their cousins relative who has cancer and all these issues and I’m just like okay! I quite like that folk feel they can talk to me though, a lot of people have no one to speak to so if I can be that person to someone then maybe they’re less alone?  |
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"The Mormons in the street always approach me. I’d rather they didn’t."
I think one time they wanted me to stop talking to them because I had a relative abroad who was living with Mormons (not Mormon themselves) and I was all like ‘oh my days do you know xx and blah blah blah…..’ they were just like errrrr…… 
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By *irthandgirthMan 48 weeks ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
"Does anyone else seem to have one of those faces, (or in my case some sort of invisible to me flashing sign) that encourages people to tell you their life story or problems?
I get this a lot. It's not necessarily a bad thing but it can be hard work.
On the train, at work, on dog walks. It happens everywhere!
Yet, when it comes to attracting men, I seem to have resting b*tch face or only get walking red flags!
So do you look approachable? Who /what do you attract? "
On the whole yes. However I have, up to this point, failed to locate the off switch to my inbuilt nutter magnet. |
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By *aizyWoman 48 weeks ago
west midlands |
I do, it drives my partner mad that we can't go shopping without me being stopped by at least one complete stranger stopping me to chat, it happens everytime, I can't just walk away. |
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I’ve had women and men approach me. But then again I always thought I look really miserable when I don’t smile. My late mum always looked angry when she didn’t smile, but was very pretty and glamorous anyway. |
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"I do, it drives my partner mad that we can't go shopping without me being stopped by at least one complete stranger stopping me to chat, it happens everytime, I can't just walk away."
I hope not in that atire or that would explain it |
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By *aizyWoman 48 weeks ago
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"I do, it drives my partner mad that we can't go shopping without me being stopped by at least one complete stranger stopping me to chat, it happens everytime, I can't just walk away.
I hope not in that atire or that would explain it "
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one. "
Di you think you'd realise it was me if i was sat next to you  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one.
Di you think you'd realise it was me if i was sat next to you "
Yes I do actually. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one.
Di you think you'd realise it was me if i was sat next to you
Yes I do actually. "
What would give it away  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one.
Di you think you'd realise it was me if i was sat next to you
Yes I do actually.
What would give it away "
The bottom half of your face. Or the chxker. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"No
People give me a wide birth..
If I get approached, it's by (young) men asking for drugs, mainly."
I do however approach other people, when appropriate. It's that way round usually. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Does anyone else seem to have one of those faces, (or in my case some sort of invisible to me flashing sign) that encourages people to tell you their life story or problems?
I get this a lot. It's not necessarily a bad thing but it can be hard work.
On the train, at work, on dog walks. It happens everywhere!
Yet, when it comes to attracting men, I seem to have resting b*tch face or only get walking red flags!
So do you look approachable? Who /what do you attract? "
Yup it's exhausting, so I sometimes put my headphones on if I just want left alone.
I can equally have no filter and overshare.
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By *r_reusMan 48 weeks ago
Coventry |
Nope, just about every relationship I've been in only began after she'd sat down and spoke with me a few times in no-pressure situations, where she'd admit that she found me quite scary before getting to know me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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F will collect all the waifs, strayys and eccentrics without fail. Utter peopel person. Got a random lovely Canadian bar maids phone no while in Brighton and also freemdrink. Free drinks also means she lost the receipt.
M is actually really friendly tho not mega talkative, that combined with resting dick face means he gets left alone. Once had a temp job as an admin in education and had staff who had been ther 20 years frightened to approach him as he "looked kinda pissed off" (he blames a no 1 all over buzz cut.. sure, sure) |
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"I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one. "
I take it you *hate people asking you for directions?! What about poor disabled people on London buses who can't see the "next stop" signs cos they're behind them?!
And you have a lovely face. Don't be daft  |
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I make a point of being on the phone when I'm out or have my ear phones in so people don't talk to me. If not, people will happily chat. God knows why because I look throughly miserable usually.
My partner will talk to everyone about anything, drives me bonkers He's definitely more socialble than me. |
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Yes, since about 14 or so people always think I work in shops when I'm just another customer like them. I also seem to be a magnet for people spilling their deepest innermost thoughts, despite me doing absolutely zero to encourage this and most of the time would rather they did not! |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one.
I take it you *hate people asking you for directions?! What about poor disabled people on London buses who can't see the "next stop" signs cos they're behind them?!
And you have a lovely face. Don't be daft "
I hate it. Unless it’s people I know
The face is alright but I’m going with the evidence
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I don't really know who I attract to be honest. I like to think I have a friendly enough looking face but can look quite intense and moody if something is annoying me. I guess it just depends. |
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"I don't really know who I attract to be honest. I like to think I have a friendly enough looking face but can look quite intense and moody if something is annoying me. I guess it just depends."
Now you said that you will attract everyone |
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If I am out and about then people do approach to ask for directions etc. Always happy to offer help because it is just paying it forward.
Do people tell me their life stories? Never. More than happy with that. |
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"I fucking have people sitting next to me on public transport or asking me for directions or help. Maybe I do have an approachable face. Despite my efforts not to.
When it comes to attracting people romantically? I think I have an approachable face too. Just not an attractive one.
I take it you *hate people asking you for directions?! What about poor disabled people on London buses who can't see the "next stop" signs cos they're behind them?!
And you have a lovely face. Don't be daft
I hate it. Unless it’s people I know
The face is alright but I’m going with the evidence
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I'll slap the evidence with a wet fish, if you carry on like that  |
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Being Irish I can be painfully friendly and have a tendency to say Hello to everyone.
This can result in people telling me their life stories.
If I'm in bad form though the resting bitch face is out in full force and no one will come near me |
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By *a LunaWoman 48 weeks ago
South Wales |
I always thought I was as I often get random folk chatting to me.
But a School mum told me that I look standoffish and unapproachable so I dunno. Conflicting reports.
I’m very shy so if I can avoid people and small talk I will, but sometimes people just find me |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I find that when I start conversations with people then they seem really at ease with me and it just flows nicely
But I’ve rarely had anyone come up to me to intiqte any chat. Motorbike wise it’s different I’ve had loads of people come look at my bike and chat to me from that even when I’ve just been parked up |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I'm not sure. My clothing style is fairly colourful so I feel that may help with being approachable, and people do approach and interact with me from time to time, but also my face tends to be neutral (no smile or moodiness either) so that could play into being less approachable. |
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6”1’, fat cunt, skin head, blessed with a face only a mother could love ( and a strange woman from hull apparently ) that looks like he’s thinking of ways to cook you.
No, I can tell by the looks I get on the school run I’m definitely not approachable.
The mr |
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Running joke at my last job was " I don't like your face". My boss said I looked angry on Teams. When I just sat listening to her feedback on a presentation she said it looked like I wanted to punch her. I resigned after that. She had a lot of issues. |
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