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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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Hi everyon3
.my best female friend spens friqdy n stayrdah woth her boyfriend she's 44 he's 59 I am happy for hwr cos she's happy or so she says.
She did have concerns qbout seeing him last night because of his ex wife been in touch. I spoke to my firend she said she going 2 see him last night l. Then I called today to see if she is OK her boyfriend answered spoke to me seem to have nic3 chat I ask is she OK sh2 said yeah in background cos she was eaten
But I don't understand why she didn't come to the phone. She having quiet weekend. As she been through lot in last 2 weeks involving her ex she said call her on Monday
Am I acting bit funny and over working about her and wounded why she didn't come to the phone l. Aladvice please thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 37 weeks ago
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"Hi everyon3
.my best female friend spens friqdy n stayrdah woth her boyfriend she's 44 he's 59 I am happy for hwr cos she's happy or so she says.
She did have concerns qbout seeing him last night because of his ex wife been in touch. I spoke to my firend she said she going 2 see him last night l. Then I called today to see if she is OK her boyfriend answered spoke to me seem to have nic3 chat I ask is she OK sh2 said yeah in background cos she was eaten
But I don't understand why she didn't come to the phone. She having quiet weekend. As she been through lot in last 2 weeks involving her ex she said call her on Monday
Am I acting bit funny and over working about her and wounded why she didn't come to the phone l. Aladvice please thanks "
it is am happy for her I think I worry about her to much after what her ex did to hwr |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Hi everyon3
.my best female friend spens friqdy n stayrdah woth her boyfriend she's 44 he's 59 I am happy for hwr cos she's happy or so she says.
She did have concerns qbout seeing him last night because of his ex wife been in touch. I spoke to my firend she said she going 2 see him last night l. Then I called today to see if she is OK her boyfriend answered spoke to me seem to have nic3 chat I ask is she OK sh2 said yeah in background cos she was eaten
But I don't understand why she didn't come to the phone. She having quiet weekend. As she been through lot in last 2 weeks involving her ex she said call her on Monday
Am I acting bit funny and over working about her and wounded why she didn't come to the phone l. Aladvice please thanks "
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Well she was eating but leave it until Monday like she said and she can give you an update then! "
thqts whqt am thinking but I am worried qbout her after whqt her ex did. And she was worried about going to see her boyfriend on firday cos of his ex wife been in touch
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"So this is a bit of a nuclear option, but if you are worried he is abusing her and keeping her from the phone you can call the police and ask them to do a well being check on her "
nit sure I'd it like thqt f I do get thee police then she be having go at me all am doing is seeing how she is
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Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? |
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"Well she was eating but leave it until Monday like she said and she can give you an update then! thqts whqt am thinking but I am worried qbout her after whqt her ex did. And she was worried about going to see her boyfriend on firday cos of his ex wife been in touch "
Maybe the ex wife left them alone! Try not to worry, your friend will get in touch with you. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Just leave her be
She will be in touch.if she wants to.br"
maybe am over worried qbout her just I don't want to see her hurt she had that in the past with her ex |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is?"
he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Well she was eating but leave it until Monday like she said and she can give you an update then! thqts whqt am thinking but I am worried qbout her after whqt her ex did. And she was worried about going to see her boyfriend on firday cos of his ex wife been in touch you think I worry bit to much about her I don't want to see her hurt she been throught thwt woth her ex
Maybe the ex wife left them alone! Try not to worry, your friend will get in touch with you. Xx"
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there"
maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot"
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy "
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. "
maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend"
I try but I really care for her |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her"
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. |
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"Think it's because am use to seeing her om weekends and now I feel down and worry about her on weekends"
It's late, you're on your own and it's hard to stop thinking about things. Can you distract yourself somehow? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. "
I do respect her wiwhew |
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me"
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Think it's because am use to seeing her om weekends and now I feel down and worry about her on weekends
It's late, you're on your own and it's hard to stop thinking about things. Can you distract yourself somehow? "
I try |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew"
So you'll wait until Monday? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! "
i did swynthqt but her boyfriend answered the phone saying she is having breakfast 11.30am I heard her voice in background she sound unhappy or still tired |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday?"
I try I worry qbout her |
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! i did swynthqt but her boyfriend answered the phone saying she is having breakfast 11.30am I heard her voice in background she sound unhappy or still tired "
Try not to overthink things and give her the space that she needs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! i did swynthqt but her boyfriend answered the phone saying she is having breakfast 11.30am I heard her voice in background she sound unhappy or still tired
Try not to overthink things and give her the space that she needs. "
I try not to it'd way he's been acting towards her that getting me worried |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday? I try I worry qbout her"
Ok Derek I'm going to be honest with you.
There's a chance that your friends boyfriend is no good, I don't know either of them so I'm not prepared to make that call. If you think she's in danger when you speak to her on Monday try to find out and if she is, point her in the direction of help.
If you don't think she's in danger leave her alone. You post every time she's with him that you're worried about her or that she's changed towards you or she's asked you not to contact her etc etc. I suspect that she's keeping you at arms length because she doesn't want her time with her boyfriend interrupted by you asking if she's ok.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this who can help you to stop worrying so much? |
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! i did swynthqt but her boyfriend answered the phone saying she is having breakfast 11.30am I heard her voice in background she sound unhappy or still tired
Try not to overthink things and give her the space that she needs. I try not to it'd way he's been acting towards her that getting me worried"
What exactly has you worried? |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday? I try I worry qbout her
Ok Derek I'm going to be honest with you.
There's a chance that your friends boyfriend is no good, I don't know either of them so I'm not prepared to make that call. If you think she's in danger when you speak to her on Monday try to find out and if she is, point her in the direction of help.
If you don't think she's in danger leave her alone. You post every time she's with him that you're worried about her or that she's changed towards you or she's asked you not to contact her etc etc. I suspect that she's keeping you at arms length because she doesn't want her time with her boyfriend interrupted by you asking if she's ok.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this who can help you to stop worrying so much?"
I don't think so she was telling me things on Wednesday Thursday and firdsy it was Friday when she mentioned he Ms ex wife been in touch she said he's been funny with her for while |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday? I try I worry qbout her
Ok Derek I'm going to be honest with you.
There's a chance that your friends boyfriend is no good, I don't know either of them so I'm not prepared to make that call. If you think she's in danger when you speak to her on Monday try to find out and if she is, point her in the direction of help.
If you don't think she's in danger leave her alone. You post every time she's with him that you're worried about her or that she's changed towards you or she's asked you not to contact her etc etc. I suspect that she's keeping you at arms length because she doesn't want her time with her boyfriend interrupted by you asking if she's ok.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this who can help you to stop worrying so much? I don't think so she was telling me things on Wednesday Thursday and firdsy it was Friday when she mentioned he Ms ex wife been in touch she said he's been funny with her for while "
I meant like a counsellor or someone because this seems to be impacting your life in a hugely negative way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! i did swynthqt but her boyfriend answered the phone saying she is having breakfast 11.30am I heard her voice in background she sound unhappy or still tired
Try not to overthink things and give her the space that she needs. I try not to it'd way he's been acting towards her that getting me worried
What exactly has you worried?"
way he's been acting towards her he's been funny with her she told me when I seen her on Wednesday he's been acting funny towards her I don't want to see her hurt like whqt her ex did to her |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday? I try I worry qbout her
Ok Derek I'm going to be honest with you.
There's a chance that your friends boyfriend is no good, I don't know either of them so I'm not prepared to make that call. If you think she's in danger when you speak to her on Monday try to find out and if she is, point her in the direction of help.
If you don't think she's in danger leave her alone. You post every time she's with him that you're worried about her or that she's changed towards you or she's asked you not to contact her etc etc. I suspect that she's keeping you at arms length because she doesn't want her time with her boyfriend interrupted by you asking if she's ok.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this who can help you to stop worrying so much? I don't think so she was telling me things on Wednesday Thursday and firdsy it was Friday when she mentioned he Ms ex wife been in touch she said he's been funny with her for while
I meant like a counsellor or someone because this seems to be impacting your life in a hugely negative way. "
we did speak about that to her |
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! i did swynthqt but her boyfriend answered the phone saying she is having breakfast 11.30am I heard her voice in background she sound unhappy or still tired
Try not to overthink things and give her the space that she needs. I try not to it'd way he's been acting towards her that getting me worried
What exactly has you worried? way he's been acting towards her he's been funny with her she told me when I seen her on Wednesday he's been acting funny towards her I don't want to see her hurt like whqt her ex did to her "
There's absolutely nothing you can do about that. She's an adult making her own choices, you can advise against them but after that it's up to her |
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By *jg83Man 36 weeks ago
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I know you're trying to be a good friend but I read your last post and now this one I personally think you might be a bit overbearing for her. Do you have feelings for her? I don't mean platonic? |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday? I try I worry qbout her
Ok Derek I'm going to be honest with you.
There's a chance that your friends boyfriend is no good, I don't know either of them so I'm not prepared to make that call. If you think she's in danger when you speak to her on Monday try to find out and if she is, point her in the direction of help.
If you don't think she's in danger leave her alone. You post every time she's with him that you're worried about her or that she's changed towards you or she's asked you not to contact her etc etc. I suspect that she's keeping you at arms length because she doesn't want her time with her boyfriend interrupted by you asking if she's ok.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this who can help you to stop worrying so much? I don't think so she was telling me things on Wednesday Thursday and firdsy it was Friday when she mentioned he Ms ex wife been in touch she said he's been funny with her for while
I meant like a counsellor or someone because this seems to be impacting your life in a hugely negative way. we did speak about that to her "
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"I think you need to leave it until she gets.in touch with you. I think.your reading to.mu just into essnt Ebenezer there maybe just I care about her qnd I worry about her qlot
She probably just wants some space so you need to respect her wishes! Wait until Monday and contact her then. maybe your right I wish she said thwt to me
Well she did say to contact her on Monday which you mentioned on your opening post. You need to respect that! i did swynthqt but her boyfriend answered the phone saying she is having breakfast 11.30am I heard her voice in background she sound unhappy or still tired
Try not to overthink things and give her the space that she needs. I try not to it'd way he's been acting towards her that getting me worried
What exactly has you worried? way he's been acting towards her he's been funny with her she told me when I seen her on Wednesday he's been acting funny towards her I don't want to see her hurt like whqt her ex did to her
There's absolutely nothing you can do about that. She's an adult making her own choices, you can advise against them but after that it's up to her"
I know her boyfriend only know her for 5 minuted and you you need periodical help badly I know she needs help but I didn't say it in case it became an argument but on Wednesday I was hasn't about it to her I said calmy you do need help she was alright woth it she said she takes my advice more than any other person |
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday? I try I worry qbout her
Ok Derek I'm going to be honest with you.
There's a chance that your friends boyfriend is no good, I don't know either of them so I'm not prepared to make that call. If you think she's in danger when you speak to her on Monday try to find out and if she is, point her in the direction of help.
If you don't think she's in danger leave her alone. You post every time she's with him that you're worried about her or that she's changed towards you or she's asked you not to contact her etc etc. I suspect that she's keeping you at arms length because she doesn't want her time with her boyfriend interrupted by you asking if she's ok.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this who can help you to stop worrying so much? I don't think so she was telling me things on Wednesday Thursday and firdsy it was Friday when she mentioned he Ms ex wife been in touch she said he's been funny with her for while
I meant like a counsellor or someone because this seems to be impacting your life in a hugely negative way. we did speak about that to her
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"Derek there are three possibilities.
1) her boyfriend was telling the truth and she was eating
2) sorry to sound harsh, she asked him to answer because she doesn't want to speak to you until Monday
3) he's deliberately preventing her from speaking to you.
Now I don't know any of you so I don't know which of those is the most likely. I recommend that if you believe her to be safe you do as she asks and contact her on Monday.
What makes you think she might not be happy even though she's told you she is? he did say she was eating breakfast at 11.30am but why didn't she ask how I was I called because she was worried about going to see him as he was acting funny towards her before firdsy
Derek I mean this as positively and as helpfully as possible but unless you genuinely believe your friend is in danger you need to leave her be. I know you're concerned and an overthinker but it's not helpful to your peace of mind.
If when you speak to her on Monday you're still concerned about her ask her to seek help.
If not then try to avoid contacting her when she's with her boyfriend I try but I really care for her
If you genuinely care for her you'll respect her wishes. I do respect her wiwhew
So you'll wait until Monday? I try I worry qbout her
Ok Derek I'm going to be honest with you.
There's a chance that your friends boyfriend is no good, I don't know either of them so I'm not prepared to make that call. If you think she's in danger when you speak to her on Monday try to find out and if she is, point her in the direction of help.
If you don't think she's in danger leave her alone. You post every time she's with him that you're worried about her or that she's changed towards you or she's asked you not to contact her etc etc. I suspect that she's keeping you at arms length because she doesn't want her time with her boyfriend interrupted by you asking if she's ok.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this who can help you to stop worrying so much? I don't think so she was telling me things on Wednesday Thursday and firdsy it was Friday when she mentioned he Ms ex wife been in touch she said he's been funny with her for while
I meant like a counsellor or someone because this seems to be impacting your life in a hugely negative way. we did speak about that to her
Who? I spkw about thwt to her"
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