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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Heard this song today for the first time in ages and got me thinking .... actually I haven't. I've lusted after those I shouldn't, but can't say I've ever fallen in love. Just wondering how often this happens and if it really is love or just lust?
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, it happens. Happened to me with a younger guy unexpectedly and painfully and I did not realise that my patience would change nothing for quite a long time.
I think you know it's love when you still feel the same for someone after a really long time. They may still be with you or they may not.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Heard this song today for the first time in ages and got me thinking .... actually I haven't. I've lusted after those I shouldn't, but can't say I've ever fallen in love. Just wondering how often this happens and if it really is love or just lust?
The end
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I had strong feelings for my first meet. still have deep down, but waste of time I know he wont want to meet me again. He found out about them and that ended that. Id be happy with meeting for just coffee or a drink if I could see him again. They wont go away either I know that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes.
Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again.
Same here.... which is sad because everyone deserves love.... "
If you could walk a mile in the past with the knowledge we have today we would all have blessed lives.
Sadly we all make decisions we regret - some with our eyes open and some blinded by love.
Don't run away from them or be scared to confront them and certainly don't let your past mistakes prevent you from finding future happiness. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes.
Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again.
Same here.... which is sad because everyone deserves love....
If you could walk a mile in the past with the knowledge we have today we would all have blessed lives.
Sadly we all make decisions we regret - some with our eyes open and some blinded by love.
Don't run away from them or be scared to confront them and certainly don't let your past mistakes prevent you from finding future happiness."
I don't regret any of those experiences. I have made the same mistake several times but each time I get a bit better at fixing myself and refining what happens. I've learnt a lot about other people and myself through these experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........
Do do do do do da da da....."
Hey! You can't change the song half way through!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ..........."
Done that too
Didnt work for me
Would sooner have nothing than something just for the sake of it |
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"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........
Done that too
Didnt work for me
Would sooner have nothing than something just for the sake of it "
Awww I loves you if that helps...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........
Done that too
Didnt work for me
Would sooner have nothing than something just for the sake of it "
Exactly and through age, god that sounds bad  you realise that life is too short to just be there, to just do a daily routine and it is far better to be with someone you do actually love. |
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"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........
Do do do do do da da da.....
Hey! You can't change the song half way through!!!! "
Thought that bit was in it......it's csn.....doin the harmonies.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, my ex wife, shouldnt have fallen in love with her, even her own family warned me off her and she lived up to the hype. One plus though, we are better as friends than we were ever as lovers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones."
And me lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.
And me lol "
either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.
And me lol
either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!! "
Erm, erm, I am as sweet as....hmm! Yes...just sweet as will do |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.
And me lol
either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!! "
That has made me wonder if people have fallen in love with you but not had it reciprocated? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And lets not forget falling for the right person at the wrong time ?
Or falling for the right person but the only people who know it are you and them ?
Sadly far too many relationships dont get off the ground because of the interferances of others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.
And me lol
either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!
That has made me wonder if people have fallen in love with you but not had it reciprocated?"
I would say in my case yes and I should have got the "out" sorted, but sometimes in life things are comfortable and you just ride with it..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.
And me lol
either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!
Erm, erm, I am as sweet as....hmm! Yes...just sweet as will do "
well in that case I'm joining you, because I'm definitely that sweet too!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And lets not forget falling for the right person at the wrong time ?
Or falling for the right person but the only people who know it are you and them ?
Sadly far too many relationships dont get off the ground because of the interferances of others"
Or even end because of interference from others... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.
And me lol
either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!
Erm, erm, I am as sweet as....hmm! Yes...just sweet as will do
well in that case I'm joining you, because I'm definitely that sweet too!! "
Sugar and spice and all things nice |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"And lets not forget falling for the right person at the wrong time ?
Or falling for the right person but the only people who know it are you and them ?
Sadly far too many relationships dont get off the ground because of the interferances of others"
So true. I have experienced all of those. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)
I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.
And me lol
either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!
That has made me wonder if people have fallen in love with you but not had it reciprocated?"
hmmm interesting spin....I once had a guy claim to have fallen in love with me to get out of his recent engagement..but there aren't any that I'm aware of |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have"
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
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can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes.
Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again.
Same here.... which is sad because everyone deserves love....
If you could walk a mile in the past with the knowledge we have today we would all have blessed lives.
Sadly we all make decisions we regret - some with our eyes open and some blinded by love.
Don't run away from them or be scared to confront them and certainly don't let your past mistakes prevent you from finding future happiness."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes been in love when shouldn't, had amazing double life experience for 2 years. Then had to make a wrong decision and have regretted it ever since. Met the love of my life, still think of her every day morning nd night but had to walk away. Still this lady soooo much It's a killer. But I'd add amazing experience when you suddenly get that knocked off your feet first look and you both are in oar of each other ! Just take care can wreck your life xxxx the sex is incredible when you really really love em xxxxx night all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself."
I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?
Is it falling in love? Or just lust? |
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
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from my pov, simply the pain. The absolute heart ripped out, whole world stops spinning pain.
you can't get away from it, can't switch it off & i don't wish it on anyone, ever |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
from my pov, simply the pain. The absolute heart ripped out, whole world stops spinning pain.
you can't get away from it, can't switch it off & i don't wish it on anyone, ever "
Well I would say, relish the good times you remember and also although extremely hard to do or think remember life goes on and what is meant to be will be. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself.
I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?
Is it falling in love? Or just lust? "
Love and lust/crushes are very similar. The difference is the depth of feeling and its longevity. Both create a feeling akin to madness and anxiety. With reciprocated and deep love you lose the anxiety.
I wish everyone I have ever loved well, even those that have really hurt me. I love them still but that doesn't mean I want to be with them now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When it's right you will you know. It's just amazing a whirlwind that runs out of control. Real love is like loosing yourself when in that persons company, you can feel their alive with every breath. Then suddenly it hits hard and rips your heart nd guts out but that's human. So take care, if you have room for live great if not walk on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself.
I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?
Is it falling in love? Or just lust? "
Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way
And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself.
I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?
Is it falling in love? Or just lust?
Love and lust/crushes are very similar. The difference is the depth of feeling and its longevity. Both create a feeling akin to madness and anxiety. With reciprocated and deep love you lose the anxiety.
I wish everyone I have ever loved well, even those that have really hurt me. I love them still but that doesn't mean I want to be with them now."
Yes I see that, imo I have truly only loved one man and that in turn is deep and "real", that is rip your heart out time, but I believe and always will do falling in "lust" and actually loving someone are truly two different things.
What keeps a relationship working is not a notion, but you actually truly love them and are madly and deeply in love with them, which in my opinion nothing and no one could tear apart or break.
If it is broken, you didn't really have either to start with and also I am great believer in never regret anything, the past should stay where it belongs.
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself.
I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?
Is it falling in love? Or just lust?
Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way
And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way."
Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.
What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties.... |
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself.
I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?
Is it falling in love? Or just lust?
Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way
And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.
Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.
What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties...."
Some peopld just don't see it
Thankfully this hasn't happened to me yet and any1 love i have found has always been reciprocated
But having that love reciprocated doesnt always mean that they are 'the one'
When you do find that person you will question everything that has gone before.
Getting back to what you say tho some people do fall too easily or are so desperate for love they will grasp anything that vaguely resembles it.
Finding out that it isnt it can be very painful irrespective of the circumstances |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.
Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.
What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties...."
There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.
You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt. |
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself.
I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?
Is it falling in love? Or just lust?
Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way
And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.
Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.
What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....
Some peopld just don't see it
Thankfully this hasn't happened to me yet and any1 love i have found has always been reciprocated
But having that love reciprocated doesnt always mean that they are 'the one'
When you do find that person you will question everything that has gone before.
Getting back to what you say tho some people do fall too easily or are so desperate for love they will grasp anything that vaguely resembles it.
Finding out that it isnt it can be very painful irrespective of the circumstances"
Yes completely agree, I am not actually a tough "bitch" lol just wonder often and I know the honeymoon period of a relationship can be very misleading..... |
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And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.
Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.
What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....
There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.
You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt."
Fair enough and my first husband, well the fact that the divorce lasted 6 years proves this, I had a duty to remain but never loved....so hence I am not sure I entirely understand why people get to the stage of being heartbroken and holding on to at any cost something they must realise isn't there? |
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And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.
Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.
What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....
There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.
You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt.
Fair enough and my first husband, well the fact that the divorce lasted 6 years proves this, I had a duty to remain but never loved....so hence I am not sure I entirely understand why people get to the stage of being heartbroken and holding on to at any cost something they must realise isn't there?"
I must add 3 of those not being together lol |
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Yes I fell in Love with someone I shouldn't have...
And I've also walked away from someone I didn't love...
I would sooner be single and alone than be with someone and be lonley xx |
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Yep, sometimes it just hits you when you least expect it, was never planned, it just happens. Hurts like hell when it doesn't work out but I still believe in better to have loved and lost. Having had my heart broken more than once now I know I can survive and will come out the other side eventually. Life's for living and I'd rather ride the rollercoaster than stand on the side and watch... |
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Hmmm, yes and no.
I fell for someone I met on here but unfortunately it couldn't last. I have two exs who cheated on me and hurt me.
Some people would say these were people I shouldn't have fallen in love with, but the experiences made me who I am today so actually, I SHOULD'VE fallen in love with them.
I currently have a friendship with someone who loves me/is in love with me, but I don't feel as strongly about him. He thinks we should be together anyway because he'll give me what I want but as previous posters have said, it's better to have nothing than to settle for someone not quite right |
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"Hmmm, yes and no.
I fell for someone I met on here but unfortunately it couldn't last. I have two exs who cheated on me and hurt me.
Some people would say these were people I shouldn't have fallen in love with, but the experiences made me who I am today so actually, I SHOULD'VE fallen in love with them.
I currently have a friendship with someone who loves me/is in love with me, but I don't feel as strongly about him. He thinks we should be together anyway because he'll give me what I want but as previous posters have said, it's better to have nothing than to settle for someone not quite right "
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"I wish sometimes I had men falling at my feet...I used to chase but have stopped myself from doing that..lThen you would be tripping over.  "
And potentially hurt yourself... Sprained ankles broken bones ect |
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And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends
Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.
Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.
What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....
There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.
You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt.
Fair enough and my first husband, well the fact that the divorce lasted 6 years proves this, I had a duty to remain but never loved....so hence I am not sure I entirely understand why people get to the stage of being heartbroken and holding on to at any cost something they must realise isn't there?"
I guess its the money and kids that make people hold onto a relationship that is nothing more than perhaps brother and sister, being lonely, fear of going it alone, the admission that they have failed (a reason my mother didn't leave my step dad) |
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"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have
I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?
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Because its painful to love someone that doesn't feel the same about you maybe? |
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This song my dad would sing Johnny Cash and Thing Called LOVE . Shows no matter your size love can still get to you , lol.
Six foot six he stood on the ground
He weighed two hundred and thirty-five pounds
But I saw that giant of a man brought down
To his knees by love
He was the kind of man that would gamble on luck
Look you in the eye and never back up
But I saw him crying like a little whipped pup
Because of love
You can't see it with your eyes, hold it in your hands
But like the wind it covers our land
Strong enough to rule the heart of any man
This thing called love
It can lift you up never let you down
Take your world and turn it around
Ever since time nothing's ever been found
That's stronger than love .
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"Yes, but I am more than twice her age so no chance of it going further! "
Why ?
cos she doesn't want it, or cos u think it isn't feasible or just because other people don't like the idea of it ? |
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By *icky55Man
over a year ago
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Love no never, learnt the difference between lust and a crush long ago.
Love is unconditional if you expect any thing from it you will never find it. It just happens when it does time seems to stop It just feels right, and nothing matters but that moment. You can't make it happen or predict it, you can't buy it or share it or demand it. with sex you can. |
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"Yes, but I am more than twice her age so no chance of it going further!
Why ?
cos she doesn't want it, or cos u think it isn't feasible or just because other people don't like the idea of it ?"
All of those, plus my wife wouldn't let me!  |
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"Yes, but I am more than twice her age so no chance of it going further!
Why ?
cos she doesn't want it, or cos u think it isn't feasible or just because other people don't like the idea of it ?
All of those, plus my wife wouldn't let me! "
ah !
well yeah that could be a major sticking point |
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"Yep I have and it hurts like hell especially of they don't feel the same way , but hey Ho that's life "
yes..and its the saddest loneliest place to be...but you can't help who you fall in love with....it just happens
away for a good cry now!!!!! |
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"Yep I have and it hurts like hell especially of they don't feel the same way , but hey Ho that's life
yes..and its the saddest loneliest place to be...but you can't help who you fall in love with....it just happens
away for a good cry now!!!!! "
Yes and not a healthy place to be. I was with my ex for 6 years and boom I had to tell her that my parents were setting me up abroad. At the time I was young naive I didn't fight for her, she was devastated so was I. I didn't know weather to follow my heart or head. I was so confused i didnt know what to do of who to speak to. i was scared of embarrassing my fam. In the end I went with it thinking my parents new what was best for me. The person I was set up with I had a baby to, we parted as I told her about my ex, still think about my ex every day. The song adell came out with sliced my heart but this is now a semi distance memory as my child is my everything. I would never stand in the way of my child if she said she found love. But I'm not the 23 year old religious person I was. With the help of a few friends and some fam I pulled through, yet to bump into my ex. It's a sad place to be in when you are thinking about that special 1. Wish I could tell her my side of the story till this day I haven't met any1 who was loving and caring as my ex was! |
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