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Do you think people take advantage of you?
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"Yes. But I don’t always mind. If I’m aware and I allow it, it’s on me not them. "
I’m pretty much along these lines too 
I don’t feel like it’s a fab thing, only a “regular” life thing. Usually due to me being over ambitious with my friendship trust compass. |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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I am so aware of how easily I am taken advantage of now that I rarely let anyone get close to me - especially physically… It’s one of the things about my autism that drives me fucking insane BUT I’ve had to learn to accept it - I’m not good at boundaries in real life so I have to protect myself before I get there.
Years of therapy has helped me accept it but I doubt I’ll ever be able to stop it happening. I’ve accepted it though - I have LET people take advantage of me rather than them just doing it but it’s not actually my fault - it’s my brains - technically hehe |
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By *ddie1966Man 37 weeks ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
I try my best to be a polite, kind and generous person. Some mistake this as being taken advantage of.
They couldn't be further from the truth.
If I say no, I mean NO!
Push it and I'll always push back harder.
Keep pushing and the friendship ends.
Full stop.
Am I bad for my attitude ? |
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By *eliWoman 37 weeks ago
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Sometimes yes. I'm quite soft, forgive easily and care deeply. I don't want to change those parts of me though, harden up through cynicism and life. So I accept that it *could* potentially happen and hope it doesn't. Have hope in people. |
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By *emidemiWoman 37 weeks ago
basingstoke |
Yes. I’m a people pleaser and just don’t know how to say no, and people abuse that.
Although my New Year’s resolution was to get better at setting boundaries with it, and I think I’m doing well..  |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"I think with age it becomes easier to spot the people more likely to try
We tolerate less too. "
Modt definitely - or rather perhaps we recognise our own value |
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