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Date a fabber? Or not.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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This is a dating thread.
Are you open for dating, or are you just into staying single and enjoying the sexy swinging lifestyle of none committed relationships?
If you are into dating and not just a hook up sex meet, see if anyone else joins this thread, tell them you match up for a social/date and see how things go. You can match with 1 or more, this is Fab after all.
Good luck, we all need some sometimes. 
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Yes absolutely. If I’m into swinging, why wouldn’t I want to date other swingers?
I love a non-monogamous lifestyle so there’s room for both casual swinging hook-ups as well as more long-lasting connections. |
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By *iasubTV/TS 35 weeks ago
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"Yes absolutely. If I’m into swinging, why wouldn’t I want to date other swingers?
I love a non-monogamous lifestyle so there’s room for both casual swinging hook-ups as well as more long-lasting connections."
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings."
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes. "
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun. |
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I like the idea of dating someone in the scene, but then I don't know if I want to share the swinging side of me with someone. I like that swinging is my thing I do for me. And I wouldn't be willing to give up those I already see in the scene |
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By *sWyldWoman 35 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
I am very open to dating. It's what I'm looking for and I make no secret of that.
Dating doesn't mean we run off into the sunset together though, it just means I want the whole experience. Not just some stollen fumbles and definitely not the "fuck and go" thing.
I would absolutely be open to having a relationship if I met the right person here. I reality I'm not really a swinger and that would possibly be the deal breaker for most given they are here.
I am happy to be non exclusive and enjoy the freedoms of being single, but in an ideal world, my happy ever after wouldn't involve other people.
Thats not a judgement in anyway, it's just how I feel and what I know about myself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes.
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun."
Wrong. Or that how you see it.
I’ve asked someone in fab for a proper date, and we’d never had sex. I actually meant it.
But you wouldn’t do that with anyone would you?
Just someone you felt might be in your level for something to build on.
And so, this is my point with this thread.
But if you see that all people on fab have to offer you is sex and nothing more, I can see why you wouldn’t date from here.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes.
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun.
Wrong. Or that how you see it.
I’ve asked someone in fab for a proper date, and we’d never had sex. I actually meant it.
But you wouldn’t do that with anyone would you?
Just someone you felt might be in your level for something to build on.
And so, this is my point with this thread.
But if you see that all people on fab have to offer you is sex and nothing more, I can see why you wouldn’t date from here.
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Whats wrong is asking for opinions and then picking apart someone for their answers. You do you, I'm gonna leave it there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes.
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun.
Wrong. Or that how you see it.
I’ve asked someone in fab for a proper date, and we’d never had sex. I actually meant it.
But you wouldn’t do that with anyone would you?
Just someone you felt might be in your level for something to build on.
And so, this is my point with this thread.
But if you see that all people on fab have to offer you is sex and nothing more, I can see why you wouldn’t date from here.
Whats wrong is asking for opinions and then picking apart someone for their answers. You do you, I'm gonna leave it there. "
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes.
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun."
That’s not true. I’ve certainly signed up with the intention to date people who are into swinging, as well as continuing to have more casual encounters.
And you can have sex on the first date if you want to. It doesn’t make it less of a date. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes.
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun.
That’s not true. I’ve certainly signed up with the intention to date people who are into swinging, as well as continuing to have more casual encounters.
And you can have sex on the first date if you want to. It doesn’t make it less of a date."
This! |
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By *ookie46Woman 35 weeks ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
"I am very open to dating. It's what I'm looking for and I make no secret of that.
Dating doesn't mean we run off into the sunset together though, it just means I want the whole experience. Not just some stollen fumbles and definitely not the "fuck and go" thing.
I would absolutely be open to having a relationship if I met the right person here. I reality I'm not really a swinger and that would possibly be the deal breaker for most given they are here.
I am happy to be non exclusive and enjoy the freedoms of being single, but in an ideal world, my happy ever after wouldn't involve other people.
Thats not a judgement in anyway, it's just how I feel and what I know about myself. "
I could have wrote that myself but not as eloquently |
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You can find relationships anywhere right? Here is just as good as any.
With the right person I’d be open to it. But it’d be something that grows organically from a deep friendship first, not something I’d be actively seeking to find. |
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By *sWyldWoman 35 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes.
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun.
That’s not true. I’ve certainly signed up with the intention to date people who are into swinging, as well as continuing to have more casual encounters.
And you can have sex on the first date if you want to. It doesn’t make it less of a date."
You can also wait til date 3 on fab too  |
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By *ornycougaWoman 35 weeks ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings.
That’s a date isn’t it?
That’s my point. …
I think everyone kinda jumps the gun sometimes.
But it's not possible on fab. People don't sign up with the intention to date, they want to bang. The only way people begin dating is by starting with the sex so you can't avoid jumping the gun."
I tried Bumble briefly and from the 2 interactions I had before I deleted it they were expecting nudes and/or sex from the get go. Loads of guys on here are open to the more social side as well as (and in some cases instead of) a quick fuck and go. |
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As has been proven by many couples on Fab, relationships happen - whether seeking to date or not. I've met people on here and have gone on to have romantic relationships with them, where we've swung as a couple.
So yes, I'd absolutely be open to dating a swinger again and seeing where it leads. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Not something I need to worry about luckily. I’m undateable anyway."
That’s how I feel sometimes. Hence this thread.
You are someone’s type, it’s just getting yourself out there to be noticed I think. *my oppinion.
I don’t, and I’m trying to change it.
I realy hope the people who join this thread with an open mind find a date.  |
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It’s not something I would proactively seek on fab, but I was never closed off to the idea.
I’ve been seeking a relationship away from the lifestyle because I feel it better suits what I want. However, if I’d been playing with someone on fab I had really clicked with, and the opportunity arose, and we both felt it was the right thing to do, I would certainly have considered it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"It’s not something I would proactively seek on fab, but I was never closed off to the idea.
I’ve been seeking a relationship away from the lifestyle because I feel it better suits what I want. However, if I’d been playing with someone on fab I had really clicked with, and the opportunity arose, and we both felt it was the right thing to do, I would certainly have considered it.
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Would you have then stayed with this kinky side? Or have you ventured to just going ‘vanilla’ (hate that phrase). Just out of interest, because I’m nosey.  |
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Yes I’m open to it
I’ve dated 2 guys I met via fab. Online dating is horrific and meeting someone via here I do at least get to be my whole self which is rather refreshing.
How we as a couple move forward is up to us but you can date and form relationships via here.
I don’t wish to date every guy I meet here and it’s only something that comes up when you realise how often you are in contact and how much time you are spending together.
I’m open to it. |
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"It’s not something I would proactively seek on fab, but I was never closed off to the idea.
I’ve been seeking a relationship away from the lifestyle because I feel it better suits what I want. However, if I’d been playing with someone on fab I had really clicked with, and the opportunity arose, and we both felt it was the right thing to do, I would certainly have considered it.
Would you have then stayed with this kinky side? Or have you ventured to just going ‘vanilla’ (hate that phrase). Just out of interest, because I’m nosey. "
Depends on what we both wanted. I would assume fab would always be a part of our lives as we met there and are comfortable with the lifestyle. I suppose the natural assumption would be to make a couples profile or keep single ones. But that’s all speculation. |
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By *eliWoman 35 weeks ago
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I'm poly. Open to dating but not actively looking to, if that makes sense?
For me, I'm not a swinger. I don't have sex when I first meet someone (a handful of people in a decade), I'm not attracted to people unless there's a level of friendship there. I don't think dating has to mean running in to the sunset. So yes, I would. I'm happy right now with friendships and seeing what organically develops without pressure though. It's going well. |
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I’m very keen on the idea of dating someone who is already in the lifestyle. A vanilla relationship just wouldn’t work for me but I do want the commitment of a LTR with the bonus of enjoying certain kinks in addition. |
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I’m open to dating on here but it’s not what I’m expecting. The men I’m attracted to on here seem to be guys I wouldn’t have normally come into contact with away from fab and we’re rarely life style compatible. |
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We originally came here looking for a FWB type thing for me and group shenanigans. A combination of factors has lead us not to have made much progress. I don't feel like I have enough time for committing to any kind of dating but the poly idea does appeal. I don't want to lead anyone on, though. And I want enough time for my husband.
Have we tried extending the week or slowing down time?! |
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By *a LunaWoman 35 weeks ago
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I have done, albeit briefly.
It’s not something I would actively seek out, just as I no longer have interest in dating apps etc. I realised I prefer my romances to happen organically. Spontaneously.
I’m also not a swinger, so I don’t think dating a swinger would be fair on either of us. |
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I’ve dated people from fab before now, and I probably would again.
I’m at a stage where I’m very jaded by dating right now though, I’m very burnt out. So Prince Charming will have to find me instead of the other way around  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Is more dating in fabs the reach the eye .
I think : the dating or long term interest is higher then just hook up or nsa .
Im getting married from fabs ,
many people , (mainly couples) here are .
The rumour about Fabs is a " sex-site" is not as accurate ...
Me personally :
NSA , FWB , dating ,etc is all labels ...
What counts is the chemistry n how it feels ...
And yes a NSA is treated with love and passion .
NSA doesnt mean cold toy
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"Personally it's not for me, I don't want to start a relationship with sex. If I was to date someone I'd want to build a different foundation before introducing sex to separate lust and genuine feelings."
This strikes a chord with me and I definitely agree.
But no, dating is not what I'm looking for at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I hate being single, but I suck at relationships. I’m not sure if that’s because monogamy isn’t for me, or if I’m just shit at dating. Hit me up if this appeals to you |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I hate being single, but I suck at relationships. I’m not sure if that’s because monogamy isn’t for me, or if I’m just shit at dating. Hit me up if this appeals to you "
I feel ya! |
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"I hate being single, but I suck at relationships. I’m not sure if that’s because monogamy isn’t for me, or if I’m just shit at dating. Hit me up if this appeals to you
I feel ya!"
I'd feel you both  |
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By *lan157Man 35 weeks ago
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Dating swinger friends worked for me on several levels .We better understood each other and were able to participate together.Dating meant we had all the other shared interests to enjoy as well . |
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