I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
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"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all"
Most profiles that say they aren’t looking for single males are looking for single males
They just have they filters set so men can’t message them and perfer to do they own hunting |
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By *ickD80Man 37 weeks ago
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"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all"
You have your profile set to ‘not looking for single guy’ haha, I think that claiming to be discriminated against could be quite offensive to people who have actually experienced real discrimination. You’re not being discriminated against you’re just not getting exactly what you want when you want it. |
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"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all
Most profiles that say they aren’t looking for single males are looking for single males
They just have they filters set so men can’t message them and perfer to do they own hunting "
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"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all
You have your profile set to ‘not looking for single guy’ haha, I think that claiming to be discriminated against could be quite offensive to people who have actually experienced real discrimination. You’re not being discriminated against you’re just not getting exactly what you want when you want it."
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"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all
Most profiles that say they aren’t looking for single males are looking for single males
They just have they filters set so men can’t message them and perfer to do they own hunting "
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"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all"
My deepest apologies that the site puts a label on the message block for men and not for other groups. No one can possibly understand your pain. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No"
Of course we're discriminated against, some of us are rude and sexual in the first message, i mean do you talk sex the first time you meet someone? We of course outnumber the women by a lot so it gives the carte blanche on choice  |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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It’s very easy to feel not wanted on here op. But you’re only on a website.
Don’t let the way we are forced to interact with people online, influence your thinking that you are discriminated against.  |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
NoOf course we're discriminated against, some of us are rude and sexual in the first message, i mean do you talk sex the first time you meet someone? We of course outnumber the women by a lot so it gives the carte blanche on choice "
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"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all
My deepest apologies that the site puts a label on the message block for men and not for other groups. No one can possibly understand your pain."
Another pleasant interaction... You are just delightful. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please  "
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it  |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"Perhaps we need another World war?
There was a surplus of women in 1918.
Unfortunately there was no Fab then and, also, a lot of the women weren't looking for replacement partners."
But weren’t the women making ammunition…..
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
NoOf course we're discriminated against, some of us are rude and sexual in the first message, i mean do you talk sex the first time you meet someone? We of course outnumber the women by a lot so it gives the carte blanche on choice "
Very true. I mean men are to blame of course.... But its fair to feel somewhat "tarred with the same brush". Especially when you read some of the reactions here. People dont know me yet they assume I am a certain way.
Shame really I thought people were a bit more open minded. |
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"It’s very easy to feel not wanted on here op. But you’re only on a website.
Don’t let the way we are forced to interact with people online, influence your thinking that you are discriminated against. "
Maybe discriminated is a the wrong word... Stereotyped maybe... Not sure. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
NoOf course we're discriminated against, some of us are rude and sexual in the first message, i mean do you talk sex the first time you meet someone? We of course outnumber the women by a lot so it gives the carte blanche on choice
Very true. I mean men are to blame of course.... But its fair to feel somewhat "tarred with the same brush". Especially when you read some of the reactions here. People dont know me yet they assume I am a certain way.
Shame really I thought people were a bit more open minded. "
exactly this many guys get tarred with the same brush because of whats gone before but establish a connection and you'll eventually get success |
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"Perhaps we need another World war?
There was a surplus of women in 1918.
Unfortunately there was no Fab then and, also, a lot of the women weren't looking for replacement partners.
But weren’t the women making ammunition…..
just saying! "
.. and egging the men on to go and fight! |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No"
If you want to know why just look at the kind of things single men post about in forums then contemplate that if that's what they are willing to say publicly what must they be like in private messages |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it "
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to |
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If you want to know why just look at the kind of things single men post about in forums then contemplate that if that's what they are willing to say publicly what must they be like in private messages "
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to "
I would say in any aspect of the sex industry males are not the privileged ones. It is very one sided towards women. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to
I would say in any aspect of the sex industry males are not the privileged ones. It is very one sided towards women. "
Do you mean sided against women, predominantly? |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
If you want to know why just look at the kind of things single men post about in forums then contemplate that if that's what they are willing to say publicly what must they be like in private messages "
Discrimination by definition is making a judgement on someone by category or race based not on individual merit but the collective. Your point is exactly what I mean. Because someone is a solo male you assume they are all the same. That is discrimination. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to
I would say in any aspect of the sex industry males are not the privileged ones. It is very one sided towards women.
Do you mean sided against women, predominantly?"
For women. Women are the ones that benefit mostly from the sex industry. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to
I would say in any aspect of the sex industry males are not the privileged ones. It is very one sided towards women.
Do you mean sided against women, predominantly?
For women. Women are the ones that benefit mostly from the sex industry. "
Could you explain what you mean by “the sex industry” and how women benefit from it? |
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No
If you want to know why just look at the kind of things single men post about in forums then contemplate that if that's what they are willing to say publicly what must they be like in private messages
Discrimination by definition is making a judgement on someone by category or race based not on individual merit but the collective. Your point is exactly what I mean. Because someone is a solo male you assume they are all the same. That is discrimination. "
I’d love to hear why you discriminate against single guys yourself. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to
I would say in any aspect of the sex industry males are not the privileged ones. It is very one sided towards women.
Do you mean sided against women, predominantly?
For women. Women are the ones that benefit mostly from the sex industry.
Could you explain what you mean by “the sex industry” and how women benefit from it?"
I would also like this explained.
But also also, not being the most sought after person doesn't mean you're being discriminated against. Just that you're not the preference. |
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By *riel13Woman 37 weeks ago
Northampton |
"I guess I have just never seen "not looking for single women" or "not looking for couples" but "not looking for single males" is up on 50% of accounts.
Please understand that I know why - men are hounds. But I am just making a point that its very discriminatory.
Just saying...
Love you all"
I'm not looking for single femalea... Or couples... Is that discrimination?  |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to
I would say in any aspect of the sex industry males are not the privileged ones. It is very one sided towards women.
Do you mean sided against women, predominantly?
For women. Women are the ones that benefit mostly from the sex industry.
Could you explain what you mean by “the sex industry” and how women benefit from it?"
Ha ha. Ah come on now. How do women benefit from the sex industry? Really... |
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I feel that the word discrimination has rubbed people up the wrong way and its not what I meant. More that its incredibly difficult for single males to be able to chat to the person of their choosing on here as they immediately got put in a box with all the other single males.
I am surprised by the negative reactions, I really thought it would be more of a conversation starter than to be perceived as an attack. I do apologise if I offended anyone. |
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No
Can we have some examples here please
Just read the messages... I am privileged "tall white male" so I should feel nothing apparently. Just get on with it
I think that's just pointing put that usually very privileged group experiences less privilege here.
That's not discrimination. It's just less privilege than they're accustomed to
I would say in any aspect of the sex industry males are not the privileged ones. It is very one sided towards women.
Do you mean sided against women, predominantly?
For women. Women are the ones that benefit mostly from the sex industry.
Could you explain what you mean by “the sex industry” and how women benefit from it?
I would also like this explained.
But also also, not being the most sought after person doesn't mean you're being discriminated against. Just that you're not the preference."
Just to clarify maybe discrimination is the wrong term but rather its very easy as a single male to be put in a box with all the others. Thats all.
Women do massively benefit from sex in general. I dont really need to explain that do I? Ha ha. |
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"I feel that the word discrimination has rubbed people up the wrong way and its not what I meant. More that its incredibly difficult for single males to be able to chat to the person of their choosing on here as they immediately got put in a box with all the other single males.
I am surprised by the negative reactions, I really thought it would be more of a conversation starter than to be perceived as an attack. I do apologise if I offended anyone."
Discrimination is a very different word to what you supposedly meant.
The single males on here I've connected with have been able to talk to me just fine.
The endless sea of unwanted penii on here actually makes it easier to see the people that are actually interesting to me when they shine bright against that constant deluge of beige mediocrity |
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"I feel that the word discrimination has rubbed people up the wrong way and its not what I meant. More that its incredibly difficult for single males to be able to chat to the person of their choosing on here as they immediately got put in a box with all the other single males.
I am surprised by the negative reactions, I really thought it would be more of a conversation starter than to be perceived as an attack. I do apologise if I offended anyone.
Discrimination is a very different word to what you supposedly meant.
The single males on here I've connected with have been able to talk to me just fine.
The endless sea of unwanted penii on here actually makes it easier to see the people that are actually interesting to me when they shine bright against that constant deluge of beige mediocrity "
Thats really good to know. Ya just wanted to get a conversation going and used the wrong terminology perhaps.
Really nice to chat to you all about it. I learnt something new today.
I will take my white privileged ass outta here now I think.
I cant see an option to end the conversation though... Its quite stressful  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 37 weeks ago
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"Is there a more discriminated against species on the Kink scene?
No"
Yes. Lots.
Every time I see the word 'discrimination' used in forum threads my first thought is that it's nothing to do with discrimination and everything to do with preferences.
We can't be all things to all people. It'll never happen. Accepting that makes for a far, far happier life both on and off Fab.  |
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"Thats really good to know. Ya just wanted to get a conversation going and used the wrong terminology perhaps.
Really nice to chat to you all about it. I learnt something new today.
I will take my white privileged ass outta here now I think.
I cant see an option to end the conversation though... Its quite stressful "
The use of discrimination does provoke a reaction when that's just not what's happening.
The use of privilege is reactionary to people who aren't being discriminated against trying to claim discrimination. Dont take it to heart.
Also, I'm assuming by kink you just meant swing rather than actual kink? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 37 weeks ago
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"More that its incredibly difficult for single males to be able to chat to the person of their choosing on here as they immediately got put in a box with all the other single males.
"
OK.
Here's the nubs of the problem I feel.
Nobody is entitled to chat to the person of THEIR choosing. Just because you want to engage with someone it doesn't mean they'll feel the same way.
Contrary to popular belief amongst many men, they don't actually get put in a box with every other single male.
You're you, I'm me. Every other single guy is someone else.
Recognising that is important. Nothing you do or say affects or impacts my life on here and anything anyone else says or does doesn't represent me or reflect on me in any way.
And never, ever will.
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By *aizyWoman 37 weeks ago
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"More that its incredibly difficult for single males to be able to chat to the person of their choosing on here as they immediately got put in a box with all the other single males.
OK.
Here's the nubs of the problem I feel.
Nobody is entitled to chat to the person of THEIR choosing. Just because you want to engage with someone it doesn't mean they'll feel the same way.
Contrary to popular belief amongst many men, they don't actually get put in a box with every other single male.
You're you, I'm me. Every other single guy is someone else.
Recognising that is important. Nothing you do or say affects or impacts my life on here and anything anyone else says or does doesn't represent me or reflect on me in any way.
And never, ever will.
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