"When I see NSA I'm reminded of a forumite who had it as the beginning of her name, she had awesome boobs. Just can't remember the whole name now.
NSA chick?
That's the one, thank you Nora "
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It doesn’t put me off. But I think it means something different to everyone, so I tend to try to read them when I talk to them, or I just ask straight up why they want through fab or our friendship.
The thing is with me, is personally I only want nsa, which means I don’t want a full relationship with romantic/girlfriend:boyfriend feelings.
But wanting, and sliding into finding those feelings of wanting to ‘date someone is a blurred line. I’m single, I’m open to a date if I like someone in my life. So there’s that NSA safety net to hide behind.
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Seems simple and easy to understand. People meet, enjoy and go their ways knowing the idea of 'you wanna see me again' isn't going be said and the 'yeah sounds good' won't have to be said.
It might be a little out dated now, but there's nothing much in it - as said people meet and don't meet again all the time so why not call it what it is. |
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"It doesn’t put me off. But I think it means something different to everyone, so I tend to try to read them when I talk to them, or I just ask straight up why they want through fab or our friendship.
The thing is with me, is personally I only want nsa, which means I don’t want a full relationship with romantic/girlfriend:boyfriend feelings.
But wanting, and sliding into finding those feelings of wanting to ‘date someone is a blurred line. I’m single, I’m open to a date if I like someone in my life. So there’s that NSA safety net to hide behind.
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Same though. I want everything but an actual relationship. To me that’s far from NSA though |
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"Seems simple and easy to understand. People meet, enjoy and go their ways knowing the idea of 'you wanna see me again' isn't going be said and the 'yeah sounds good' won't have to be said.
It might be a little out dated now, but there's nothing much in it - as said people meet and don't meet again all the time so why not call it what it is. "
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"To me it means I won't call you at 2am for a lift. We can be friendly, laugh, chat, have sex, be respectful to each other, but probably won't be sending Christmas cards. "
I agree with this, things won't bleed through to my personal life.
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"When I see NSA I'm reminded of a forumite who had it as the beginning of her name, she had awesome boobs. Just can't remember the whole name now.
NSA chick?
That's the one, thank you Nora
I’ve been here too long "
Bigggest Fab crush ever for me.
Used to love her quote that any talk of feelings or non-SA dried her up like the Sahara dessert lol  |
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"When I see NSA I'm reminded of a forumite who had it as the beginning of her name, she had awesome boobs. Just can't remember the whole name now.
NSA chick?
That's the one, thank you Nora
I’ve been here too long
Bigggest Fab crush ever for me.
Used to love her quote that any talk of feelings or non-SA dried her up like the Sahara dessert lol "
She was lovely. That was a looooong time ago! |
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Yes and no
It’s not necessary fuck and run out the door as per say
Like you know 4-5 hours or so and then leave and both go your separate ways
To me it just means no stings attached midless sex
Ie I don’t need to know what they do for a living
I don’t need to know they life story
I don’t need to know what hang ups they have like crazy exs or anything
I don’t need to know if they have kids per say to know if I want to take on that responsibility if things get serious
There is no ghosting
It’s just what it is midless sex nothing more nothing less
If they want to meet again some other time grate if not then grate it was what it was
The time we spent together was grate I had a ball
For me anyway
I don’t take it as splat and run
I just take it that the allotted time we spent together and it’s on with things with a thank you and maybe see you again type thing |
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"Yes and no
It’s not necessary fuck and run out the door as per say
Like you know 4-5 hours or so and then leave and both go your separate ways
To me it just means no stings attached midless sex
Ie I don’t need to know what they do for a living
I don’t need to know they life story
I don’t need to know what hang ups they have like crazy exs or anything
I don’t need to know if they have kids per say to know if I want to take on that responsibility if things get serious
There is no ghosting
It’s just what it is midless sex nothing more nothing less
If they want to meet again some other time grate if not then grate it was what it was
The time we spent together was grate I had a ball
For me anyway
I don’t take it as splat and run
I just take it that the allotted time we spent together and it’s on with things with a thank you and maybe see you again type thing "
Yeah this makes sense to me |
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"Yes and no
It’s not necessary fuck and run out the door as per say
Like you know 4-5 hours or so and then leave and both go your separate ways
To me it just means no stings attached midless sex
Ie I don’t need to know what they do for a living
I don’t need to know they life story
I don’t need to know what hang ups they have like crazy exs or anything
I don’t need to know if they have kids per say to know if I want to take on that responsibility if things get serious
There is no ghosting
It’s just what it is midless sex nothing more nothing less
If they want to meet again some other time grate if not then grate it was what it was
The time we spent together was grate I had a ball
For me anyway
I don’t take it as splat and run
I just take it that the allotted time we spent together and it’s on with things with a thank you and maybe see you again type thing "
Splat and run |
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"What do you think when you see this? I’ve always hated the term. Puts me right orfff
Screams fuck and go to me.
What do you folk think?
FAF?
Always 
Nsa though and no tieing  "
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"What do you think when you see this? I’ve always hated the term. Puts me right orfff
Screams fuck and go to me.
What do you folk think?
FAF?
Always
Nsa though and no tieing
Loosely? Just with hold ups? pwetty please "
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"What do you think when you see this? I’ve always hated the term. Puts me right orfff
Screams fuck and go to me.
What do you folk think?
FAF?
Always
Nsa though and no tieing
Loosely? Just with hold ups? pwetty please
You can wear them but no tieing me "
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"It doesn’t put me off. But I think it means something different to everyone, so I tend to try to read them when I talk to them, or I just ask straight up why they want through fab or our friendship.
The thing is with me, is personally I only want nsa, which means I don’t want a full relationship with romantic/girlfriend:boyfriend feelings.
But wanting, and sliding into finding those feelings of wanting to ‘date someone is a blurred line. I’m single, I’m open to a date if I like someone in my life. So there’s that NSA safety net to hide behind.
Same though. I want everything but an actual relationship. To me that’s far from NSA though "
There’s blurred lines everywhere though.
My Fwb is another persons fuckbuddy.
NSA could mean a 1 off hook up?
Without questions directly you can never know. |
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"It doesn’t put me off. But I think it means something different to everyone, so I tend to try to read them when I talk to them, or I just ask straight up why they want through fab or our friendship.
The thing is with me, is personally I only want nsa, which means I don’t want a full relationship with romantic/girlfriend:boyfriend feelings.
But wanting, and sliding into finding those feelings of wanting to ‘date someone is a blurred line. I’m single, I’m open to a date if I like someone in my life. So there’s that NSA safety net to hide behind.
Same though. I want everything but an actual relationship. To me that’s far from NSA though
There’s blurred lines everywhere though.
My Fwb is another persons fuckbuddy.
NSA could mean a 1 off hook up?
Without questions directly you can never know. "
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"Yes and no
It’s not necessary fuck and run out the door as per say
Like you know 4-5 hours or so and then leave and both go your separate ways
To me it just means no stings attached midless sex
Ie I don’t need to know what they do for a living
I don’t need to know they life story
I don’t need to know what hang ups they have like crazy exs or anything
I don’t need to know if they have kids per say to know if I want to take on that responsibility if things get serious
There is no ghosting
It’s just what it is midless sex nothing more nothing less
If they want to meet again some other time grate if not then grate it was what it was
The time we spent together was grate I had a ball
For me anyway
I don’t take it as splat and run
I just take it that the allotted time we spent together and it’s on with things with a thank you and maybe see you again type thing
Splat and run "
Yes it dose make sens and that’s my little word for it |
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It can be a date or sex, the meetings can be anything you want them to be, even repeated meets with the same person. To me it just means there will be no link between the meets and personal life.
Such as they won't be popping round unannounced for coffee etc.
Nothing about it says fuck and go to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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I just see it as casual sex. So no feelings or commitments. I’d include FBs in that. I think friends and relationships are some of the usual strings attached to sex. |
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"I just see it as casual sex. So no feelings or commitments. I’d include FBs in that. I think friends and relationships are some of the usual strings attached to sex. "
That’s to say, it can be regular and consistent and still be NSA |
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"What do you think when you see this? I’ve always hated the term. Puts me right orfff
Screams fuck and go to me.
What do you folk think?
FAF?
Always
Nsa though and no tieing
Loosely? Just with hold ups? pwetty please
You can wear them but no tieing me
. Ok "
You know the rules Nora |
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"What do you think when you see this? I’ve always hated the term. Puts me right orfff
Screams fuck and go to me.
What do you folk think?
FAF?
Always
Nsa though and no tieing
Loosely? Just with hold ups? pwetty please
You can wear them but no tieing me
. Ok
You know the rules Nora "
And I of course always abide by the rules  |
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"To me it means I won't call you at 2am for a lift. We can be friendly, laugh, chat, have sex, be respectful to each other, but probably won't be sending Christmas cards. "
A little of the initial but as a single male its about saying I will not end up being that deranged stalker |
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"What do you think when you see this? I’ve always hated the term. Puts me right orfff
Screams fuck and go to me.
What do you folk think?"
I think it probably started as a useful term in the swinger vocabulary. To me it would have meant let’s start something sexual but I don’t expect anything ‘relationshippy’ from you (and by reciprocity I know you won’t expect anything from me). We can continue our lives as ever but always know that meeting up will be about that wonderful, sexually charged experience with someone who is all about me for that time we spend together.
But, as is so often the case in our lifestyle, the language has evolved and been appropriated by those horny chancers who really do just want a meaningless fuck n go.
So, now, when you and I want to start something it feels inappropriate to use a term that might mean an encounter that is too emotionally disconnected.
When I was meeting people, I knew from the context of our conversation whether or not there was substance and it was worth pursuing as a casual friendship with special grown ups hugs. |
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"What do you think when you see this? I’ve always hated the term. Puts me right orfff
Screams fuck and go to me.
What do you folk think?
FAF?
Always
Nsa though and no tieing
Loosely? Just with hold ups? pwetty please
You can wear them but no tieing me
. Ok
You know the rules Nora
And I of course always abide by the rules "
I don't know if I believe that |
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A bit of difficult one as it could be interpreted both ways. NSA FUN no strings attached meet up when you can but being exclusive to one another but NSA Fun could be a one off.
Having a regular buddy is more than NSA.
That’s my views on it |
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By *ickawitchCouple 38 weeks ago
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Surely in the swinging dynamic it’s not necessary. Swinging by it’s very natural suggest no strings. So when we see this particular on a single profile it makes me think they’re going behind their partners backs . That’s a big no for us . |
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NSA works for some and not for others, end of the day it all depends on what you want.
It doesn't put me off seeing it on a profile in fact I am more likely to go that way if I was still looking to play
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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Doesn't put me off, as I'm open to most situations. I used to be very rigid in what I wanted. Looking back, I likely missed out an a lot of opportunities and experiences because of that.
People and relationships are fluid and things can change, so nowadays I'm happy to do whatever really.
NSA still has a chance to become more, if the people and timing are right. Not that I would push for that (as it could cause a rift), but if it occured naturally. Then I'd be daft to say no. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 38 weeks ago
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Surely every relationship, in every form, whether marriage, friendship or whatever, starts as NSA though?
How do you know you like someone enough to commit to more before you've spent time with them?
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"Surely every relationship, in every form, whether marriage, friendship or whatever, starts as NSA though?
How do you know you like someone enough to commit to more before you've spent time with them?
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Because the way I see it (different to others as is shown on this thread) they wouldn’t be interested in anything more than NSA anyway.
I wouldn’t reply to anyone with that on their profile. |
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When I first signed up 8 years ago I automatically assumed that was what everyone here wanted so I thought I better say the same when talking to people even though I wasn't really sure what it meant.
A few years later I got caught in someone else's drama when there was confusion over exactly what NSA did mean and there were issues over ownership for want of a better word.
The sayings and the doings didn't match up.
For me right now it refers to fuck buddies who are content to fuck n go with no non sexual contact in between meets.
It's not something I'm interested in as I'm much happier having a fwb and focusing on the friendship as much as the benefits and that involves strings. |
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"When I first signed up 8 years ago I automatically assumed that was what everyone here wanted so I thought I better say the same when talking to people even though I wasn't really sure what it meant.
A few years later I got caught in someone else's drama when there was confusion over exactly what NSA did mean and there were issues over ownership for want of a better word.
The sayings and the doings didn't match up.
For me right now it refers to fuck buddies who are content to fuck n go with no non sexual contact in between meets.
It's not something I'm interested in as I'm much happier having a fwb and focusing on the friendship as much as the benefits and that involves strings. "
Yes that’s how I see it too |
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By *eliWoman 38 weeks ago
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I think... I'm probably not compatible with that person.
I have nothing against (using my personal definition here) NSA but I rather like "strings". I don't mind if people do want NSA or not, it would be great if more people felt comfortable enough to say actually, I just want NSA.
Even in this thread, people aren't quite honest. Why is that? Why can't people say actually, I just want to fuck your arse a couple of times and leave it at that? Maybe it's a bid for to try and appeal to as many as possible. |
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"I think... I'm probably not compatible with that person.
I have nothing against (using my personal definition here) NSA but I rather like "strings". I don't mind if people do want NSA or not, it would be great if more people felt comfortable enough to say actually, I just want NSA.
Even in this thread, people aren't quite honest. Why is that? Why can't people say actually, I just want to fuck your arse a couple of times and leave it at that? Maybe it's a bid for to try and appeal to as many as possible. "
I agree. Nothing wrong with it at all. In fact I’d imagine most on fab would probably want NSA. I like to see people state exactly what they want. Makes it so much easier. |
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By *sWyldWoman 38 weeks ago
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"When I see NSA I'm reminded of a forumite who had it as the beginning of her name, she had awesome boobs. Just can't remember the whole name now.
NSA chick?
That's the one, thank you Nora
I’ve been here too long "
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By *sWyldWoman 38 weeks ago
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I think NSA means different things to different people. I suppose over the years I've had different levels of it with different people.
Some it really is purely sex.
Some it's sex and a snuggle
Some it's sex and dates and even sleepovers.
None of them I'm planning to introduce to my family but all of them respectful and with some level of friendship. Even if it is just the pleasantries being exchanged before we plan to rip each other's clothes off again.
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