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"How does someone rebuild themselves , their self confidence , their self esteem ? "
In my experience learn those behaviours than chip at that self-esteem, and see why we behave in those ways in the first place...
become of service to others, without any expectation of things in return.
Be kind caring and compassionate towards others
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By *ack 500 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"I think it depends on how it was destroyed.
Sometimes others have to help at other times it has to come from yourself "
Previous toxic relationship mainly , always suffered a bit of low confidence though but now it’s low |
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By *ullyMan 39 weeks ago
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Sadly my own so called "mother" gave me a deeply ingrained inferiority complex, sadly she was a very vitriolic and spiteful woman and never had a good word for anyone and my Pa was too weak to stand up to her. It was in my pubescent years that my school pals gay brother took me to heart and told me constantly to think positively about myself, I can, I will, I am a nice person, I am good looking etc etc, he really made the effort,he showed me a lot of affection in a way, even in front of his parents nothing tacky, but very uplifting. I guess he understood better than anyone how young guys feel and for certain, his mindset became mine and yes I started to feel good about myself. We must all be proud of who and whatever we are, and definitely not let things get us down.. To this end is one reason I don't have T.V or read papers, or listen to negativity from people!  |
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"I think it depends on how it was destroyed.
Sometimes others have to help at other times it has to come from yourself
Previous toxic relationship mainly , always suffered a bit of low confidence though but now it’s low "
Sorry to hear that.
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By *ack 500 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"Healing spiritually meditation affirmations and staying away from narcissistic types toxic behaviours."
Yeah this is where it came from mainly a narcissist ! I feel meditation is something I’ve always wanted to try and maybe connecting spiritualy would be something good and surprising for me |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"How does someone rebuild themselves , their self confidence , their self esteem ? "
Just imagine you're the expert in the room, treat life like acting and become that person. It worked for me. |
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By *ack 500 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"How does someone rebuild themselves , their self confidence , their self esteem ?
Just imagine you're the expert in the room, treat life like acting and become that person. It worked for me."
Il give this faking it a go lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Loving on yourself, self care, tlc, cutting out people who are self absorbed, codependent or toxic & spending time with people who do like & love you, making time for hobbies/ things you enjoy, self affirmations, music that lifts you up, faking it on occasions (manifesting the confidence) & remember that you are unique, there's no other you on this earth, you are a melting pot of your past abd present but your life is in your control & you can be intentional about your present & future  |
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By *TG3Man 39 weeks ago
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"Sadly my own so called "mother" gave me a deeply ingrained inferiority complex, sadly she was a very vitriolic and spiteful woman and never had a good word for anyone and my Pa was too weak to stand up to her. It was in my pubescent years that my school pals gay brother took me to heart and told me constantly to think positively about myself, I can, I will, I am a nice person, I am good looking etc etc, he really made the effort,he showed me a lot of affection in a way, even in front of his parents nothing tacky, but very uplifting. I guess he understood better than anyone how young guys feel and for certain, his mindset became mine and yes I started to feel good about myself. We must all be proud of who and whatever we are, and definitely not let things get us down.. To this end is one reason I don't have T.V or read papers, or listen to negativity from people! "
me too and well done you  |
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Stop giving a fuck about anyone or anything but yourself, it’s hard but only you need to know your doing it and you won’t hurt anyone, put yourself first in everything, once you get the hang of it you can start to give a fuck again but make sure most of your fucks are given to yourself
Good luck
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For me it is hiding behind a mask.
Whether that is me wearing make up and being Rachel for a bit. Putting on a skid lid and getting out on the motorbike.
As for self esteem, I find what I achieve helps me a lot, doing a sub 25 minute 10 mile time trial, going 1 mph faster than my last sprint, cutting a minute from my last training ride. Sadly these are all short lived though. |
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By *a LunaWoman 39 weeks ago
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"I think it depends on how it was destroyed.
Sometimes others have to help at other times it has to come from yourself "
This.
And sometimes you just get older, have prior shitty experiences and just realise your worth. It’s like snow. It settles eventually. |
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By *phroditeWoman 39 weeks ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Sometimes, the opportunity to help somebody else will lift your self esteem and confidence. May sound contradictory, but I have heard this from others as a really helpful part of building your own confidence and self-worth.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"How does someone rebuild themselves , their self confidence , their self esteem ?
Talk a GP "
. To. They may point in right direction. Hope you feel better soon. |
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By *ack 500 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"Live by your own rules, don't feel the need to adhere other people's way of behaving.
Be yourself, and above all do what makes you happy. Works for me."
Always have , just certain things and areas of me life that I can get low on confidence |
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By *xTeamSxCouple 39 weeks ago
Newcastle |
This is great advice. Taking care of self in a truly practical way!
Just to add to it and throw something else into the mix. In my experience when ive tried to chase self esteem tried too hard to feel good about self, can then leave feeling dependant (I'm good as I got this job, got with this person becomes I need this job this person)
When instead I'm considerate to myself, try to soothe the parts of myself that feel insecure and step back a recognize I and all beings have worth as a human regardless of what I do or get then I feel okay and better or less bothered by feeling crap about myself.
Aim for self compassion and acceptance not self esteem
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"I think it depends on how it was destroyed.
Sometimes others have to help at other times it has to come from yourself
Previous toxic relationship mainly , always suffered a bit of low confidence though but now it’s low "
How do you know it was her and not you |
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"Healing spiritually meditation affirmations and staying away from narcissistic types toxic behaviours."
100% agree, your self esteem and confidence can be really impacted by your environment and people, take the time to look at yourself physically and mentally and spiritually and focus on the things you like and are positive, you'll eventually get it back , just be comfortable with being who you truly are and not what other people see you as or want to make you believe you are, your worth something in the world if other people can't see that then don't let them drag you down, everyone is special and unique, never lose sight , hope this can help you a little |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"How does someone rebuild themselves , their self confidence , their self esteem ? "
like nice said, it probably depends on how it was broke.
But whatever it is that gives you low self esteem, remove yourself from it and do things that make it better. |
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By *yreGuy99Man 39 weeks ago
Somewhere in Moria |
I know that feeling all to well. From experience, never let anyone on here or in life determine your worth.
The chances of those people being worth your time and effort is extremely low. Above all else you should be most important person in your life. |
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"This is great advice. Taking care of self in a truly practical way!
Just to add to it and throw something else into the mix. In my experience when ive tried to chase self esteem tried too hard to feel good about self, can then leave feeling dependant (I'm good as I got this job, got with this person becomes I need this job this person)
When instead I'm considerate to myself, try to soothe the parts of myself that feel insecure and step back a recognize I and all beings have worth as a human regardless of what I do or get then I feel okay and better or less bothered by feeling crap about myself.
Aim for self compassion and acceptance not self esteem
R "
And this explains the difference between seeking self esteem in external things, and gaining it internally....if we don't go within we go without.......Good stuff....
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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You must be kind and love yourself and believe,
It's slow bit like running a marathon ever mile work on ,be kind also with words and deeds
All the best in like .
I BELIEVE IN YOU |
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"Live by your own rules, don't feel the need to adhere other people's way of behaving.
Be yourself, and above all do what makes you happy. Works for me.
Always have , just certain things and areas of me life that I can get low on confidence "
Everyone has doubts at certain times, but that's just the insecurities we each have. Believe in yourself, even when others try to put you down. There's lots of idiots out there who think putting other people down makes them more secure. E.g. trump types, their opinions are utterly worthless, you just need to realise that. Your opinion of yourself is what matters. |
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What if recently you smashed your face and now have a broken nose and missing front teeth.
You've hid your profile and haunt the corridors of fab… 
How do you get self esteem and confidence back now? |
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It depends on why it was knocked. I had to relearn as an adult as I was abused physically and emotionally by my late mum so never had any confidence as an adult, but I’m changing the way I think about myself in the past year and it’s helping slightly. Small steps each day/week. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Can’t,, if its in your head your a mess, you can’t get it out
Im a fucking mess,,
Im so self conscious and embarrassed of myself
Its fixed in my head cos its true
To all the members who think im saying this for comment
You couldn’t be farther from the truth |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Maybe we should create a FAB circle, work my magic here on you lot?!
overcoming lack of self confidence?
Taking ownership of yourself for yourself?
Being vulnerable and courageous?
Would be like Loudermilk series 4!!
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Can’t,, if its in your head your a mess, you can’t get it out
Im a fucking mess,,
Im so self conscious and embarrassed of myself
Its fixed in my head cos its true
To all the members who think im saying this for comment
You couldn’t be farther from the truth "
Seriously - all joking aside - if you need to talk and need help, I’m there for you. Don’t be silent. I’m
Reaching out to you. not a joke. |
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Without pressure. One step at a time. You need to be compassionate towards yourself
Surround yourself with people who nurture and support you. Leave the others away from you.
Set up your life so that it's true to you. Engage with things that are meaningful and mean a lot to you. Explore too. Build your health, so that you have as solid a foundation for well-being as you can. |
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I have suffered from low self esteem periodically and it was usually cyclical, linked to my hormones. Now that I'm menopausal, it a daily occurrence!
My way of coping is talking to a good friend who reminds me that I may be old & fat but that I'm a lovely person to be around.
Failing that,I stick up a photo of my boobs & count the likes
Seriously, though. Don't live in your own head. List all of your positive attributes, rather than fixating on the negative. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I have suffered from low self esteem periodically and it was usually cyclical, linked to my hormones. Now that I'm menopausal, it a daily occurrence!
My way of coping is talking to a good friend who reminds me that I may be old & fat but that I'm a lovely person to be around.
Failing that,I stick up a photo of my boobs & count the likes
Seriously, though. Don't live in your own head. List all of your positive attributes, rather than fixating on the negative. "
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