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If your partner left the mobile without password.....
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"Would you look? I saw a fun thing and I wanted to share it. I dont have a partner, but if I did. I wouldnt look as I think that trust is the key in a relationship  "
Nah just leave it. And let them know so they don't do it again |
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No.
If I felt I needed to sneak and snoop to find things out that I should know, I can't trust that person enough to be involved with them.
I expect people to share the appropriate information with me as needed  |
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This topic came up on a forum post before. The inconclusive discussion was a man who said his partner knows his passcode but would go ballistic if she looked without his knowledge.
My response was ... "huh?" |
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We know eachothers pins, we both leave our phones just hanging around the house. Neither of us have snooped, there's just no reason to.
If trust took such a massive hit that checking someone's phone becomes a good idea, it's probably a better idea just to walk away from the relationship imo |
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By *iss.ddWoman 30 weeks ago
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Not really interested in what he does on his phone as we are incredibly open but I would be very interested to see how many grim photos he takes of me and the family unbeknownst to us, like I do to him  |
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I wouldn’t look at messages but I absolutely would:
1) change their contact names to something appropriate
2) change the ringtone to something embarrassing
3) make their wallpaper something funny
4) set an alarm for when I know they’ll be in a meeting
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Why would I?
That’s a relationship that I would want, one where I know, I don’t have an issue of them looking at my phone, and one where I know they wouldn’t have an issue of me looking out there’s.
I’d also like to be in a relationship where I wouldn’t have a think I needed to look at her phone for anything, but innocent reasons.
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"Would you look? I saw a fun thing and I wanted to share it. I dont have a partner, but if I did. I wouldnt look as I think that trust is the key in a relationship "
We don’t have pass codes on our phones but also respect each others privacy. |
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"Don't have a partner! But if I did then absolutely I would! X"
So you’d absolutely look through your partners phone if you had a partner ? 
I’ve always thought phones akin to diaries and a ladies handbag, all of which are incredibly private entities!
Perhaps I’m fully old school and maybe random, but I’ve never even put my hand in a ladies bag; if she’s asked for something from said bag, I’ve always passed the bag across, even if the lady insisted “it’s fine”
I’d never dream of snooping in someone’s phone, locked or otherwise! |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"I know his password & he knows mine, he can look whenever he wants.
Mrs
This "
This is how I've been with partners, no barriers to access but equally, no inclination to look, though would feel free to use their phone or them use mine.
People who want to hide can easily use other phones or tablets, etc. If your gut says something is off, it likely is. |
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By *an_spMan 30 weeks ago
Coventry |
In the case you don’t have consent to check their phone, If your trust toward your partner is low enough to violate their privacy, perhaps your relationship has taken a wrong turn and it’s best to have a conversation with your partner. |
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"Don't have a partner! But if I did then absolutely I would! X
So you’d absolutely look through your partners phone if you had a partner ?
I’ve always thought phones akin to diaries and a ladies handbag, all of which are incredibly private entities!
Perhaps I’m fully old school and maybe random, but I’ve never even put my hand in a ladies bag; if she’s asked for something from said bag, I’ve always passed the bag across, even if the lady insisted “it’s fine”
I’d never dream of snooping in someone’s phone, locked or otherwise!"
I vote odd rather than old school. Why on earth wouldn't you put your hand in someone's handbag if she asked you to pass her something? Just passing the bag is unhelpful!
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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I think if there is mutual behaviour that builds trust, a dodgy looking situation wouldn't cause alarm because you'd be sure it was innocent & can be explained. Where as vague, grey area behaviour breeds doubts, suspicions grow and even an innocent situation can feel off because the person isnt reinforcing security/ confidence in the relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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I had an ex, who wasnt sure about me. So she messaged a previous ex asking for her opinion on me...
What a s#!t storm that turned into. Naturally they are now both blocked.  |
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We both have fingerprint access to each others phone ..it's the most liberating thing ever and a great feeling I never feel the need to check tbh as we're always showing each other boobs or porn ..and it's useful when paying for stuff you don't want to also  |
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Both know each others password nothing to hide on our phones just lots of naked pics of the wife on there which I keep in a safe vault pass protected so only me and her can access them . Only really perv fab and the odd cuckhold vid on xhamster. Beauty of being. Swinger is you don’t have to sneak about for your kicks  |
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"Don't have a partner! But if I did then absolutely I would! X
So you’d absolutely look through your partners phone if you had a partner ?
I’ve always thought phones akin to diaries and a ladies handbag, all of which are incredibly private entities!
Perhaps I’m fully old school and maybe random, but I’ve never even put my hand in a ladies bag; if she’s asked for something from said bag, I’ve always passed the bag across, even if the lady insisted “it’s fine”
I’d never dream of snooping in someone’s phone, locked or otherwise!"
Yup absolutely!100% but never gonna happen as never gonna have a partner! X |
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By *AYENCouple 30 weeks ago
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We have the same passwords. We watched a shocking but brilliant true story film yesterday about a serial killer - neither of us could belive the guy's partner knew nothing of his activities. We don't have secrets because we have nothing to be secretive about. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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As a member of a rugby club. Unattended phones are fair game and duly filled up with hairy bum and dick photos on burst mode. Current record is just under 3500 |
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I did, once. He had already cheated on me so the trust wasn't there.
I wasn't proud of myself, but I did also find More women he was messaging, so it was already too late.
I should have walked away a Lot earlier, but sometimes the flags being red isn't enough. Sometimes they creep up gradually, and sometimes, If I am brutally honest, I didn't want to see.
Because I had over-invested, and didn't want to lose.  |
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"I did, once. He had already cheated on me so the trust wasn't there.
I wasn't proud of myself, but I did also find More women he was messaging, so it was already too late.
I should have walked away a Lot earlier, but sometimes the flags being red isn't enough. Sometimes they creep up gradually, and sometimes, If I am brutally honest, I didn't want to see.
Because I had over-invested, and didn't want to lose. "
Over-invested. Oh I know that feeling... You throw everything you have into it and for years it's not reciprocated and you make excuse after excuse for them....  |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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If I had a partner, it wouldn't bother me sharing my password.
My adult kids know the password to my phone. Access to here is via incognito. Passwords and private pics saved in independent coded vaults which they don't have access to.
In my last LTR, we shared our passwords though I had no need to be accessing his until his behaviour changed slightly whenever he was using his and my gut instinct was right when I suspected he was cheating and I called him out on it - access to his phone and evidence was there. |
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"Would you look? I saw a fun thing and I wanted to share it. I dont have a partner, but if I did. I wouldnt look as I think that trust is the key in a relationship "
Not with Mr I wouldn't. Have with former partners but I'd got my suspicions by then x |
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By *TinRedCouple 24 weeks ago
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T knows my password, I don't know hers... And have no need to know.
We always say if you go looking for trouble, you're going to find it. We trust each other totally... Which is kinda useful seeing as we're on here |
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"Would you look? I saw a fun thing and I wanted to share it. I dont have a partner, but if I did. I wouldnt look as I think that trust is the key in a relationship "
One of the worst jobs I had after my wife died was looking through phone.
Didn’t want to do it, didn’t like doing it, but necessary in case I missed something or needed to know something.
Honestly if you don’t need to, don’t let curiousity or whatever tempt you into doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Would you jump ship op if you were in a relationship from here and how would you trust that person knowing swinging can mean several partners and some maybe exes or friends or in the clique? |
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