Hey, good morning everyone! Just some random thoughts. I'm sure some others feel the same way, but for me, having a meet is about building a connection and having genuine conversations. I like to have a lot of fun, but i love meeting people and getting to know them. |
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I don't see any point meeting someone I'm not interested in and excited by.
If I just want to fuck something I have a wonderful array of tentacles, and I don't have to listen to them talk or deal with the niceties that way  |
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When we were younger in the mid to late 70s (and before we met each other) we'd often meet someone in a pub or club, have a laugh together without deep meaningful conversations, go home together and never see or speak to each other again. There was a connection there but it was shallow and frankly pretty meaningless but enjoyable none the less.
Then HIV came along and everyone became a lot more wary.
I think even now a lot of the joy of brief but enjoyable sexual encounters has gone. |
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I probably feel this way more than others because the first time I had sex, both she and I were extremely d*unk. We did talk for a few hours before, but I regretted it afterwards as I think I was waiting for the right person. I didn't even enjoy d*unk sex, but I think most people's first time isn't generally the best. |
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"I probably feel this way more than others because the first time I had sex, both she and I were extremely d*unk. We did talk for a few hours before, but I regretted it afterwards as I think I was waiting for the right person. I didn't even enjoy d*unk sex, but I think most people's first time isn't generally the best."
There are a lot of people who feel the way you do. I think it's probably because we're constantly told that sex is only ok if you're in love.
Personally I think that's like saying it's only ok to eat in a restaurant if it's Michelin starred. |
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"Connection is a strong word for us - as a couple we see swinging as more building a rapport then connection - as it sounds like a relationship when you use that word.
Mrs "
I think it's a very subjective word. You hear it and hear "relationship". I hear it and hear "friend with benefits/ maybe a friend".
I tend to be on the connection side myself. But by that I mean, I want to like and trust the people I'm getting naked with. |
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"I probably feel this way more than others because the first time I had sex, both she and I were extremely d*unk. We did talk for a few hours before, but I regretted it afterwards as I think I was waiting for the right person. I didn't even enjoy d*unk sex, but I think most people's first time isn't generally the best.
There are a lot of people who feel the way you do. I think it's probably because we're constantly told that sex is only ok if you're in love.
Personally I think that's like saying it's only ok to eat in a restaurant if it's Michelin starred. "
Life is littered with the occasional dodgy kebab (I mean in terms of restaurant, not genital shaming), and I think that makes you appreciate fine dining all the more. |
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"I probably feel this way more than others because the first time I had sex, both she and I were extremely d*unk. We did talk for a few hours before, but I regretted it afterwards as I think I was waiting for the right person. I didn't even enjoy d*unk sex, but I think most people's first time isn't generally the best.
There are a lot of people who feel the way you do. I think it's probably because we're constantly told that sex is only ok if you're in love.
Personally I think that's like saying it's only ok to eat in a restaurant if it's Michelin starred.
Life is littered with the occasional dodgy kebab (I mean in terms of restaurant, not genital shaming), and I think that makes you appreciate fine dining all the more."
True but egg and chips in a cafe can be just as pleasurable as *insert posh food of choice*. |
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"When we were younger in the mid to late 70s (and before we met each other) we'd often meet someone in a pub or club, have a laugh together without deep meaningful conversations, go home together and never see or speak to each other again. There was a connection there but it was shallow and frankly pretty meaningless but enjoyable none the less.
Then HIV came along and everyone became a lot more wary.
I think even now a lot of the joy of brief but enjoyable sexual encounters has gone. "
Or even 21st century. No condom means no sex for me. A sex test is paramount nowadays. I had lots of fun during the 90s though... |
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"I probably feel this way more than others because the first time I had sex, both she and I were extremely d*unk. We did talk for a few hours before, but I regretted it afterwards as I think I was waiting for the right person. I didn't even enjoy d*unk sex, but I think most people's first time isn't generally the best.
There are a lot of people who feel the way you do. I think it's probably because we're constantly told that sex is only ok if you're in love.
Personally I think that's like saying it's only ok to eat in a restaurant if it's Michelin starred.
Life is littered with the occasional dodgy kebab (I mean in terms of restaurant, not genital shaming), and I think that makes you appreciate fine dining all the more.
True but egg and chips in a cafe can be just as pleasurable as *insert posh food of choice*. "
Oh absolutely. I was just going lower than you were  - the dodgy kebab might teach you things, too. |
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"I probably feel this way more than others because the first time I had sex, both she and I were extremely d*unk. We did talk for a few hours before, but I regretted it afterwards as I think I was waiting for the right person. I didn't even enjoy d*unk sex, but I think most people's first time isn't generally the best.
There are a lot of people who feel the way you do. I think it's probably because we're constantly told that sex is only ok if you're in love.
Personally I think that's like saying it's only ok to eat in a restaurant if it's Michelin starred.
Life is littered with the occasional dodgy kebab (I mean in terms of restaurant, not genital shaming), and I think that makes you appreciate fine dining all the more.
True but egg and chips in a cafe can be just as pleasurable as *insert posh food of choice*.
Oh absolutely. I was just going lower than you were - the dodgy kebab might teach you things, too. "
Not many have managed to go lower than me  .
Dodgy kebabs most certainly taught me what type of 'food' to avoid... |
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I like to meet someone new for a social before a play date is arranged, to see if that rapport you've built through messaging continues face to face, and also to confirm the pics they've sent aren't from 10 years ago.... 
As far as any 'connection' goes; if we're all smiles over a drink, it'll be good fun when we're naked  |
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