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By *ommo83 OP Man 45 weeks ago
Salford |
Can't believe how many women say they get abused if they ain't interested in someone. If I get blanked or ignored or ghosted yeah it's annoying but cest la vie. Rhe ratio of men to women is already very one sided but to get a reputation of abusing people would make it even more one sided surely |
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By *iasubTV/TS 45 weeks ago
Ilkeston |
Unfortunately some don’t see it that way and they think they are entitled to a response. When you don't reply you either get abuse or bombarded with a million reasons why they are entitled to your time. Its unfortunate as it ruins it for others. |
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We very rarely get abuse via private message although it does happen.
My advice is always set your mail filters tight and report every abusive message. Don't engage with the person just block them. |
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By *ommo83 OP Man 45 weeks ago
Salford |
"It happens unfortunately  and some can be quite horrible to xx
Even if you reply nicely saying not interested "
I always say thanks for replying. Cos at least ya know. Getting no reply is annoying but the amount of messages ladies get I totally understand |
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It's a two way street some women and couples can be very abusive as well but you only ever hear of the women on site complaining, respect should be a two way street but sadly those who are abusive don't get what the site is about and truly are not swingers just people out to get sex |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"It happens unfortunately and some can be quite horrible to xx
Even if you reply nicely saying not interested "
I agree I've put our likes dislikes in the profile so simply block now if not interested |
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"I just don’t reply. It’s clearly stated in website’s FAQs no reply is your reply so I’ll stick to that. "
Aye, did ye?
Everyone loves 'rules' 
So when I recently uploaded a rooster in the morning as a 'cock' pic - and 'twas rejected- should I just accept that and move on?!
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By *ommo83 OP Man 45 weeks ago
Salford |
"It's a two way street some women and couples can be very abusive as well but you only ever hear of the women on site complaining, respect should be a two way street but sadly those who are abusive don't get what the site is about and truly are not swingers just people out to get sex"
I didn't wanna say it cos generally men are worse when they get a knock back. But some woman can say very nasty things. The few times I've conversed with someone and they it's clear we are very different I been called horrible things |
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The only abuse I've ever had on here has been from women and couples I've turned down for various reasons so it's not unique to men.
People accuse men of being entitled and expecting a response or a meet.
Many women and couples are equally entitled and expect men to be grateful to even get a message from them.
These are all people who have contacted me because I don't send messages. |
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"Some get their ego dented if u decline ! U go from being the most beautiful sexy woman to fat and ugly in seconds!  xhaving just browsed your profile your not fat just a lush curvy pretty lady in my humble opinion x
This is a regular occurrence for me. It’s so funny!"
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By *ommo83 OP Man 45 weeks ago
Salford |
"The only abuse I've ever had on here has been from women and couples I've turned down for various reasons so it's not unique to men.
People accuse men of being entitled and expecting a response or a meet.
Many women and couples are equally entitled and expect men to be grateful to even get a message from them.
These are all people who have contacted me because I don't send messages. "
I'm jealous that you've been in a position to turn someone down ha ha. If only |
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"The only abuse I've ever had on here has been from women and couples I've turned down for various reasons so it's not unique to men.
People accuse men of being entitled and expecting a response or a meet.
Many women and couples are equally entitled and expect men to be grateful to even get a message from them.
These are all people who have contacted me because I don't send messages. "
and it's your right to say no just as it's theirs |
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"Some get their ego dented if u decline ! U go from being the most beautiful sexy woman to fat and ugly in seconds! x
This is a regular occurrence for me. It’s so funny!"
Yes makes me giggle! First time must admit I was shocked at such venom! x |
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"The only abuse I've ever had on here has been from women and couples I've turned down for various reasons so it's not unique to men.
People accuse men of being entitled and expecting a response or a meet.
Many women and couples are equally entitled and expect men to be grateful to even get a message from them.
These are all people who have contacted me because I don't send messages.
I'm jealous that you've been in a position to turn someone down ha ha. If only "
When people send messages that are lists of demands and telling me what I have to do in order to be added to their to-do list(their words, not mine) it doesn't matter to me how well verified they are or how hot they think they are.
The answer will always be no.
That's when I've been called an idiot, too old and too straight to be successful here, told it was my loss, asked if I was really that stupid that I didn't know who they were and their standing in the community and how they could end my fab journey with a few well placed messages?
If the answer hadn't already been no it definitely was at that stage.
I'm never grateful to receive a message or a request.
If they can't talk to me as an equal they can move swiftly along. |
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A lot of men don’t read the woman/couples profile just look at the pics then message, this is a reason I don’t reply because everything they need to know is on my profile, then you get abuse because you won’t tell a muppet who lives 250 miles away what you’re into and can you “fuck now” |
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"I block as soon as I get abuse and report,I don't name and shame as mods don't take any notice "
The reason mods apparently take no notice (we do) of naming and shaming is because we can't do anything about it (not being admin) apart from ban you as it's against forum rules. Reporting to admin is sufficient |
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"I block as soon as I get abuse and report,I don't name and shame as mods don't take any notice
The reason mods apparently take no notice (we do) of naming and shaming is because we can't do anything about it (not being admin) apart from ban you as it's against forum rules. Reporting to admin is sufficient"
but plenty do name and shame on their profiles and they never received a ban |
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"I block as soon as I get abuse and report,I don't name and shame as mods don't take any notice
The reason mods apparently take no notice (we do) of naming and shaming is because we can't do anything about it (not being admin) apart from ban you as it's against forum rules. Reporting to admin is sufficientbut plenty do name and shame on their profiles and they never received a ban"
If it's reported it'll be removed by admin. You won't know if they've received a ban. |
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Sometimes I just get the rude ones out of the blue because of my profile. Usually the trash takes itself out and blocks me so I can't respond, and a counter block is sufficient.
Sometimes it's all the compliments in the world, until I say no thanks, then it's trying to bring me down off my high horse, so they go in the block bin too.
Sometimes, people are just terrible.
The majority of these encounters for me are from single men, but they're the largest group on the site and probably more than 95% of the messages I get are from that group, but it does come from all groups  |
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Years ago, a bloke called me frigid because I wouldn't meet him. Despite me having recent veries, some really can't rejection on here and think theyre entitled to meet those they want to.
Now if I say no thanks, I block right after, save any abuse or why nots. |
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