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When the fun stops, stop.
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By *eliWoman 43 weeks ago
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People sometimes use Fab, the forums whatever when they're feeling a bit meh.
I do think if you're really not getting anything from it then taking a break is a great idea, stops you potentially becoming cynical and jaded and feeling it's not worth it.
I also think that sometimes people are feeling a bit low and it passes. |
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"People sometimes use Fab, the forums whatever when they're feeling a bit meh.
I do think if you're really not getting anything from it then taking a break is a great idea, stops you potentially becoming cynical and jaded and feeling it's not worth it.
I also think that sometimes people are feeling a bit low and it passes. "
True I’m a bit flippant saying it should be fun, but equally it shouldn’t bring you drama, there’s enough drama in life.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Too many people focus all the fun on the outcome. So it’s not fun until it results in a meet. If the focused instead on the interactions, instead of the outcomes, they would enjoy it more and not tie their self esteem to the purview of complete strangers. |
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"Too many people focus all the fun on the outcome. So it’s not fun until it results in a meet. If the focused instead on the interactions, instead of the outcomes, they would enjoy it more and not tie their self esteem to the purview of complete strangers. "
Totally agree, I wasn’t thinking of fun as a euphemism to naked shenanigans.  |
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"This applies to fab doesn’t it.
If things aren’t fun for you, why surround yourselves with it?"
I think a lot of people find it hard to accept that their expectations were unrealistic and place the blame elsewhere.
But I agree if it's not fun and not mandatory, stop. I used to go to an exercise class and when I found I was dreading it for the third week running I had a word with myself and just didn't go. |
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"This applies to fab doesn’t it.
If things aren’t fun for you, why surround yourselves with it?"
Absolutely! Fab isn't the only site I use to meet likeminded people, and as with the swinging/nsa lifestyle, variety is the spice of life.... |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"People sometimes use Fab, the forums whatever when they're feeling a bit meh.
I do think if you're really not getting anything from it then taking a break is a great idea, stops you potentially becoming cynical and jaded and feeling it's not worth it.
I also think that sometimes people are feeling a bit low and it passes.
True I’m a bit flippant saying it should be fun, but equally it shouldn’t bring you drama, there’s enough drama in life. "
I don't get the drama thing on fab at all! It's too much like school ground behaviour for me. I typically distance myself from people like this on fab and if I can in my day to day life. |
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"This applies to fab doesn’t it.
If things aren’t fun for you, why surround yourselves with it?"
I couldn’t agree more, old sausage. And for that exact reason I took a six month sabbatical last year - it turned out to be just what I needed.
Now I’m perfect. |
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"This applies to fab doesn’t it.
If things aren’t fun for you, why surround yourselves with it?"
I agree. If you carry on doing something that was fun and now it isn't, it's in danger of becoming an obsession. Much better to wait until the grey clouds pass. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Suggested this to someone this morning - just take a break for a week or two and come back less jaded. Moaning and being down about not getting meets is not going to increase the chances of a meet - the opposite! |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"This applies to fab doesn’t it.
If things aren’t fun for you, why surround yourselves with it?
I think a lot of people find it hard to accept that their expectations were unrealistic and place the blame elsewhere.
But I agree if it's not fun and not mandatory, stop. I used to go to an exercise class and when I found I was dreading it for the third week running I had a word with myself and just didn't go. "
Agree on the expectations - it’s not sex on tap which people seem to think it is. Honestly sometimes I just want to suggest to people they should consider obtaining what they need in a different way - if you get my drift! |
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"Too many people focus all the fun on the outcome. So it’s not fun until it results in a meet. If the focused instead on the interactions, instead of the outcomes, they would enjoy it more and not tie their self esteem to the purview of complete strangers. "
I think a lot of the frustration and feeling down tends to come from the lack of interactions themselves. The constant putting one’s self out there by approaching others countless times via message for example only for their efforts 99.9% coming to no avail. |
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