Yes in a way, I'm very blunt and it can come across as unintentionally rude so I have to maybe hold back slightly - I'm also one to ask the awkward questions, speak the awkward topics because I don't see why things shouldn't be talked about, but then some take my curiosity wrongly.
People are hard work.
Mrs |
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In real life I’m humble but stoic in my outlook. Got an opinion but open to being changed with proper evidence.
Here I’m a very big child and use this as a means to alleviate small pockets of boredom. |
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I know I am. Not in a oh I'm so cool with it, no, I'm the dorky kind of neurospicy with it. I feel things quite intensely, fuck I am intense at times. I go through phases of being all and waffling or not interested at all.
I'm, well, a lot. Yes, I censor sometimes. It's learnt behaviour, it's easier and people don't always need to know how I really view or feel about something. I don't like upsetting people deliberately. |
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Yep, I am a lot.
My brain is busy all the time and it often spills out my mouth.
I don't know how to sit quietly.
I live in chaos and last minute missions to do stuff.
However, I found people who love me anyway - friends who enjoy my random babble, know what makes me panic and can protect me, a MrAbz who knows how to soothe the chaos in my brain and give me peace to be calm for a while, work colleagues who know that I might look like I'm just chair dancing and singing away but actually that urgent request? Fixed that 10 mins ago for you!
No one is too much to the right people. You just have to find your people
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I forgot most human beings don’t function as mathematically about life / emotion / views as I do So it’s often a slow process dealing with others and having to dumb down somewhat to the path of least resistance / understanding |
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I speak my mind and if the other person likes it that’s cool and if they don’t tough titties. I don’t go out of my way to be rude or offend but I get my point across. |
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I try to be just me but mindful of others around (emotional intelligence is a thing  ) I will not talk innapropriately to anyone on the forums or knowingly and gratiously upset anyone. That's just not me.  |
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I've been told I can be a bit...bouncy. That makes me sound like Tigger. Ah well. Yes, I censor myself around those people and situations I'm not sure of. Be lovely to find a man who actually likes me being vivacious and silly and talkative. |
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"Yes in a way, I'm very blunt and it can come across as unintentionally rude so I have to maybe hold back slightly - I'm also one to ask the awkward questions, speak the awkward topics because I don't see why things shouldn't be talked about, but then some take my curiosity wrongly.
People are hard work.
Mrs "
I'm the awkward question asker and awkward topic broacher too! I don't know if people take it badly though. Mostly not, I think. |
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"No
That suggests to me that someone has a poor understanding of social mores
Or just doesn't care that they're behaviour isn't appropriate to the situation "
Who decides what social mores are? Are we thinking "children should be seen and not heard" vibes? |
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"Yep, I am a lot.
My brain is busy all the time and it often spills out my mouth.
I don't know how to sit quietly.
I live in chaos and last minute missions to do stuff.
However, I found people who love me anyway - friends who enjoy my random babble, know what makes me panic and can protect me, a MrAbz who knows how to soothe the chaos in my brain and give me peace to be calm for a while, work colleagues who know that I might look like I'm just chair dancing and singing away but actually that urgent request? Fixed that 10 mins ago for you!
No one is too much to the right people. You just have to find your people
MrsAbz "
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"I try to be just me but mindful of others around (emotional intelligence is a thing ) I will not talk innapropriately to anyone on the forums or knowingly and gratiously upset anyone. That's just not me. "
I can identify with this. |
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"Do you ever think that you're, well, a lot?
Do you censor yourself?
If so, why?
Mrs TMN x
What do you mean by "a lot"?
That's half the question, Willy  What does it mean to you? "
I don't know. But thanks for getting back to me 4 hours later  |
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"Do you ever think that you're, well, a lot?
Do you censor yourself?
If so, why?
Mrs TMN x
What do you mean by "a lot"?
That's half the question, Willy What does it mean to you?
I don't know. But thanks for getting back to me 4 hours later "
You're welcome! Life got in the way |
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"Do you ever think that you're, well, a lot?
Do you censor yourself?
If so, why?
Mrs TMN x"
I am a lot. I do self censor. I get myself into trouble sometimes. I don't mean to. I don't like it. I'm not in the headspace to interrogate that much more at the moment. |
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"Do you ever think that you're, well, a lot?
Do you censor yourself?
If so, why?
Mrs TMN x
What do you mean by "a lot"?
That's half the question, Willy What does it mean to you?
I don't know. But thanks for getting back to me 4 hours later
You're welcome! Life got in the way "
Totally understand |
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"Why is that, do you think? And what do you think A Lot is? "
It’s hard to define, isn’t it? It’s a bit like trying to draw a line around obscenity - the legal definition used to be something roughly akin to ‘I’ll know it when I see it’.
I think it’s shorthand for someone being a lot of work. A lot of work to be around. As in, they can be a bit exhausting. Emotionally.
That sounds really negative. But I *like* being around them, or I wouldn’t do that work.
I think, ultimately, it’s just when someone’s brain works in a very different way to mine.
Maybe they’re hyper and bouncy all the time. That can be a lot to be around. Or always worrying. That can be a lot too. Maybe they just live in a constant state of mild chaos. That’s hard work to hang out with.
Why am I often attracted to women whose brains work differently to mine? I dunno. Social conditioning? The challenge? Vive la difference? Can’t honestly say I’ve ever self-examined that deeply. |
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