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By *eliWoman 39 weeks ago
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I think they'd be trying to make me feel comfortable or relaxed or similar and could appreciate the intent behind it. Like a kind of 'hey you don't need to make all that effort for me'. Sweet but I'm not going to listen to it.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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That would ring alarm bells, I would be concerned what they are going to turn up looking like.
It would be unquestionable to meet someone without making an effort, I just couldn’t do that even if asked. |
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"I think they'd be trying to make me feel comfortable or relaxed or similar and could appreciate the intent behind it. Like a kind of 'hey you don't need to make all that effort for me'. Sweet but I'm not going to listen to it. "
That’s what I would mean if I said it - basically I want you to be comfortable rather than spend hours on something you do really want to do. If you want to spend hours because it makes you comfortable then  |
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It depends, I've been on social meets in the past that were hikes in the countryside - obviously I wasn't going to go to those all glammed up. I've always gone to meets dressed appropriately for the venue and/or activity, but there's always been an underlying standard of showered and ironed.
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No, I couldn't. I apply lipstick to take the rubbish out  .
The effort I'm making is as much for me as them so we probably wouldn't be compatible.
That said I did agree to leave my tiara and opera gloves at home once.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I couldn’t. I wouldn’t feel as confident as I would putting an effort into my appearance.
Plus, I’m sure he would quickly regret saying that when I turn up |
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"If someone offered to meet you and said they’re happy for you NOT to make an effort with your appearance/glam up/smarten up etc
Would you? Could you? "
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Absolutely I rarely doll up for social meets anyway
When I goto clubs I rarely bother with any makeup etc as I like saunas / hot tubs |
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By *eekyMan 39 weeks ago
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Maybe they're wanting to connect with the raw unpretentious person under any facades we may usually display, however over or understated.
Assuming they're clean, I imagine it could be an interesting psychological experience.
However if you turn up and they're dolled up, they're a cunt. |
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I just wouldnt occur to me to not make an effort. Call me old fashioned but thats how i was brought up. Have respect for myself and others. Sadly lacking in todays supposedly enlightened and modern society. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"If someone offered to meet you and said they’re happy for you NOT to make an effort with your appearance/glam up/smarten up etc
Would you? Could you? "
Nooo I find it a HUGE turn off. There’s been a few times when I’ve told people I can’t meet “right now” because I need to have a shower. It’s gross the amount of people who say “that doesn’t matter. Just come”.
Instant turn off! Would never meet anyone that’s happy to meet others with poor hygiene etc. grim. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"If someone offered to meet you and said they’re happy for you NOT to make an effort with your appearance/glam up/smarten up etc
Would you? Could you? "
I once had a meet where I definitely made the effort. Guy rocked up wearing a well worn tee shirt, cargo shorts amd sliders. I was not impressed and told him so and drove off! |
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By *bi HaiveMan 39 weeks ago
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"If someone offered to meet you and said they’re happy for you NOT to make an effort with your appearance/glam up/smarten up etc
Would you? Could you? "
Do I already know this person though?
Good friends? It wouldn't bother me at all what they wore. I've met some straight from their work in all manner of clothing.
A first time meet with someone would be different. Not necessarily going all out as if was compulsory to be wearing their best lingerie and a dress, but smart casual at the minimum. First impressions are generally quite important.
That said. I'd want them to be 100% comfortable in whatever they decided to wear rather than stressing about it. |
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By *929Man 39 weeks ago
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Being male there is really zero difference between making an effort and not, I have to put clothes on to leave the house anyways and bathing regular is something everyone should do regardless of meeting or not hsha |
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