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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The family pot, there is no mortgage or rent. He does all the domestics apart from her bedroom and home office. Yes washing/ironing/hoovering/decorating and repairs. Pays all the bills to run the home and buys most of the food.
Her contribution is to clean her room four times in 3.5 years has no interest in a relationship, her interest is her daughter and grand daughter, controlling the TV. Very little company or communication. Would a contribution of £200.00 a month be considered enough/not enough or another opinion. |
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Its a relationship, a partnership, so things should be split down the middle.
I don't mean go over the finances with a fine-toothed comb and then demand she pays half, it may be that she earns less, but certainly where the housework etc is concerned it should be a team effort.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Without facts from both sides of the case no one should comment?
On your facts alone it does seem fair, but why have they lost all interest in you....lack of compatibility? Depression? Illness? Emotional neglect ? Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry.
I am looking for personal opinions, done relate and listened to what should be, not what is.
Her interest has been a very dominant daughter that does not accept No! is a business failure and mother is still paying for it. My home is treated like her family hotel which causes many arguements and more distance between us.
Yes I have a pair but to split is expensive and again me the looser.Been there have the T-shirt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Without facts from both sides of the case no one should comment?
On your facts alone it does seem fair, but why have they lost all interest in you....lack of compatibility? Depression? Illness? Emotional neglect ? Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry. "
totally.. always 2 sides.. |
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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Family pot usually works ok but all working members of the family should be contributing equally.
If cleaning is a problem put in a little bit more and provide someone with a job.
You will then have resolved immediate problems.
The personal ones - good luck only you know what you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Without facts from both sides of the case no one should comment?
On your facts alone it does seem fair, but why have they lost all interest in you....lack of compatibility? Depression? Illness? Emotional neglect ? Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry. "
well said ............ We dont know everything one side and theres always 3 , lol HIS, HERS AND THERES , . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Possibly the strangest thread I have seen on here for a very long time...."
Yes your right and we do cover allsorts here x But counseling comes to mind reading this ..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry.
I am looking for personal opinions, done relate and listened to what should be, not what is.
Her interest has been a very dominant daughter that does not accept No! is a business failure and mother is still paying for it. My home is treated like her family hotel which causes many arguements and more distance between us.
Yes I have a pair but to split is expensive and again me the looser.Been there have the T-shirt."
If you don't think the forums is the right place to discuss this why post the bloody thread in the first place.
Sheesh, some things on here really astonish me sometimes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry.
I am looking for personal opinions, done relate and listened to what should be, not what is.
Her interest has been a very dominant daughter that does not accept No! is a business failure and mother is still paying for it. My home is treated like her family hotel which causes many arguements and more distance between us.
Yes I have a pair but to split is expensive and again me the looser.Been there have the T-shirt.
If you don't think the forums is the right place to discuss this why post the bloody thread in the first place.
Sheesh, some things on here really astonish me sometimes. "
wow i love it when i am astonished oooooo i do , lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Family pot usually works ok but all working members of the family should be contributing equally.
If cleaning is a problem put in a little bit more and provide someone with a job.
You will then have resolved immediate problems.
The personal ones - good luck only you know what you want."
but thats ur opinion on how it works.. not everyone agrees and not everyone works a relationship that way and get on fine |
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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"Family pot usually works ok but all working members of the family should be contributing equally.
If cleaning is a problem put in a little bit more and provide someone with a job.
You will then have resolved immediate problems.
The personal ones - good luck only you know what you want.
but thats ur opinion on how it works.. not everyone agrees and not everyone works a relationship that way and get on fine"
I did say "usually". |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry.
I am looking for personal opinions, done relate and listened to what should be, not what is.
Her interest has been a very dominant daughter that does not accept No! is a business failure and mother is still paying for it. My home is treated like her family hotel which causes many arguements and more distance between us.
Yes I have a pair but to split is expensive and again me the looser.Been there have the T-shirt.
If you don't think the forums is the right place to discuss this why post the bloody thread in the first place.
Sheesh, some things on here really astonish me sometimes. "
I think he was quoting someone without using the quote option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Family pot usually works ok but all working members of the family should be contributing equally.
If cleaning is a problem put in a little bit more and provide someone with a job.
You will then have resolved immediate problems.
The personal ones - good luck only you know what you want.
but thats ur opinion on how it works.. not everyone agrees and not everyone works a relationship that way and get on fine
I did say "usually". "
will providing their relationship works oon the basis of a family pot.. |
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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"Family pot usually works ok but all working members of the family should be contributing equally.
If cleaning is a problem put in a little bit more and provide someone with a job.
You will then have resolved immediate problems.
The personal ones - good luck only you know what you want.
but thats ur opinion on how it works.. not everyone agrees and not everyone works a relationship that way and get on fine
I did say "usually".
will providing their relationship works oon the basis of a family pot.. "
Can only go on my experience. Spose I could have said nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think the forums are the right place for answers to this sorry.
I am looking for personal opinions, done relate and listened to what should be, not what is.
Her interest has been a very dominant daughter that does not accept No! is a business failure and mother is still paying for it. My home is treated like her family hotel which causes many arguements and more distance between us.
Yes I have a pair but to split is expensive and again me the looser.Been there have the T-shirt.
If you don't think the forums is the right place to discuss this why post the bloody thread in the first place.
Sheesh, some things on here really astonish me sometimes.
I think he was quoting someone without using the quote option."
Yes, you are correct. I wish Admin would include a quote system that posted the username of the person being quoted in a separate coloured box and then the message from the person doing the quoting underneath it.  |
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