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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is my first time in forums so don't know if its been said before..
But why are bbw's so popular but when it comes to big men like myself are we seen as fat, ugly, disgusting, smelly etc.. Is there any women that like big men?
Again sorry if this has been said. |
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By *essex1Man
over a year ago
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well just giving my view, I think the general consensus is boobs on girls are good and boobs on guys aren't.
Like has been said though everyone's preferences are different and there are some women who like larger men. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Was there really any need for that? 
Don't see anything wrong with what he posted?"
What stereotyping because men are big they have tits? That's alright is it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was there really any need for that?
Don't see anything wrong with what he posted?
What stereotyping because men are big they have tits? That's alright is it? "
He didn't. He pointed out big tits on a woman are lush but big tits on a dude is a no no ??
Chill a little, its a forum where other ppls views and opinions will differ from your own ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...this thread is going to end well....
Sorry haven't been in forums before.. I'm a big guy and just wanted a general opinion. "
Sorry, it wasn't directed at you OP and I can understand why you may ask such a question.
I, like you, am a big guy and the subject of size / body shape is a very emotive one.
There was a thread, in a very similar vein in recent months and it got very heated and quite nasty / vindictive. It upset me greatly with some of the comments that were thrown around on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my first time in forums so don't know if its been said before..
But why are bbw's so popular but when it comes to big men like myself are we seen as fat, ugly, disgusting, smelly etc.. Is there any women that like big men?
Again sorry if this has been said."
Not all people see big men as disgusting. Just as not all people see BBW's as gorgeous. There's enough people in the world to like everyone. You just have to find the ones that like you.
Some bigger people can be hateful and nasty, some can be lovely. I like the person, not their size.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...this thread is going to end well....
Sorry haven't been in forums before.. I'm a big guy and just wanted a general opinion.
Sorry, it wasn't directed at you OP and I can understand why you may ask such a question.
I, like you, am a big guy and the subject of size / body shape is a very emotive one.
There was a thread, in a very similar vein in recent months and it got very heated and quite nasty / vindictive. It upset me greatly with some of the comments that were thrown around on it."
Ahh ok, I'm sorry in advance if this turns out the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is my first time in forums so don't know if its been said before..
But why are bbw's so popular but when it comes to big men like myself are we seen as fat, ugly, disgusting, smelly etc.. Is there any women that like big men?
Again sorry if this has been said.
Not all people see big men as disgusting. Just as not all people see BBW's as gorgeous. There's enough people in the world to like everyone. You just have to find the ones that like you.
Some bigger people can be hateful and nasty, some can be lovely. I like the person, not their size. "
I know all men aren't, just some of the things I've been described as.
And thanks for the nice bit on the end... I love a good personality  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op I am a big guy and I've done very well for myself. Just get out to socials and clubs and let people see the real you.
There are women who will only go with ripped men, as its their fantasy and they can get that. Here. But there are women who go for personality as well as looks. This will be easier to show in person than through the screen.
First few times can be scary as fuck, but worth it in the long run. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Op I am a big guy and I've done very well for myself. Just get out to socials and clubs and let people see the real you.
There are women who will only go with ripped men, as its their fantasy and they can get that. Here. But there are women who go for personality as well as looks. This will be easier to show in person than through the screen.
First few times can be scary as fuck, but worth it in the long run. Good luck. "
Thankyou for the great advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you find any women chubby chasers from north west, feel free to send them this way lol
You get girls saying they like rugby types a lot by which I think they mean bigger guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was there really any need for that?
Don't see anything wrong with what he posted?
What stereotyping because men are big they have tits? That's alright is it? "
have you ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I have no problem with male or female with a little extra love handles.. A persons size doesn't define who they are!
Just keep positive, don't wear your heart on your sleeve and stay confident and you'll soon be posting that your having more fun than you imagined |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being fat is a matter of opinion.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder lol
Why would you suggest that you and others are ugly, disgusting, smelly etc ?"
That's just some of the things I've been called.. I know I'm not smelly etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I have no problem with male or female with a little extra love handles.. A persons size doesn't define who they are!
Just keep positive, don't wear your heart on your sleeve and stay confident and you'll soon be posting that your having more fun than you imagined "
Thankyou very much, will take it all on board,
Shame I'm out of your age range thou  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being fat is a matter of opinion.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder lol
Why would you suggest that you and others are ugly, disgusting, smelly etc ?
That's just some of the things I've been called.. I know I'm not smelly etc"
Then just move on. These ppl are obviously ignorant and not the kind of women you'd want to meet anyway! |
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Im a big bloke yes im over weight but I lift a lot of heavy weights play rugby at a very high level . Do a bit of boxing and have worked the doors for years . Im big all over not just on my belly to be honest I couldnt give a shite what people think of me as none of them have taken the time to get to know me .. everyone beautiful the only uglyness I see is in what people say about other ....
Stay beautiful people and have a great day.. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im a big bloke yes im over weight but I lift a lot of heavy weights play rugby at a very high level . Do a bit of boxing and have worked the doors for years . Im big all over not just on my belly to be honest I couldnt give a shite what people think of me as none of them have taken the time to get to know me .. everyone beautiful the only uglyness I see is in what people say about other ....
Stay beautiful people and have a great day.. xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find here men are really lovely to Bigger Lady's make them feel very special and fit in ... not matter of there size........ But its not the same for big men .... alot don't feel the same and have the same respect . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find here men are really lovely to Bigger Lady's make them feel very special and fit in ... not matter of there size........ But its not the same for big men .... alot don't feel the same and have the same respect ."
I know it's a huge shame, because we have just as much to give as the ladies :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being fat is a matter of opinion.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder lol
Why would you suggest that you and others are ugly, disgusting, smelly etc ?
That's just some of the things I've been called.. I know I'm not smelly etc
Then just move on. These ppl are obviously ignorant and not the kind of women you'd want to meet anyway!"
That goes for men and women. They don't know you so why worry. |
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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"...this thread is going to end well....
Sorry haven't been in forums before.. I'm a big guy and just wanted a general opinion. "
you do not need to apologise, gerrin there, if you go beyond the line you will get purron the naughty step. You gotta hold yer own int forums.
You raise a valid question.
Personally, I tend to prefer slim to average guys but I am not adverse to a larger guy if they are physically aware and in control of their body. It's not all about looks, is it. There has to be that little magic too, don't you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find here men are really lovely to Bigger Lady's make them feel very special and fit in ... not matter of there size........ But its not the same for big men .... alot don't feel the same and have the same respect .
I know it's a huge shame, because we have just as much to give as the ladies :D "
Some say its numbers. woman all sizes no matter can be picky as 1000s of men looking for sex here and not 1000s of woman . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer guy with a bit of meat, I'm quite meaty myself and couldn't give a shit what guys think!!!
Confidence and respect go a lot further than looks in my opinion, enjoy yourself and others will too xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just have to be positive think your as good as the rest like the ladies do here as you are no matter of size its whats inside too that matters ... I was ones with a male model was the most vain man you could ever meet and in bed to so selfish .. so it was a lesson to me i maybe had to learn .Looks are just part of what make a person and yes first thing we go on here as don't know people ... but now for me there has to be more then that to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just have to be positive think your as good as the rest like the ladies do here as you are no matter of size its whats inside too that matters ... I was ones with a male model was the most vain man you could ever meet and in bed to so selfish .. so it was a lesson to me i maybe had to learn .Looks are just part of what make a person and yes first thing we go on here as don't know people ... but now for me there has to be more then that to meet."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all comes down to personal preferences yet again. Some will find big guys attractive some won't. I don't expect to be everyone's cup of tea and wouldn't waste my time dwelling on it....just for the record I am rather partial to the larger man with a bit of extra meat  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It all comes down to personal preferences yet again. Some will find big guys attractive some won't. I don't expect to be everyone's cup of tea and wouldn't waste my time dwelling on it....just for the record I am rather partial to the larger man with a bit of extra meat "
That's good I've got the whole butchers counter  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"This is my first time in forums so don't know if its been said before..
But why are bbw's so popular but when it comes to big men like myself are we seen as fat, ugly, disgusting, smelly etc.. Is there any women that like big men?
Again sorry if this has been said."
speak for yourself... i tend to find you make your own luck, and that starts with your personality and showing off the best "you" you can....
you can moan and generalise.. or you can be different... its up to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP !
I am :
40 +
a short arse
hairy - all over
bald
wear glasses 24/7
and have a belly
that's not a hard chunky rugby players belly, it's a belly
so pretty much i am the exact opposite physically of what the majority of women are looking for on here
but here's the thing, i do get meets and tbh if i pushed it, i could get more
and those meets are with people i find attractive, because i don't see why i should accept 2nd best just because i do not fit what is conventionally classed as attractive and just take what is on offer.
i like to think that i have had those meets because i am a decent guy with a lot of self confidence that falls short of cockyness and i accept who i am sexually, emotionally and physically.
i am also a bit cheeky without being rude or obnoxious and i love nothing more than a bit of banter and getting to know people.
people do buy into that and whilst you will always get people who will only consider someone who is, to them, physically perfect and if that is their preference, good on them.
there is no point you or i being hung up on that or them, we should concentrate on those that may meet us.
moreover, we should carry ourselves shoulders back, head high, not shuffle round thinking that everyone has a downer on us for the way we look
that defeatist / defeated attitude will lose you more potential meets than your build ever could.
so take it from someone who knows exactly how being overweight can make you feel, being angry or upset about it will change nothing and if anything it will confirm the mindset of a few rather than altering it.
the change is not going to come from others, it has to come from you, how you see yourself, how you approach life, how you approach the site and how you approach others who use it.
i hope you can make the site work for you - it is well within the realms of possibility, but you will have to accept that as a bigger man you will not have it as easy here as a ripped adonis will
good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my first time in forums so don't know if its been said before..
But why are bbw's so popular but when it comes to big men like myself are we seen as fat, ugly, disgusting, smelly etc.. Is there any women that like big men?
Again sorry if this has been said."
simple answer to that
because there are less women on here than men so women can afford to be more picky about who they meet
If there was 100 women to every man, so the guys could pick and choose like women can im sure big women wouldn't get anywhere near as many meets
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP !
I am :
40 +
a short arse
hairy - all over
bald
wear glasses 24/7
and have a belly
that's not a hard chunky rugby players belly, it's a belly
so pretty much i am the exact opposite physically of what the majority of women are looking for on here
but here's the thing, i do get meets and tbh if i pushed it, i could get more
and those meets are with people i find attractive, because i don't see why i should accept 2nd best just because i do not fit what is conventionally classed as attractive and just take what is on offer.
i like to think that i have had those meets because i am a decent guy with a lot of self confidence that falls short of cockyness and i accept who i am sexually, emotionally and physically.
i am also a bit cheeky without being rude or obnoxious and i love nothing more than a bit of banter and getting to know people.
people do buy into that and whilst you will always get people who will only consider someone who is, to them, physically perfect and if that is their preference, good on them.
there is no point you or i being hung up on that or them, we should concentrate on those that may meet us.
moreover, we should carry ourselves shoulders back, head high, not shuffle round thinking that everyone has a downer on us for the way we look
that defeatist / defeated attitude will lose you more potential meets than your build ever could.
so take it from someone who knows exactly how being overweight can make you feel, being angry or upset about it will change nothing and if anything it will confirm the mindset of a few rather than altering it.
the change is not going to come from others, it has to come from you, how you see yourself, how you approach life, how you approach the site and how you approach others who use it.
i hope you can make the site work for you - it is well within the realms of possibility, but you will have to accept that as a bigger man you will not have it as easy here as a ripped adonis will
good luck "
Brilliant post!! (And I'm not just saying that cos I like ya!)
That's exactly it, especially the 'how you see yourself' bit.
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Look there are plenty of unattractive unpleasant slim people who look pretty but are cunts. Just like there are big people.
What persona you project goes a long way fat or thin.
You can be who you want to be bro - I am SPIDER-MAN!!!  |
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over a year ago
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"OP !
I am :
40 +
a short arse
hairy - all over
bald
wear glasses 24/7
and have a belly
that's not a hard chunky rugby players belly, it's a belly
so pretty much i am the exact opposite physically of what the majority of women are looking for on here
but here's the thing, i do get meets and tbh if i pushed it, i could get more
and those meets are with people i find attractive, because i don't see why i should accept 2nd best just because i do not fit what is conventionally classed as attractive and just take what is on offer.
i like to think that i have had those meets because i am a decent guy with a lot of self confidence that falls short of cockyness and i accept who i am sexually, emotionally and physically.
i am also a bit cheeky without being rude or obnoxious and i love nothing more than a bit of banter and getting to know people.
people do buy into that and whilst you will always get people who will only consider someone who is, to them, physically perfect and if that is their preference, good on them.
there is no point you or i being hung up on that or them, we should concentrate on those that may meet us.
moreover, we should carry ourselves shoulders back, head high, not shuffle round thinking that everyone has a downer on us for the way we look
that defeatist / defeated attitude will lose you more potential meets than your build ever could.
so take it from someone who knows exactly how being overweight can make you feel, being angry or upset about it will change nothing and if anything it will confirm the mindset of a few rather than altering it.
the change is not going to come from others, it has to come from you, how you see yourself, how you approach life, how you approach the site and how you approach others who use it.
i hope you can make the site work for you - it is well within the realms of possibility, but you will have to accept that as a bigger man you will not have it as easy here as a ripped adonis will
good luck "
You forgot your 12" cock and the fact you just sit in the corner licking your eyebrows |
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OP - this is all about self-image.... with all the emphasis on SELF.
I'm a big guy, and apart from my late teens and twenties when I nearly killed myself doing all kinds of sport to keep in shape, I always have been a big guy.
But you know what? I don't give a shite what anyone else thinks of me. I KNOW me. I KNOW I am as good as any other guy on here.
I am as confident as any other guy on here when it comes to the bedroom (even though my ex did her level best to destroy that!! Lol!) and that comes over in how I chat with people and that is reflected in their response to me.
I really think beneath your question are some issues to do with self-image. If you are able, I would suggest you try to get to a club on a busy night and just sit back and take a good look at all the different body shapes, sizes and types that are 'on show'. Then take a look at YOU. You will be no different. You are YOU.
Have a think about it... and good luck |
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over a year ago
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"OP !
I am :
40 +
a short arse
hairy - all over
bald
wear glasses 24/7
and have a belly
that's not a hard chunky rugby players belly, it's a belly
so pretty much i am the exact opposite physically of what the majority of women are looking for on here
but here's the thing, i do get meets and tbh if i pushed it, i could get more
and those meets are with people i find attractive, because i don't see why i should accept 2nd best just because i do not fit what is conventionally classed as attractive and just take what is on offer.
i like to think that i have had those meets because i am a decent guy with a lot of self confidence that falls short of cockyness and i accept who i am sexually, emotionally and physically.
i am also a bit cheeky without being rude or obnoxious and i love nothing more than a bit of banter and getting to know people.
people do buy into that and whilst you will always get people who will only consider someone who is, to them, physically perfect and if that is their preference, good on them.
there is no point you or i being hung up on that or them, we should concentrate on those that may meet us.
moreover, we should carry ourselves shoulders back, head high, not shuffle round thinking that everyone has a downer on us for the way we look
that defeatist / defeated attitude will lose you more potential meets than your build ever could.
so take it from someone who knows exactly how being overweight can make you feel, being angry or upset about it will change nothing and if anything it will confirm the mindset of a few rather than altering it.
the change is not going to come from others, it has to come from you, how you see yourself, how you approach life, how you approach the site and how you approach others who use it.
i hope you can make the site work for you - it is well within the realms of possibility, but you will have to accept that as a bigger man you will not have it as easy here as a ripped adonis will
good luck "
You sir, have just made my day!
If I only listen to one but of advice in life it will be that!
Thankyou. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP - this is all about self-image.... with all the emphasis on SELF.
I'm a big guy, and apart from my late teens and twenties when I nearly killed myself doing all kinds of sport to keep in shape, I always have been a big guy.
But you know what? I don't give a shite what anyone else thinks of me. I KNOW me. I KNOW I am as good as any other guy on here.
I am as confident as any other guy on here when it comes to the bedroom (even though my ex did her level best to destroy that!! Lol!) and that comes over in how I chat with people and that is reflected in their response to me.
I really think beneath your question are some issues to do with self-image. If you are able, I would suggest you try to get to a club on a busy night and just sit back and take a good look at all the different body shapes, sizes and types that are 'on show'. Then take a look at YOU. You will be no different. You are YOU.
Have a think about it... and good luck "
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Not sure anybody's said it yet,,,
" welcome to the forums ",,
Theres a niche for everyone on here, have fun,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was there really any need for that?
I like big powerefull men not into skinny guys.
M x
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so calling big men fat is a no no yet calling slim men skinny is ok? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP !
I am :
40 +
a short arse
hairy - all over
bald
wear glasses 24/7
and have a belly
that's not a hard chunky rugby players belly, it's a belly
so pretty much i am the exact opposite physically of what the majority of women are looking for on here
but here's the thing, i do get meets and tbh if i pushed it, i could get more
and those meets are with people i find attractive, because i don't see why i should accept 2nd best just because i do not fit what is conventionally classed as attractive and just take what is on offer.
i like to think that i have had those meets because i am a decent guy with a lot of self confidence that falls short of cockyness and i accept who i am sexually, emotionally and physically.
i am also a bit cheeky without being rude or obnoxious and i love nothing more than a bit of banter and getting to know people.
people do buy into that and whilst you will always get people who will only consider someone who is, to them, physically perfect and if that is their preference, good on them.
there is no point you or i being hung up on that or them, we should concentrate on those that may meet us.
moreover, we should carry ourselves shoulders back, head high, not shuffle round thinking that everyone has a downer on us for the way we look
that defeatist / defeated attitude will lose you more potential meets than your build ever could.
so take it from someone who knows exactly how being overweight can make you feel, being angry or upset about it will change nothing and if anything it will confirm the mindset of a few rather than altering it.
the change is not going to come from others, it has to come from you, how you see yourself, how you approach life, how you approach the site and how you approach others who use it.
i hope you can make the site work for you - it is well within the realms of possibility, but you will have to accept that as a bigger man you will not have it as easy here as a ripped adonis will
good luck "
excellent advice, and a very healthy attitude to life. I know I am overweight, but Fab has given me the confidence that I might be attractive to some. I dislike wee men who carry big chips, so man up and be who you are. Personality shines through. And I do love big hairy assed manly men! xx |
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Do you know what I reckon 90% of people would change something about their bodies if they were given 3 wishes, I know I would.
We have to accept who we are, part of that is what we look like, but isn't as important as the person we are. Be kind, considerate, caring and generous. Be good company, a reliable friend, a hard worker and trustworthy soul. They are the kind of things that are important and will get you friends and lovers. |
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"This is my first time in forums so don't know if its been said before..
But why are bbw's so popular but when it comes to big men like myself are we seen as fat, ugly, disgusting, smelly etc.. Is there any women that like big men?
Again sorry if this has been said."
What makes you think bbws are more popular????? |
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"Do you know what I reckon 90% of people would change something about their bodies if they were given 3 wishes, I know I would.
We have to accept who we are, part of that is what we look like, but isn't as important as the person we are. Be kind, considerate, caring and generous. Be good company, a reliable friend, a hard worker and trustworthy soul. They are the kind of things that are important and will get you friends and lovers. "
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