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"Our meet tonight has been off line for 14 hours, time arranged, hotel paid, why do people do it, "
I got stood up twice last week. I will admit I was suspicious as, having not met anyone from the site ever, 2 came along at once (like busses!) I didn't pay for anything except fuel to go and pick my meets up but, both times were a no-show.
I was more than a little upset. Both of those girls have now
I assume blocked me or left the site. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Frustrating.
I always make sure there's an alternative way of making contact away from here when a meet is planned.
In rural areas there may not be enough signal to get online, but you can generally make a call or send a text. |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 44 weeks ago
Trowbridge |
It’s a shame this site is like that, I’ve had no successful meets as yet, a few deleted profiles, ghosting, 3 socials, nothing has come from any of them, I was really hopeful for 1 of them  so I think clubs are going to be the only way forward I guess |
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"Frustrating.
I always make sure there's an alternative way of making contact away from here when a meet is planned.
In rural areas there may not be enough signal to get online, but you can generally make a call or send a text. "
Same. |
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"It’s a shame this site is like that, I’ve had no successful meets as yet, a few deleted profiles, ghosting, 3 socials, nothing has come from any of them, I was really hopeful for 1 of them so I think clubs are going to be the only way forward I guess"
Well, that says it all doesn't it? If a woman with a bum like yours struggles, us average looking guys are doomed! |
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We have had similar experiences with a few people on here. All talk of a big game but when it came down to it they worked, had a car accident, dislocated their shoulder and were on the other side of the country... a lot of excuses which left us high and dry |
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"We have had similar experiences with a few people on here. All talk of a big game but when it came down to it they worked, had a car accident, dislocated their shoulder and were on the other side of the country... a lot of excuses which left us high and dry "
As someone whose left shoulder falls out of the socket on a fairly regular basis... that wouldn't stop me. Get someone to help pop it back in, take some strong painkillers and get on with your day. |
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You can get a burner phone and a data sim for around a tenner.
We make sure our meets go to WhatsApp before we book a hotel so that at least we get real time messaging.
If they don’t want to that’s fine but then we move on.
Shows at least some commitment. |
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By *ayRyuMan 44 weeks ago
Harrogate |
Frustrating isn't it?
I generally once arranged will not change my mind or back out.
Like to be punctual and reliable.
Unfortunately plenty have no consideration for the other party involved. |
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"This meet was also looking for a guy for Amanda not what our current profile is looking for, any handsome guys near Dartford lol"
Put a meet up. If you've got time to deal with the admin.
You'll get a tonne of responses.
Pick the one you fancy the most that has the most verifications saying they're reliable
Hope you find someone and have a fun night |
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By *os19Man 44 weeks ago
Edmonton |
"Our meet tonight has been off line for 14 hours, time arranged, hotel paid, why do people do it, "
. I too would be worried if someone was offline for 14 hours.However there is the possibility that they are a last minute person and may make contact a hour before the meeting
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"Our meet tonight has been off line for 14 hours, time arranged, hotel paid, why do people do it, "
I would go to the hotel at time u stated since has been arranged ect I would set a time limit for how long ur going to wait a half hour or an hour if no show then go out meet people n use hotel or just assume there not coming sending them a message saying "if u do not reply by xyz time today then we will be not meeting u" then can invite someone else. |
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By *9XAYNOR69Man 44 weeks ago
Centralised he/him/his From the land of cocksuckers |
Life happens plans change it's disrespectful them not at least letting you know especially as you have taken the cost.
I'd have gone it's a night out and as one waste of time disappears you'll be asking yourself why you didn't go
Have a good evening |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"This meet was also looking for a guy for Amanda not what our current profile is looking for, any handsome guys near Dartford lol"
I have to ask why you would organise it if the other person is trying to change what you were looking for? |
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"It’s incredible how exactly on the day of a meet people have such unfortunate luck 
Seems to be the most unluckiest of sites how many bad things happen to people! 
K"
Fab should really have a condolences section for all the dying grannies |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"It’s incredible how exactly on the day of a meet people have such unfortunate luck
Seems to be the most unluckiest of sites how many bad things happen to people!
K"
And also how forgetful people are about other arrangements, they had.  |
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At least you can still enjoy the room together, as others said.
I'd never get a hotel room for this v reason, so many do and are stood up.
Think about meeting socially first in future op, then you won't be out of pocket if they decide to flake out |
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"It’s incredible how exactly on the day of a meet people have such unfortunate luck
Seems to be the most unluckiest of sites how many bad things happen to people!
K
And also how forgetful people are about other arrangements, they had. "
Or how often they get called into work on days off. |
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"Was there a lot of sex chat previous to them going off line?
Not really , in bar waiting, he has 20 minutes, still off line "
No doubt you’ll hear all about the ‘family emergency’ tomorrow and a pitch to meet you again. |
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"Was there a lot of sex chat previous to them going off line?
Not really , in bar waiting, he has 20 minutes, still off line
No doubt you’ll hear all about the ‘family emergency’ tomorrow and a pitch to meet you again. "
He can fuck off lol |
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It may sound harsh OP, but don't give second chances. Trust your gut!
I'm lucky I haven't actually paid for a hotel, but I have had a few no shows in the past.
I make a point of messaging 1 hr before leaving home, expecting an answer. Then message as I'm setting off. If I get no answer, or as you've said, they've not been on fab for hours I don't bother setting off, and message to tell them why!
Staying off fab for hours on day of meet is a big red flag for me! |
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I have clearly been very lucky with meets. I was pulled out on this week but given 5 days notice and a 'reschedule'and I have had to bail out fairly last minute with someone, but communication is essential so that everyone can at least go to a Plan B and/or not lose money.
No excuse to not let the other party know. It's piss poor to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"Omg i can't believe people don't turn up "
It is a thing. That's why I maintain long-term friendship with people who can be relied upon and dump those who play silly games. I host or pay for hotels, vacations most of the time so I someone I can trust. |
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"Omg i can't believe people don't turn up
It is a thing. That's why I maintain long-term friendship with people who can be relied upon and dump those who play silly games. I host or pay for hotels, vacations most of the time so I someone I can trust."
Yeah, it's also why I'm looking for friends rather than just random hook ups. In the event that things aline and I can meet in 30 mins I don't want my time to be wasted. |
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I’d have waited …. No reply on the day long. 
