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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad  "
Only advice I have for this, is give time time.....and don't fight the feelings, if your feeling your healing
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Been there before too. Often it’s hard to filter feelings from the fun and unless you face into it early it’s hard to recover. My advice, move on. If they want you they’ll find a way to reach out again x |
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By *mf123Man 50 weeks ago
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"Thanks guys yeah I definitely caught feels I shouldn't have... I thought I had it boxed off but now that it's gone south I see how deep I went. Am annoyed with myself. "
dont be mad at yourself shit like that can sneak up on anyone
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From the other side, I let my FWB go after 5 years last year because she was becoming a little bit clingy.
You have to move on. But I guess that is easier if you're the one who wants to move it on.
Hope you move on ok. But you need to chat to him to find out what his reason is I guess. |
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"Thanks guys yeah I definitely caught feels I shouldn't have... I thought I had it boxed off but now that it's gone south I see how deep I went. Am annoyed with myself. "
Be kind to yourself, we have no control over feelings, or who we get them for, try not to beat yourself up for being human....
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By *lueLotus OP Woman 50 weeks ago
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"From the other side, I let my FWB go after 5 years last year because she was becoming a little bit clingy.
You have to move on. But I guess that is easier if you're the one who wants to move it on.
Hope you move on ok. But you need to chat to him to find out what his reason is I guess."
I'd rather not chat to him or ask him why or any of that tbh I just let him go. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman 50 weeks ago
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Sorry you're hurting, OP.
Take the time you need to be kind to yourself, and try not to hang on or to wait for them to change their mind. But mostly... be kind to you. |
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"What would you want him to do if you were the one who broke up ?
Leave me alone, and that's why I'm doing that "
I’m sure he also doesn’t want you to push more.
If he would want to be back he would already come back. But you should just let him know that you are leaving him alone because you think he wants this. You don’t leave him alone because you don’t care. |
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"From the other side, I let my FWB go after 5 years last year because she was becoming a little bit clingy.
You have to move on. But I guess that is easier if you're the one who wants to move it on.
Hope you move on ok. But you need to chat to him to find out what his reason is I guess.
I'd rather not chat to him or ask him why or any of that tbh I just let him go. "
Well good luck...it's clichéd but time will heal and I hope you find what you're after on here. |
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I think it's ok to have feelings. Some people are just built that way and I feel like the risk to reward ratio makes it worth it.
I'd rather keep my heart open and experience all the benefits of that closeness rather than loose the intimacy I feel with those I'm closest too. I choose that even though I know these things can't let forever.
Give the feelings their due. Sit with it for as long as it's needed and then go and fuck someone really hot. You'll have earned it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Rebound sex. Hi, how's it going? 
But seriously, I'm sorry to hear that OP and I'm not entirely sure what can make the pain go away quickly. I would say try to be kind to yourself and not overthink what you could've done or still could do. Sometimes people drift apart and it's important you focus on what you want right now and hopefully that'll go some way towards your healing  |
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By *lueLotus OP Woman 50 weeks ago
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"I think it's ok to have feelings. Some people are just built that way and I feel like the risk to reward ratio makes it worth it.
I'd rather keep my heart open and experience all the benefits of that closeness rather than loose the intimacy I feel with those I'm closest too. I choose that even though I know these things can't let forever.
Give the feelings their due. Sit with it for as long as it's needed and then go and fuck someone really hot. You'll have earned it."
This helps a lot, thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Thanks guys yeah I definitely caught feels I shouldn't have... I thought I had it boxed off but now that it's gone south I see how deep I went. Am annoyed with myself. "
Don’t be annoyed with yourself. Why?
You only shown yourself you have emotions, you shown them they are lovely enough for someone to care as much as you did.
It just happened that you both ended up in different places during your journey. 
* sighs. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad "
why do you think he is sick of you ? He is a Friend not just a Fuck ? |
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad why do you think he is sick of you ? He is a Friend not just a Fuck ?"
The ultimate difference between FB and FWB in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Oh that sucks, its a horrible position to be in... Personally I find once i see the end approaching its better to have a clean break, but that's just me
As others have said be kind to yourself and let yours mind grieve the loss
Hope you bounce soon x |
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Sounds like it's developed into something more than FWB.
Sounds a bit harsh but that's probably why he has distanced himself from you.
Give them sometime and just see what happens.
Hope it works out for you. |
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad "
From what I can see, book him an appointment with Specsavers (other opticians are available).  |
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad
From what I can see, book him an appointment with Specsavers (other opticians are available). "
It's you who is short sighted my friend. Just because you are attractive on the eye doesn't mean you're interesting. Hot people get dumped all the time.
Not aimed at OP. Just to prevent anyone getting upset and the White Knights gathering their posse to hunt the fox down. |
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What is the difference between a fb and a fwb, quite a lot and people get attached even end up living or getting married to fwb. He doesn't deserve your tears, your gorgeous would not take you long to find someone decent. |
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"What is the difference between a fb and a fwb, quite a lot and people get attached even end up living or getting married to fwb. He doesn't deserve your tears, your gorgeous would not take you long to find someone decent."
For me a Fuck Buddy is a convenience for both and it's just about sex.
Friend with benefits and the clue is in the title. Friendship, pubs, chat.
Clearly the line can be a blurry one. A scale perhaps. A FB could mean a bit more to some and a FWB less to others.
My opinion I guess.
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By *lueLotus OP Woman 50 weeks ago
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"Have you talked to them about it? If not, I think you should. It'll give you a peace of mind and clear things up for you "
Hey... Thanks to you, and seducing em, and desire in Sheffield, I reached out again to make sure he knew I really cared for and wish the best for him. I got a beautiful reply giving a really good reason which explained a lot. So thanks for your advice,without it I'd still be in the dark xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad "
I’d suggest sucking my cock to get over it |
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"Have you talked to them about it? If not, I think you should. It'll give you a peace of mind and clear things up for you
Hey... Thanks to you, and seducing em, and desire in Sheffield, I reached out again to make sure he knew I really cared for and wish the best for him. I got a beautiful reply giving a really good reason which explained a lot. So thanks for your advice,without it I'd still be in the dark xx "
I'm glad you got some closure |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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I mean, there's not much detail here.
Sick of you in what way? What did you actually do to earn the negativity? Can you be honest about it?
You're both adults, these mind games of ignoring the elephant in the room are childish. He might want to hear you have feelings. Better out than ignored. |
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By *izzy.Woman 50 weeks ago
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"Have you talked to them about it? If not, I think you should. It'll give you a peace of mind and clear things up for you
Hey... Thanks to you, and seducing em, and desire in Sheffield, I reached out again to make sure he knew I really cared for and wish the best for him. I got a beautiful reply giving a really good reason which explained a lot. So thanks for your advice,without it I'd still be in the dark xx "
I was just about to add my thoughts and then saw your update. I'm pleased that you contacted him and you both understand the situation better.
I'm sure it still hurts as it does when emotions are involved, but when you have met someone for sex, you do get fond of them. It would be pretty tricky not to have some connection. I guess the more you hurt, means the closer you were.
Look after yourself while you recover. |
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Being Poly this is a huge problem for me and I can catch the feels very easily. Some people truly get to me and I can get hurt.
Wouldn't trade it for all the tea in China.
OP you have my sympathies, cry it out, get some great sex inside you, then see about a new FWB. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Have you talked to them about it? If not, I think you should. It'll give you a peace of mind and clear things up for you
Hey... Thanks to you, and seducing em, and desire in Sheffield, I reached out again to make sure he knew I really cared for and wish the best for him. I got a beautiful reply giving a really good reason which explained a lot. So thanks for your advice,without it I'd still be in the dark xx "
Sorry, should've read the rest of the thread. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"It hurts to lose a friend. Even one you weren’t fucking. Not everything has to be about romance, y’know. Friendships are still relationships between two people, and it still sucks when they end."
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Sounds like it's developed into something more than FWB.
Sounds a bit harsh but that's probably why he has distanced himself from you.
Give them sometime and just see what happens.
Hope it works out for you."
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Good friends are very hard to come by.
Hope things work out and you regain his friendship.
Talk things out and see how to sort out the underlying issues.
It’s now clear that you value him more than for only sex.
I don’t know the background, maybe he is married, so thought it best to stop things getting messy since you have fallen in love.
It’s awful to see a few odd ones trying get some kind of sex (oral, etc) from you while you are hurting. How desperate can one be?
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad "
I’m going through the same. I met him on the forums 18 months ago.He’s just left the scene and I’m a little heartbroken. I miss him. xx |
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By *lueLotus OP Woman 50 weeks ago
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad
I’m going through the same. I met him on the forums 18 months ago.He’s just left the scene and I’m a little heartbroken. I miss him. xx "
aw I'm sorry... It sucks xx |
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By *mf123Man 50 weeks ago
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad
I’m going through the same. I met him on the forums 18 months ago.He’s just left the scene and I’m a little heartbroken. I miss him. xx "
missing someone hurts the guts hope you can look back n smile |
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad
From what I can see, book him an appointment with Specsavers (other opticians are available).
It's you who is short sighted my friend. Just because you are attractive on the eye doesn't mean you're interesting. Hot people get dumped all the time.
Not aimed at OP. Just to prevent anyone getting upset and the White Knights gathering their posse to hunt the fox down."
Strangely I agree; in part. The most beautiful woman I ever dated was also the most self-centered and vacuous. She appeared to believe her looks would overcome everything; they didn't and I ended it after just 2 boring months.
However, the OP is hurting after being dumped. I simply wanted to reasure her that she looks great and she should be able to find a new FWB with ease. Whether it lasts will depend on both of them. |
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"Thanks guys yeah I definitely caught feels I shouldn't have... I thought I had it boxed off but now that it's gone south I see how deep I went. Am annoyed with myself. dont be mad at yourself shit like that can sneak up on anyone "
This. No need to be mad at yourself, you are human and it’s natural we all want intimacy with someone. I hope you can get your head around it and move on if you need to x |
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By *hoirCouple 50 weeks ago
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There is a chemical reaction that happens to women when they have sex that makes catching feelings far more likely. Still sucks when it happens and more so when it goes sideways.
I say this to remind you that it's not your fault and not to beat yourself up about it. Hope it helps.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"My first and most beloved fwb seems to be sick of me any advice on how to deal? I didn't think it'd hurt so bad "
So sorry to hear that, this does happen it happened to me and it hurt me but you just have to accept it |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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This would be far worse than a relationship break up for me without a doubt now that I have thought about it  .
I hope you manage to sort things out for the best one way or another… |
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