"Why do people respond to a polite message with rudness
Do people on this site, hate being on here lol"
A lot of people get rude messages it makes them resent everyone
Maybe they are stressed
Or maybe they are constantly pestered after saying no
Or may they are being dicks |
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???"
Their profile? |
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By *TG3Man 40 weeks ago
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"Why do people respond to a polite message with rudness
Do people on this site, hate being on here lol"
Some people perceive a simple not interested as being rude i guess or maybe a sexual message was sent and even though you were polite they've just had too many of those, difficult to say without seeing the messages  |
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By *iasubTV/TS 40 weeks ago
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???"
There profile. There would have been something in there that you didnt pick up on or something |
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???"
Probably their profile. Thats kinda disrespectful. |
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"Define rudeness though.
I'm often told I'm rude for literally saying "No thanks."
Insulting me for no reason after I said nothing rude to them lol"
But did their profile answer the question you asked them?
If so it's more of a simple statement of fact rather than an insult? |
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"Define rudeness though.
I'm often told I'm rude for literally saying "No thanks."
Insulting me for no reason after I said nothing rude to them lol
But did their profile answer the question you asked them?
If so it's more of a simple statement of fact rather than an insult?"
There was not 1 thing indicating why they were on here, I was just trying to chat |
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"As of right now I got blocked and they keep unblocking and massaging more and then blocking again so i cant reply??? 
Block them back?"
I didnt realise you could after they did it first - they're now blocked |
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???"
Maybe they had on their profile why they are here / or no single guys etc.
Either way there is no need to be rude. I either use my filters to stop unsolicited messages, leave unread or reply no thanks. |
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By *riel13Woman 40 weeks ago
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"Define rudeness though.
I'm often told I'm rude for literally saying "No thanks."
Insulting me for no reason after I said nothing rude to them lol"
You were rude enough to have not read their profile before deciding to message, by the sound of it |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Define rudeness though.
I'm often told I'm rude for literally saying "No thanks."
Insulting me for no reason after I said nothing rude to them lol
But did their profile answer the question you asked them?
If so it's more of a simple statement of fact rather than an insult?
There was not 1 thing indicating why they were on here, I was just trying to chat "
So I once asked someone "what they were looking for" after they messaged me first, added me as a friend and we were having polite back and forths for a bit.
They blocked me.
I've been told by somebody else that fellas ask that to try and work out what somebody else wants to then try to be that guy to get into their bloomers, so that's a question I'd be carful with straight out the gate. |
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"Define rudeness though.
I'm often told I'm rude for literally saying "No thanks."
Insulting me for no reason after I said nothing rude to them lol
You were rude enough to have not read their profile before deciding to message, by the sound of it"
Nope, I read the profile |
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It is no different to the world out there. Some people are definately and needlessly rude but lots of vety nice people too. If someone is not inteterested but intentionally reply to be rude then are not the sort of people you want anyway. However, not replying or blocking or whatever is if course their perrogative. I used to find strange, perhaps still do, that people kept messages unread but does jit nother me know. I also gind strange when someone messages and you look and is a hidden profile. Lots of people, lots of different ways managing their accounts. Just fon't let it bother you. Have some cake  |
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"Are you 100 per cent sure they were looking for single guys? A lot of couples aren't, and they can get really annoyed when single guys message them regardless."
They had a meet up for single guys etc. If nobody wanted a message from men, filter on! |
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"It is no different to the world out there. Some people are definately and needlessly rude but lots of very nice people too. If someone is not inteterested but intentionally reply to be rude then are not the sort of people you want anyway. However, not replying or blocking or whatever is of course their perrogative. I used to find strange, perhaps still do, that people kept messages unread but does not bother me know. I also find strange when someone messages and you look and is a hidden profile. Lots of people, lots of different ways managing their accounts. Just don't let it bother you. Have some cake "
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By *essaMayWoman 40 weeks ago
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"Define rudeness though.
I'm often told I'm rude for literally saying "No thanks."
Insulting me for no reason after I said nothing rude to them lol
You were rude enough to have not read their profile before deciding to message, by the sound of it
Nope, I read the profile"
If you read their profile and you think you fitted what they are looking. You sent them a polite message you got no responce or a polite no thanks- no need to be rude back unless you responded to the no reply or reply .
More often than not people, (guys) may read the profile but still not a fit for what they are looking for and still approach (chancers) gets people's back up |
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Some people are rude because it's easy to be online, to strangers.
I can't say if there was something in their profile that you missed, as we haven't seen it.
Many do get antsy because others fail to properly read their profiles or ask questions that they've already covered, it's frustration at times. |
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We just ignore people if they haven't read our profile, if they become a pain and start being rude or spamming us we then block them and not worry about it... if they want to show their true colours then it shows us we made the right choice |
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"Define rudeness though.
I'm often told I'm rude for literally saying "No thanks."
Insulting me for no reason after I said nothing rude to them lol
You were rude enough to have not read their profile before deciding to message, by the sound of it
Nope, I read the profile
If you read their profile and you think you fitted what they are looking. You sent them a polite message you got no responce or a polite no thanks- no need to be rude back unless you responded to the no reply or reply .
More often than not people, (guys) may read the profile but still not a fit for what they are looking for and still approach (chancers) gets people's back up"
It was their first message to me only 2 mins after I sent my initial message |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that. |
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???"
Did they actually meet men?
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???
Did they actually meet men?
Mrs "
They had a 'meet today' for single guys/women and couples so I would assume so, if they haven't met men before they certainly were looking for one |
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???
Did they actually meet men?
Mrs
They had a 'meet today' for single guys/women and couples so I would assume so, if they haven't met men before they certainly were looking for one "
Ah fair enough - we get tons of messages from single blokes complimenting the profile & wanting to meet, they clearly haven't read the profile or the huge warning that came up when they went to message saying "this couple isn't looking for single men" it's really annoying after many messages.
Hence checking as I'd have replied the same, it gets tedious after the 1st 50 blokes.
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???"
One of the reasons for messaging is to get to know someone. He has done you a massive favour by hastening the process and saving you time and money (if you decided to meetup).
You just dodged a bullet.
You are wiser now and learnt to block.  |
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???
Did they actually meet men?
Mrs
They had a 'meet today' for single guys/women and couples so I would assume so, if they haven't met men before they certainly were looking for one
Ah fair enough - we get tons of messages from single blokes complimenting the profile & wanting to meet, they clearly haven't read the profile or the huge warning that came up when they went to message saying "this couple isn't looking for single men" it's really annoying after many messages.
Hence checking as I'd have replied the same, it gets tedious after the 1st 50 blokes.
Mrs "
I keep having to refrain myself from messaging you to let you know the word coffee spelt backwards is an electronic shag.
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By *ORBCouple 40 weeks ago
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The very first line of our bio says very clearly that we aren't currently meeting.
Nobody even has to read the second line to get that info and yet we get messages asking to meet, suggesting locations and telling us what they would like to do to us.
Or more specifically what they would like to do to Bo as I don't exist.
There are only so many of those messages we can take before we will start being abrupt in our replies if we reply at all that is.
Especially when some of the messages are from the same people who have been given the same answer more than once. |
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???
Did they actually meet men?
Mrs
They had a 'meet today' for single guys/women and couples so I would assume so, if they haven't met men before they certainly were looking for one
Ah fair enough - we get tons of messages from single blokes complimenting the profile & wanting to meet, they clearly haven't read the profile or the huge warning that came up when they went to message saying "this couple isn't looking for single men" it's really annoying after many messages.
Hence checking as I'd have replied the same, it gets tedious after the 1st 50 blokes.
Mrs
I keep having to refrain myself from messaging you to let you know the word coffee spelt backwards is an electronic shag.
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you are exempt you don't need to refrain from messaging.
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"May we see an example?
I said - 'hey guys, lovely profile, what brings you to the site?' AS an ice breaker
They replied - reading isnt your strong suit is it'
What didn't I read correctly???
Did they actually meet men?
Mrs
They had a 'meet today' for single guys/women and couples so I would assume so, if they haven't met men before they certainly were looking for one
Ah fair enough - we get tons of messages from single blokes complimenting the profile & wanting to meet, they clearly haven't read the profile or the huge warning that came up when they went to message saying "this couple isn't looking for single men" it's really annoying after many messages.
Hence checking as I'd have replied the same, it gets tedious after the 1st 50 blokes.
Mrs
I keep having to refrain myself from messaging you to let you know the word coffee spelt backwards is an electronic shag.
you are exempt you don't need to refrain from messaging.
Mrs "
I’ll message you later after a few beers and see if you fancy an E-Foc? |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that. "
It's against forum rules  |
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"Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that.
It's against forum rules "
I agree. I believe it goes under “dirty laundry” rule plus we don’t know the other side of the story. |
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"Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that.
It's against forum rules
I agree. I believe it goes under “dirty laundry” rule plus we don’t know the other side of the story. "
Yep Dirty Laundry and Private Mail rules both apply.
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"Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that.
It's against forum rules
I agree. I believe it goes under “dirty laundry” rule plus we don’t know the other side of the story. "
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"Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that.
It's against forum rules
I agree. I believe it goes under “dirty laundry” rule plus we don’t know the other side of the story.
Yep Dirty Laundry and Private Mail rules both apply.
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Direct mail - NOT private mail.
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"Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that.
It's against forum rules
I agree. I believe it goes under “dirty laundry” rule plus we don’t know the other side of the story.
Yep Dirty Laundry and Private Mail rules both apply.
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Direct mail - NOT private mail.
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The rule refers to Private Mail
"Private mail should stay private
Please don't post private mail to the forums no matter how idiotic/funny it may be. It is strictly against site rules."
Maybe I've misunderstood the rule. |
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"Sounds like you’re sharing details of a Direct message op, which I still think is against st the rules on Fab. …
* I’m convinced that is still a rule, can anyone confirm that.
It's against forum rules
I agree. I believe it goes under “dirty laundry” rule plus we don’t know the other side of the story.
Yep Dirty Laundry and Private Mail rules both apply.
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Direct mail - NOT private mail.
The rule refers to Private Mail
"Private mail should stay private
Please don't post private mail to the forums no matter how idiotic/funny it may be. It is strictly against site rules."
Maybe I've misunderstood the rule."
I know exactly what you’re saying, and you are right. |
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