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"and you think they're kind of cute.
So, are you proactive in messaging them? In suggesting another time you'll see them?
Do you prefer the other to be the more proactive one?"
Well women are very rarely proactive in this game |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"and you think they're kind of cute.
So, are you proactive in messaging them? In suggesting another time you'll see them?
Do you prefer the other to be the more proactive one?
Well women are very rarely proactive in this game "
I think I’m going to agree with this |
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By *eli OP Woman 46 weeks ago
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"I'm proactive. The worst they can do is block me."
I like that attitude, Ruby. Yeah, most of the time I'm quite proactive if I think there's something there. Is cautiously proactive a term? Should be.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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I’m proactive simply because I’m my experience women are not. So if I left it to them I’ll never get anywhere.
But I’m starting to deep it. Women are proactive if they actually like you and want to contact you. If they don’t… take the hint?
I am often, not always, the one doing the chasing in my life. Makes me think.  |
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"I’m proactive simply because I’m my experience women are not. So if I left it to them I’ll never get anywhere.
But I’m starting to deep it. Women are proactive if they actually like you and want to contact you. If they don’t… take the hint?
I am often, not always, the one doing the chasing in my life. Makes me think. "
Never chase, pursue yes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Oh god yeh, im straight up with people.
I can't be assed with games and have a short tolerance for messing around or vagueness
If they are interested then cool.
If not then good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"If I'm into them, yes very proactive. If they don't return that (as happens regularly here!) I fade away. "
Christ I don't mean Miss Havisham. My messages fade off.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Assuming I've actually met them, I'd like to say that I'd like to see them again or say that I'll text them later. I'm not normally that proactive but I start to fancy my chances if they're in a position where they've already wanted to meet me once |
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It depends. I might think someone is cute but I have no small talk and I'm not hot enough to attract someone on here purely by my body so if there's nothing in a profile I can latch onto to talk to them about (this can be addressed if the person is active in the forums) I probably won't. |
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I always worry that they have a life outside, whatever this is, and I'm bothering them if I message them so I'm always reluctant to be proactive and hope they'll contact me whenever they have time.
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By *eli OP Woman 46 weeks ago
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"and you think they're kind of cute.
So, are you proactive in messaging them? In suggesting another time you'll see them?
Do you prefer the other to be the more proactive one?
Well women are very rarely proactive in this game "
Really? Rarely?
This might be a bit harsh for Sunday, a day of peace but I think if a woman is genuinely interested? She'll be proactive. I think anyone is more likely to be proactive if they're genuinely interested, gender aside. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 46 weeks ago
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"and you think they're kind of cute.
So, are you proactive in messaging them? In suggesting another time you'll see them?
Do you prefer the other to be the more proactive one?
Well women are very rarely proactive in this game "
Some are. Fortunately.........
And when they are it's great. That said I'll usually be pretty up front about wanting to see someone again.
There's no guarantee they'll feel the same way of course... |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"and you think they're kind of cute.
So, are you proactive in messaging them? In suggesting another time you'll see them?
Do you prefer the other to be the more proactive one?
Well women are very rarely proactive in this game
Really? Rarely?
This might be a bit harsh for Sunday, a day of peace but I think if a woman is genuinely interested? She'll be proactive. I think anyone is more likely to be proactive if they're genuinely interested, gender aside."
Truth hurts |
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"and you think they're kind of cute.
So, are you proactive in messaging them? In suggesting another time you'll see them?
Do you prefer the other to be the more proactive one?
Well women are very rarely proactive in this game
Really? Rarely?
This might be a bit harsh for Sunday, a day of peace but I think if a woman is genuinely interested? She'll be proactive. I think anyone is more likely to be proactive if they're genuinely interested, gender aside."
I've found that the initial interest fades away. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"As I'm the one with more free time than most men I leave it to them to arrange a day to meet-or at least run some days by me when they are free.
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If you’re free and want to see someone though, why not ask? |
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"and you think they're kind of cute.
So, are you proactive in messaging them? In suggesting another time you'll see them?
Do you prefer the other to be the more proactive one?
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Well women are very rarely proactive in this game.
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I think I’m going to agree with this."
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I have to say that I agree with this too. Their passive nature in this department is the stuff of legends. |
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I'm proactive. I've engaged with plenty of women that are also proactive.
For example I very rarely send opening messages but I do get opening messages from women and couples that would like to start a conversation and in those cases I am inclined to be quite proactive as I appreciate the effort already made.
I don't agree with the poster above that women are rarely pro active. My experience is the opposite. |
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By *eli OP Woman 46 weeks ago
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"I’m proactive simply because I’m my experience women are not. So if I left it to them I’ll never get anywhere.
But I’m starting to deep it. Women are proactive if they actually like you and want to contact you. If they don’t… take the hint?
I am often, not always, the one doing the chasing in my life. Makes me think. "
Oh Pickle. 
I do think there's an element of learned behaviour, you know social conditioning. Women are taught/told they shouldn't chase, they should be chased. That men prefer women who let them be in their "masculine energy" whilst a woman steps in to her feminine when she lets a man take the lead.
I know some men would very much rather be the proactive one in a scenario and can find it a turn off if a woman is.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I’m proactive simply because I’m my experience women are not. So if I left it to them I’ll never get anywhere.
But I’m starting to deep it. Women are proactive if they actually like you and want to contact you. If they don’t… take the hint?
I am often, not always, the one doing the chasing in my life. Makes me think.
Oh Pickle.
I do think there's an element of learned behaviour, you know social conditioning. Women are taught/told they shouldn't chase, they should be chased. That men prefer women who let them be in their "masculine energy" whilst a woman steps in to her feminine when she lets a man take the lead.
I know some men would very much rather be the proactive one in a scenario and can find it a turn off if a woman is.
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Nah don’t try it Meli! We both know the truth. You even said it above |
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If you like someone then I don’t get why you would wait for them - they might never notice you and then you will be waiting for eternity.
If you say hello and they say no then you have found the answer. If they say yes then you have also found the answer. |
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