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By *stella OP Woman 40 weeks ago
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That buzz of oooh we had a moment, did we have a moment that means this is it, is this the conversation that I’ll be telling my grandkids started it all? I love the butterflies, your face lights up when they walk in a room thing and you feel like everyone in the room can see. When you can’t stop looking at them and your face aches from smiling. And the electricity of you accidentally touch.
I love the feels. The rush of a crush.
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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About two years back. A women used to work as a support carer and accompany people for social outings. Would come in for coffee sometimes where I worked. Goosebumps, butterflies etc. Tried my best but alas.  |
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I’m quite guarded. But on occasion I’ll allow myself a little crush. And it is fun to have the twinges, tickles & butterflies. I enjoy them in the moment & suck every last tingle out of them. Then I pull my professional pants back up and carry on  |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"To be honest it makes me more nervous than anything because I assume they don't feel the same way and I'd make a fool out of myself if I say anything  "
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I completely get you.
You can get the adrenaline hit in many ways... Danger, sport, public speaking!
But that heady mix of adrenalin and serotonin ! That butterfly effect!
That is gold dust!
Search Wikipedia for stomach butterflies! |
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I don’t think you’re alone Estella.
I’m familiar and comfortable with speaking to large crowds, public speaking, compereing, singing, dancing, leading in my organisation; but when it comes to the point where I realise I’m crushing on someone suddenly my composure and calm disappears. It’s replaced by a washing machine of disconsternation and disquiet.
Suddenly my mind starts to catastrophise outcomes and a sore throat and the sweats starts. Every clear word in a sentence becomes one unintelligible mumble of misery.
That’s when I know I caught a serious case of the crushes.
I have no way to calm the disquiet, other than ignore ‘them’. Literally make an effort to ignore the person I’m crushing on. I hoped that actually being here, meeting people might help me In That sense. Get over it and lean into the flirty charismatic side of me again.
Instead, all it has done has made me feel quite sad about Mandom, and female perspectives on men. I’ve literally met 1 nice female. Most profiles of people I might approach seem to dislike being approached at all.
I cannot get a coffee with anyone I like. Albeit it’s fair to say you dont score from the shots you don’t take. Now if I did I’d probably worry more about if they compered me to other men from here, rather than putting my best self forwards. So now. I don’t even do that. I just loiter here in forums. Like it’s a dentists waiting room, expecting the pain, expecting the negative judgements and then one day just unsubscribe and live in the woods eating flora and fauna.
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By *eliWoman 40 weeks ago
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I love having a crush on someone/two. I adore that butterfly feeling, the way I get a slight giddy rush when I see they've messaged and I think 'yep, I quite like you'. I love seeing how a friend's face softens and yet lights up when they talk about someone they have a crush on.
I love enjoying it for what it is. The effervescent quality that has me happily Tiggering and listening to songs like I'm in some dire indie romcom, walking around with a beatific expression on my face.
I love flirting with those I have a crush on, the delight of that mutual mental masturbation, the gentle teasing, the quick quips, learning them and their humour and delighting in finding a shared rhythm.
I really like kissing those I have a crush on. The way everything fades in the background and after I have a desire to tell the world that yes I kissed them and yes I would very much like to do it again.
It feels like that dance scene in 500 Days of Summer. Everything is a little bit brighter. More enjoyable. I'm definitely a big fan of the crushing stage. The deeper stage is where I'm not comfortable. |
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"Its the only thing i truly fear "
Reading that makes me feel quite sad... I had a massive crush on my fwb and he didn't feel the same unfortunately so I wouldn't say I'm truly scared of getting another crush on someone I'm just trying to avoid it |
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Just crushing on my lonesome. 
