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Why do people lie about their age and where they are living
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I get why people lie about location though. "
I do too, especially if you live in a rural area where everyone wants to know your business  I like to keep some parts of my life private  |
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My age is my age - my location however isn't, it's pretty close but I'm not giving my village location out to anyone it's irrelevant.
We've had our share of crazy people that can't take a no, there's not a chance I'd hint at where I live with my family.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I've seen people on here that change their age by a year older or younger and put a different location close to them to stop people recognising them "
Exactly what I do. |
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We lie about both.
We'd never put our exact date of birth on a swinging site although it is only a couple of months out.
We don't live right in Hastings either but near enough.
It's pretty easy to spot people who've given wildly inaccurate ages though as long as their photos are up to date but a quick coffee also reveals that they probably had an uphill paper round. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 46 weeks ago
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"I've seen people on here that change their age by a year older or younger and put a different location close to them to stop people recognising them "
I have had meets with men that had pics of there face when out on social they tell you there ten yrs to Fifteen years older name change where they live
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"My age is correct never see the point in lying about it, as for my location I found it amusing during lockdown as an experiment and kept it "
Your location made me smile. Remind me never to use your bathroom though xx |
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When you get to 40 the number of people interested in you drops. At 50 more so. I used to tell myself that I was a youthful enough to drop 5 years. But decided that if I really believe in honesty as part of consent, I need to act on that. I have to say it hasn't changed my success rate much... just a lack of success with people who don't block mid 50s me now! |
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"My age is correct never see the point in lying about it, as for my location I found it amusing during lockdown as an experiment and kept it
Your location made me smile. Remind me never to use your bathroom though xx"
In the book its room 217. Kubrick changed it for the film. |
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My age is correct but my location is not because it's no-ones business where I live and it's irrelevant.
I live an hour from Belfast but it's a good central location to put on my profile.
It has never been an issue |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 46 weeks ago
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"When you get to 40 the number of people interested in you drops. At 50 more so. I used to tell myself that I was a youthful enough to drop 5 years. But decided that if I really believe in honesty as part of consent, I need to act on that. I have to say it hasn't changed my success rate much... just a lack of success with people who don't block mid 50s me now!"
load of bullshit I look at pictures and content of his bio I don't care if he 30 40 50 60 70 if I find him attractive and we got same interests
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We're never going to tell people certain details about our private life and will happily either lie or tell someone to mind their own business if they ask.
I doubt many people tell the entire truth on the net, in fact I'd advise them not to. |
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By *TG3Man 46 weeks ago
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"We're never going to tell people certain details about our private life and will happily either lie or tell someone to mind their own business if they ask.
I doubt many people tell the entire truth on the net, in fact I'd advise them not to. "
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I've seen people on here that change their age by a year older or younger and put a different location close to them to stop people recognising them I have had meets with men that had pics of there face when out on social they tell you there ten yrs to Fifteen years older name change where they live "
Insist on a quick video call before meeting them to confirm they look like the photo they’ve sent. If they can’t do that don’t waste your time meeting them.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Not sure why maybe to get past filters
I can see the point off off setting your ages by a couple off months front or back I have
The year is right the month and date isn’t
Funny little story on this
My first meet was a couple they were in they mid 50s
They still here in they mid 50s that was over 13 years ago
Ever couple off years they leave and re join back to mid 50s not sure how long they been doing it not sure if they were even in they mid 50s when I meet them as they could have been doing it long before I meet them in 2011 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 46 weeks ago
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I met man of here wtf he wanted relationship but lies lies lies age where he from his life he told me 4 different ages u still don't know how old he is carnt stand him no more |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"When you get to 40 the number of people interested in you drops. At 50 more so. I used to tell myself that I was a youthful enough to drop 5 years. But decided that if I really believe in honesty as part of consent, I need to act on that. I have to say it hasn't changed my success rate much... just a lack of success with people who don't block mid 50s me now!load of bullshit I look at pictures and content of his bio I don't care if he 30 40 50 60 70 if I find him attractive and we got same interests "
That's just not the case though for lots of people. |
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By *ookie46Woman 46 weeks ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
I postcode squat on here so never at my real location, but it doesn’t make me a cheater or that I’m hiding something.
I don’t want to show on local updates and it’s a form of protecting myself |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman 46 weeks ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
"My age is correct never see the point in lying about it, as for my location I found it amusing during lockdown as an experiment and kept it
Your location made me smile. Remind me never to use your bathroom though xx
In the book its room 217. Kubrick changed it for the film. "
Yeah I know, it was changed so that the Timberline lodge didn't have a room people wouldn't stay in so it was changed to a none existing room number |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I postcode squat on here so never at my real location, but it doesn’t make me a cheater or that I’m hiding something.
I don’t want to show on local updates and it’s a form of protecting myself "
Is that what it's called?  . I change my postcode every few days. |
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By *ookie46Woman 46 weeks ago
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"I feel stupid and hurt that I got feelings for man who just lied to me all time "
I understand the hurt, I’ve been there but never feel like it’s your fault
Chin up, boobs out, it will get easier |
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I don’t lie about my age. If you don’t like it then that’s your issue and I won’t pretend otherwise.
But I live in a small rural town. My location is to the next big town from me.
It’s very different if you live somewhere like Liverpool ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 46 weeks ago
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I know there is some genuine men on here because they told truth and in relationship with women met off here trust me to get feelings for f ING lying man |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Annoys me that ppl lie about age ti get around filters. We can tell its a lie as soon as we look at the pics
2 this week tried to contact me. One with a profile saying 49, face said mid 20s. The other claimed 42, face at least 62
It surely can't get the guy anywhere |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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out ages are our ages (however much we may not like them!),
our location varies as to where we are or where we are looking to meet. that being said we dont give our exact location on our profile for security reasons, after all we have a life away from fab |
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There's a distinction that often isn't recognised. there is a difference between public lying and private lying.
public lying is kind of okay in my book. it's like a brunette pretending to be a blonde, wearing a hat to cover a bald patch or flattering clothes to hide a belly. we all have a side of ourselves we're comfortable with the world seeing and many people have sides to themselves, usually involving relationships or insecurities of some kind, that they do not wish to be public about. lying about age and location is very much a part of how people want the world, or in this case, potential partners to see them.
but then there's private lying and I think that's what you're struggling with the most with, OP. because it's one thing to lie to the homogeneous mass of anonymous Fab members on a profile. it's not honest but it is a separate thing to projecting a false version of yourself in a private conversation. whatever the reason or motivation is, it doesn't matter because at the end of the day lying to someone's face (or even their avatar) is deliberate, calculating deceit. it's hurtful. it's wrong and nine times out of ten, it's completely unnecessary.
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Well living in Manchester is totally different to living somewhere much smaller like Todmorden and with the amount of stalking threads I have seen over the years, one can hardly blame people not giving their exact age / location.
It's a swinging site and not tinder therefore why do people need to know? You aren't having a relationship- it's just fun.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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My real name
My real age
Location is told in a message if we get on.
Amazes me how 2008 photos are still on people's profiles. I met a few over the years nothing like photos. |
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Lying about age isto get round filters or because they'll think they'd be seen as too old if they put their correct age.
I had a bloke change his age to be older to get round my filer, it was obvious and he was blocked.
He wasn't respecting my boundaries in that I didn't want to meet anyone under 35.
Changing location I can understand, because many don't want randomers knowing exactly where they are. |
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I lie about my age because people are snotty about ages over 50. take me as you see me not by a number
That has no relivevant if your over 21 one. Some people are young for their age I've always been consider so but also I'm not looking or trying to get around anybodys filters |
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1. to get what they want/ around filters
2. some lies are white lies - anonymity. While Manchester is big enough that I don't have to do it, I imagine that some smaller places, it'd be more like me writing that I live in Example Town, or even Sample Avenue in Example Town. And there ain't no way I'm doing that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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I put a different birth date (but same year) and a different location for increased security purposes
I'm actually 6 months younger than my fab age 
Even people I'm talking to with intent don't need to know where I live, only that I can travel or meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"We're never going to tell people certain details about our private life and will happily either lie or tell someone to mind their own business if they ask.
I doubt many people tell the entire truth on the net, in fact I'd advise them not to. "
I had a friend asking me about my workplace and i closed that conversation down - that definitely has nothing to do with my presence here |
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"We're never going to tell people certain details about our private life and will happily either lie or tell someone to mind their own business if they ask.
I doubt many people tell the entire truth on the net, in fact I'd advise them not to.
I had a friend asking me about my workplace and i closed that conversation down - that definitely has nothing to do with my presence here"
I've had random men ask first question either where abouts I live or work - block.
I'm same as you in that my age us same year, but I'm 2 months older on fab.
You do have to be careful how much info you give away, as some will try to use it to find you in other ways. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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I don't live in Huddersfield, in fact I don't even live near Huddersfield....but I set it as my location as I only meet for sex in Empire Cinema in Huddersfield, if I put my real location it would be completely misleading. |
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By *orny PTMan 46 weeks ago
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"I put a different birth date (but same year) and a different location for increased security purposes
I'm actually 6 months younger than my fab age
Even people I'm talking to with intent don't need to know where I live, only that I can travel or meet "
I get the privacy rules, but you have listed your location as East Midlands and as a lot us us here know, the FAB map is incredibly vague, as East Midlands and East Anglia are wrongly lumped together.
Yes, I know this is not your fault, but:
How many miles are too close for you? 5, 10, 20?
How many miles are too far for you. 40, 50, 60
You can count this in hours drive if it helps.
Lets choose to places in FAB'S wrong map, Marple in Greater Manchester, and Manningtree in Essex. That is a 4h30min drive and is about 250 miles.
Just putting "East Anglia not East Midlands" on a profile, would narrow the ranges down a bit, whilst keeping and respecting your security and safety.
This benefits everybody by adding a level of practicality and that's all it boils down to. Wasted messages benefit no one. |
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By *hiversMan 46 weeks ago
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My age is accurate, if I fall outside of filters so be it.
I use to be a bit more vague on location (I used to use the closest large town rather than the actual name of the village), but that was more because a lot of people wouldn't have heard the village name so I never saw that as lying.
I get that this isn't a dating site and some people have a need for anonymity, but it still isn't a good start to any kind of interaction to deliberately mislead... |
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"I feel stupid and hurt that I got feelings for man who just lied to me all time "
I think there’s also a big difference between people who “tweak” their details for privacy, and those who continue to lie to people with whom they have a connection. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"We're never going to tell people certain details about our private life and will happily either lie or tell someone to mind their own business if they ask.
I doubt many people tell the entire truth on the net, in fact I'd advise them not to.
I had a friend asking me about my workplace and i closed that conversation down - that definitely has nothing to do with my presence here
I've had random men ask first question either where abouts I live or work - block.
I'm same as you in that my age us same year, but I'm 2 months older on fab.
You do have to be careful how much info you give away, as some will try to use it to find you in other ways. "
In real life we wouldn't bat an eyelid at someone asking us those questions
I think its very important to take personal security seriously - i had a frightening period with a fab stalker in my early days, when i was too dumb to know not to give out information |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I don't live in Huddersfield, in fact I don't even live near Huddersfield....but I set it as my location as I only meet for sex in Empire Cinema in Huddersfield, if I put my real location it would be completely misleading."
Actually I'm laughing now, as i realised i do actually look at people's locations and discount them depending where they are - but if the majority of us are putting random locations on our profiles it's no wonder half the site never gets a meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I put a different birth date (but same year) and a different location for increased security purposes
I'm actually 6 months younger than my fab age
Even people I'm talking to with intent don't need to know where I live, only that I can travel or meet
I get the privacy rules, but you have listed your location as East Midlands and as a lot us us here know, the FAB map is incredibly vague, as East Midlands and East Anglia are wrongly lumped together.
Yes, I know this is not your fault, but:
How many miles are too close for you? 5, 10, 20?
How many miles are too far for you. 40, 50, 60
You can count this in hours drive if it helps.
Lets choose to places in FAB'S wrong map, Marple in Greater Manchester, and Manningtree in Essex. That is a 4h30min drive and is about 250 miles.
Just putting "East Anglia not East Midlands" on a profile, would narrow the ranges down a bit, whilst keeping and respecting your security and safety.
This benefits everybody by adding a level of practicality and that's all it boils down to. Wasted messages benefit no one."
So to help, i am more or less one hour away from the postcode i used |
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By *hiversMan 46 weeks ago
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"I don't live in Huddersfield, in fact I don't even live near Huddersfield....but I set it as my location as I only meet for sex in Empire Cinema in Huddersfield, if I put my real location it would be completely misleading."
That kinda makes sense though. If that's the only place you'll meet its a bit irrelevant where you live |
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People may say they are younger than they actually are for various reasons, such as societal pressure to appear younger, a desire for personal validation or acceptance, fear of age-related discrimination, or simply to fit in with a younger social group or demographic. |
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Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet. |
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By *riel13Woman 46 weeks ago
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"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet."
My pics are all good angles and bad lighting but I try not to post anything that makes me look unrecognisable and I warn everyone that, even with the fat pics, I am way fatter than you would expect... I don't see the point u lying but I won't post a pic I dislike |
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"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet."
I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I don't live in Huddersfield, in fact I don't even live near Huddersfield....but I set it as my location as I only meet for sex in Empire Cinema in Huddersfield, if I put my real location it would be completely misleading.
That kinda makes sense though. If that's the only place you'll meet its a bit irrelevant where you live "
Yes exactly - It does cause a bit of confusion when guys message me to meet at Empire that evening, and I have explain that I am not around....but I can't really see any other way of doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet.
I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new "
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable |
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"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet.
I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable "
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face."
Wow
And you STILL pull |
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By *aizyWoman 46 weeks ago
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"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet.
I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face."
I'm the same, I can't smile in selfies, I end up looking like I am being held hostage or I'm constipated! |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet.
I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face.
I'm the same, I can't smile in selfies, I end up looking like I am being held hostage or I'm constipated! "
I would like to see it |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face.
I'm the same, I can't smile in selfies, I end up looking like I am being held hostage or I'm constipated! "
I got asked if i had a crack c*c*ine habit last time i posted a selfie on fb |
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By *bi HaiveMan 46 weeks ago
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"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet.
I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face.
I'm the same, I can't smile in selfies, I end up looking like I am being held hostage or I'm constipated! "
Isn't that how they're supposed to look?? 
*hits amazon for laxatives....... |
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I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face.
Wow
And you STILL pull "
I think I bring out people's masochism.
Unfortunately my glare is worse than my bite |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face.
Wow
And you STILL pull
I think I bring out people's masochism.
Unfortunately my glare is worse than my bite "
Just make sure they are vacc'd |
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By *bi HaiveMan 46 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Probably over half the women I've met at social events look quite different the impression in their profile.
A decent amount of women I've met for coffee are older and look different than expected.
Honestly who cares. If there's attraction there's attraction
Filtered/Edited/Perfectly angled photos are far more misleading but then so is makeup, shape wear and so on.
Conversely some people look better in person.
It still comes down to attraction when you meet.
I honestly don't believe anyone has any obligation to be honest about anything in an online profile on the public internet."
I agree with this.
I've never been asked my age in a club or at a group social. Nor exactly where I live. Sometimes what I do for a living and my response will vary depending who's asking.
Good friends know all the right answers.
Random acquaintances can expect vague responses. If someone is not going to be a permanent or close part of my life at any given time then if my lack of details offends them then so be it.
Interest and attraction to me is based on what I see and what I hear/read. If someone has fudged the details by a small margin I couldn't care less. Their privacy is to be respected.
And you can always spot the ones that have knocked a decade off, added 6" downstairs or bullshitted about being an astronaut or professional lion tamer.
Expecting 100% clarity from a total stranger on the internet is somewhat naieve and likely to lead to disappointment. People will share what they feel comfortable with at the time and more should they choose if things develop. |
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It’s entirely pointless to lie about age. It’s also a disingenuous way to start a potential meet. But, location? That’s because some people clearly worry about privacy. That’s fair enough. We don’t on either front. We live where we are listed and are the ages we list. |
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People lie about all sorts of things; age, location but also height, body type, sexual preferences.
With age there are 50 year olds who look 40 and 50 year olds who look 60.
Brad Pitt is 60 and Paul Gascoigne is 56. Google their pictures. Miles on the clock count for a lot in terms of how you look so we don’t pay too much attention to numbers. |
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Many create a fictional location, as they don't want to engage with people from nearby, or to reduce the chance of them being found out.
Age? I think it's largely filters avoidance. I've seen several people who must look older than their great grandparents would look, if still alive. |
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By *orny PTMan 46 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"My age is accurate, if I fall outside of filters so be it.
I use to be a bit more vague on location (I used to use the closest large town rather than the actual name of the village), but that was more because a lot of people wouldn't have heard the village name so I never saw that as lying.
I get that this isn't a dating site and some people have a need for anonymity, but it still isn't a good start to any kind of interaction to deliberately mislead..."
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By *orny PTMan 46 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"Age is correct. Location isn’t. I don’t want people knowing where I live. "
Herts, is that too close or too far from where I am? Roughly 50 something miles.
I'm just trying to work out a realistic contact radius, a Goldilocks zone, if you like. |
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By *riel13Woman 46 weeks ago
Northampton |
"We identify as teenagers from Nirvana "
Eerrrmmm... Dave Grohl doesn't look that good in a dress... Kurt might be a smidge better... But no... The other fella wouldn't top that, so I can refute your claim! You are in fact.... Not Nirvana! |
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"What happened to be genuine "
People often believe that they look younger than their age, it's rarely true. They also usually presume that their age is a reason why peoplewon't meet them.
Location is often changed to reduce the chance of being recognised by work collegues of family.
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By *aizyWoman 46 weeks ago
west midlands |
"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it."
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day! |
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I'm not bothered about people knowing my age, but I rarely let anyone know where I live.
You don't know if they're the type to knock on your door at 1 am, expecting to be let in.
Or things may turn sour and they stalk you.
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"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!"
Jeeze that is creepy
I also don't know whether fab location works on your Google location, or the postcode you put into fab?? |
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"Oh dear! Think we've missed a trick lol both our ages and location are correct 
Wolverhampton is a big place though. "
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By *aizyWoman 46 weeks ago
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"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!
Jeeze that is creepy
I also don't know whether fab location works on your Google location, or the postcode you put into fab?? "
I'm not sure, it was weird he did tell me he had worked it out because our location said we were within so many miles of each other, can't remember how many miles it said we were but he said if it was only so many miles it meant you are close, he was right he told me where he lived, it was 5 mins up the road from me, so glad I don't have face pics on public on here. |
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I always send a brutally honest selfie before meeting anyone new
i take a terrible face pic, so i know I'll look as bad in person as my pic . But I'm very recognisable
I have to think very carefully about taking a good picture - I can't make myself smile at my phone! - so my brutal picture probably also includes paint peeling resting bitch face.
Wow
And you STILL pull
I think I bring out people's masochism.
Unfortunately my glare is worse than my bite
Just make sure they are vacc'd "
She's right - rabies vaccines are necessary |
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"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!
Jeeze that is creepy
I also don't know whether fab location works on your Google location, or the postcode you put into fab?? "
I once had someone try to triangulate my location |
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By *oxy jWoman 46 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
so lie a little like a year added or taken away just so people cant suss them out a correct birthday could out someone quite easily so i get that ..
i told a few post over the years about a few guys (and no its not just guys) who've turned up looking nothing like their pic let alone age one of our first fab meets was a guy who claimed he was 48 but admited he was 68 and no it went no further...
there is a guy on here who delets his profile often id say every couple of years who claims hes 51 well 30 years ago he was 51 we know him well as we played with him all those years back at private parties with his wife but hes still 51 but he is infact 81 no bullshit totally str8 up and the reason is that a certian amount of people will carry on no matter what rather than stand up and cause a scene ... the biggest problem is alot know him so when he delets him account and does a new one those that know him verify him so he gets away with it yet when hes in a club everyone talks to him but no one plays ... there are lots like him they lie because sometimes it works because people dont like to kick up ...
people lie to get around filters there 10000s of guys on here who claim to be under 50 that are in there 60s and then guys in there 60s who are way over most can be worked out with there pics women can be harder to put an age to than men ...i get it all the time where people just dont belive my age its always been the case ...my age on here is correct
i dont like being lied to i wont go further if ive been lied to that can be false age / size ive even turned away guys who bragged they were big only to not be had they not bragged i would have played buy lying to get a meet nah on yer bike..
my location is taunton but i always use vpn for internet had a scare quite a few years back when i had a message saying i know yer home as im looking in you window and he was showing as close by erm no more vpn stops that |
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"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!"
We had a photo of our car up with half the license plate in shot. Sammi was on the hood of the car in a sexy outfit. A guy messaged saying “I know you live on XXXXXX XXXXX and I know because I did a job there recently and recognise you car”
Was a bit mental lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Location I don’t mind but age just makes me feel like second best.
It’s always a case of it happened by accident that I’m ‘x’ amount of years younger and now I can’t change it  |
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I think I need to lie about my age, most think I'm lieing when I tell them the truth.
As one suplier said to me, why didn't I stay in the forces and get the pension. He nearly fell over when I said I did plus another 9 years. |
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"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!
Jeeze that is creepy
I also don't know whether fab location works on your Google location, or the postcode you put into fab??
I once had someone try to triangulate my location "
I told my long distance friend which street his friend lives one, going by one photo he sent me and knowing his town.
He said I should be a detective |
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"My age is correct never see the point in lying about it, as for my location I found it amusing during lockdown as an experiment and kept it
Your location made me smile. Remind me never to use your bathroom though xx
In the book its room 217. Kubrick changed it for the film.
Yeah I know, it was changed so that the Timberline lodge didn't have a room people wouldn't stay in so it was changed to a none existing room number "
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I met a guy who admitted being 10 years older than his fab Bio. I could tell he was older from his appearance so asked outright by how much. It didn't mean i didn't like the look of him and we still met up but it’s annoying that he felt the need to lie about it. |
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"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!
Jeeze that is creepy
I also don't know whether fab location works on your Google location, or the postcode you put into fab??
I once had someone try to triangulate my location
I told my long distance friend which street his friend lives one, going by one photo he sent me and knowing his town.
He said I should be a detective "
From a friend it's kind of funny. From a stranger not so much! |
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By *ags73Man 46 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!
We had a photo of our car up with half the license plate in shot. Sammi was on the hood of the car in a sexy outfit. A guy messaged saying “I know you live on XXXXXX XXXXX and I know because I did a job there recently and recognise you car”
Was a bit mental lol "
Jeez.
Worth having something that you can use to blur or paint out the registration but shows that any detail can be enough for someone |
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By *orny PTMan 46 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"I assume those people who have fake locations never use “Who is nearby”?
It’s a bit of a creepy feature to be fair.
It is!
Get the ick when I accidentally click it.
I didn't realise you could switch your location off, I got msged by a man one day saying he had worked out we are really close by, then he sent me a load of pics of him standing next to street signs, last one I got said am I getting warmer? It was my street! I found out about turning your location off that day!
We had a photo of our car up with half the license plate in shot. Sammi was on the hood of the car in a sexy outfit. A guy messaged saying “I know you live on XXXXXX XXXXX and I know because I did a job there recently and recognise you car”
Was a bit mental lol
Jeez.
Worth having something that you can use to blur or paint out the registration but shows that any detail can be enough for someone "
You generate your own publicity, I've got a picture of my car, but I've not left my real reg on it, in the pic. |
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"I think I need to lie about my age, most think I'm lieing when I tell them the truth.
As one suplier said to me, why didn't I stay in the forces and get the pension. He nearly fell over when I said I did plus another 9 years."
For those wondering, the ageon profile is correct, yes, I know I don't look it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"I feel stupid and hurt that I got feelings for man who just lied to me all time "
I thought in swinging, you are not supposed to develop any feelings/attachment.
It’s like a precursor of Tinder.
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"There's a distinction that often isn't recognised. there is a difference between public lying and private lying.
public lying is kind of okay in my book. it's like a brunette pretending to be a blonde, wearing a hat to cover a bald patch or flattering clothes to hide a belly. we all have a side of ourselves we're comfortable with the world seeing and many people have sides to themselves, usually involving relationships or insecurities of some kind, that they do not wish to be public about. lying about age and location is very much a part of how people want the world, or in this case, potential partners to see them.
but then there's private lying and I think that's what you're struggling with the most with, OP. because it's one thing to lie to the homogeneous mass of anonymous Fab members on a profile. it's not honest but it is a separate thing to projecting a false version of yourself in a private conversation. whatever the reason or motivation is, it doesn't matter because at the end of the day lying to someone's face (or even their avatar) is deliberate, calculating deceit. it's hurtful. it's wrong and nine times out of ten, it's completely unnecessary.
Mr W"
Public lying = Marketing = Always read the small print
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